PR machine ,Kim Kardashian has hooked up with another PR machine- Kanye West. After only a few weeks together there is  now talk of merging both of their PR machines with a wedding- complete with cameras and a televised wedding. This would be a dream come true for momager Kris Jenner . It will give their brand more of a storyline as people will want to see the ins and outs of this “marriage” and potential baby.

From a PR standpoint,  Kanye’s marriage into the Kardashan family may indeed  help Kanye’s Toxic and  hateful selfish narcissistic image. It will  also give him more exposure to millions of viewers and help sell his music.

From Kim’s standpoint, marriage to Kanye won’t make her appear like such a loser in love and will get the haters off her back (at least for a while) for her alleged television sham wedding to Kris Humphries.

But no mater how much PR spin is forced down the throats of the public, the bottom line is that these two in my view  may very well be friends but as far as romance goes, it does  not appear to be the case. Body language wise we see the true story emerging. While there may be numerous photos of the two of them holding hands and posing for cameras there, is no love to  be seen.

Just look at the above photo. There is no smiling on Kanye’s face and they are looking in the opposite direction. This is a bad sign as far as romance goes. When you are in love you can’t wipe the smile off your face. Also look at Kim’s hand on Kanye’s neck. It is cupped in a fist like position and it is facing towards her.  She’s not even touching him. This gesture often means anger and being closed off and distant. It is interesting how the fist is pointing back at herself. Kanye’s hand is also in a fist. He appears angry as well. His angry  closed off fist is consistent with his angry facial expression.

Here is another posed and phony photo where Kanye is is ” angry not in love  with Kim”  . He looks sad as well. Look at the downturned mouth. Kim is kissing air and posed. There is also a lot of tension in her neck. Look at the pull of her  neck muscle. She doesn’t cup his head in affection, but  instead poses her fingers on the back of his head as though she was  doing  photo shoot.

While Kanye is smiling, it is not a genuine love filled smile. Kim is not smiling and does not lean into Kanye.She is making sure she is front and center of the camera. Her head is not leaning in towards his head  or  his shoulder  as there is a mask like expression on her face.

Here we see the two of them  posing for cameras with no  genuine love between them. Kim has a non genuine tense smile as he leans away from Kanye. . His body is away from her and does’t face her belly to belly which is a bad sign in the love department. And of course he is not smiling which means he is not happy. Look at their arms as well. They do not touch one another. Their arms are at their respective sides. This is not a good sign either. Also notice Kanye’s posture. It is hunched over. Perhaps he is showling signs of intimidation with regard to the Kardashian PR machine , that he has stepped into.

This shot  says it all. It is not about the two of them  showing love for one another together. It is about each of them showing love for themselves. Kim is preening and her body is pulled away from Kanye. Her legs are crossed and  her hip and legs positioned away from Kanye in a protective stance. Kanye also shows a protective gesture as he crosses his arms and covers his torso . he is hunched over and although he is smiling, he is not smiling at Kim as he looks in the opposite direction.

And finally, this shot says it all as well. Kanye is preoccupied and not paying attention to Kim. They are completely disconnected.. Kim is looking in the opposite direction.

These are only a few of he countless photos I have examined when it comes to Kim and Kanye.It proves once again that the body does not lie. No matter how they pose or try to convince one another  that they are a loving couple, their body and face  language say the opposite.

When Kanye was dating  former girlfriend Amber Rose, there was a lot of genuine affection between the two as they appeared to be in synch with one another  as you can see in the photo above. Kanye  showed more genuine smiles and they even walked in step. There was a lot of passion and heat in photos between the two in so many of their photos.

The same holds true for Kim and Reggie Bush. They were very much in synch and appeared  genuinely in love based on their body language. So she is quite capable of being loved and being loving just as we see in the photo above.

But it does not appear that she has that same chemistry with Kanye’s. Kanye’ body language with Amber Rose and Kim’s body language with Reggie Bush  show the sharp contrast that they have with one another in so many of their photos.

So if they end up together  it is not a great idea in my view.They don’t seem to have much in common and that s a bad thing for any relationship.  In addition, Kanye is super intelligent and highly talented which is the opposite of Kim. Kanye is also very much the controller type which may not work well with Kim and her momager, Kris. Kanye has a mind of his own and to get involved in the Kardashian fray may dwarf his power , much like it did to Bruce Jenner. It may also be a huge distractions career wise as it has been for Lamar Odom .

For the short run, seeing them wed on camera or produce an offspring may work well for ratings but  for the long run it  may very well turn out to be a disaster.If they are having this much negative body language interaction so early on in their romance, it does not bode well for a long term future together.

