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John Edwards Flirty Body Language With Alternate Juror My Come Back To Haunt Him

Friday, May 25th, 2012

As a jury consultant I can assure you that Jurors look at everything- especially when their fellow juror or an alternate is flirting with the defendant. Apparently this  seems to be the case with a dark haired very attractive alternate juror whois flirting with the defendant.

Journalists and everyone else, including attorneys watching the trial can’t help but notice the flirting dynamic between Edwards and one of the female alternates. In fact, the flirting between the two  is so blatant that several reporters have observed it. The Washington Post reported

“One of the alternates, an attractive young woman, has been spotted smiling at Edwards and flipping her

hair in what seems to some to be a flirtatious manner.”

Apparently the juror has been doing it for days and s the one who instigated the exchanges by  smiling at him.  Edwards then smiles back at her as she giggles and he blushes.

Allegedly the flirtation has become so obvious that even Edwards’ attorneys have to work to suppress their laughter at the absurdity of it all.

My first question, is does the judge not see this and if the judge does not see it, why hasn’t someone brought this to the judge’s attention. Why is this woman not removed from the courtroom? In my view it could taint the jury’s vote.

Some of those  the jury who see the flirting may become even angrier at  Edwards,  who cheated on his cancer victim wife and fathered an illegitimate child. The juror may resent his  present behavior and see his disregard for courtroom decorum as  yet another example of his inappropriate behavior. If the juror is undecided, this may be the thing that pushes them over to the side of convicting Edwards.

The outcome of Edward’s trial is so serious that flirting and laughter should be the last thing on Edward’s  mind. The reality is that he may face the rest of his life in prison. But obviously he is too narcissistic and entitled to realize the consequences. He may actually believe that everything will be fine and he will go about his merry way when the trial is over. In his twisted perception, he may also perceive this flirting as a signal that the rest of the jurors like him and that they will not convict of any wrongdoing.

Edwards is accused of  the serious crime of using nearly $1 million in presidential campaign donations to cover an up affair with a campaign videographer, which resulted in illegitimate  child.

Since Edwards obviously doesn’t have the common sense to conduct himself in a professional manner in the courtroom, one would think that his attorneys would tell him to cut out the flirting or responding  to the alternate’s flirting,  instead of “suppressing their laughter” at the absurdity of the situation.

The bottom line is that this type of body language is not adding to a jury’s  positive perception of  Edwards. As a trial attorney, he should now better than to respond to the juror and to flirt. But as a self entitled narcissist with an out of control ego, he apparently can’t help himself.

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John Edwards Tries To Read Jury’s Body Language As Jury Goes into Fourth Day of Deliberation

Thursday, May 24th, 2012

John  Edwards is still  up to his manipulative ways as he tried   to make eye contact with each juror as they filed into the courtroom on their fourth day of deliberation before they headed home for the day.

There is an old courtroom adage that jurors who return the defendant’s gaze with a quick smile or a nod may be leaning toward acquittal, whereas those who turn away could be signaling guilt. This is not the case. In the first place all of the jurors know that all eyes are upon them and that this is one of the most high profile cases in the country. No juror would want to place themselves or the trial in jeopardy so I have no doubt that none of the jurors returned Edward’s gaze or aknowleged him.

His behavior once again demonstrates his arrogance. While he may have done this jury eye contact game  as a trial attorney, it won’t work when he is the defendant.

Most of these jurors are no doubt petrified to leave any stone unturned. May are tense and in knots at knowing that their decision can potentially put the defendant behind bars for life. Therefore it would be very difficult at this point in time to get an accurate  reading  body language, facial expression and  and demeanor.

As proof that this jury is taking their job extremely seriously,  they asked for office supplies and a stack of trial exhibits that included copies of handwritten notes from the 101-year-old heiress Rachel “Bunny” Mellon, one of two wealthy political donors who provided the nearly $1 million used to help hide the Democrat’s pregnant mistress as he sought the White House in 2008.

Only when the jury comes into the room after they have made their decision, can one get a glimpse of what will be in store for Edwards. If they appear relaxed, and they don’t look down as they enter the room, and look in Edward’s direction, their decision will most likely be in Edward’s favor.

If they look tense and don’t look in Edwards direction or have furrowed brows, fidget, bite their lips or have extraneous hand or foot movements, things will not be going in Edward’s favor.

There was also speculation that because  the jury foreman was wearing blue jeans that  a decision was still at least a day away. The thinking on this was that people dress up more when they think they might be photographed. This I not the case. The jurors are not on trial and don’t feel they have to impress anyone, so their attire is irrelevant. For many,   jeans have become acceptable standard attire. This may be the case for those who may have dressed in jeans as part of their daily attire such as the plumber, railroad engineer ad the two mechanics who sit on the jury. The fact The corporate vice president and a retired accountant who are on the jury  will no doubt provide some strong financial and business insight as they make their decision about Edward’s fate..

If Edwards is to be convicted the U.S. District Court Judge Catherine C. Eagle’s instruction to the jurors was that they must conclude beyond a reasonable doubt not only that the candidate knew about the secret payments made on his behalf, but he knew the cover up was illegal and that he went ahead anyway.
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Toxic People: Ohio School Shooter- Silent But Deadly Erupting Volcano

Tuesday, February 28th, 2012

As the author of the best selling book Toxic People http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-People-Ways-Dealing-Miserable/dp/0312152329/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330452498&sr=1-1 and my latest book Toxic Men http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330452562&sr=1-1 which has just been released in paperback, I came up with the category of Silent But Deadly Erupting Volcano. This category says it all when it comes to 17 year old T.J. Lane who shot and killed fellow classmates and injured others in his Ohio high school.

