I am not a medical doctor and I did not do a physical examination on  Michaele Salahi. I also did not check her laboratory tests to see if she does or she doesn’t have MS.  But as a doctor with a PhD  who has spent a lot of years studying communication and body language,  I do find her reaction on Fox and Friends rather odd. I am not accusing her of lying about her alleged disease but something is not sitting right with me on many levels.

ARE BOOK SALES, TV RATINGS , AND TRYING TO GAIN PITY FOR A HATED IMAGE THE REASON WHY SHE’S NOW TELLING THE WORLD ABOUT  HER ALLEGED MS?

Michaele says she has been secretive about having a disorder for 17 years where   family members and her “best friend” didn’t know until now. So why go on national television to tell everyone now?

Is it to  possibly create   publicity for her show -The Real Housewives of DC?  Is it  possibly to  generate  book sales so people can read about her “secret”.  Or is it  possibly  due to the fact that she was so vilified and even more  hated since she pulled that stunt on the View about Whoppie hitting her,that she  wanted to throw a pity party so people would feel sorry for her and not hate her as much? Is  Bravo and their PR minions  behind this  because they may fear a  backlash with people turning off the show? Did they let her go to town and talk about her disease in hopes to generate sympathy and interest in  her,  so people will tune in and watch how she is dealing with her alleged  medical condition?

ONCE A LIAR IS USUALLY ALWAYS A LIAR AND OFTENTIMES A BIGGER LIAR THAN BEFORE

When Michaele spoke of her alleged MS,  she did not appear like a sympathetic character to me as she was sharing her “secret”. Something was way off. The fact that she lied about so many things in the past may add to my skepticism and the public’s skepticism about her story.

She lied about being a Redskin cheerleader. Even her author Diane Diamond, whom I  know personally and respect,  confirmed  she lied. She lied about having a formal bona fide  invitation to the White House party.

And according to  a just released  statement by Bravo, she lied about not being able to speak about the invitation to the White House because Bravo gave her instructions not to speak to anyone about the incident including  to members at the Congressional hearing . It seems like Michaele was ready to throw Bravo under the bus to protect her image, but Bravo  threw her under the bus first and busted her.

WHEN SOMEONE IS SO HUNGRY FOR FAME THEY MAY  DO ANYTHING- POSE NAKED OR  SAY THEY HAD MS IF THEY DID NOT HAVE THE DISEASE

So who is to say that this woman who appears to be so hungry for another 15 minutes of fame,  would not lie about having a debilitating disease?

When one sees that much desperation in this 44 year old , it is easy for others to  assume she  would do anything for that  fame- even showing her anorexic looking body  with  alleged full frontal nudity on the pages of Playboy. Personally I can’t think of anything more repulsive than seeing this woman naked in  any shape or form.

If she is lying, all I can say is heaven help her because  it is not good karma coming her way.

And for the record if her revelation about MS was a way to explain away her skinniness, it didn’t work either. Those who have done research on MS said that weight loss is not associated with the disease.

HOW COME THE “CHARITABLE” SALAHI’S NEVER GAVE TO THE MS CHARITIES?

Michaele and her husband Tareq have been known to throw charity events as a way to meet and hobnob with the rich and famous. They raised money for such causes as children, leukemia and lymphoma, and even for a Navy Retirement fund. But there has been no mention of  raising funds for MS.

People who usually have a disease or have a close relative or friend  with a disease will often raise money for that cause. Socialite Nancy Davis  did that with her MS Foundation and Montel Williams who also has the disease has been raising money for the cause. Michael J. Fox raises money for Parkinson’s Disease which affects him. Then there are people like Elizabeth Taylor and Sharon Stone who have had special people in their lives who died of AIDS They have dedicated themselves to raise money for this cause in honor of the people they loved.

So it is odd that someone who suffered from a disease for 17 years and who was in a position to raise charitably funds,  did not raise money for a fund that would have been near and dear to them personally.

MICHAELE’S EMOTIONAL REACTION TO THE DISEASE DID NOT APPEAR GENUINE

Seconds into her interview, Michaele  began the theatrics of feigned upset and emotion. There were no visible tears which she was seen wiping away. In addition,  her recovery time from her “upset” was too quick. There was no transition time. She went from an upset expression to an immediate genuine smile. When that happens it means that the person was’t really all that upset in the first place.

She looked over at Tareq as if to get some sort of cue to begin  her waterworks. Only no waterworks came, no matter how hard she tried.

She  tried to wipe away a tear,  but there was no liquid or tear to wipe away. While she attempted  to create upset with her eyes and forehead,  her lips and mouth are a giveaway. When someone is upset, their lips go downwards, not upwards in a smile. If you cover her eyes in this photo you will see that she looks like she is smiling. That shows that the upset is not a  genuine emotion.

She also managed to straighten her hair. When someone is upset, they don’t fix their hair or fiddle with it. That is often a signal of deception.

Then you see her touching her neck and pursing her lips. It was a lot of  over the top drama for someone that has allegedly had 17 years to adjust to the disease. All of these histrionics were over the top and no doubt designed to garner sympathy from the viewer. In fact Michael was so “distraught”  that she could not even speak.

If someone was suddenly told they had a debilitating disease, I could see them getting choked up or sobbing a bit or getting teary eyed. But she has had 17 tears to digest the fact that she has this alleged disease. That certainly is enough time to process what has allegedly happened to her.

So I found her reaction on television where it looked as though she feigned being speechless and choked up, lacking in credibility.

TOO QUICK RECOVERY TIME  AND IMMEDIATELY LEAKING OUT A HUGE GENUINE SMILE IS ANOTHER HUGE GIVE AWAY SOMETHING IS AMISS

Here is what is terribly wrong with this picture. When one is upset, there is a transition period of a few seconds where they go from one emotion into the next. She immediately went from a feigned sadness to bright happiness. It is not natural and it validates to me that something is very wrong here.

VOCAL AND SPEAKING TELLS MAKE ONE QUESTION MICHAEL’s CREDIITTY’

As Diane defends Michaele, Michaele is all smiles and confidence and  nods in agreement as Diane says she is not anorexic ,  not a White House crasher, and how she is always picked on.Micheaele even smiles and nods in agreement.

It was as though this little back and forth was rehearsed as  suddenly non choked up Michaele tells Gretchin the host of FOx and Friends  she is ready to speak.

And then  she speaks at an over the top manic sounding clip where she is brimming with  confidence. She  tells of how her family and best friends didn’t know of her condition. As she says thi,  she leaks out tells of looking away. This is often a signal of deception.

She then goes into the third person,   sounding like some sort of spokesperson as she says how a lot of people with chronic illnesses don’t talk about it. The she says YOU KNOW any type of disease YOU KNOW whether it is heart or whatever you deal with(pauses and swallows hard) breast cancer… When someone says you know several times in a sentence , it means they are usually  trying to convince you of something.