During the Oprah interview , it was very clear to me that Pat Houston’s body language showed a lot of signals that did not match her words.  One of the most disconcerting things we heard was how she tried to blame outside influences for the demise of Whitney and Bobby Brown’s marriage and minimize their issues. Above we see her with cocked head, body pulled back and a monotone breathy voice which may very well indicate signals of deception as she speaks. Throughout the interview her body language and voice showed that she was very guarded in what she said,

Now that we have come to find out that Whitney Houston’s death was the result of drowning suggesting  a heart attack was most likely triggered by cocaine, thereby causing  her to  drown in her bathtub.

Her sister in law, Pat Houston  is the  second wife of Gary Houston who was arrested  in 1996 for possession of crack cocaine.  Right after Whitney’s death, Pat  went to court and had herself named executor, replacing the assigned executor of Whitney’s estate.  Now it makes a lot more sense as to why she may have shown signals of deception. She clearly has Whitney’s image to protect especially since the estate is currently making   more money from Houston’s songs than when Whitney was alive.

When Oprah asked Pat point blank Was drugs an issue for her before her death?

Pat Houston replied “ I don’t think drugs were an issue for her before her death…High, absolutely not. Leading up [to her death]? I would say no.

In analyzing her statement we can see signals of deception here. She gives too much information as she volunteers “High, absolutely not.” She also speaks in fragments Leading up? Also look at the words leading up. Oprah asks if drugs were an issue before her death but Pat get specific and volunteers a more specific time line  by  using the term  leading up as oppose to using before.

How could she says he was so close to Whitney and be her manager and closest confidant and not know she wasn’t doing drugs when acute use of cocaine,  as well as marijuana, Flexeril, and Xanax were discovered in her system.

WAS THE DREAM SHE WAS CHASING RAY J

Pat  was deceptive when she told Oprah that it wasn’t drugs that killed Whitney but that she  was “She was chasing a dream.”Perhaps that is true as she did not show signs of deception s she made this statement. She spoke clearly and directly.

Perhaps she was referring to chasing the dream as Whitney’s having  a serious relationship with  younger man Ray J  Brandy’s brother and  Kim Kardashian sex tape partner, and seeing Whitney’s   confrontation with the  X Factor contestant  over Ray J.

When this was going on we see photos of Pat Houston on TMZ looking very upset and annoyed as she even admits to Oprah she was mad. Yet she doesn’t explain what she was mad.  As part of her entourage and Whitney’s team, it seems she was mad that the X Factor star was allegedly  having designs on Whitney’s man and causing Whitney to get so upset in public.

Did Whitney indirectly die of a broken heart by  trying to feel  good and  numb her emotional pain after realizing that her man may  possibly have not have been being faithful to her? It sounds as though Pat believes this is the case based on her statement about Whitney chasing a dream. All of Whitney’s dreams came true with fame and fortune. So what was left was the dream of love which she may have though she found with Ray J.

Apparently, according to sources,  Whitney had been doing very well and was drug free  when she worked  the  film “Sparkle” after doing intensive rehab with Warren Boyd.There were three months between when  the filming “Sparkle” ended and when she died.

She clearly relapsed. Surely Pat Houston, her alleged close confidant must  have known this but chose not to  share it with Oprah during the interview.

It may be that Pat has attributed Whitney’s search for the “impossible dream” with a younger man as the underlying  cause for her death and not the cocaine.

While Ray J has vehemently denied doing drugs with Whitney. But maybe  Ray J’s presence in her life was the catalyst for her relapse. Maybe that fateful night when she ran into the woman she believed was flirting with Ray J caused her heart to break . Maybe that drover her over the edge towards self destruction.

My only hope is that  Pat does not engage in denial with Bobbie Kristina  and gets her the help she needs, especially now that she is the executor of  Whitney’s estate.

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The most telling thing is that Bobbi Kristina did the whole 10 minute interview standing up. No one does an intimate  interview standing up unless they are planning to hightail it out of there if the going gets rough or the interview is too much to handle.

Initially we see Bobbi with her hands on her hips  as you can see above, indicating a defensiveness and an anger as though she really does not want to be there. Even though her words said one thing, her body said another.  In my view she was not ready to open up and talk about her mother who tragically died less than two weeks ago. To me it was a very premature interview. Look at Bobbi’s hands on her hips. This indicates a defensiveness, a discomfort  and an inner anger at having to do the interview. There is a tight lipped smile as she shows her ambivalence.