Many of his fellow students said  he was “quiet”. Others  said he was sweet. One student who played basketball with him after school several years ago said he seemed happy when he was around him and that he was shocked because he wasn’t a violent kid. Another student at his church group said that he was  “a nice boy.”

But others said had a “simmering temper”. And  my view is that “simmering temper’ was fueled by inner rage that was not verbally expressed.

TJ had a lot to be angry about. One reason was that this father had a series of arrests for abusing women including his mother. His mother also had her share of problem as between 1995 and 1997 his mother Sara A. Nolan as well as his father were each charged with domestic violence against each other. It is most likely that a very young TJ witnessed his father’s and mother’s violence at an early age.

His father also served time in prison for assaulting a police officer after trying to suffocate another woman he married several years after his son was born, according to court records. Records show he held the woman’s head under running water and bashed it into a wall, leaving a dent in the drywall.

TJ spent his formative years living with his grandparents in a home that was reported to be dysfunctional.

TJ wanted what every other person his age and older wants- to be loved and accepted. Instead he was ostracized and was said to be bullied by fellow students.So he retaliated. In fact he allegedly shot one boy who began dating the girl with whom he broke up with.

He was not unlike Dylan Kleibold and Eric Harris, Columbine High school shooters or  Seung Cho the Virginia Tech shooter. All of these troubled young men had something in common The were all rejected by their peers who considered  them outcasts and most of all they were bullied.

Bullying can unleash anger as well as shame. Most often the person bullied takes tat anger out on themselves by committing suicide rather than dealing with the constant emotional pain.

But there are other times where that anger is turned outwards towards others as we saw in this case with TJ the Ohio shooter and with the Columbine and Virginia Tech Shooters. In fact every other school shooter has reported a history of being bullied.

These incidents give even more credence to why there MUST be a no tolerance for bullying in any school system.

In addition it is essential that school counselors and teachers not just pay attention to the rowdy kids in class, but pay even closer attention to the quiet ones- the ones who stay by themselves and don’t interact with others. These children are often troubled and keep their pain to themselves.

In many cases their actions can explode from all of the pressure they hold inside of them. That is why counselors and teachers need to spend some special time with these kids and give them the attention they need and a place to vent their feelings.

Apparently social workers were aware of TJ’s problems as he allegedly had  a run in with the law in the past. Children such as TJ can never be allowed to fall through the cracks.

The bottom line is that it is the quiet ones, the silent ones, the ones who retreat into a shell, and of course the bullied ones  who may be the most dangerous ones. So teachers, parents, clergy, and  especially social workers be aware and reach out to them with urgency to prevent anything like this tragedy ever happening again.

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Omar Sharif’s Toxic Body Language Typical of An Abusive Man

Friday, October 28th, 2011

When I saw the video of icon and leading man heartthrob back in the day, Omar Sharif of Dr. Zhivago fame ,I was beyond shocked. He abusively slapped  a woman simply because she wanted to have her photo taken with him. It was appalling. What was more appalling was looking at the video frame by frame and seeing how he gets enraged, slaps her, goes off on her, feels guilty about it, tries  to make nice but he is still  angry as he considers her the catalyst  for making him angry.

Meanwhile, like many abused women, she smiles through it all an accepts it. But the smile is tense and a smile of embarrassment.  Her body language reveals fear. As he tries to make nice, she backs off. He agrees to take a photo with her but his body language shows that he still habors resentment towards her.

Several years ago a study was done which showed women in Qatar tend to overlook when they are abused. That is devatsating news. The woman Sharif slapped seems to demonstrate this .

Below are the shocking series of events.

Sharif’s body language shows he is enraged  as he slaps this poor woman and yells at her that she needed to wait her turn to have her photo taken with him.

The woman fears him and his rage as she holds up her hand defensively.

The woman smiles and continues to smile throughout the ordeal.This is typical of abused women who may believe that they “deserved” it. No one deserves this kind of treatment-EVER!

He continues to berate her.He gestures wildly to ask her what he was thinking. All she did was try to get a photo with  him. An Egyptian, Sharif is considered one of the biggest  Middle Eastern  actors of all time. So for this woman to get a little excited and perhaps not wait her turn to get his photo is understandable.

He continues to berate this poor woman unmercifully. It is so embarrassing that the woman standing next to him who is most likely a handler bows her hed in shame as she wears an ambivalent smile.

Sharif now has a sudden change of heart as he realizes what he has done in front of the cameras. Can you imagine what this Toxic man must do when there are no cameras present ?

You can actually see him thinking about what he just did as the expression on his face  dramatically changed. His handler on the right has now distanced herself from Sharif as she looks downa nd away. Meanwhile the abuse victim continues to wear a mask like smile of embarrassment in order to save face..

As he has second thoughts as to what he did he bows his head in sham and walks over in the slapped woman’s direction. The photographer in the corner appears to be nervously amused and surprised . Hence the tense  ambivalent smile. He wonders what Sharif will do and whether there will be some more berating or slapping.

He comes over to her and this time the abuse victim cannot even beaar to look at him as she holds up her hand with the palm of her hand showing in an defensive gesture. He looks at her with hate and disdain. She creates a barrier between them with her hand as she looks away , yet continues her ambivalent smile. In essence she is guarding herself from another potential slap and or verbal abuse from Sharif.