Then we see yet another signal of deception as she said I kept it personal because I never wanted to be judged , I never wanted PITY.Right after she says PITY in a  loud voice as if to emphasize the word,  we see a shoulder shrug which is a clear signal of deception. Of course she wants pity. That is why she is on national television now  telling everyone she allegedly has MS.

Now we really see the signals of deception in full force as she opens her eyes widely which often happens when a person is trying to convince you about something that is not necessarily true. You can see in the photo. Her tone is also defensive and so is her body posture as she defensively leans back. She says “I certainly wanted to hold on to my job. “ 

She then opens her eyes widely as if to  once again convince the listener to believe what she has just said.  But her shoulder shrug is a huge giveaway. It says that she is not telling us the truth.  Hold on to her job?  What job?  Wasn’t she working with Tareq and social climbing? What job did she hold?  We are talking about 17 years here.

You may think that what I will say next may sound a bit far fetched. But here I go anyway. Maybe her MS  revelation  is a little insurance for her to keep her job at Bravo. In essence she has  let Bravo know that she has an illness and if they fire her now , knowing  she has MS,  she can sue  them for discrimination and firing her because she has a disability.

After seeing her accusing Whoopie of hitting her and reading about all of her legal issues  and lawsuits and not paying her bills and all kinds of other  messes, I would not put anything past her and Tareq.

I must also add that her rapid rate  of speech and  over the top frenetic  body movement  also appear to me to be giveaway that she may not be telling us the truth about her situation.

MICHAELE FINALLY LEAKS OUT THE REAL REASON SHE IS TELLING ABOUT HER ALLEGED MS

She says in frenetic tone and  movement  that maybe all of this happened with the White House for a reason so  that I can do something good to help someone else .” As soon as  she utters these words she then  shakes her head NO which is a huge signal of deception.

She also knows she is full of it as she continues to speak with her shaky voice and  talks about strides  they are making. Who is making these strides and what does she have to do with it?

In my opinion, the he only person she is  doing anything good for  is herself!

So now we know why Michaele was on TV talking about her MS. It was to sell her book and to not have people hate her for crashing  the White House party. She has made an excuse that if it wouldnt have been for the White House fiasco she wouldn’t be talking about her MS , whereby she can now  help people.’

But how is her telling the world she has MS helping anyone?

Is she giving all of her money she earns from the book to an MS foundation? NO! Is she giving her Bravo salary to an MS foundation? NO! Is she even doing a fundraiser to raise money for MS? NO!

The whole thing was sickening and self serving in my view. Michaele fails to realize that the  public is NOT stupid. They can see right through her. She is yet another itless untalented self-serving  television creature with nothing of value to  offer, only deception and self serving goals.

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LIKE IT OR NOT KATE SEEMS TO BE  HERE TO STAY

  With two television shows on TLC, View, Emmy, and DWTS appearances under her belt and a huge PR machine behind her, whether you love her or hate her Kate  Gosselin  appears to be here to  stay. She’s here to stay for  one reason and one reason only- she brings in eyeballs viewer’s eyeballs. Those fans who love her, watch her because they love her. Those fans who hate her often want to see  what she will do next.  Then there are those who are curious. They  watch her to see what all the fuss is about. As long as she gets eyeballs watching her, she is here to stay. When the eyeballs turn away to another channel, Kate Gosselin will be nothing more than a faded  memory. TLC is her guardian angel and  they have invested a lot of money on star building this “itless” persona. Some TLC  exceutive or “suit” as they are called  in the business thought it would be a good idea to make Kate a star, so they set forth on that quest.

They made her look great but that is about it. She can’t act, sing, dance, has no expertise . Please don’t tell me that she is an expert on  motherhood. Popping fertility drugs and having sextuplets does not make one  an expert  in parenting or child rearing. Getting an advanced education in the subject,  where you are aware of all the nuances in the scientific literature  gives you that expertise ,  along with experience of working with a lot of different children that do not happen to be your own  offspring. 

 She cannot host because she is way too consumed with  Kate. Also the smarminess, entitlement, selfishness,  anger, sarcasm, hostility, and inner  hatred that  leaks out with consistency is so deep-rooted that it will be very difficult to get  that  under control without years and years of the therapy.In my view that is who she is. She demonstrated  it in her original show, DWTS, on many  talk shows on which she appeared,  and most recently on Regis and Kelly.

Why was Kate on Regis and Kelly when she had nothing to promote?  She was no doubt put there by her PR  minions where TLC  is obviously the helm. She was on the show for one reason only- damage control!

Why would esteemed Anderson Cooper ask her those obviously  pointed questions if he was not fed those questions by her team?  It was no doubt done to was clearly done to  spin it Kate’s way . It  was obvious that the questions could be answered by her in a way to make Jon look bad and make her look good. It was done to  quell the recent hoopla that appeared all over the internet where all the hysterical sextuplets  were clearly  heard sobbing at the top of their lungs and wailing.  hey didn’t want daddy to leave and they appeared terrified  to go home to Kate.

PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES AND KATE’S BEHAVIOR ON REGIS AND KELLY WAS NOT PRETTY

 Even though she has pulled it together with  awesome makeup complete with red glossy lips , a  toned  body with muscular arms ,  and a  beautiful face, I am still of the school that  pretty is a pretty does” and there are too many instances when I believe Kate’s behavior just hasn’t been pretty.

When a parent tries to pit their kids between them and their ex,  it is time for me to speak up. That is exactly what Kate did on Regis and Kelly. She pitted her children against  her  and Jon by trashing him in front of millions. And don’t tell me he did the same to her on national TV. That was then and this is now. And two wrongs don’t make a right. It was immature and hateful on BOTH of their parts. But now that over a year has gone by it is clear that she needs to speak about her hatred and anger towards Jon to a therapist, not to Kelly and Anderson in front of millions of people.

It makes her look disturbed, bitter, immature,  and very UGLY inside and out.  Her  anger at Jon’s past behavior with his cheating, running off at the mouth on national TV, and acting irresponsible is misdirected.  Instead, she  needs to take a good look at herself and her role in abusing this poor guy to the point he had enough and went off the deep end. Yes, years of constant emotional abuse  can make a person behave as we saw Jon behave.  

MESSAGE TO ALL KATE FANATICS

And please to all you Kate fanatics who take it as a personal affront when anyone says anything that may not be music to you eyes or ears about Kate.  I say  the  following to you:

 If you are such a good and loyal  fan of Kate’s then you need to  be a real friend and a fan and let your friend know when they are messing up. You need to send Kate a message that she is messing up her children emotionally, by acting the way she did on Regis and Kelly.

