INITIALLY GIVING KATE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT
After Kate and Jon divorced and Kate got her new “image makeover” and proclaimed in the press that she was now “Clean Slate Kate”, I was very open minded.
In fact I wanted her to succeed as I realized that she was essentially a single mother of 8 with a husband who was not going to contribute to the family finances. I knew that she was the breadwinner and that it was important for her to succeed. So I was aware of that. I hoped that there would be an inner makeover to go with the outer makeover.
KATE’S ABUSIVE AND SELFISH BEHAVIOR IN THE PAST
In the past I has been very disturbed by how abusively Kate treated Jon ,who mind you is no saint. But still, he did not deserve the physical and verbal assaults she constantly gave him.
While I realize 8 kids are a handful, the way she spoke to them and her verbal abuse towards many of them (especially on the last episode) was appalling to me.
Her snarkiness, rudeness, (throwing papers on the floor after she was done answering questions) self entitlement, selfishness and self centeredness in her TV specials and interviews were also very offensive to me.
TLC”S QUEST IN TRYING TO CHANGE KATE’S NEGATIVE IMAGE
Then Kate and her handlers at TLC no doubt decided that she should have a complete makeover.
I thought they did a fantastic job on Kate”s outside. as her hair extensions, toned figure, eyelash extensions, and whatever else they did to her looked great.
But as I mentioned in my previous blogs, outer beauty only goes so far. It is what is inside that really counts!
So then we heard all the right rhetoric that Kate was making significant changes in her life.
Even her hairdresser got into the media fray and did an interview stating how she was working on her inner self.
Her handlers at TLC no doubt put her all over the media to show off her new look and her new self.
She was guest hosting the View on several occasions as she had the support of Barabara Walters in her corner. In fact to the dismay of many, she made Kate one of her 2009’s “Most Intriguing People.”
Kate was everywhere in the media. She even threw out a teaser on Jay Leno saying how she wanted to be in Dancing With the Stars.
THINKING DWTS WAS NOT A GOOD MOVE FOR KATE AT THE TIME
I thought that was a bad idea for her to be on DWTS because of her not seeing he kids and knowing up close and personal, how physically and emotionally demanding it can be for contestants on the show.
But then, they built a studio in her home basement, so she could be with the kids. They even gave her the kindest sweetest most supportive teacher- Tony Dovolani.
After hearing that, I actually thought we could now be able to see her inner makeover as well as her outer makeover on the show.
I thought that she might shine on the show and reveal a different Kate- a non hateful Kate.
DR. GLASS BLOG READERS ANNOYED WITH MY GIVING KATE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT
I really wanted to give Kate the benefit of the doubt. Howver, many of my readers were annoyed with that decision and made comments like “ leopards can’t change their spots” and you can put lipstick on a pig, but its still a pig,” and “once a bitch always a bitch.”
Still, I had a wait and see attitude. Being the optimist that I am, I hoped for the best for Kate’s sake and for the sake of her kids.
MY ASSOCIATION WITH DANCING WITH THE STARS DOESN’T PREVENT ME FROM TELLING THE TRUTH ABOUT WHAT I SEE IN KATE’S BODY LANGUAGE AND BEHAVIOR
I have not written about Kate Gosselin since she has been on Dancing With the Stars, not because I am the Body Language Expert for Dancing With the Stars and I don’t want to say anything that may offend them. That is not how I operate.
I am sought out by various media venues because I tell the truth and because my body language analyses are credible.
I am in no one’s pocket and cannot be paid to say what isn’t true. So that is why I have gained the respect of not only ABC’s DWTS, but Nancy Grace, msnbc, VH-1, NBC, CBS, FOX, CNN, HLN, and The Insider and Entertainment Tonight, as well as in my own column in Cosmpolitan Magazine, US Weekly and every other media outlet in which I have and do appear.
SEEING KATE’S BEHAVIOR ON DWTS CONVICNED ME HOW DISTURBED AND IMMATURE SHE IS
What I saw on last night’s Dancing With the Stars made me see that Kate no doubt in my view may have some serious issues in terms of her personality that a makeover can NEVER help.