He tried to “make up” by allowing her to have a phot with him. She obliges as that is what she wanted in the first place. She continues smiling her mask like smile as she did throughout the entire ordeal.  Meanwhile he turns his body away during this photo op as he really doesn’t want to have his photo taken with her but he does it to make himself feel better in trying to right his wrong in slapping her.

He now turns to look at her and says something in Arabic which causes her  to have a genuine smile. Look at the crinlking around her eyes. It is no longer mask like. She is  clearly taken aback as you can see by her retracted chin. This leads me to believe he may have even apologized to her. This is tyoical behavior of so many abusers. They las.h out, feel guilty and try to make things right.

Now they get ready to pose for the photographer. The woman is back to her mask like smile. He leans in for the phoo and looks at her to see how she is reacting to all of this. There is a look of  remorse  on his face  as he leans into her and looks directly at her. She does not look at him. Instead she looks in the direction of the photograher. Even though she has a slight smile on her lips, her eyes reflect sadness.

The photo is snapped and the woman is elated. Here she wears a genuine smile. It was a huge price to pay, but she finally got what she wanted- a photo of her with Omar Sharif. He leans in but does NOT smile. He is not happy with himself that he acted like a complete jerk for the world to see. His hunched over shoulders show embarrassment,  He feels even worse that this woman seems so happy now that the photo is taken, despite her slap.

The woman is so pleased and says thank you to him several times. In true Toxic Man form he turns away from he  and doesn’t even acknowledge her  thank you. He can’t wait to get away fast enough.

This is HORRIBLE! He is lucky the slap took place in Quatar. had it happened in the US, this woman would be very rich and he would be facing criminal charges as he would be hauled off to jail.

Having written the book Toxic Men which was released last year, I can assure you that Sharif shows all the characteristics of an abusive man. Here we all saw it frame after frame. Having seen the real Omar Sharif, there is no way I would even consider viewing any film he was in. This image of him slapping a woman is in my mind forever and that is the image I would see every time he would come on the screen for his acting scene.

This incident shows up a lot. It shows us how we idolize people for no good reason. We idolize them simply because they were in a film or on TV or they played well in a sport we like. If we admire and look up to  someone we should know a lot more about them-like their character. Apparently this was no an isolated incident.

Apparently Sharif has a long history of  getting physically abusive  with people  . In fact less than a decade ago, he attacked a policeman in a Paris casino and four years back, he pleaded no contest to” misdemeanor battery” for beating up a Beverly Hills parking attendant.

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Since the Beginning of Their Relationship Maria and Arnold’s Body Language Showed Differences

Sunday, May 22nd, 2011

 

If you look at the earliest photos of Arnold and Maria and follow  them to throughout the years to the present day, you will see a common theme. That theme is that they are completely not like minded. They never appear  to be looking in the same direction, which reflects the fact that they were never on the same page. Look at the photos below and you will see how they consistently look in different direction,

Maria is looking towards the camera while Arnold looks off to the side when they were first dating.

It continued when they got married as you can see in their wedding photos. And it continued throughout their marriage as you can see int he many photos of them below.

They never appear to be in synch with one another as they look in two distinctly different directions in practically all of their photos.

In many photos of the two of them together,  there is a great deal of physical distance between them, which is a very  bad sign for any relationship.

There are also countless photos where Maria trails behind Arnold. They are not on equal footing. He always seems to be stepping out ahead of her. It indicates that it is all about him and that she is a  mere appendage. She is there to make him look good.

In their later years together,  it appears that  could Arnold doesn’t even seem to acknowledge Maria. He essentially ignores her. It appears as though it could be anyone standing next to him. Body language wise, they  continue to look in different directions which mirrors what they have done throughout their lives together. 

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Maria clearly adored  Arnold as can be seen in so many of the photos. She looked at him with love and affection, but he rarely  if ever, returned her affections publicly.

When she would reach out to him as you can see in this photo, he would  essentially ignore her.

She was often the aggressor  in their public displays of affection as she initialed kisses and other  displays of affection,He continued to  appear awkward and non responsive as he did not reciprocate  her affections.

He continued to ignore her throughout the years which rendered her looking very unhappy.

In fact, in their later years together ,  she looked absolutely miserable whenever she was around him.

No doubt, when  she learned of his constant alleged womanizing, she became increasingly  unhappy.  So when it was announced that Arnold had an affair and impregnated his mistress while there  was an initial shock,  it is no surprise. Rumors of affairs and harassmentswirled around him for years. 

But what did come as a surprise and spoke volumes about Arnold was that his and Maria’s housekeeper was the mistress and lived and worked  under the same roof as they did for two decades.To me that is the ultimate in Toxic Behavior.

Apparently the housekeeper  told Arnold that the baby was his when the baby was a toddler. Arnold did the right thing and  financially supported the boy and the mother. But who knows if he supported the boy emotionally.  Now the boy is ten years old and it is said that he looks exactly like Arnold as reported by TMZ. In the pixeled out photo above, you can see how the boy  resembles Arnold especially around the mouth and jaw area.

My main concern is   about the psyche of this young boy who has had to keep his father’s identity a secret until now.  Who knows if he even knew Arnold was his father until now? I do hope that Arnold has the sense to put the boy in therapy to help him cope with  the  public’s  now  knowing that he is Arnold’s illegitimate son.