I don’t want to hear about  what you think about my credibility. After the education, background, and experience I have and the years I have devoted to the study and analysis of body language,  I can assure you that I am credible enough  be used by top media outlets around the world and in law enforcement an in the legal field  and to have been a qualified witness in both state and federal courts. So I am not concerned with what you think of my credibility simply because I add my opinions to my body language analyses. That is what blogs are for- to give your opinions.

And please don’t waste my time telling me I am writing about Kate  because I am jealous of her or I want to enhance my own populatity.   I am jealous of no one. And just for the record, I have been around  well before there was a Kate Gosselin on television.  And as far as popularity goes, I have millions of books around the world that bear my name. So I don’t need Kate Gosselin to enhance my notoriety or for people to read my blog.  Thousands of people read my blogs each day with or without Kate Gosselin as the  subject matter.

KHATE’S ANGRY JAW

Substitute host  Anderson Cooper asked if her relationship with Jon was as contentious as it appears to be.  Kate  nodded her head yes and tightened up her jaw and let out a hissing  snake like sound as she said Itssss ya now. She then shrugged her shoulders and let loose with her first jab towards Jon. You can really see the anger and hatred Kate holds towards Jon. It’s in her jaw. Look at the enormous tension . There is so much tension and anger that you see  dimpling. In addition, look at how her lips are pulled back in anger. When a person harbors hatred and anger it is readily seen in their lower jaw as we see with Kate.

In typical Kate form  as she continues to remind us how good she is and how bad Jon is she jabbed “ I do try to keep it as peaceful as possible. I’ll speak for myself , How’s that?”

I’ll tell you how that was Kate.  It was awful!  It was  unnecessary and downright nasty. You did not have to go  there!   And you said he is the kids father. STOP ! End of Sentence! Stop the facial contortions and snide smarminess. It makes you look small and petty and downright UGLY.All the enhancements that were done to you physically mean nothing if you act bitchy, witchy, and snitchy.

Then in order to make herself   look good again and redirect the spin  in response to the video of a few weeks back when all the kids were crying in the car  after they arrived at her home  and screamed that they didn’t want daddy to leave, as you see below 

 

 Kate  makes a contorted phony expression  with a phony laugh. You can see the phony expression with her furrowed forehead,  raised eyebrow and tight non genuine  smile,  where there is tension around the corners of the mouth.  The facial gestures are incongruent which indicates phoniness. She states  that she “ waits at home  for a phone call from the kids asking when they can come home.”

ONE WAY STREET! KATE CAN TRASH JON BUT JON  CAN’T FIGHT BACK OR HE  GETS SUED  

That is horrible! It is so obvious what she was doing!  She has the national forum and was getting aback at Jon and spinning her image. The ony thing  is that she spun is her image  into the ground. It made her look awful and revealed who she is.  

If  TLC’s PR Dept.  put her on that show and directed the spin so they can have her loveable when her new show debuts, they need to be ashamed of themselves in my view.   It completely backfired. She was anything but loveable.  Jon has been punished by TLC enough in my view. He got the message loud and clear to not talk to the press. Now this has added insult to injury. Jon is a person too.

He has no forum to speak about Kate because he is not allowed to do so or he will get sued. So it is a one way street where Kate can trash him and he can’t say  anything to defend himself! It is unfair and appalling.

I doubt  that with all the  things she has going on in her life professionally,  that  she waits by the phone  with baited breath just  to hear which child will call asking to come home .  And if the kids  do call, what does she do about it?

a.  Does she come and get them?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            

b. Does  she call  Child Protective Services because they are so miserable and thinks Jon is harming them?

c.  Does she  believe Jon is abusing them by forcing  them to stay  in unlivable conditions -  his little apartment  with a few toys as opposed to their  luxurious big home with a truckload of toys?

d. Is she making  this  all up?

Chances are  the correct answer is it is d . She is making this all up .

 

Kelly Ripa also knows that what Kate is saying is complete BS. Look at Kelly’s body language. She pulls  up her shoulder and tucks in her head and crosses her arms over her body. This is a defensive motion as she is not going to let Kate get away with her nonsense . In  reference to Kate’s ridiculous statement of how the kids call her and want to come home, Kelly asks Kate  in a deliberate  and measured tone  Are they are they allowed to?  

Kelly immediately changes her body position as she awaits Kate’s answer. You can see Kelly is not comfortable  with Kate or the answer she knows Kate is about to spin. You can see that Kelly’s shoulders are raised which indicates she is upset and displeased.  It’s similar to what  a cat does when they are upset and uncomfortable they raise their hackles. They are on alert. Kelly is on alert for Kate’s answer .You can even see how Kelly has pressed her hand on her lap to center herself as she is about to listen to Kate’s  nonsensical spin.

IF KATE HAD NOT ABUSED JON MAYBE THEY WOULD STILL BE SLEEPING IN THEIR OWN HOME AND PLAYING WITH THEIR OWN TOYS

And Spin it Kate did!   Kate says that it’s hard to tell your kids why  they can’t  sleep in their beds and play with their own toys. Well maybe it is time that Kate stop trashing Jon and tell the kids that they need to  learn to compromise and sleep in a bed  away from home that daddy has prepares especially for them. Maybe she needs to tell then  that they can  bring their own special toys when they stay at daddy’s. Maybe she needs to tell them that  daddy who loves them and wants to  see them  .

Maybe it wouldn’t be so hard for the six year-olds to understand why they have to sleep  at daddy’s house  if she would stop trashing Jon. Maybe Kate needed to have thought about  this situation before she abused the daylights  out of Jon and emasculated him  for so many years until he   had no choice but to leave her. Her constant abuse was the catalyst for his going off the  deep end in my estimation.  

 Here we really see her signal of  deception as she says she  talks about the kids and says she is “there for them.” She shakes her head NO  as she says this and looks down and away ,  knowing  very well what she is saying is complete BS .  She is not there for them. She is there for herself  as she runs around  the country doing book tours and TV gigs. 

 She clearly knows that it is a spin to get back at Jon and to make herself good like the perfect mommy . The PR spin was designed  to help her get that positive image now that her show is going to début int he near future.

The only thing she  did  that rang true was when she said  ”I’m Lonely”  She made a genuine sad expression when she spoke those words. So  I believe that when  kids are  mot around, she is indeed lonely. After she alienated so many family members and friends throughout the years, what she says does seem to ring true.

PUTTING THE KIDS IN THE MIDDLE  OF HER  HATRED FOR JON  WILL AFFECT  THE KIDS DOWN THE ROAD  

Anderson Cooper then paraphrases all of her spin and  bluntly says So what you’re saying is that  they don’t enjoy being with him. Kate immediately looks down and with a  slow tentative articulation pattern says   looks  Some of them don’t mind.