It was also difficult for her to maintain eye contact with Oprah, which further  indicated her discomfort. When she told Oprah “I still have a voice.” it was a very revealing statement. The only time we have heard her voice was when she did a cover of  an Adele song and put it on youtube. We have not heard her perform publicly. He choice of the word “still” says a lot . It may reflect her enmeshing her identity with Whitney’s. Whiney is not longer alive and hence has no voice . But Kristina says of her self that she” still has a voice” indicating to herself at least on a subconscious level that  her mother will have a voice through her.

She then tells Oprah how she plans to acts and sing and dance. In essence Bobbi wants to carry on where Whitney left off. But can she?  Even if she has been groomed to do so by Whitney, the question remains as to whether she has the talent to do so in such a public an competitive arena. Even if she was groomed by her mother and even of she is taken under Clive Davis’ wing and given all the contacts to become a singer and an  actress, the reality is that she may not be able to pull it off for a variety of reasons.

Oprah knows this as well as she immediately replied “Don’t you think that;s a lot of pressure? ” Oprah is right. Bobbi is putting a lot of pressure on herself as she will never live up to what her mother did or take over and channel her mother as an actress and singer,  no matter how much she has been groomed.

It will take a lot of work and a lot of practice to get her chops in music and in acting, not to mention natural talent. She will have to do a lot of studying and will have to have a lot of focus.

Also there will be enormous pressure because the public will be highly critical. She is not Whitney nor does she have Whitney’s singing abilities or physical appearance. While Bobbi Kristina did a lovely job singing Adele’s song on youtube it was sweet and pretty but nothing remarkable. Her breath control needs a lot of work as does her phrasing. She is off key in many plaecs and as Paula Adbul used to say n American Idol she is “pitchy” , Her is the link for you to hear Bobbi and make a judgment of her singing for yourself. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GImAjkWMXgI

For every Natalie Cole who followed in her famous father Nat King Cole’s footsteps and succeeded, there are the Lisa Marie Presley’s who  for whatever  reason could never follow in her father’s footsteps, even though I personally love the way she sings. The post humous duet she sings with her dad Elivis “In the Ghetto” is awesome.

Not to be mean,  but the public is highly critical when it comes to physical appearance and presence and at this point Bobbi Kristina in my view needs a lot of work in that area from braces to close the gap in her teeth to perhaps some cosmetic facial refinement to balance out her features. She needs work on her posture and movement an stage presence

Almost everyone ha done this to make their brand even more appealing from Leanne Rhimes to J Lo to Madonna  to Jennifer Hudson, to Fantasia Barino. So Bobbi Kristinia is no exception. Even Adele who  publicly says she is happy with her looks allegedly took off some pounds for the Grammy ceremonies.

To illustrate Bobbi Kristina’s discomfort and uneasiness during the interview we constantly see her fidgeting and moving around. She plays with her hair and constantly pushes it off of her face. She fiddles with her clothes and brushes herself off. There is constant movement which indicates anxiety. There is also a lot of scratching. Oftentimes when a person feels anxiety their autonomic nervous system takes over and blodd flow starts to increase causing an itching sensation.

It once again confirms to me that she was clearly not ready to do any interviews about her mother and how she is doing. In watching this interview once can see how she is doing. She is not doing well. How could she do well?

Her best friend and mother died so unexpectedly and under such tragic circumstances.  They were so close that she and her mother even napped together  as she indicated.

Her flesh and blood father has not been there for her in the moments she needed him the most. He was not there when she was taken to Cedars Sinai the second time. Instead he was out performing and feeding his own ego. And most of all he a not there to sit by her side and hold her during the memorial and funeral. Instead he chose to let his ego get in the way, leave and perform the evening he left.

So essentially she is an orphan now. She has no mother and no father to speak of.

Also she said she has been staying in Whitney’s house- alone. Personally I do not think that is very healthy,. I think she not only needs her family’s help, she need s professional help from a licensed therapist and grief counselor to help her through her hard and impossible days.

It is going to take a long time for Bobbi to cope with this. So far she has allegedly coped by getting high as it has been reported that she was high at the funeral. Is she still getting high to cope with the intense pain? Several have questioned her fidgeting and constant movement on the Oprah interview and wondered if it was related to any drug use.  I don;t know the answer to that but it certainly may be a possibility.

This young lady has a lot ahead of her and needs someone who is stable and has a level head  and who is drug free to guide her. I hope that she does set up with someone who can get her to a great therapist as she desperately needs one.

Next month  my book TOXIC MEN will be out in both the paperback and the ebook edition http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Identify-Miserable-ebook/dp/B0049P1YWK. The book can also apply to women as well s there are  indeed TOXIC WOMEN. In the book I discuss TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS.