There is no doubt that some agressive  journalist will out this innocent young boy and not respect his privacy. After all there is a lot of money in paparazzi photos of a young newly discovered mini-Arnold. Perhap the mother and the boy will expose themselves publicly on their own. Whatever the case, the boy will need a strong support system for what lies ahead of him.

The pain Maria must be experiencing must be excruciating. She has been humiliated,  betrayed and used in a very public way. Arnold sought her out and married her as a vehicle to help him achieve the American Dream. What better way of achieving the dream than by marrying into the Kennedy family. Her Kennedy family immediately  legitimized him. It transformed him from a caricature  of a muscle head  bodybuilder   to member of America’s  most  a respect and revered clan. It  gave him even more contacts and pushed him up the social ladder until he became Governor  of  California. After achieving his goal, it appeared that  he had no more use for Maria. He had nothing to lose by coming clean ten years later when he was finally out of office.

But now he now, he claims  that he   wants her back. It may be  because of the negative repercussions on his ego and on his reputation and not because of anything else. Arnold was the untouchable Golden boy ever since he landed int he US. He was an action hero on film and an hero to some  in real life. Now he has quickly gone from hero to   zero. 

But if he does happen to  wins Maria back and does a mea culpa, things will look up for him once again as he does the Media Forgive Me tour.

While many feel that Maria should never allow him back into her life, love is stronger than anyone’s opinion, There is no doubt that  she clearly loves him. That is one of the main reasons she has not rushed to file for divorce.  Her strong Catholic faith may also sway her in the direction of keeping him. In the end,  is her decision alone as to what  she needs to do for herself. Will she follow in the footsteps of her grandmother and the other Kennedy women who were constantly cheated upon, yet  grinned and bared  it? Or will she be the first of the Kennedy women to actually leave and show  some self respect ? .

Even though she has asked for people’s advice and feedback during her transition period, ultimately, she has to listen to what is in her heart.

The woman has  recently gone through the loss of her uncle Ted who had brain cancer , her mother who had cancer, her father with Alzheimer’s, th ending her reign as First Lady of California and all that the position  entailed, her kids maturing  and headed for lives of their owny and eight  years of being away from a high profile media career .

The last thing she needed to  add to her  already existing pain was to discover that her husband of over two decades fathered an illegitimate child with a housekeeper, who worked for her. The woman added to her pain fo betrayal by  carrying  on an affair with Arnold right under her nose and under her roof.  If the housekeeper worked for Arnold and Maria for two decades, no doubt that Maria  must have felt she was a loyal employee. So to be  betrayed by a  husband and a trusted employee is enough to send anyone over the edge. www.drlillianglass.com 

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Ex Presidental Candidate John Edwards Selfishly Threatens Suicide If Sent to Prison -Organ Donation Should Be His Final Unselfish Act

Tuesday, April 12th, 2011

   

Former Senator and VP and Presidential Candidate John Edwards may  face criminal charges for  violating   Federal campaign laws. He allegedly removed some of his  campaign  funds  to pay for  mistress Rielle Hunter and their baby’s expenses. There is evidence put forth by his  former assistant Andrew Young who confirms what he did, saying   he lied for Edwards in a cover up where he claimed to be the babydaddy.  The FBI and IRS have done extensive probes, leaving no stone unturned.

That was why Edwards kept denying that he was the babydaddy. But I figured out he was the babydaddy anyway and was the first to call it publicly in the media. 

 

WHY DID HE HAVE TO USE CAMPAIGN FUNDS WHEN HE COULD HAVE DONE SOME SPEAKING AND RAISED THE MONEY?

I don’t know what this Toxic Man didn’t sell some of his assets or do a few speaking gigs to pay for his mess. He made millions and millions of dollars when he was an attorney. He could have spoken to his money manager and worked things out. But in sick mind he may have believed that the mess he got himself into occurred while he was campaigning, so why not have the campaign funds take care of this!

 He  could no doubt get  50 to 100 thousand dollars  per talk and a few talks could have taken care of his financial woes instead of  his doing something illegal.

If a jury finds Edwards  guilty, could end up being cellmates with Bernie Madoff. It might not be such a bad thing since he is one of few people in the world with whom Edwards shares so much in common. They sociopaths in my view-  both liars, heartless, cheaters, soulless creatures who have no feelings of remorse. They even  both lost their  sons.  

CRYING AND SCREAMING SUICIDE BEFORE HE WOULD GO TO JAIL

Apparently, last month, his , legal team told him there was a strong chance he could be indicted. According to sources he “completely lost it” and sobbed non stop and said  .”I won’t go to jail. I’d kill myself first.”

Edwards has allegedly mentioned it over and over again that he would rather do  himself  in than go to prison. This wimp would probably get a maximum of five years and he would be 62 when he got out. He would probably do less time for good behavior so he might even be 60 when he got out.

PRISON MAY NOT BE SO BAD FOR HIM AFTER ALL WITH A MEA CULPA BOOK TOUR TO SATISFY HIS EGO AND POCKETBOOK

 Also I am sure they would isolate him so he wouldn’t have to worry about being shived or beaten or being someone’s girlfriend.

 He would have plenty of time to relax, work out and exercise, and write his” mea culpa I found Jesus ”  book in prison . They might even give him  a prison job like picking up trash, cleaning toilets or picking  weeds just to humble him a bit. He may even do some jailhouse consulting with other inamtes on their cases. But he has to never have their legal papers in his cell or he will get additonal jailtime.  

