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George Anthony’s Body Language Says He’s Not Into Cindy and Does Not Want to Be in Court Supporting Casey

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

  

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 After watching and analyzing George Anthony s exclusive Fox 35 interview a while back, it became clear that George needs to be liked and needs to be seen as the “good guy”. So in keeping up his  ”good guy” image,  he decided to show up in court to support his wife Cindy, who was going to testify about the 911 call she made when Casey wouldn’t cooperate and Caylee went missing.  

 The only thing is that he certainly didn’t look like a  supportive “good guy”  husband .  He kept his distance  from her physically.  

    In the photo above  which was taken after Cindy testified and  was listening to Judge Perry’s ruling, you can see that although  they are sitting close to one another, they are  not touching. There is no physical contact. It is obvious from Cindy’s nail biting that she could have used a little TLC and reassurance. She could have used an arm around her  or a hand held.  But George seemed to be in a world of his own.   

   When you look at the physical distance that George is keeping from Cindy it is not a very good sign. Also note how Cindy turns away from George. It is clear that they are both not happy together.  

 The stress of this trial is definitely showing. One can only imagine what will happen in terms of their relationship when the major trial begins next year.  

 GEORGE  HAS NOTHING TO LAUGH ABOUT WITH CASEY’S  SEXUAL MOLESTATION ACCUSATIONS     

 

 Even before she testified, Cindy shared a little tension releasing laugh with her attorney Brad Conway. George completely ignored her as he pulled his shoulder away from her and towards his body. This is  a  clear distancing signal.    

George certainly had nothing to laugh about, especially since he was accused of sexually molesting Casey. In all honesty, I can’t imagine anyone ever laughing about anything with regard to this case! An innocent  child is dead and Cindy’s daughter may soon  die on death row.  So Cindy’s chuckle with attorney Brad Conway  clearly  turned George  off even further.    

 A TURNED OFF GEORGE   

   

George looks absolutely miserable. He doesn’t acknowledge Cindy at all.  His shoulders are rounded in a submissive posture as he is resigned to be somewhere he clearly does NOT want to be.  

 His face is sour and dour, complete with downturned lips and furrowed brow and very sad looking eyes. They are completely disconnected. Cindy  on the other hand seems to be excited about giving her testimony as she is all smiles.  

 Not to be petty, but since body language involves what you chose or do not chose  to wear on your body, it seems that Cindy has chosen to not  wear a bra or to wear a very ill fitting one. The fact that she is wearing a Caylee necklace on her chest, brings attention to her chest so it is hard not to notice.   

 With all the money she earned from licensing the photos of Casey, perhaps she should use some of it to purchase some proper fitting under garments. Once again I am not being mean here, I am just telling it like it is.  It speaks volumes about her  self care.  

             DARK  ROOTS AND SELF CARE      

 

 And while we are on the subject  of  Cindy’s outward appearance and her self care , it is clear that she has taken a cue from Casey. Like Casey, she too is growing her hair out.  

 

But if one has decided to have longer hair and also be a blond, it is necessary to take more self care and bleach out your roots because it shows up more and doesn’t look good. If she  can’t afford to do that, then she may want  stick to  her original hair color shown in her roots. If she insists on being a blond and doesn’t have the money or the time to keep up  her roots, then she needs to cut it short so that  the roots aren’t as visible to others.  

  LOOK OF DISGUST AND DISDAIN    

 

   

There is no question in my mind based on watching the raw  video of  George and Cindy  in the courtroom  that George appears to be disgusted by Cindy based on his facial expression whenever he looks at her. There are consistent  and numerous  flashes of disgust in his facial expression.  

 There is no doubt that he is disgusted with his daughter  Casey for either lying that he molested her, if in fact  he did not do so,  or outing  him if he did indeed molest her  and Casey’s  breaking the family bond of  loyalty and exposing the family secret.Rather than show his sour puss to the world and passive aggressively show up for image sakes so that he  can be seen as the “good guy” – the  supportive husband and father, it would have been a lot more genuine if  he sayed at home.  