Perhaps no better example of a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP  is that  of Bobby Brown and the late Whitney Houston. The poor woman had not been in her grave more than 24 hours when we learned that  her ex husband Bobby Brown is ready to release a tell all book about their relationship to capitalize on her death. That is just the tip of the iceberg. This is the same man who did NOT immediately  hop on a plane to see his daughter as soon as he got word that Whitney had died. Instead he proceeded with his performance in Mississippi, soaking up all the sympathy and  attention milking it for what it was worth.

Then this TOXIC MAN shows up at the memorial service only to create some more drama  and attention to himself  by leaving. He uses  a lame excuse that the security people told him to move three times. Well if he read the invitation, it did NOT say to bring 9 members of his entourage. He needed to walk up to the front like a man and sit next to his daughter whether the family liked it or not. He needed to be there to hold this child’s hand and comfort her, instead of thinking about himself and his ego. I doubt any security would keep a father away from his daughter during her time of need.

Even if he was moved 20 times, he needed to have stuck it out for the sake of his daughter. Instead of sticking around and greeting Bobbi Kristina afterwards, he hightailed it out of there on to a plane where he headed for his concert where he performed evening. It makes one wonder if he didn’t plan this all along.

Bobbi Kristina  has taken her mothers death very hard and rightfully so. He was NOT there to immediately comfort her when she was taken away to Cedars Sinai Medical Center on a gurney the second time. He was NOT there when she needed him most at the memorial.

He was NOT  there when her mother was being buried. In fact she was so distraught that she was said to have taken drugs to cope with the pain in an attempt to self medicate. People at the funeral allegedly reported that she appeared to be high and out of it.

TOXIC Bobby Brown blamed security for his leaving. What a lame excuse! Nothing should have made him leave if he really loved his daughter. But as he has shown, he loves himself more.

Now I will show you just how TOXIC Bobby Brown was to Whiney and still is in her death with his attempts to publish a tell all book.

There are so many things I disucss in my book TOXIC MEN  book which apply to Bobby such as being jealous of a woman and subsequent violence. In a 2002 interview with Diane Sawyer, Whitney was asked many hard hitting questions. She asked Whitney if Bobby was jealous of her. Whitney looked directly at Dian and  told the truth. She  said “Sometimes.”

Here you can see her  straightforward and honest  facial expression in response to the question which she answered  in a deep rich resonance tone. Then Bobby comes into the room and yelled NEVER! as he hears the question. Whitney turns to him and i a sheepish tone with a raised octave  with upward infection at the end of the sentence . she says ” Sometimes I hit him ” as the word “him” inflecting upwards. ”

Whitney is clearly uncomfortable as Bobby says this as she rocks back and forth and leans into Diane and puts her hand up as if to say “STOP!” Diane then then invites Bobby on to the coach to interview him directly.  Whitney is not happy about this based on her nervous laugh.

Here Bobby tells Diane” Marriage is turbulent.” Look at their body language as they are seated together. It says it all. Bobby  has his shoulder up towards Whitney literally giving her the “cold shoulder .” He fans away form her and cocks his head in defensiveness. She is tight lipped and there appears to be a lot of facial tension indicating discomfort .

Then Diane bluntly comes out and says Have you ever hit her? He squints and you can see the disdain at her question as he replies No  no no no no, no no no. When someone says that many no’s chances are they are lying. Subsequently, we have come to know that he did indeed hit her and that she even called 911 on him.

Whitney looks away and fluffs her fair and makes a nervous laugh. her body language says it all as she tries to defend him.but knows this is the truth. As he speaks she continues to  pat her hair down in an attempt to self sooth herself .

Bobby goes on to say how he has four sisters and a mother and daughters and would never do such a thing. But as he says this we see him tug at his ear as his autonomic nervous system kicks in where the slight  blood flow changes create itching and tingling. Hence the ear pulling and scratching. He also looks away which is another signal of deceptions he says I would never raise my hands inane kind of way to them.

Then he stammers and says something that has nothing to do with the question Sawyer asked him. he says I love the beauty of women. Whitney clearly knows he is trying to pin it as he look son in disgust and literally gves hi the cold shoulder. This shows us how the body does’t lie. Even tough she was trying to defend him and let’s him literally take over her interview, he body  language speaks volumes  about how she really feels here.’ She also take a deep breath to oxygenate herself as she clearly knknew the truth. As Bobby goes on to defend himself. he grabs Whitneys thigh and says “This is mine.” That said it all! He looked at Whitney as his possession.

