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President Obama’s Body Language Showed Humor, Truth About Snooki, And Anger When Questioned About Mel Gibson on the View

Sunday, August 1st, 2010

CONTROVERSY OVER OBAMA APPEARING ON THE VIEW

Before President Obama went on the View there was a lot of controversy over whether or not he  should have appeared on the View. Hard core journalists said no way while White House advisors thought this was a great way of reaching women voters.

As it turned out the hard core journalists were right. It was a very  bad idea.  The questions he was asked about Snooki did not put him in a good light . Besides making him look like he lied  (which he did not based on his body language analysis) it  may have uncovered another can of worms with regard to his speech making and teleprompter reading. The  President did not have to endure the discomfort level  which resulted in a  flash of anger after  he was inappropriately  asked about Mel Gibson.

WAS OBAMA LYING?

The inconsistency  of saying he never heard of Snooki when he mentioned Snooki’s name  in a White House Press Correspondents Dinner  three months earlier made him look like a liar.

The Drudge Report  headline even read Obama lies about not knowing who Snooki is?

No one likes a liar,especially in their President or world leader. It diminishes the public trust.

Look at what happened to other President’s who lied. Richard Nixon was one of the most detested Presidents after he had the audacity to tell the world “I am not a crook” when that was exactly what he was.

President Clinton lost even more respect for looking directly into the television camera lens and lying that he did not have an affair with that woman- Ms. Lewinsky when in fact, he did.

On the other hand, we all know what happened to our first President George Washington who said ”I cannot tell a lie.” His inspirational story of being honest and admitting he chopped down the cherry tree is a large part of our Americana.

The moral of this story is that we love President who tell us the truth and don’t love those who lie.

OBAMA DID NOT TELL A LIE WHEN IT CAME TO NOT KNOWING SNOOKI

After careful analysis of Obama’s  body language, I do not believe that the President lied.

Instead, he played along with the Q and A that Joy Behar was throwing at him. After she asked if  Snookie should run for mayor of Waisilla and Obama heard the audience roar of laughter, he realized that in order to be likeable and affable, it was a cue for  him to go along with the joke. He actually  didn’t even realize  what he was laughing at. He simply knew that the audience thought something as funny, so he went along with it as a way of showing his good nature.

Body language wise, he  really got into it . He even went as   far as tossing his head back and giving  closed eyed  laugh. A closed eye laugh is significant as it not always a genuine laugh.

Suddenly his facial expression changed from over the top open mouth laughter to a less  laughing mouth  as he leans over to Joy and even lens his shoulder into her and  says  “ I don’t know who Snooki is.” When some one leans into you they tend to be more serious and candid with you and are often telling you the truth, This is even more true if the shoulder is directed towards you as you see in the above photo.

Obama’s comment  got an even bigger laugh as the audience construed that he was kidding. They probably expected him to add and “I’m just kidding.”   But he wasn’t kidding. His facial expression showed that he was a bit more serious. He really didn’t know who Snooki was based on his facial expression as well as the slight pitch break in his voice pattern. That showed that he was indeed telling the truth.

OBAMA’S BODY LANGUAGE REVEALED HE DIDN’T KNOW WHO SNOOKI WAS THREE MONTHS EARLIER

When Obama gave his speech at the White House Press Correspondent’s dinner three month earlier in May 2010, he  didn’t know who Snooki was then either.

Here you see the President looking down as he read from his notes   which  one of his speech writers obviously wrote for him. Without any facial animation, smiling, or vocalizations, which one would expect if they were in on the joke and really knew the characters about whom they were joking, Obama blandly reads   ”The following individuals shall be excluded from the indoor tanning tax within this bill: Snooki, JWOWW, The Situation and House minority leader John Boehner.’

You can hear a slight chuckle in his voice when he says  the name John Boehner, whom he obviously knows. But when  he read the names  Snooki, JWOWW and the Situation, he is expressionless and  chuckleless.

When he heard the audience laugh, he merely picked up his head and looked at the audience blankly, without a smile which further indicated that he had no clue  about those who’s names he just read from his notes. If he knew who they were you would have seen a slight smile or even a big smile, depending on what he thought about the Jersey Shore characters.

So when we heard him on the View with his pitched raised saying  “I have to admit I don’t know who Snooki is
with a less hearty smile as he leans in towards Joy with and his head slightly tilted, this is a body language tell of  uncertainly. Obama is really uncertain  about who or what Snooki is. He is telling the truth.

DOES OBAMA  KNOW ALL THAT CONTAINED IN HIS SPEECHES OR DOES HE MOUTH EMPTY WORDS?

So now that we know he wasn’t lying. But there is   another problem that has surfaced. The inconsistency made him look  bad in another way.

For some, it made him look puppet-like who was just mouthing words others wrote for him while he casually reads those words off of a teleprompter.

If he has no clue about who  Snooki is and yet can make a  joke about her in a speech written by a nameless  speechwriter, several question may  arise for many.  The questions are “What  other things has Obama said  in his speeches about which he has no clue ? Does he really know everything he reads off the teleprompter or are they just empty words?

When he gave the speech about the oil crisis which  many felt was too little too late,  he seemed to just be reading the words off of a screen. They seemed empty and emotionless. In fact he got a lot of flak for his lack of emotion and flat affect.

His reaction was inappropriate considering the crisis situation. Even his staunchest supporters like Spike Lee spoke up and encouraged him to “go off”  and show people that he was upset as they were about the situation.