It would take years and years of therapy In my opinion for her to deal with her issues as I see them.
Her self -absorption, self centeredness, lack of compassion towards others, lack of communication skills, immaturity, combined with her inner anger runs so deep.
We not only saw this on last nght’s show. We saw it all along.
But the way she spoke to Tony, a champion dancer and the consummate professional, not to mention one of the sweetest men around, was unforgiveable!
KATE PUSHED TONY TO THE LIMIT!
First Kate talks to Tony in the tone you would use to a naughty five year old and admonishes him for not teaching her how she needs to be taught. She insults him as a professional and as a man.
She walks away from him like an immature, non communicative baby saying that she “had enough ,” which finally prompted Tony to say “I quit.”
Then as Kate whined and said” you can’t quit,” she felt no remorse whatsoever , as she wiped away her fake non-tears. The tone of her voice also did not sound apologetic.
KATE DEFINITELY DOESN’T “GET IT”
Then when She said “I don’t get it!” And threw her arms up in the air, that was the only thing that rang true. SHE DOESN’T GET IT!!! She doesn’t GET that she can’t disrespect people and constantly abuse people and have them stick around. She doesn’t GET that even a season professional can only take enough abuse and disrespect, until he decides that it isn’t worth it.
WHAT ELSE KATE DOESN’T GET
Kate also doesn’t “GET that it is not just about HER on Dancing With the Stars. This was her chance to not only shine as a dancing mother who never danced before, but to shine as far as her personality goes. She did neither!
There was nothing redeeming about her behavior, which was more important than her hair and eyelash extensions, Restylyn injections, and sequined gowns.
Besides the altercation with Tony where she tried to emasculate him as she did with Jon, through her condescending tones and hostility, she DIDN’T GET that you need to be respectful for the OTHER contestants and not chatter and speak when they are on camera getting their scores.
KATE IS ALL ABOUT KATE
When Nichole Sherzinger and Derrick Hough got the perfect 10’s of the evening, everyone of the other contestants clapped and smiled. Kate was obviously so self absorbed and in her own little world that she had NO reaction- no clapping- no smiling- nothing!
Then a when he realized that the focus was not on her she gave little lame clap minus a smile. That body language speaks to who she is as a human being- self absorbed and self centered and a lack of compassion for anyone other than herself, in my observation.
KATE HAD TROUBLE WITH TONY FROM THE GET GO
Yesterday, US Weekly Magazine asked me to analyze Kate’s body language with Tony.
I could see her leaning away from him in disrespect in week one. She was literally giving him the cold shoulder. I observed a lot of tension between them and it wasn’t the good kind of tension- sexual tension. Instead, it was the bad kind- the kind that causes havoc in everyone’s life as we saw.
Tony has spend a lot of hours with Kate and obviously the tension buildup showed last night, to the point that he had to walk away. If it was up to Tony, he would have left her immediately but some executive must have had a little talk with him and encouraged him to go back and grit his teeth and try again.
I was thrilled that Tony showed that he had boundaries and would NOT be abused and disrespected by anyone.
Isd anyone needed to apologize it was Kate which she did NOT do. It was Tony who showed that he was the bigger person.
It took two weeks for this to happen. If she had Maxsim as a teacher which I had hoped for, it would have taken two seconds for Max to walk away and NEVER look back. No way would Maxim put up with any of her shenanigans. He would NEVER stand for it!!
TROUBLE WITH TAKING CRITICISM FROM THE JUDGES
If looks could kill, Kate’s facial expression threw out daggers to the judges, both in week one and now in week two.
The cold eyed stare and hatred emanating from her eyes and facial expression was chilling. She clearly didn’t like hearing what she did wrong. She didn’t like anyone telling her she needed improvement. Her inner ice coldness and hatred was clearly reelected on her face.
This was her time to show her good nature- to dispel all previous talk that she was a mean and hateful bitch.
This was her time to show that her past behavior was due to the stress of being in a bad marriage and having all those kids.
But now it is clear who Kate is and she is NOT a likeable or sympathetic character in any way in my view.