Why would anyone in their right mind say something know that will hurt the kids in the long run? In essence she just trashed Jon by telling the world that the kids don’t  like being with their own father who has shown them nothing but love, tenderness and affection  since their birth.  He hs been the more emotionally nurturing of the two. 

 If  what she is saying that kids dont enjoy being with him,  it is no doubt because she put that  through into their little heads to choose between her or Jon. If the kids didn’t want to be with daddy why would they wail for him to not leave them when he dropped them off?

And why in the world would anyone go on national television  and say something like this?  This will have emotional repercussions as far as the children are concerned.  What we have just seen is exactly why  I have insisted all along that Jon and Kate  get a qualified counselor  to help them properly handle  these children so that  they don’t have to be in the middle of their emotional mess.  

  

AND YET ANOTHER DIG AT JON WHICH IS NOT GOING TO HELP THE KIDS

After Kate showed her ugliness with all of her digs towards Jon, she then had to get yet another dig in by  saying  how it’s only been three months since Jon has taken the kids on a regular basis and how it is all so new.

In essence she let everyone know that Jon was being bad and only now stepped up to the plate with the kids. Once again whether that is true or not is no one else’s business.  This dirty laundry did not have to be aired out on public. And why did she wait until the end to say this? It is because her intention for being on that show was to make Jon look bad. She and TLC did not carry out their goal. It made her look bad instead.

 If that is the case  and it has only been three months, then Kate should know that this is an  adjustment period and the kids need to be encouraged about this new  arrangement,  not given subliminal messages to tear them in two and mess up their  little minds about which parent they need to show more loyalty.

UGLY IS AS UGLY DOES  AND UGLINESS IS  PUBLICLY AIRING ANGER  ABOUT  AN EX WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT THE EFFECT  ON YOUR KIDS,

No matter how well coiffed Kate’s hair looked or how shiny her red lip gloss was or  how toned her arms looked in her red sleeveless dress,  Kate’s open  anger and hostility  towards Jon make her look  ugly!

  Her inner hatred contorted the muscles in her face. The sarcastic digs and  smarmy,   nasty tones negated all the hard work her stylist and make up artist did  in putting Kate’s look together. Kate looked like a bitter bitten woman.

But more than her looks, the effect that her bitterness and hatred will have on her children is more serious. These children  need to see a mature  adult as a role model . They do not need to see their mother acting like a nasty, angry,  and centered child  having a  temper tantrum.  Kate needs to grow up and let go of her hate because hate spreads. These children do not need the added burden of dealing with hate. They need love the grow and flourish. www.drlillianglass.com

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Oftentimes different magazine, internet,  and television show venues  will ask me what I think about a particular celebrity or newsmaker’s relationship. They will often present me with a series of photos or videos and ask for my assessment.

Most recently HollywoodLife. com  asked me to comment on the relationship between Kate Gosselin and her bodyguard Steve Neild. I gave them my honest assessment based on various tells which I observed. This is only my opinion and my view. I did not  personally hang out with  Kate or Steve or witness their alleged coziness firsthand.

Apparently there have been documented reports of  physical sightings where Kate and her body guard have become rather cozy with legs touching legs. In fact the esteemed Huffington Post reported it.

I stated in the Hollywoodlife.com blog that that Kate seemed to fancy her bodyguard based on her body language. Steve, on the other hand continued to show professional decorum as you can see in these photos below.

Apparently,  the Kate Gosselin lovers  and fans on their  “Kate Plus Eight Gosselin Family Fansite”   were all up in arms and got their panties in a bunch stating that I made up lies to  promote myself and to insult Kate. This is not true.

In the first place, I do not need Kate Gosselin to promote myself. I have being doing body language analysis well before there was a Kate Gosselin in the media. As far as insulting Kate is concerned, it was never my thought or intention to insult Kate. I was merely describing my personal body language observations.

Here are some excerpts from the  HollywoodLife.com article:

We told you earlier that Kate and longtime bodyguard Steve Neild got cozy while vacationing in Bald Head Island, N.C. during the week of Aug. 9. A shocking eyewitness report from The Huffington Post alleges that the duo were sitting side-by-side, legs touching, on the beach!

Photo #1: “Her head is cocked like she’s interest to know what Steve thinks. He is kind of in control here and she’s not used to that. Look at her toe, they are in sync step wise, and there’s one foot where her toe is facing him — she really likes him. Her shoulders are a little rounded and hunched over meaning she’s being a little subservient. The fact that his hands are in his pockets shows he’s hiding something like he’s hiding what’s going on between them.”

Photo #2: “Look at the way she’s looking at him. It’s like he’s her man servant and she can yell at him. Her foot is directly in the back of him and she’s looking at him like she’s trying to control him and tell him what to do. Kate’s legs are spread wide which means it’s very casual and very very comfortable with this guy … overly comfortable.”

Photo #3: “With her hand on the hip it’s kind of like an arrogant and defiant pose. Her shoulders are rounded again and she’s leaning into him. The distance between them is too close like he’s trying to keep it hidden and professional, but she’s giving it away. It appears in this photo that she likes him more than he likes her with the way he is facing.”

Photo #4: “Her face shows that she’s very happy around him. You never see Kate smile. She’s a step behind him and there’s not a lot of distance between them. They are also in sync again and that indicates she likes him. Again, he has a hand in his pocket which reveals he’s hiding something.

It’s definitely possible they are having an affair. She’s very comfortable around him.”

“POSSIBLE” MEANS POSSIBLE

Notice that I said  the word “possible”, I didn’t say they were  100 per cent  having an affair , I said “possible”.

Whether you love Kate or not you have to admit that anything is possible, especially when people spend as much time around one another as these two apparently do, with reported adjoining rooms in hotel stays.

I am not saying they are or they are not having an affair as I am not in their room.  But I will say that they do look rather cozy in my view.’’

TELLING THE TRUTH AND CLEARING UP  FALSE MISCONCEPTIONS AND MISINFORMATION

As a result of this article many Kate supporters, didn’t bother to read what I said exactly but instead,  blindly went off half cocked. They looked at a headline which I did not write and made many comments where they tried to minimize my background and education  in an attempt to dismiss what I had to say in order to make themselves feel better.

So I decided to address and clarify  their issues so there would be no misunderstandings.

Being an open person with nothing to hide, I will address the  concerns and comments from the Kate loving fans  so they can rest easy.

1. What I do in body language analysis has nothing to do with  neurolinguistic  programming. Body language analysis is both and art in having experience in knowing how to read others and a science based on research concerning specific behaviors which indicate specific meaning.