 GUM CHEWING GEORGE    

 

   

 If George would have stayed home, he could have chewed all the gum he wanted in the privacy of his own home.  

  Why doesn’t  George’s attorney and friend Brad Conway teach him some proper courtroom etiquette? Since has neglected to do his job, perhaps I can do it for him  and educate George through this blog.   

  When you go into a courtroom it is not a movie theatre or a baseball game. You cannot eat or drink in there or chew gum there. To do so would be disrespectful. George’s  gum chewing in the courtroom shows complete ignorance of how to comport yourself in a courtroom and complete disrespect.  

  So here is the bottom line to George and Cindy too. Take a Kleenex and spit out your gum BEFORE you walk into the courtroom. I am sure that there are trash cans around where you can deposit the Kleenex containing the gum.  

 And speaking of disrespect int he courtroom, it seems that the apple does not fall to far from the tree.  I will get to George’s son Lee Anthony’s disrespectful courtroom  behavior  in my next blog.  

   MORE DISTANCING BODY LANGUAGE  FROM GEORGE   

     

George and Cindy are not a united front as far as their body language reveals. He sits out in front of  her as you see here as a distancing mechanism. He looks away from her.And please don’t write to tell me that this is based on one photo. It’s based on a lots of photos and a lot of video watching. Oftentimes just from one moment in time you can see the leakage of how a person really feels about someone.   

GEORGE WALKS OUT OF THE COURTROOM ALONE AND LEAVES CINDY BEHIND     

    

 Finally it  was time for  George and Cindy to leave the courtroom. They faced in opposite directions. He left her trailing  behind and didn’t even look back at her or speak to her.   

 As you can see in the above photo, his rounded shoulders  indicate that he has had to submit to being there even though he clearly did not want to be there at all. This photo and the ones preceeding it show that he clearly does not want to be around Cindy.   

  His expression mirrors how he feels inside. George is completely miserable and no doubt  feels stuck . Also note how he pulls his head away from Cindy. Once again, that is a distancing behavior.   

  Finally George left the courtroom and Cindy was standing there alone  by herself.   

 There is no doubt that this entire ordeal has taken it’s toll on their previously fragile relationship. Even though they have tried to put up a good public front in the past, as things become more stressful I believe it will put an even greater strain on them.   

GEORGE FACING THE GRIM REALITY FOR THE FIRST TIME IN TWO YEARS    

 A lot of this strain has to do with George coming out of the fog and finally facing reality. Casey’s accusations of him sexually molesting her, jolted him back into reality. 

  
  Whether it is true or not, he is now out of  his illusion concerning Casey. He sees her for exactly what she is. If he didn’t molest her, he sees her as the lying dangerous  monster that she is.  He may now clearly see her as killing Casey and now trying to kill him and his reputation with her lies .   If he did indeed sexually molest her, then he faces the grim  reality of realizing  how  his improper actions may have contributed  to Case’s aberrant  behaviors.     

 Either case is a very grim scenario. He can no longer look at Casey the same way. He can no longer sit there with a straight face and defend her to the hilt. He can no longer go on and on about a fictious Zanny the Nanny or try to use River Cruz as a cause for reasonable doubt.   

 For the first time George is feeling emotions other than  the grief  of losing the only person in his life who gave him a reason to wake up in the morning- little Caylee.  The emotional  veil has finally been lifted. So he has to be feeling  the anger and the rage  he has towards Casey fro taking away his precious grand daughter.   

Prior to this George was an emotionally vacant parent.  By his own admission told Casey he wasn’t a great father as he preety much let Casey do whatever she wanted to do. So now he is forced to live with that. Being emotionally vacant, he had no clue with what what really going on with Casey or who she really was as a person.  Now for the  first time in his life he has taken a close look at who  Casey really is and it is not a pretty picture. It is devastating for him and it shows in every aspect of his body language.   