 Since he has no conscience, he wouldn’t be spending anytime crying over Elizabeth or the past. His tears would only be for himself and his predicament. His anger would not be at himself but rather at those horrible people who did this to him.  He could never accept any accountability for his actions.

POST PRISON FAME

Also when he got out, there would be the mea culpa tour to feed his ego and put him back in the limelight to promote the book he would have written in prison. He will no doubt have found Jesus and become a minister of sorts and  preach the gospel of forgiveness on his media tour.

Then could  convince himself that he is loved  by the public and that all is forgiven. Even though the reality is that most  will hate him, his kids – legitimate and illegitimate will probably forgive him and love him. It might be harder for the oldest daughter though as she was old enough to see what torture he put her mother through.

He could get 50 to 100 K a pop for lectures on the  lay speaking circuit  or the religious  speaking circuit, He could be  speaking about how bad he was and  how he destroyed so many lives by his cheating and how Satan made him do it. He can say how Satan made him break Elizabeth’s heart which killed her. He can then say how now that Jesus is in his life full-time  he is a changed man . He can tell us how being in prison made him take a  good hard look at himself and see the light.It may sound repulsive but there are many public speakers out there who have been cheats and swindlers who have written books on how bad they  once were and  ended up in prison and now make a good living at telling the world to give them a second chance int he world. 

Characterwise they are often still the same and just found another way to manipulate people. Edwards is no doubt the same type.    

HE MAY EVEN GET A REALITY SHOW – WHY NOT? OTHER BADLY BEHAVED PEOPLE HAVE IT SO WHY NOT JOHN?

Who knows, he may also be offered a reality show. Look at how bad behavior  appears to be rewarded  these days from Charlie Sheen to Kate Gosselin.  The teen moms can beat up on their babydaddys and all sorts of drama can occur complete with jail time and they still have a show.

 Kate Gosselin  can beat up on her husband, verbally abuse her kids and lie all over  the airwave,  be obnoxious and still gets rewarded with a show, a DWTS appearance, and co-hosting the View. The same thing can happen to Edwards. Having a show would feed his ego and his pocketbook. 

POLITICAL ADVISOR?

Since he has had so much experience as a politician, he could be a political advisor to some up and coming candidates and share his knowledge with them.

READ HANDS ON DAD AND NOT JUST A PHOTO OP ONE

Most important of all when he gets out, he could be a real hands on father not just a photo op for political pictures dad. He can go to  recitals and plays and ball games with his kids, who will still be of ball game  and recital age. He can make amends and do right by them- especially with his oldest  and already grown daughter.

 He could help the kids with their homework and watch them grow. He may even decide to have more babies with Rielle or with someone else he finds more fetching and more “Christian” now that he has a new image to uphold.

NEEDS TO THINK THROUGH  HIS FINAL ACT

But obviously Edwards is too small minded to think these things through. He obviously  has a pattern of not thinking things   through like his cheating with Rielle and how it would devastate Elizabeth and  his not admitting the baby was his, which will have last repercussions on the baby as she matures.

 Clearly he is not thinking through his suicide plan either. Suicide is not the answer. If he is depressed then he needs to get some antidepressants and a good shrink to work things out.

He actually could turn his life around. While it will be an embarrassment for his kids to have a dad who is a convicted felon, who fell from grace, if he lives they can at least say they have a dad.

It will be even more heart wrenching for them to know that they had a weak coward of a dad who was so selfish that he did himself in  during hard times, rather than have a future with them.

Edwards may want to meet with Reverend Jim Baker  of  Jim and Tammy Faye fame, who had a similar fate. He went to prison, came out, got  remarried, started a new family, lectures and is doing quite well these days.

IF HE KILLS HIMSELF HE NEEDS TO LEAVE HIS ORGANS TO OTHERS

But if Edwards insists on being his selfish stubborn foolish TOXIC self and makes good on his  suicide threat when he is indicted, I hope that at least he will do one unselfish act for once in his life-give his organs to others.

Each of his kidneys , heart, lungs, corneas, pituitary gland, ear bones, jaw bone, facial skin, body skin, heart, and other organs can be used to save or better someone’s life.

 Maybe then can he not only get some of the respect back from others but some self-respect, if there is any after a person commits suicide. www.drlillianglass.com    

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Chris Brown’s Body Language on DWTS Screams Anger As He Punches With Spiked Glove

Thursday, April 7th, 2011

As the Body Language Expert for Dancing With the Stars   on Season 8 and doing analyses for Entertainment Tonight and various magazines, all I can say is that I am appalled that Chris  Brown was allowed back into the ABC Family after his window punching incident last week.

I am not alone in  my disgust that he was allowed on DWTS  as host Tom Bergeron and top female dancer Cheryl Burk were equally disgusted. Although Tom tried to be the pro that he is, his stiff body language and half smile gave away his displeasure. He even mentioned publically that he wasn’t thrilled about Chris being there and it showed in his  ambivalent half smile and  in Tom’s tight  body language on the show.

Cheryl who publicly spoke of her own abuse was disgusted that an abuser would appear on the same show are herself. She said that even though she could do nothing about it she wasn’t happy  but did what she could do to in speaking out and expressing her displeasure.

CHRIS BROWN- THE ANGRY PERFORMER

His anger not only appeared off the stage it appeared on the stage as well with his punching dance moves that looked like he would be better in a boxing ring than on a dance floor. In the photo above you can see the anger in his clench fists and extended knuckles.