2. Kate’s alleged “pigeon toedness” that a commenter suggested was not a factor in  describing her body language tells with Steve Neild

3. As far  as any comments I made  regarding the  Gosselin kids are concerned, when Jon and Kate were going through their split up, I was a proponent of their speaking with a counselor to help them with the transition, especially since the divorce was so public, ugly and tense.

Kate even publicly  stated how it was difficult for the kids and how the kids were acting out at the time. I believed and still believe that seeking the advice of a licensed professional that specializes in treating children who appear to be acting out or undergoing stress, can only help a child.

4. As for my background, I am more than happy to share it with you. I am not a medical doctor – an MD. I  do have a PhD in Communication Disorders from the University of Minnesota and a Masters Degree from the University of Michigan in Speech communication. I also have a strong background in the study of psychology although I am not a practicing or licensed psychologist. I have a post doctorate in Medical Genetics  from UCLA where I was the only PhD in an MD program where I closely examined structures and behaviors related to specific genetic disorders. My training in this field has been  instrumental in terms of my developing my body language reading skills.

I have spent close to three decades doing communication and body language analysis not only for my clients in my private practices, but for the Hollywood community for various films and television shows,  as well as using my skills in the law enforcement and legal communities. I have also written numerous books on the topic and lectured around the world.

5. As  far as being a Kate Hater is concerned, I do not hate Kate as I have said repeatedly. In fact, I  respect that she has numerous mouths to feed and has found a way to earn a living in the media to support her children. I believe that she is indeed very lucky to have a guardian angel like TLC to support her and her family.

6.And finally, I have  discovered is that there are lot of Kate fans or shall I say “fanatics” who cannot bear to hear anything they may perceive as negative when it may in fact not be negative at all. To them, I say, take off your blinders and look at what” is”, not at what is the fantasy you created there to be.

If  Kate is having an affair with her bodyguard, that is her business. Maybe they spent so much time together and found they had a lot in common. Maybe they fell in love. Maybe he fell out of love with his wife. Maybe he has an open marriage.  Only Steve and Kate know this for sure.

Like everyone else, Kate certainly deserves love.  As I said anything is “possible.” While it is possible that they are an item, it is also “possible”It is also “possible” that they are just very cozy close intimate friends. Only time will tel for sure.www.drlillianglass.com

As you well know from reading my blogs, I cannot stand spin or hype or manipulating the public. I don’t like it when the public is fed lies or when people are easily given a free ride when they don’t deserve it. In essence, I like the truth! Most of all I like it when people who work very hard for what they do are justly rewarded for their efforts.

Having worked with so many celebrities and extremely talented people over the years in helping them hone their communication and body language skills for so many film and television roles,  I definitely know who has IT and who doesn’t. I know how hard these people work at making themselves the best they can be. I have seen their considerable efforts and what it takes to make it first hand.

That is why it disturbs me greatly when I see people who have repeatedly been “abusive and entitled ” like Kate Gosselin, “alleged White House gate crashing” Michaele Salahi, “jailed burglar of the wealthy” Alexis Neiers, and “ don’t call me a whore or a hooker even though I have repeated sex with married men or I will sue you”, Rachel Uchitel taking up space and getting rewarded for their bad behaviors with television shows and tons of air time.

IN TV, LOTS OF EYEBALLS TRANSLATE INTO  LOTS OF DOLLARS AND CENTS

In my view, these women have absolutely nothing to offer.  But television executives would disagree with me. To them, these women have a lot to offer- lots of eyeballs watching shows on which they appear . They don’t care if  they are hated by the public  or they  did or immoral or  illegal acts.

As long as people are watching them on TV and ratings are high , they are thrilled. When ratings are high that means the networks  can charge a lot of money to advertisers to buy commercials. That translates into more money for the networks. That is called the bottom line.

So as long as the public watches people they love to hate, the longer they will stay in the public eye. It’s a sad commentary but unfortunately, it is true.

THE UNTALENTED ,ENTITLED,  AND ITLESS KATE GOSSELIN

When networks see that they have a cash cow, like they did with Kate Gosselin, they will do anything and everything to make sure that they succeed no matter how ITLESS they are. They will re make their physical image andshow them off  on every major show like Dancing With the Stars so they will get more popular and so that even more people will watch them on their network.

That is exactly what they did with Kate Gosselin. It doesn’t matter if you or I believe that Kate has absolutely nothing to offer. It doesn’t matter whether  you or I think she has some relevant  issues in her psyche that causes her to be so  angry, arrogant, and self centered to name a few. She will continue to alienate people and she will continue to do it over the airwaves. She was even invited to do Sara Palin’s new show in order to boost the ratings.

Like it or not, this woman is here to stay with not one, but with  two television shows and a myriad of appearances and television specials. This former nurse  simply took fertililty pills and got pregnant with septuplets, six of whom survived in her womb.   Luckily a guardian angel- TLC  found her. They helped her out and gave her a show, so she could feed her family. We,  in turn got to watch cute babies develop. At first, people watched the show because of the cute kids. But then, even more people watched  the show  to see how awful Kate was and how terribly she abused  husband Jon.

Then the fiasco between them exploded into a full blown media He Say She Says war, which made even more people watch their show.  TLC was thrilled as people took sides and waited to see the “bad car accident”.

Then Jon pulled the plug, not allowing the kids on the air. He went even further to try and destroy TLC’s ,by trashing Kate so badly and causing so much havoc in the press with his multiple relationship scandals.

This pissed off TLC to no end and they were not going to allow him to  destroy their money making TV venture.  So they showed him a thing or two. They not only gave Kate her own show, but a second show to boot. In addition they slapped him with a lawsuit and silenced him.

They took this “itless” untalented, nasty, self absorbed woman- Kate Gosselin  and tried to make her into a sympathetic  victim by having her cry all over the airwaves.  (And please don’t waste your time calling me a Kate hater. Kate is not on my hate list. That list is reserved for people like Hitler and Stalin, terrorists, child molesters, and for those who do word for word copying of my work, among others I won’t bother to name ).

I am simply reporting behaviors I have observed. If you can’t see it them as well, let me suggest you take off your blinders and open your eyes and watch a re-run of  her egregious behavior on DWTS when she  fights with her esteemed dance teacher).

TLC  gave her opportunity after opportunity and she of course took it. They were on full throttle and determined to make Kate not only a  household name, but a  house-gold  name earning scores of money for them .

They redid her image from the frumpy housewife to the glamourous beauty, had her co- host the View where millions would see her, appear on late night shows, and on TV specials where they even had her and had her cry on cue to make her appear more sympathetic.  But when they  put her on DWTS they really saw how powerful their brand was.

Her fight with her teacher Tony Dovolani which showed her disrespect and arrogance and entitlement,  garnered the highest ratings.  People who loved her, watched  to see her succeed, while people who hated her watched to see her fail. When she was voted off the show, DWTS ratings plunged and TLC knew they hit the jackpot with Kate.