My only hope for George is that he is seeing someone who is a licensed psychologist or a psychiatrist who can help him cope with what must be a living hell. He needs a lot of support from a professional who will be there to guide him properly during the roller coaster ride of the trial and it’s aftermath. He needs a professional in his corner to help him cope with the grim reality. That reality is that his own flesh and blood may be killed by having a neddle stuck through her own flesh as it’s poisons course through her own blood. 

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Cindy Anthony’s Signals of Deception In The Courtroom- Says She Believes Caylee Still Alive

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

When Cindy Anthony took the stand and gave her testimony about the 911 call, she was articulate and  coherent. She presented  herself very well for the most part, until she lied that she still thinks Caylee is alive.

TOO MUCH INFORMATION MAY REVEAL DISCOMFORT ABOUT THE TOPIC AND GUILT

Cindy sounded very credible and  had it together until she discussed finding Casey’s pants in the car and  how she washed them because they smelled bad. That was too much information for the question asked.

When someone coughs up a little too much information it may very well be that they are feeling a bit guilty or uncomfortable concerning that information.

There is no doubt that Cindy, being the intelligent woman she appears to be, knows very well that she should not have washed Casey’s pants no matter how badly they smelled.

She needed to have placed them in a plastic bag and put them in a sealed container in the garage or some place where she would not smell the pants. She knows very well that it was wrong for her to  have washed them, especially after knowing that it smelled like a dead body in the car.

Perhaps she instinctively knew Casey was up to no good and had something to do with that smell.

That may be why she was so intent on washing away that  smell away as well as  washing away her guilt. There is no doubt that deep down Cindy feels guilty for  threatening to throw Casey out and keep Cayley. That precipitated this whole mess and she no doubt wished she had never said what she said to Casey or Caylee might still be alive .

You would think that Caylees backpack and toys ,which were in the heated car also smelled like the pants. So why didn’t she wash them as well? It was only Casey’s pants that she washed in her attempt to save and protect Casey. But what about protecting Caylee and her memory?

CINDY’S REAL TEARS

Unlike what we have seen regarding Casey’s fake non tears, Cindy cried real tears as she recalled the  events  and her frustration concerning Caylee’s disappearance.

 She broke down a bit when she told of how she overheard Casey tell her son Lee that she hadn’t seen Caylee in over 32 days and panicked how she panicked. As she relayed this story , it was a though she was re-living the experience. She lost her composure and wipes some real tears. And unlike Casey, she didn’t have to examine her Kleenex to make sure she cried tears. She also didn’t  stick her finger in her eyes or wipe away a tearless cheek as Casey repeatedly does.

THE AGGRESSIVE BLAMING  CINDY FINALLY  SURFACES

Cindy was actually like-able and believable until the topics of what she said to the FBI  and when she said that it smelled like there was a dead body in the car.  It was then  the old Cindy came through- the Cindy we watched for years on television during her press junkets, outside of her home, and in depositions. 

Once again we saw the aggressive angry aggressive defensive belligerent Cindy who has the nerve to blame the FBI stating that the  FBI got the transcript of what she said all wrong . She complains how there were lots of errors and missing pieces. 

So it appeared that Cindy couldn’t keep up her calm, cool, and collected demeanor for long. In a short period of time she was back to her unlikable self.

CINDY BELIEVES CAYLEE IS STILL ALIVE?

Then Jose Baez tries to Spin it during cross examination after Cindy the unlikable emerged. He couches it by making a statement and telling her how she felt. He says “ You wanted them to know that the smell was different from a dead body.”

Cindy is surprised to hear the words Jose has put into her mouth by telling her what she meant to say. That is why she shakes her head NO as she sheepishly says”I guess.”
 She knows that isn’t true. If it was she would have said “Exactly” or “That’s right” in a tone that showed conviction.

 Indicating she knows exactly what Jose is doing os ridiculous spin.

Then she realizes what  Baez is trying to do by putting those ridiculous words into her mouth.  It suddenly dawns on her that Jose is trying to spin it in an attempt  to  protect Casey.

So she adds additional unrequested information to  Baez’ nonsensical statement . Cindy adds a lie. Trying to direct Cindy’s answers to make them more favorable for Casey he makes another statement to Cindy instead of asking her a direct question.   Jose says “You told them this because you wanted them to keep searching for a live Caylee.”