KATE’S POOR ME VICTIM APPROACH DOESN’T WORK!
When Kate said that she was glad that Tony came back and apologized, it made me sick. She was the one who needed to apologize to him for treating him so badly that he had no choice BUT to walk out!
Any healthy person with a healthy self esteem as obviously Tony seems to have, would do the same thing.
Then she said she was glad that he came back because so many people in her life has walked out on her
WHAT????? It’s like a child killing his parents and then playing the victim card that he is upset that he is now an orphan!! Well if he hadn’t killed his parents in the first place he wouldn’t be an orphan.
Similarly if Kate hadn’t killed her relationship with Tony and alienateD everyone who crossed her path. then no one would walk away from her.
TLC BACKED THE WRONG HORSE AND WILL LIKELU LOSE WITH KATE IN THE LONG RUN
TLC is no doubt hell bent on making “a silk purse out of a sows ear”. But as the expression goes, you CANT make a silk purse out of a sows ear.”
Similarly you can’t make a successful TV talk show personality out of an ITLESS, clearly emotionally dysfunctional and disturbed woman with a miserable and hateful personality as Kate appears to be in my view. It will ONLY backfire.
Maybe Kate will be the Omarossa type – the villain you love to hate. But that only goes so far!
Producers tried to do a show with Omarossa and it was impossible, from what I heard. She was impossible and the show subsequently tanked.
Villains only go so far. Kate is cast as the VILLAN. She was the villain on Kate Plus 8 and now is the villain on DWTS. You can’t spin or bullshit the public. In most of their eyes she is CLEARLY perceived as a villain.
TLC can try all they want to make the Mother Theresa version of the single mother role model of 8 children, but the public is not stupid. They will not but it! They may tune it at first like you would tune in to see a bad car accident , but then they will get sick of her no doubt.
They get who she is and no matter if they do a repeat show like the old Paris Hilton and Nichole Richie “Simple Life,” where she is put into new situations, or they do a show where she is the next Oprah and does helpful mom tips, or does a complete inner makeover on herself, no one will buy it.
Thjey will see that it is contived and that they are no doubt being manipulated. They public is not stupid. TV programmers must NEVER forget that or their will fail!
I saw cut your losses TLC and find another person to give a show to who is deserving and who is not an emotional train wreck in my view. And if you insist on showcasing train wrecks there are more interesting train wrecks out there to showcase than Kate Gosselin.
KATE BLEW IT TERMS OF HER IMAGE THE DYE IS NOW FOREVER CAST AS KATE THE VILLAN
Nothing Kate can do now, that she had every opportunity to repair her villain image while appearing on DWTS will succeed.
After last night’s debacle where Kate abused Tony, she is cast as a villan forever! Nothing DWTS can do to change it, IF they do and make her sweet and vulnerable, the public will perceive it as being phony.
TLC and DWTS and ABC and Jimmy Kimmel Live, and the View and Jay Leno and everyone else who was reached by TLC’s long PR tentacles, gave her every opportunity to shine and come across as a hero and as a lovely human being. But she completely blew it!. She blew every golden opportunity to salvage her TOXIC image. It was TOXIC in the past and continues to be,
Even if she finds a cure for cancer or raises millions of dollars for the homeless in Haiti or Chile, she will always be seen as the VILLAIN who cured cancer or the VILLAIN who raised millions of dollars for the homeless in Haiti or Chile.
Not that she would ever do those things as she apparently too self absorbed to help anyone but herself. She can NEVER repair the damage she created concerning her IMAGE!
We now know who Kate is for sure and a TV show with her will only be more of the same, no matter how they spin it or edit it!
The true Khate will come out and its definitely not a pretty sight to see on a steady basis, no matter how many hair or eyelash extensions or Resytlyn injections they put into her. .Her inner hatred and inner daemons will always come out , “as the body doesn’t lie.’