They even gave her another show and trotted her out there with more books so more people could connect to her. They threw her back on the View and Kimmel Live and everywhere else. TLC created this “itless”  who some consider to be a “monster,” out of spite  for Jon and they succeeded.

So like or not, love her or hate her, she is here to stay no matter how many latters you write or emails you send. The more people hate her the more they will watch her and the higher her ratings will be.

I only hope she remakes her insides as she did with her outsides for the sake of her kids. While both Kate and her “itlessness” bore me, my only concern is for her kids and how they will turn out. I clearly didn’t like it when I saw the videotape of the kids crying in terror when it came time to go back home to Kate after an outing with Jon. While we don’t know the exact reason the childen are terrified, if they are terrified  because of Kate’s behavior towards them, maybe TLC should use some of the money they earned because of  Kate’s infamy and spring for some therapy for both Kate and those kids.

ITLESS MICHAELE SALAHI-  INFAMY AND MORE TV TIME

To me Kate isn’t as disturbing as Michaele Salahi. I find this woman repulsive in every way from her arrogant tone of voice to her pleadingthe fifth and not being forthright. What did she have to hide?  I am even more repulsed that attorney Lisa Bloom for whom I once had a great deal of respect  has stooped so low as to represent this “itless creature. It was bad enough that Lisa represented one of the most TOXIC MEN Michael Lohan who tapes personal conversations with others and sells them to internet venues and who recenty sold a nude photo of his ex fiance sleeping  to one of the internet tabloid outlets. But now, she has gone further in collecting clients the public  loves to hate. I guess she is following in the footsteps of her mother Gloria Allred  who takes on the infamous like Rachel Uchitel and a myriad of  Tiger’s sex partners.

If Michaele had an invitation to the White  House  party,  like she said she did, why didn’t she show it to everyone?  On the Today Show she told how she couldn’t say anything at the hearing  because of Bravo. That may or may or may  not be the case. Did the Salahi’s have an invitation that Bravo gave to her? If so, why didn’t she just admit to that early on ? Or was she so entitled that she told Bravo that it was no biggie- that she could always get into top of the line events with or without an invite.

Now she and or her husband created a huge fiasco saying that Whoopi Goldberg hit her when the video clearly shows that Whoopi was  only trying to get her attention and merely re directing the topic of conversation. There is no question in my mind that  she knew Whoppi meant no malice. Why would Whoopi risk her reputation and position at the View to hit a guest? It made no sense other than Michaele and her, whom  I perceive as TOXIC husband Tareq,  trying to get more media time.

When her, whom I perceive as  TOXIC  husband Tareq got into the fray and upset Whoopi with accusations she hit his wife and started taking photos of her, I knew then and there what he was trying to do. He was trying to parlay this non incident  into more infamy for his  wife, whom people on her own show found TOXIC .

One thing is for sure, people who would never think of tuning into the DC Housewives, on Bravo will do so now. Because of this incident, Michaele will always  be assured her spot on the show as the villain. I am sure that Bravo is thrilled to no end that this fiasco occurred. Remember the bottom line is more eyeballs equal more revenue for the network.

So the this stylishly dressed , skeletal , very masculine voiced, opportunist who put national security in jeopardy by getting that close to the President of the United States without proper security clearance. is here to stay- at least on Bravo, Many would agree with Sheei Shephard on the View that she should have been put in jail rather than on a televison show.

ITLESS RACHEL UCHITEL- “CANT SAY “YOU KA TELL SHE’S A HOOKER” EVEN THOUGH SHE HAS BEEN A SEX MATE TO MANY MARRIED MEN,  OR YOU WILL BE SUED”

Then there is Rachel Uchitel. Attorney Lisa Bloom’s mother Gloria Allred was able to secure millions upon millions of dollars for Rachel. She also made it clear that no one could call Rachel a “hooker” or a “whore”, even though many may  look at her in those terms and will always look at her in those terms.

In fact she threatened the View and Joy Behar with a lawsuit if Joy didn’t apologize for the plays he made on Rachel’s last name , “Uchitel” by saying “You ka tell she’s a hooker.” Another comedian even got sued for calling her a “whore.” However, doesn’t seem too worried about the suit, Maybe he has information which can prove she is or  has been a whore.  If he does, then  you can then call her a “whore” without being sued.  To me a whore is someone who exploits others for money. I think getting an alleged  10 million dollars to  buy her silence and not speak publicly about Tiger Woods would fall into that category.

So the message was sent  out not to defame her. But what Rachel doesn’t get is that she defamed herself by having sex with at least two married men of whom we know.

Rachel  allegedly helped break up a marriage and she got rewarded for this not only with what is an alleged 10 million dollars, but with television time. Xtra gave her a TV gig as a reporter, even though she did an awful job in my view and was the ultimate in being ITLESS.

She  was unbearable to listen to with  her hyper-nasal monotone voice and even more unbearable to  watch with  her expressionless monotone face as she constantly brushed her hair back and pursed her over glossed overly inflated lips. Yet, she no doubt received a hefty compensation to do this even though there were so many more qualified,  beautiful, and talented young women who were  journalism graduates to boot, to do this job.

Rachel is no doubt gearing up for an Image Rehab. That is why she agreed to appear on Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew.  She has no doubt, realized that you can have ten million dollars but if people still  view her as a skank and a whore, homewrecker or a hooker, or a low life,  even if you can’t say it publicaly,it doesn’t matter.If people look at you like  alow life and have no respect for you and disdain for you, all the money in the world doesn’t matter as you are  vilified forever and considered a  joke.

So she went into Celebrity Rehab, and together with Dr Drew they came up with some type of addiction for her to use as an excuse for her egregious past behavior. Maybe it will be an addiction to  pills  or an addiction to her relationship with her father in  looking for that father image in married men , or maybe it will be due to an addiction to money and rich and famous men who take care of her financially. I guess we will have to watch the show to find out the big reveal of “ Rachel’s Addiction.”

Even if she is addicted to whatever, it is still no excuse for what she did. Lots of people are addicted to something and don’t act like she did.  People resent her even  more for her capitalizing on the tragedy and earning what is said to be ten million dollars in exchange for her silence towards Tiger Woods.

After watching her body language and how she comes across in interviews, she is not a likeable character and no coaching int he world can ever make her likeable.  There is something in her character that pops out on screen- the entitlement, arrogance, and hardness. When she spoke of being the Original” Mean Girl” in an Xtra interview she had with Mario Lopez, it  said all we needed to know about Rachel. There still appears to be a mean edge about her. It seems to be who she is based on all of the interviwes we have seen of her thus far.

Even if she and Tiger happen to reconnect and he marries her, as the tabloids have recently reported, she will always be looked at by the public with an evil eye. She will always be seen as the other woman and a homewrecker.