Before Chris appeared in his devil red and black suit with chains on the  there was what I thought a very contrived and cheap shot. A little boy in a white suit yelled out “ Hey it’s Chris Brown” as the little boy  began to tumble on to the stage and break danced.

That disgusted me that a little kid was being used to promote  Chris Brown. I think associating Chris Brown with the little excited kid was a  disgusting ploy to enroll other kids. The fact that a kid essentially introduced Chris Brown’s performance and then began to perform himself was merely used as a distraction to help mollify Chris’ negative perception. After all who can;t feel warm and fuzzy towards a little break dancing kid in a suit?

As Chris took to his singing and dancing he began what I thought was indicative  of who he is as a person– an angry hostile man.   His punching moves in his first dance were a complete a turn off  and highly inappropriate .  If he was there to rectify his image he certainly didn’t do it with his dancing moves.

While his acrobatics were impressive I still couldn’t shake the photos etched in my brain of Rihanna’s face  that was pummeled by him.

As I recalled what he did to the window at ABC I got even more disgusted by him. To  think of the  force he used in breaking this sealed and reinforced  window was also repulsive to me. Anyone else would have been arrested  and put in jail but celebrity justice is no doubt what kept him free. I kept thinking of that and it was maddening.  He was even invited back to GMA to explain himself which further sickened me as anyone else would NEVER have been invited back to GMA or to any show ever again for that  hateful and dangerous antic.

Thus, it was impossible for me to appreciate any of  his talents. When I heard the audience clapping loudly and standing to their feet , there was no doubt in my mind that this was choreographed as well. It further disturbed me as to why this nasty violent creature was being celebrated in any shape or form.Why he was allowed on the DWTS stage in the first place was beyond my comprehension.

But clearly, someone high above made sure that Chris would be successful in spite of himself. It no doubt appears to be  all about  dollars and cents.

But to me, this violent out of control creature simply looked   like a  mean devil dressed in red and chains. I would never purchase anything  with he was associated. In fact I would encourage others to boycott him as well. We simply cannot showcase and honor those who  are violent. There is enough world violence out there and we certainly don’ tneed it in our artists who’s aim is to entertain and bring us joy.

Then he was introduced for his second song set as he wore a white suit with lights on it that changed colors designed to  distract people . I did like the lighted suit that changed colors as I did like the  backup dancer’s neon looking outfits and the choreography. But that still didn’t change the reality. To me he is still a  Toxic Man who happened to be wearing a lighted suit that changed colors.

Then Chris was done performing and  I saw Chris Browns face drenched in sweat as he held  his  silver metal spiked fingerless  glove up to his face as he as in a praying hand position with his hands clasped together. I found this incongruity of  prayer and violence sickening  and hypocritical. Brown was thrilled the  DWTS audience received him well and pressed his praying hands together as an act of humility and forgiveness. But to me it said cockiness with is head even cocked to the side. He ”got over” on everyone.  His mindset was that even though he was violent and out of control, he was  still loved and revered !

As a violent creature who beat up Rihanna a beat up a window, in my view Chris Brown should not be wearing  that glove as it could prove to be a lethal weapon if used  inappropriately on someone.

His handlers  who were so concerned about his image forgot a crucial element. They forgot to not allow him to dress in a spiked  metal violent  glove. So their image makeover with his hair back to black and his DWTS appearance backfired as the boxing like punching dance moves , hostile hands and  hateful and hostile weapon- like glove said it all!  www.drlillianglass.com

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George Lopez Calls Kirstie Alley A Pig When He’s Fat Too

Thursday, April 7th, 2011

There is an old saying that goes “when you point the finger at someone there are there are often three fingers pointing back at you. This definitely  seems to be the case with George Lopez after he made fun of Kirstie Alley after her Dancing With the Stars appearance by calling her a fat pig.

His name calling seems to be more about him than it does about Kirstie. When George looks in the mirror there is no doubt he has not come to grips with his the physical changes that have resulted perhaps due to taking  the weight gaining anti rejection medication for his kidney transplant or the resulting excess fluid retention in his body.

His lashing out at Kirstie’s weight may very well be due to the fact that he cannot cope with his own weight gain and  subsequent body changes ,resulting self loathe.


If we look back at the re runs of his television sitcom from 2004-2007 we see a much more slender and  healthier looking George.  Since this photo was taken,  his face has become wider and bloated. His  present day complexion  looks more pallid and looks even more pitted than before as his his eyes  now often have more of  a budging appearance to them.

LEAVING HIS WIFE WHO SAVED HIS LIFE BECAUSE  HE SAYS SHE WAS ‘OVERWEIGHT”

A few months ago I was in the makeup room at CNN and met a beautiful woman who was also having her makeup done in the seat next to me.  We were discussing my new book called Toxic Men. She immediately told me that she needed to read that book as she as getting a divorce from her husband.

She then proceed to tell me her name, Ann , and hand me her business card which said Ann Lopez, producer. On the card it also said that she was the producer of George Lopez Productions. It was then that I realized that the Toxic Man she was referring to was comedian George Lopez

She proceeded to tell me how George had an unknown birth defect with kidneys the size of raisins. In 2005  , doctors said he was going to die unless he had a kidney transplant.  She volunteered to give him one of her kidneys and he gladly accepted.