Then giant point blank asks if he is jealous of her. Whitney’s body language tells the answer. She puts her finger over her mouth which indicates she is guarding her tongue and not speaking about it and holding back. She turns her body away from him a s she leans back. there is also a great deal of lower jaw tension as we can see. She knows the truth as he denies his jealousy. Thenhe makes a chauvinistic statement “She is a female.” And no one can touch me as an entertainer ! ‘ In retrospect that says it ALL! It says that he did look at Whitney as less than him- as a female and though he was better entertainer. His statement that no one can touch him includes Whitney. In essence he is saying he is a better entertainer than her.

Now Diane literally turns up the heat as she ask him about his doing drugs. We see Bobby sweat as he tries to low key it. But the truth was that the morning of this interview he was arrested with drugs  (marijuana) in his car. When we see someone suddenly sweat it is often n indication of guilt and or deception. As he yes on to explain how drugs are still in his life, he stammers and stutters ,

He is defensive and crosses his arms over his body to show how he does not want to admit just how much drugs are a part of his life.  We can see his defensive head cock and Whitney’s  laughing at knowing just how much drugs are a big part of Bobby’s life . She may be subconsciously enjoying seeing him uncomfortable and squirming during Diane’s questioning.

He stammers and shoulder shrugs as she says he is a high strung persona nd bipolar and how drugs seem to help hm. Whitey really laughs as he says this as she probably realizes how lame he sounds. She knows the truth about him and her laughter says it all. It is a  nervous laugh of discomfort.

She leans forward  and then back and laughs as he describes how every now and then he smokes a joint to level him out.  She says it is not an every dayhting but interjects maybe every other day

When asked about other drugs Whitney’s demeanor suddenly changes as she looks somber and looks down as Bobby says he never has taken them and never will. The give away here is Whitney is shaking her leg repeatedly as he says this , which is often a signal of deception.  He goes on to lie that even though he was tested positive for cocaine as Diane pointed out it was not cocaine but a cocaine like substance like aspirin.

As we look at their wedding video shots we can clearly see that Whitney was very much in love with Bobby. She says in her interview with Diane that she learned so much from him like to not be so contained. Unfortunately  she learned the wrong things from him. her lack of constraint is what no doubt contributed to her early death.

Then the most revealing part of the interview is that Whitney said nothing is perfect.SShe says it several ties as she shrugs her shoulders and shake hr head. Diane then says so this is forever” Whitneys body language says something other than her words, as she replied Thats what I said. She shakes her head no and purses her lips and her voice goes up at the end. This once again verifies that the body does not lie. her body language said it all- that she and Booby would definaetly NOT be forever.

To see the entire video and Whitney and Bobby’s body language in action, click the link below

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=4evtIICA1II#!

Whitney’s life shows us what can happen when we get involved with a TOXIC MAN. Whether or not she took drugs before Bobby is not the point. The points that you can see the pain as expressed in her body language when she was married to this TOXIC MAN.

It’s Grammy Week and Whitney Houston was in town of the awards celebration. A call came into the paramedics who  rushed to the Beverly Hilton Hotel to revive an unconscious Whitney but it was too late. After numerous attempts to revive her the 48 year old singer was pronounced Dead.

The night before she died, there were numerous shots of her emerging from a club and she did not appear to be sober. In fact reports confirmed confirmed this. If you look at her body language of that night it speaks volumes.

Apparently she was on the belligerent side as she was helped out of the club.  You can she her finger pointing which often signifies anger along with there mouth formed in making the F consonant with her teeth biting down on her lower lip. Here is she being steadied by one of her companions.

Here she looks out of control and angry. Look at her companions around her. The woman near her hows a facial expression of disgust as she tries to stay Whitney as the gentleman in front of her look away with a numb facial expression. The expressions of those around her are markedly different than Whitney’s.

Whitney was in Adelaide Austrailia on her tour  when she stopped her concert to sing a beautiful song to her daughter called “Who Would Imagine A King.” Whitney’s voice was angelic  as she sang it  this song  to her daughter who was a bit embarrassed by all the attention as you can see by her protective body language where she crossed her body with her arms.

Then Whitney invited beautiful  Bobbi Kristina who just turned 17  to come up on stage as a birthday cake was wheeled out for her, thereby surprising her.

Then she went on stage and hugged several of the singers and musicians until she was embraced in her mother’s arms. They had  a lengthy loving birthday hug. It was beautiful! Whitney couldn’t let go of her and even shed a few tears.

Happy Birthday Bobbi Kristina and Welcome Back Whitney! www.drlillianglass.com