MESSAGE TO ALL THE KATE LOVERS WHO SUPPORT AND INDENTIFY HER ABUSE AND LIVE IN DENIAL
‘And for those of you that will no doubt email me to tell me I am jealous of Kate- you are dead wrong. I am jealous of no one!In stead I am grateful for who I am and ALL of the blessings I have been given.
For those of you that accuse me of being a “hater,” I can assure you that I am Not! I am not filled with hate. Instead Kate, whom you apparently admnire is the one filled with hate and anger.
It t reflects all over her body language, her tone of voice and her facial expression. If you don’t believe me, go back and look at all the Jon and Kate Plus 8 episodes and look at her last night’s DWTS behavior. Don’t just watch how she moved on the dance floor. Watch how she moved off the dance floor.
For those of you that say Kate is a wonderful mother, I say you cannot say that. Only her children will be able to make that assessment when they are adults, just like you made assessment about whether or not you had good parents after you grew up and became an adult.
And for those of you that will no doubt get nasty and put out your hateful emails to me and comments becuase I mentioned your beloved heroine Kate, to you I say get you head out of the sand and take off your blinders and look at what IS and not what you fantasize Kate to be!
CAN YOU REALLY LOOK UP TO THIS TYPE OF WOMAN?
If you can look up to a woman who knew better as a nurse who took fertility drugs to have multiple children whom she couldn’t afford without the financial assistance of others,
was consistently abusive and disrespectful to her husband and kids,
has no relationship with anyone in her immediate family including her estranged parents and bothers and sisters (they can’t ALL be bad) ,
has fall outs with practically everyone she encounters,
is rude and hostile, insensitive, has no filter, selfish, self centered, and self entitled as we have repeatedly seen,
and most of allnot grateful for all that she has been given and instead feels more and more entitled to be given,
then you need to re-examine your priorities and who you look up to . It speaks volumes about you!
And finally can you really admore a woman who acted like a spoiled immature baby by first walking out on Tony until her had enough of her and wanted to quit?
Do you realize that her 8 kids had to witness their mother acting like a complete TOXIC bitch on the show? Do you think that is good for them to see?Do you think it helps them in any way? Maybe it helps them financially, but certainly not emotionally.
Tony Dovolani is the one to be looked up to in my book, to put up with Kates whining, abuse, disrespect and nastiness. I certainly hope that DWTS gives him a bonus in pay for having to put up with her and working well above and beyond his call of duty with Kate.
I don’t care how hard you say she has it with 8 kids, No one forced those fertility tablets down her throat. If you want to look at a heroine, look at the single mother, who whether she has one or ten kids, who doesn’t bitch and moan about it, but works jobs to support them without the help of nanny’s and maids, and house cleaners, drivers, makeup artists, and camera crews.
Look up to those women who can’t afford a new dress, let alone hair extensuions because they need that money to put food on the table to feed their children. These are the women to admire not Kate Gosselin, who has had it so easy from day one thanks to TLC.
KATE AND HER UPCOMIN G SHOW
I don’t feel that Kate Gosselin is ready to have a show for so many resons, let alone psychologically being a very good reason. It will in my view have a negative effect on her and on her children in the long run. I think it is a bad and irresponsible thing to give someone a show who has repeatedly demonstrated red flag signals.
To me it is a disaster waiting to happen. This woman should not be reawarded a show because her infamy makes for great TV and good viewership who will tune in to see what kind of bitch she will be the next week.
That is sickening in my view and does no one any good. There is more to life than ratimgs!
If I were advising Kate I would tell her to take years off off being on TV, She has enough money to support those kids now for the rest of their lives. She has earned millions from the show and books and appearances already. How much more does she need? She is also ITLESS and in my view doesn’t contribute anything new on TV. The novelty of a woman with multiple kids is over.
The only thing that had any merit was seeing the kids grow, not seeing her obnoxious behavior. If TLC now goes back and does a show with the kids now that they are already grown because Jon wants out of their legal suit and reluctantly agreed to it, I will have lost all respect for TLC.
Putting them back on the air will do them harm and no good in my view, They need the chance to live a non camera centered life.
In my view, Kate needs to stay home with them and raise them and get professional help to deal with her very troublesome issues in my view.
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