Then after saving  his life, she found out he was cheating on her  with prostitutes by reading the tabloids. She was shocked and demanded a divorce. But to make himself look good, and to make Ann look like the villain in the marriage, Lopez has been telling the press he divorced his wife (who he had been married to since 1990 for  21 years  and with whom he had a daughter) because she was overweight.

Ann was a heavy set woman and was always that way since he married her in 1990. She was that way before and after they had their daughter in 1996. Obviously her size never bothered him or he overlooked it because he knew she was a wonderful woman who was devoted to him. In fact in his book Why You Crying? he said

“I want to tell you about a woman I have been married to for ten years, my wife, Ann, who speaking truthfully, saved me from myself. Who saved me from destroying myself because of my background. Who saved me from wasting my life, drinking my life away, never fulfilling my dreams because of what I had come from, and truly believing and loving — truly the first person to ever truthfully, unconditionally love me.”

But the problem was that George didn’t love himself. He couldn’t accept that unconditional love and the Ultimate gift of life from Ann. So what did he do? He sabotaged himself by having affairs with hookers.

INSTEAD OF BASHING HIS OWN WEIGHT GAIN HE BASHES IT OUT ON OTHERS LIKE KIRSTIE

Three weeks after his kidney surgery in 2005 he felt well enough to play golf. According to medical reports he was given anti-kidney rejection drugs. Whether it was the anti-rejection  drugs, or the fluid retention from  his non transplanted kidney not working, George put on a considerable amount of weight as you can ein the photo.

Instead of addressing his own  weight issues, he lashed out on his wife Ann, on Bristol Palin whom he said  got heavier after she appeared on DWTS, and   now he’s beaten up on Kirstie Alley.

He would have stuck by  the Kirstie weight bashing “ joke”   if the public had not rebelled in a big way.

People would not accept what he said about her being a pig and neither could Kirstie. In fact she lashed back and called him a “drunk pig” who had  a little too much vodka.

People are very sensitive to Kirstie’s plight.  They have seen her struggle  with weight for years

from being a failed spokesperson for Jenny Craig


to her doing  her own sitcom “Fat Actress” where she showed her struggles with her weight.

The unflattering  tabloid ambush shots of her being overweight and eating fattening foods, which  also kept her weight battle very public.

She addressed  her weight on every talk show and even came on Oprah to show her progress on Jenny Craig as she wore a bikini. Her body language on the show clearly showed how ashamed and uncomfortable and self-conscious she was as she hid her lower body in a gossamer pareo .

She constantly  made jokes about her weight. But those jokes were simply to hide her pain and her self-consciousness.

Before she began  DWTS, she took off 60 lbs  of her own which she said was due to her own weight loss program.

But the real weight loss will come now under Maksim’s guidance. There there is no doubt that Kirstie will be svelte once again.
After witnessing Kirstie’s weight struggle’s throughout the years, the public is sympathetic towards her and wants her to both  win and lose – win the mirror ball trophy on DWTS and lose the weight.

As for George, my advice to him is to   focus on his own weight loss since the issue of being fat concerns him so much.

Perhaps a stint on DWTS might do him some good as well. www.drlillianglass.com

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TOXIC MEN Chris Brown, Michael Lohan, Mel Gibson, and Charlie Sheen Continue

Saturday, March 26th, 2011

 

 

Chris Brown  has a tantrum  breaks a window at GMA  and  freely walks away as he leaves the studio shirtless. He performs at a concert that evening as though nothing happened and is  even scheduled to perform at DWT. Michael Lohan allegedly holds his ex fiancé hostage, get arrested and then walks away with a misdemeanor. Charlie Sheen acts nutty and as a result  makes  even more  millions . Mel Gibson knocks off his baby mamma’s dental veneers and smacks her only to get  a slap on the wrist , no jail and only community service to work  children.

 What do each of  these TOXIC MEN have in common?  They have all physically and emotionally  abused women. They have disrespected women, They  have never beenb held accountable by the public.

 Is it because they are rich  celebrities ?

It is unconscionable  to allow these Toxic Men to get away with such horrible behavior  and to not be held accountable. It speaks volumes about what we tolerate when it comes to women being abused and degraded.These men need to be ostracized and not be regaled as heroes in my view.

 I would NEVER see another Mel Gibson film again and I encourage everyman and woman to do the same. The fact that actress Jodi Foster, who  has supported women’s causes for years,  supports Mel speaks volumes whn it come sto her own needs and pockebook.  She is his producer of his Beaver film  and obviously her investment in the film and the money spent means more to her than not supporting a man who abuses women.  

Just seeing photos or videos let alone a film of Mel Gibson  repulses  me  becuase of  his abuse towards women and his racist rants. There   is no way that I would ever  patronize anything  in which  he was involved with unless it had to his giving money to abused women’s shelters,  the Anti Defamation League, the NAACP, or La Raza .

 I would never  but let alone listen to a Chris Brown song because just knowing who he is and how he behaved outweighs any talent he may have. There are too many other well behaved talented people I could listen to . Chris did the whole interview with Robin Roberts without incident. There was body language signs which indicated his  annoyance , He let her know he wanted to move on and discuss his album byt he never looked at her when he said it. Instead he gave a nervous smile so it may have semed that he was cool  bout it. Instead, he carried that anger with him and it escalated. Thus he became a SILENT BUT DEADLY ERUPTING VOLCANO which is the most dangerous of all Toxic People.

 Chris Brown can’t be trusted in my view as I seem him as a wild animal who is out of control.