Cindy clearly liked where this was going  as hooked on to the words “ live Casey.”  Jose senses tat she is getting where he is going and now asks her a question concerning his statement. He asks “Youre clear about that?”

Now here is where we see Cindy’s signals of deception. Of course she is “not clear about that.” Of course she knew after smelling the dead body smell  in the car, that the cops would not be searching for  a live Caylee but rather a dead Caylee.

Cindy immediately shakes her head NO as she replies”  absolutely”. Shaking your head in the negative when you are speaking in the affirmative is a sure fire signal that you’re not telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing bur the truth. It may have been wishful thinking on Cindy’s part, But it was far from the truth. Deep down she knew what most likely happened.

 Remember what I said about people that add too much information that is unsolicited, I said they might be feeling guilt so they give too much information, They also give too much information to explain a lie away. 

The bones were discovered. The memorial service was held. The vigils were over. So there is no way that Cindy isn’t aware that Caylee is dead. But after she said  “absolutely” in response to Jose’s comment that she wanted police to search for a live Caylee, she adds unsolicited information.

 She adds “ I still think  Caylee is alive.” Immediately after she uttered those ridiculous words, she   shows  a signal of embarrassment as well as deception by  she pursing her lips. It as though she instinctively knew she should not have said what she did.

Then the rest of the signals of deception kick in. She shrugs her shoulders which is a definite signal of deception and cocks her head to the side indicting that she is not sure she should have gone that far and said  what she did in adding such a ridiculous comment to help create a reasonable doubt.

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 Then she makes a very goofy looking facial expression which reflects how she goofed up by making that  that outrageous  statement . Her eyes pop open wide and she tightens her lower lip and her upper lip as if to seal her mouth shut/ The pressure is so tight that it looks like she is puffing out the area above her upper lip ( moustache area )  as the color of her skin above her upper lip has blanched.

She remained in that position for 10 seconds. She didn’t want to say anymore because she knows she did this for affect and as a way to say something to try and help out Casey.

CASEY’S REACTION TO CINDY

For the most part Casey’s expression was lifeless when Cindy took the stand. There was no facial reaction to Cindy as she coldly looked through her mother. It was obvious that she wasn’t thrilled to see her mother full face looking straight in her direction after a two year absence.

LOOKING PRETTY FOR MAMMA

Cindy’s presence on the stand clearly made Casey feel uncomfortable and nervous. As soon as her mother got on the stand there were numerous  hair grooming behaviors which took place in succession . Subconsciously she wanted to look nice for  mamma Cindy. After all Cindy has indicated in her jailhouse letters to Casey, how beautiful she looks. So Casey’s sudden repeated  grooming is her attempt to “look beautiful” for Cindy. 

CASEY’S FURTHER DISCOMFORT

Casey’s discomfort with seeing and hearing her mother on the stand is reflected by Casey’s  swallowing more often than usual. This means that her  throat is dry because her autonomic  nervous system is kicking in. She’s not manufacturing enough saliva  so that is why her mouth and throat feel dry. Hence, the excessive swallowing. Her gaze was not steady when her mother spoke as she didn’t look directly at her. Instead we observed  constant eye shifting .Finally we saw her take many deep breaths to oxygenate herself. This is further indication of her physical discomfort. We  clearly saw it when the when the topic of Tony’s apartment came up. 

THANKS MOM

For the most part there was no significant emotion reflected n Casey’s face. But right after Cindy made the Caylee is still alive” comment there was a sudden change in Casey’s facial expression.  It was softer and she had a slight smile as if to say “thanks for saying that and trying to create reasonable doubt so I can walk out of here, like my attorney Cheney Mason said I would.