The villain label fits her and I don’t believe she can ever shake it no matter what she does. I am sure that this label will be cemented forever, as we watch her clash with super model Janice Dickenson who will also appears on the  Celebrity Rehab show . No matter what you say about Janice, she has earned her stripes. She pioneered her field and worked really hard for everything she has in life. Unlike, Rachel, no one gave Janice a free financial ride.

FORMER PROSTITUTE ASHLEY DUPREEE AND JAILED THEIF ALEXIS NEIRES –HORRIBLE MESSAGE TO YOUNG GIRLS

What bothers me is the message that this is being giving to out young girls by rewarding egregious behavior. It’s not only Rachel Uchitel ( whom you can;t call a hooker or a whore or she will sue you) who got a lot of good things in life for doing bad things. It is other women who were prostitutes  for madams,  like Ashley Dupree, who got rewarded with air time and her own advice column in a New York newspaper.

Instead of giving such a gig to a qualified relationship expert, the message is that just by having sex with famous men, you too can get you rich and famous, especially of you get caught.

The message is also that even if you burglarize things from the rich and famous like 18 year old Alexis Neires did, you can get rich and famous as well. If you happen to get caught, you can get even richer and more famous and even get your own TV show like Alexis did on the E! channel with her show “Pretty Wild TV!”.

IF THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH EYEBALLS THERE IS NOT ENOUGH MONEY AND NO SHOW

The whole thing absolutely repulses me. Someone needs to put their foot down and say” enough is enough “ when it comes to rewarding people for egregious behavior. While someone definitely needs to set these standards, perhaps  that “someone” is us.

Remember- eyeballs translate into money for the networks. The less eyeballs, the less money. So keep that in mind the next time you are curious about watching  Kate Gosselin, Rachel Uchitel, Michaele Salahi, or Alexis Neiers. www.drlillianglass.com

First and foremost I want to make it clear that I am not Jon bashing.  I am merely asking a question here. In the past we have seen these two go at it to make one another look bad. I was wondering of this was one of those times or if those kids are really suffering  at the hands of Kate. The tone of their crys were haunting. As someone who knows a lot about the human voice and sounds made from that voice, including crying,I can tell you for sure that those were not crys of hunger, or lack of sleep, or not getting what you want such as a a toy. They were crys of fear, terror,a nd angusih.

Not that I am defending Kate by any means, I am just curious as to whether things are that bad or manipulate  to look that bad.

I recently received countless emails from my dear readers and fans asking me to analyze the body language of Jon Gosselin and the Gosselin kids when he drove them up to the gate of their home and they were sobbing. Many reported that they felt the video was heartbreaking and wanted me to analyze what I thought was really going on.

I have to admit that after initially watching the video, my heart went out when I heard terror in the  sound of the voices of the  sobbing children. It seemed that they could not stop sobbing. At first glance it looked like the kids were sobbing because they love their father so much and they didn’t want him to leave them after spending time with him. It appeared that they felt  terrorized  that they had to go back home to Kate. Maybe that is the case.

IS SOMETHING IS OFF HERE?

But  there may be another side to the situation as well.  On a closer inspection, it appeared to me that the whole video might possibly be contrived and manipulated by Jon in order to get some media attention and public sympathy and to make Kate look bad. Not that Kate hasn’t proven to look bad on her own.   The whole situation makes me want to ask a number of questions . Not that I am not accusing Jon of anything, I am just asking questions.

First of all how come there is only one paparazzi there? Usually there are lots of papps but that day there was only one. And how come the papp was asking such leading and spinful questions? And how come Jon spoke to the papp when he was instructed to never speak to them? It was my undertsanding that as part of Jon’s legal agreement with TLC he is to not say even one word to them.

The papp loudly and openly asks Jon  if Kate will come out to meet him.  To me , it seems that the question was rehearsed. Jon immediately responds, as if on cue, that probably the nanny will be the one to come get them.  As I said, it is odd in that Jon has been instructed to not speak to the papps. But in this case, he speaks. It’s like this little movie scene was shot with the purpose of letting   the audience  know that Kate can”t even bothered to pick up her own kids and  that the nanny has to do it.

It is also very  odd that  does Jon not have the entry code to get through  the gate to drop his own  kids off  in front of  their own home. I am told that Jon has been banned from entering the gate of the home, but I would think that he would be given  the code in case of an emergency situation. If that is the case, I think it is very wrong. Those are his kids and he needs to have the code.If  Kate doesn’t want  Jon to bring his girlfriends or anyone else on the property then Kate needs to work that out with him. But to not give him the code is unconscionable. If that is the case and he does not have a code it is as though he is waiting therein the role of a   delivery person,insted of the  is the father.

When Jon reached out to touch the intercom and said “I can’t hear you.” It was said in a monotone devoid of inflection or concern. Granted he has always had a monotone,but most people who were tired and couldn’t get thorugh after a long day and upset kids, would should a little more inflection and upset in theor voice.  Who was on the other end of the intercom and why could Jon not hear them? Why didn’t he try and try again to contact them or to push specific buttons until he could finally hear them?  Was there really  anyone at the other end of the intercom at all? Did he pretend there was someone there?  ? I am just asking these questions, as another point fo view.

Then Jon gets out of the van and says “I love you too. hold on.”  He then goes over to the sliding door of the van  to get access to the  kids . As he enters the van and confronts the kids he says the words  “don’t panic,”

Why would he say “don’t panic” , That was an intersting choice of wors. As he said that I could  definately hear that the crys were crys of panic and terror. Were they really panic and in terror becuase they had to go home to Kate’s house? What is going on in there to cause them so much panic? Or the other side of the coin is , did Jon possibly say something to  them  which frightened them or caused them to panic ?  Did he say something to them scared and afraid?

Instead of closing the door behind him to console  several of the crying children,  he manages to leave the van door open so that papp can conveniently shoot  all the footage. The kids definatey sound terrorized.

Were the kids really crying  becuase they were so frightened to go home becuase they felt something bad would happen to them  or did  Jon  say  something to those kids to get them to cry like that?  Why are they all crying at once?  Why do they sound so scared?

As a body language and communicaiton expert I have studied various crys and what they mean. That is why I am even writing this blog. That cry is not the whining cry of not wanting to do someting or the cry of being overtred and cranky. Those crys were crys of fear and terror. They were jarring, unlike other crys. The fact that the same type of  cry was amplified by all of those kids was very disturving.

Maybe one or two kids might cry at once, but the fact that ALL of them seemed to be sobbing in unison makes me wonder if he didn’t say something to ALL of them that indeed caused then to “panic.” or they were indeed panicked to be at Kate’s home. I don’t ever remember any of the  kids crying in unison like that on any of the previous Jon and Kate  shows.