 
 

As for Charlie Sheen, just knowing what he did to so many women turns be off to him completely. The fact that he put a knife to the throat of his two  babies  mother is enough to make me never want to see his face ever again. The fact that he physically and emotionally abused so many women and knowing how he  manipulated the public with his“crazy like a fox” act  makes me  tuned off forever as  I can’t see anything  appealing or entertaining about him.  

 

  And as far as Michael Lohan goes, whenever I find him  yapping away on any show I  turn the channel. To me he continues to  ride on his daughter’s coat tails of fame. I find that he has nothing to offer. His latest stunt of going on Celebrity Rehab for his alleged anger management needed to be dealt with in a specific anger management program not on a program  featuring celebs going through rehab. First of all he is not a celbrity and secondly he willnever succeed in any rehab in my view.

 Personally, I also think  that Michael Lohan may turn out to be a  physical danger to others to the point that he may be eventually be spending a great deal of  his  life behind bars. To me he is a train wreck waiting to happen.

NO FREE PASSES

I am not going to give these TOXIC MEN a free pass by saying that they have  alcohol or substance abuse issues and that is why they behave so horribly. Many have these same issues and don’t abuse women.

Alcohol and drugs are not the underlying reason they are  angry and violent towards women. To think so is to think naively. becuase their   anger issues are  deeper , Their  alcohol and drug use is clearly only  a symptom of the real problem – self hatred, mother issues, and other psychological constructs.

The more the public  refuses to support these  four TOXIC MEN, the more the publci  will be sending them a clear message, that their behavior will not be tolerated.  They must be held accountable for their awful behaviors- celebrity  or not ! www.drlillianglass.com

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TOXIC Tweets by 50 Cent Reflect Racism, Sexism, and Ignorance As He Discusses Japan’s Earthquake/Tsunami

Monday, March 14th, 2011

One can tell a lot about a person in terms of what they say after they hear about a crises. When  rapper 50 Cent (Fiddy) responded to the Japanese earthquake and tsunami with sick  humor, it speaks volumes as to who he is as a human being-  a not a very sympatric or kind one in my view.

 Freud once said “there is no humor only truth.” I agree with that as there is truth in humor. But there was no truth in the humor that rapper 50 Cent put forth in a tweet.  

 

There is nothing more devastating than to have to have innocent  people lose their homes,

worldly possessions and most important their lives as a result of not one but multiple natural disasters- tsunami,  earthquake and  major aftershocks.

 

The nuclear plant explosions  and the radiation leakage are  no laughing matter and can cause devastation for generations to come with illnesses and severe birth defects.

 So when TOXIC 50 Cent made the following horrible  jokes on his twitter account,  it was adding insult to injury. He said

“Its all good Till b*tches see there christian louboutins floating down da street shit gone get crazy.”  

“Wave will hit 8am them crazy white boys gonna try to go surfing.”

“Look this is very serious people I had to evacuate all my hoe’s from LA,Hawaii and Japan. I had to do it. Lol”

To me this has  sexist and racist undertones and is despicable! There is nothing to Lol (laugh out loud) about. Instead there is a lot to Col about- CRY OUT LOUD!

 

There is nothing funny about people being washed to sea and seeing innocent men women and  children dying or become orphaned as the result of this natural disaster killing their parents . 

There is nothing funny about not having a place to live or not having enough to eat.

 But obviously ignorant  50 Cent failed to see the gravity of the situation before he let his fingers do the talking.   

What he said was unforgivable. It was disgusting and arrogant and nauseatingly  sexist as he spoke of evacuating his whores out of  LA Hawaii and Japan. Referring to women as whores is sexist and degrading to women!

Obviously 50 Cent realized he did a bad  thing after he got a myriad of  negative and hostile  responses. So he lamely tweeted

“sorry”

“Nah this is nuts but what can anyone do about it. Let’s pray for anyone who has lost someone.”

“Some of my tweets are ignorant I do it for shock value. Hate it or love it. I’m cool either way 50cent”

No Mr. Cent. You are not COOL either way. instead , I believe you are TOXIC either way! You have lost a lot of fans and a lot of respect.  You acted as a petulant immature child in making fun of  one of the most tragic events in the world for SHOCK VALUE- so people would notice and pay attention to your pitiful self.

If you want SHOCK VALUE how about going over to Japan on one of your private jets and seeing how these people are suffering beyond belief? No  disaster film could come close to this horrific reality.

You lame ‘sorry” will never cut it. If you want to show yourself as a real man and as a compassionate human being put your “sorry” into action and give up some of your millions to help these poor earthquake and tsunami victims rebuild their lives.  Get some food and stock up your private jet with it and parachute it down to stranded hungry people.

Your fellow recording artist  Lady Gaga  (with the emphasis being on the word “lady”) clearly showed compassion and class by encouraging her fans to donate money for the  the victims. She even designed a prayer bracelet to raise money for the Japanese victims. 

http://http://ladygaga.shop.bravadousa.com/Product.aspx?cp=14781_42444&pc=BGAMLG88

 In fact you can go to her site by clicking the link above to order the bracelet so that money can be raised for the earthquake/ tsunami victims  

Why don’t you follow suit and do the same. Only then will your lame “sorry” have any value.  And yes, Mr. Cent you had it partially right in your last tweet when you said your tweets are ignorant .It is YOU who are ignorant, not your tweets, so  man up and do something in your power financially as well as doing a concert to help someone other than your superficial self.  

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