ADVICE FOR CINDY ON THE STAND

 think that no matter how much coaching or witness preparation Cindy gets the real Cindy will eventually leak out to jurors. Based on this little preview, it appears that she just can’t help herself. She needs to just answer the questions and not editorialize. She needs to not volunteer additional information especially information like thinking Caylee is still alive. If she pulls that nonsense on a jury they will think she is a nutcase and react even more harshly towards Casey. www.drlillianglass.com

 

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Mel Gibson Could Have Easily Killed Oksana Gregoriova Based on What He’s Said and Out of Control Anger

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

 

 When I appeared on the Insider on CBS the other  night, I made the comment  “thank goodness this tirade was done over the phone because if Mel was in the same room as Oksana, he could have hit her.”  But after listening to the latest tape and analyzing all of the tapes thus far, I will take my statement a step further. Not only could Mel have hit Oksana, he could have easily murdered her!

There is now a lot of controversy over whether or not her above photo with broken veneers is retouched or tampered with. All I can say is that if you look at her eyes in the photo they have NOT been tampered with. They are puffy and red. Those are the eyes of a woman who  looks like they have been doing  a lot  crying .

Whether he hit her on the temple and the blow created   a chain reaction that caused damage to the teeth,as her dentist says,  the bottom line as we call heard on the tape, is that Mel admitted “ she deserved it.”

MEL’S VERBAL RAGE AND VERBAL ABUSE WERE NOT DOCTORED!

No one can deny the amount of rage and verbal violence that came out of Mel’s lips. We all heard it! Even if the tape was edited and doctored as some have reported, there is no way that his rage and verbal abuse was doctored.

Whether she stimulated or “egged him on” as people have commented,  there is still no excuse for Mel’s out of control behavior. When someone makes you that angry to the point that we have seen  Mel’s anger escalate,  you need to leave immediately. Get away from the  person , make a legal arrangement to see you child, and never look back at the relationship!

I am not definately  blaming the victim. Any relationship involves two people. I say the same to Oksana as I say to Mel. If she heard his rage escalate to the point that it did, she needed to have left him long ag. She needed to have hired an attorney and needed to have never looked back.

WHY ABUSED WOMEN DO NOT LEAVE RIGHT AWAY

 But unfortunately for Oksana, like so many abused women, most  do not leave right away. They stay and stay and stay, hoping things will change for the better and that things will work out. Studies show that it often takes an abused woman 7 to 11 times of breaking off and coming back to the  abusive relationship before she is out for good.

So the lame excuse that Mel’s camp gave that Oksana went away with him in January doesn’t fly. Just because she went back to Me after n abusive battle,  does not necessarily mean that things were fine and dandy. It means that she was doing what abused women do, especially ones with children. She was trying to make things work between them.  

MEL A CLASSIC ABUSER IN THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE

When one looks at the Cycle of Violence common to abused women,  Mel Gibson, appears to fit the classic picture of an abuser to a tee. That picture of an abuser often ends in such physical violence that it can cost a woman her life.  Oksana could have easily been one more statistic to the millions of women murdered at the hands of a spouse, lover, boyfriend, or companion.

The name calling (cunt, bitch, whore), the  violent yelling and animal-like grunting and heavy audible respiratory patterns, the irrational comments, exaggerated claims and blame ( that he has no money- none  of the 900 million  dollars he allegedly has,  because he spent it all on her)  pushing, the hitting(allegedly damaging her teeth), lack of empathy (telling her she deserved it when she complained of his violence) the degrading control (demanding oral sex from her even though they were in conflict) life endangering threats (to burn the house down and to hit her head with a bat) are only a step away from killing a person.

If you think this seems far fetched, think again. This is EXACTLY what happened to Nicole Brown Simpson. This is EXACTLY what happened to millions of women who die each year at the hands of men they are either living with or married to. This is EXACTLY what happens to women all over the world regardless of race, religion,  culture, ethnic background, financial status, occupation, or physical appearance. 

WHO ARE THE ABUSERS WHO CAN KILL?

Anyone who exhibits the patterns that Mel Gibson exhibited can kill!  It doesn’t matter how rich or famous they are, if they have displayed the patterns that Mel displayed, they can definitely kill. Now I am not accusing Mel of being a murderer, but if someone is that consistently enraged and out of control  as we have heard Mel to be, then anything is possible.