Jon gets to the first row of kids and hugs one of them. Then more screaming and wailing little voices are heard as Jon goes to the next row of kids and attempts to comfort them as well. Then Jon goes  back to the first row of kids and comforts them. Why do these kids need all that comforting? . Six year olds can usually be comforted with reassuring words. It is difficult to comfort infants becuase they don;t have the words to tell you what is wrong. But had the words to express themselves, yet their  emotional distress  did not ease, even after they were allegedly comforted by Jon. That is diconcerting.

Even though there are still wails and screams, Jon steps out of the  van. Conveniently,  younger twin, Maddy shows up with outstretched arms with two little fists at the end . In essence she is requesting a hug from daddy. But her clenched fists show hidden  anger.  So does her lack of genuine  smiling. She is upset about something. Maybe she was upset that she didn’t get to spend indicudual time with Jon or maybe she was told to come out to greet the van  and maybe she didn;t want to do it.

They hug in an awkward embrace as Mady then turns her head to the side as if to purposefully face a  camera man. She then walks into the van and Jon follows her in. Maybe he called her to help quell the sextuplets.

Suddenly, her  her twin sister Cara shows up and waits her turn to hug Jon.

She awkwardly waits outside the van until Jon comes out. At one point she reaches her arms out Jon as if to hug him, but his back is turned.  In the meantime, Jon  is still comforting the screaming kids with MAdy ont he van as well. It is not helping.

Then he closes the door and awkwardly  hugs Cara from the side , who like Mady turns her head towards the camera sans smile. It looked odd and  unnatural, as though she wasn’t that  happy to see Jon. It looked as they were hugging in a position to get a good camera angle. Jon spends several seconds hugging her. Was that done for the camer or was she summonded to the van to help him quiet the upset children?

Meanwhile, all the kids are still screaming  and Jon suddenly  goes from the  loving looking action of hugging  to severely yelling at the kids  as he  turns away from Cara and towards the van.

He loudly shouts ‘ENOUGH! THAT’S ENOUGH! The kids still scream and sob as he helps Cara into the van.  He is obviously frustrated and had enough of their terrorized screams. My only question is why are they screaming?

They sob in terror as he shuts the door with all of the kids still in there.

He then walks away from the van with  six screaming kids and the twins  locked up inside of the van. His hands are in his pockets and he looks down as the papp  conveniently  says in a tone that makes him sound like a bad actor “The kids  seem really upset to leave you. I imagine you feel the same.” To me this may have possibly  sounded scripted. It sounded like it was a planned act to get the public to think that the kids were sobbing because they were leaving their “wonderful” dad and forced to go back to their “mean”  mother  that he was devasted  to leave them becuase they were going onto a house of terror. My only question again is are they really that terrorized or did Jon say something to them, even inadvertenly that created this panic int hem.   Jon then  gets into a male  friend’s car.

Did Jon do this in order to get the  public  to think  they didn’t want to go back to their mother’s home, but rather wanted to stay with him becuase life with Kate is unbearable?

While Jon has been and affectionate and loving parent on a consistent basis ,  did he cooperate with the papp to  to gain attention and to once again be in the press or is this a real problem for the children?  The only way we will ever know what really happened is the find out from the kids and until they are old enough to write a book about their experiences int he Gosselin household then we will never know for sure.

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 In season five when  bachelorette, Jillian Harris chose Ed Swiderski from among all of the other single  bachelors, I knew she was making a HUGE mistake. I could tell from his body language throughout the show that he was not he right choice for her.

 In fact I discussed his lying behavior and multiple signals of deception in the above  article for US Weekly. So, it comes as no surprise to me that this couple has now split up.

If you look at Ed’s body language in this photo, you can see that it is about Ed and not Jillian. He’s looking at the camera directly ahead  to get some face time , when he needed to be looking at Jillian during this engagement period. She needed to be the focus here. Also she is also looking away and not up at him, which may also have been a precursor of what has currently transpired in their relationship.

When you see photos of truly happy  couples who are newly in love and newly together, they are usually  in synch.That means thy are looking in the same direction or they are looking at one another.

Also his flat hand on her back concerned me body language wise , as did where it was positioned. When a hand is positioned on your shoulder or high upper back region it speaks more of friendship than intimacy.  Also the fact that it was flat and open fingered and  not in a curved caressing position where he would be holding on to her lovingly, also spoke volumes.

The other hand on her waist was also cause for concern. It was as though he was grasping  on to some object which was  in his hands and not fully holding on to  or caressing Jillian’s lower back. He does not hold her tightly with that hand.

His body language,  not only in this photo but throughout  the show showed signals of selfishness to me,  and I assume that this was probably  what  contributed  to  their split.

JILLIAN GIVES THE RING BACK TO THE PRODUCERS

It seems that Jillian is the one that gave Ed the heave ho. If she would have hung on there for two years, she could have dumped him and then made a profit by selling the expensive Neil Lane diamond ring. Apparently the contract at the Bachelorette show stipulates that she needed to have stayed engaged for two years in order  to keep the ring. So she gave it back to the producers of the show, as she no doubt could not wait out the two years or tolerate him. What was more important to her than the money she could have made off the ring was her emotional well being. I applaud her for that as no amount of money is worth one;s self esteem.

JILLIAN PULLED THE PLUG ONT HE RELATIONSHIP

 Her satetment that she released to the press “I love him and I’m really sad, but I have to look out for me,”  speaks volumes. It says that he probably wasn’t treating her the way she wanted to be treated.

 Ed Swiderski confirms that Jillian wasn’t too happy with him as he is quoted as saying to the press”Jillian isn’t happy and I’m definitely sad about the whole thing, but we’ve got to work through some things on our own if we decide to move forward.”

The only way this couple will be moving forward is in their own separate lives. While they don’t discuss the specifics of why they broke up, we do know that  Ed Swiderski juggled two girlfriends while seducing Jillian on the show almost a year ago, last August. He allegedly even got intimate with one of his girlfriends  after proposing to Jillian.

While behaviors can and do often change, a  person’s character doesn’t change. It’s like their fingerprints. They cannot be changed, It is the blueprint of who they are. And who Ed seems to be based on the Toxic behavior of being sexual with one of his girlfriends after he proposed, shows a TOXIC MAN with a Toxic character.

By the way if you notice that I am using the term “Toxic Man” in my blogs, you are right.  I have a brand new book that will be available in bookstores in November 2010 . Is now available to pre- order  http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X

It’s not a book about male bashing by any means. Instead it’s a book about empowering both men and women to identify, deal with and heal from any toxic relationship. Perhaps if Jillian and Ed read the book, they might not be in their present predicament.   http://www.drlillianglass.com/