He may be so angry that he could  strike a blow, hitting her in the head, causing  a subdural hematoma  where she would bleed into her brain, thus tragically ending her life. 

The verbally violent  tapes we have heard are not of just one conversation. They are of many conversations he had over time with Oksana. The red flag here is that Mel does not change his violent tone during any of the many different conversations we have heard.

 There is no point where his anger and rage is diffused. It is consistent and whenever you hear consistent rage like this that escalates, it indicates that danger is imminent.

Men who are control freaks, silent but deadly erupting volcanos, arrogant condescending know it alls often turn into both emotional and physical abusers. 

LEARNING TO READ THE WARNING SIGNALS OF A TOXIC KNOWLEGE OF A TOXIC ABUSER CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

I have spent a lot of time studying the topic of abuse especially as it relates to men for my new book which will be on shelves this November called TOXIC MEN- 10 Ways to Identify, Deal With and Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable.

This book is NOT a book about male bashing, nor am I an angry woman who hates men. On the contrary, as a heterosexual woman, I happen to love men. I just don’t love TOXIC MEN who abuse women. This book which is a sequel to my best selling book TOXIC PEOPLE which I wrote over 15 years ago, is designed to help save relationships and save lives.

The book is designed to help ANYONE learn to identify the red flags and the signals of any TOXIC MEN by learning to analyze their body language and looking for signals in the voice and speech patterns, (what they say and how they say it)  facial expressions and nuances, and body language and movement.

If you happen to be in  TOXIC  abusive relationship, unlike simply telling you to just to leave, it tells you that you have options 10  specific proven techniques to be exact in an attempt to  turn the Toxic relationship around.

And finally the book gives  you  some unique and unconventional ways to heal from any Toxic Relationship in which you nay have been involved.

The book is now available for preorder on Amazon.com  so if you would like click here

 http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X  and you  will get a copy sent to you as soon as it is released.

WHY HOLLYWOOD IS SO QUIET ABOUT MEL?

One of the things that you are not hearing in the media is other celebrities speaking out against Mel with the exception of Barbara Walters, Joan Rivers and Joy Behar. They made is cler that Mel is not welocm on their shows.

The only ones who have spoken out in favor of Mel is Mickey Rourke and Whoppie Goldberg who is a friend of Mel’s. Her sticking up for him got her in a lot of hot water. Suddenly she became front page news as someone who stuck up for an abuser. While controversey may draw attention to Whoopie and the View and keep the show int he news, most performers don’t want to be associated with that type of news.

That is why most are steering clear of the Mel controversey. They don’t want the stink of Mel on them. They also know well enough that in Hollywood, anything can happen. Today Mel may be the biggest villan but tomorrow, the tide may turn. So that is why no one will stick their neck out.

Also Mel’s money makes him one of the most powerful people in Hollywood who with his alleged 900 million dollars can finance his own movie projects that would employ a lot of people and mean jobs for .  He could be behind the scenes as a director and producer so no one wants to make waves.

If they are forced to speak of him as James Brolin was on the Joy Behar Show, he remarked thaathe wanted to hug Mel who may have been dealing with a lot of childhood deamons to make him so angry. 

Personally, I think his career will take a huge hit. Becuase no matter how you spin it, we all  heard the verbally violent vitriol and that is now etched into our brain forever.  Even if he didn’t physically hit Oksana, he hit her verbally and he hit the baby verbally. Horrible words and emotional beatings are  are often more damaging than the physical beatings. Yelling at a mother with that serverity while she is holding an innocent fragile baby and emotionally frightening abd upsetting the baby is child abuse in my view. 

There is no more spin agent Ed Limato to help Mel out fo this mess. Personally I am boycotting any movie or project in which Mel gets involved. I have no tolerance for TOXIC PEOPLE who are  abusers (physical or emotional)  or racists who call people the N word or say abusive things about  Mexicans or Jews. That means you- Mel Gibson. www.drlillianglass.com


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