After the revelation that Obama may not know what is contained in all of his speeches, it may make a lot of people question rif he is simply reading words. That certainly is not confidence building . One wants their leader to really know what is going on in every Situation ( no pun intended) , especially if they are relaying information to their citizens.

Whether it is about Snooki or the Sitiuation, the oil spill, Iran, or Afghanistan, we need to know that the President thoroughly knows every topic and every player whenever he speaks to the public.

BAD IDEA TO APPEAR ON A LIVE SHOW WHERE HE WAS ASKED ABOUT MEL GIBSON

The  Snooki embarrassment which made him look bad wasn’t the only negative thing that  came from his horrible decision to have the President  appear on the View.

His advisors needed to make sure what questions would be asked ahead of time. They need to let the  producers of the View now that there were certain questions which were off limits like asking him about Mel Gibson.

I believe that it was completely inappropriate to ask a sitting President. President Obama thought that it was inappropriate as well , At first you could see his level of discomfort  with his lip licking and tongue biting. That meant he didn’t want to talk about it. It wasn’t his place  and he know it.

But Joy pursued it so he felt stuck between a rock and a hard place and he was getting angry. He turned his head to th direction of Barbara Walters for help. But surprisingly she did not intercede.

As soon as he realized that he ws on his own, a flash on anger appeared on his face and rightfully so.

Immediately fun time  and trying to be agreeable, likeable and affable was over for him and he was mad that he was injected into this horrible fiasco concerning Mel.  The level of discomfort clearly continued in the tension exhibited throughout  the President’s  body language.

I give Obama a lot of points for his quick minded thinking as he attempted to untangle himself from the uncomfortable experience. With a serious face, he said how he had not seen a lot of Mel Gibson movies lately. He tried  graciously to defuse the situation by going off topic on to a tangent  by bringing up Mel’s movies and then with a tinge of humor adding “Ask me about Afghanistan.” It  clearly showed  his skills in diplomacy.

THE GOOD NEWS ABOUT HIS SHOW APPEARANCE

Besides showing how graciously the President took control to thwart an ungracious topic like Mel Gibson, the good news about the President’s appearance on the show was that he did look more relaxed and less robotic than we usually see him.

He looked like the warm likeable guy everyone feel in love with before the election. He seemed easy going and very genuine.

But he should have never been put into a situation where he was asked inappropriate and embarrassing questions that he had no business answering like the Mel Gibson issue. I am sure that if he ever does the View again or anything like it, all questions will be screened ahead of time. After all, as a politician, why voluntarily put yourself in a position to go on television if you don’t come away looking and sounding good and having more people respect  you than they did before? www.drlillianglass. com

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Mel Gibson Could Have Easily Killed Oksana Gregoriova Based on What He’s Said and Out of Control Anger

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

 

 When I appeared on the Insider on CBS the other  night, I made the comment  “thank goodness this tirade was done over the phone because if Mel was in the same room as Oksana, he could have hit her.”  But after listening to the latest tape and analyzing all of the tapes thus far, I will take my statement a step further. Not only could Mel have hit Oksana, he could have easily murdered her!

There is now a lot of controversy over whether or not her above photo with broken veneers is retouched or tampered with. All I can say is that if you look at her eyes in the photo they have NOT been tampered with. They are puffy and red. Those are the eyes of a woman who  looks like they have been doing  a lot  crying .

Whether he hit her on the temple and the blow created   a chain reaction that caused damage to the teeth,as her dentist says,  the bottom line as we call heard on the tape, is that Mel admitted “ she deserved it.”

MEL’S VERBAL RAGE AND VERBAL ABUSE WERE NOT DOCTORED!

No one can deny the amount of rage and verbal violence that came out of Mel’s lips. We all heard it! Even if the tape was edited and doctored as some have reported, there is no way that his rage and verbal abuse was doctored.

Whether she stimulated or “egged him on” as people have commented,  there is still no excuse for Mel’s out of control behavior. When someone makes you that angry to the point that we have seen  Mel’s anger escalate,  you need to leave immediately. Get away from the  person , make a legal arrangement to see you child, and never look back at the relationship!

I am not definately  blaming the victim. Any relationship involves two people. I say the same to Oksana as I say to Mel. If she heard his rage escalate to the point that it did, she needed to have left him long ag. She needed to have hired an attorney and needed to have never looked back.

WHY ABUSED WOMEN DO NOT LEAVE RIGHT AWAY

 But unfortunately for Oksana, like so many abused women, most  do not leave right away. They stay and stay and stay, hoping things will change for the better and that things will work out. Studies show that it often takes an abused woman 7 to 11 times of breaking off and coming back to the  abusive relationship before she is out for good.

So the lame excuse that Mel’s camp gave that Oksana went away with him in January doesn’t fly. Just because she went back to Me after n abusive battle,  does not necessarily mean that things were fine and dandy. It means that she was doing what abused women do, especially ones with children. She was trying to make things work between them.  

MEL A CLASSIC ABUSER IN THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE

When one looks at the Cycle of Violence common to abused women,  Mel Gibson, appears to fit the classic picture of an abuser to a tee. That picture of an abuser often ends in such physical violence that it can cost a woman her life.  Oksana could have easily been one more statistic to the millions of women murdered at the hands of a spouse, lover, boyfriend, or companion.

The name calling (cunt, bitch, whore), the  violent yelling and animal-like grunting and heavy audible respiratory patterns, the irrational comments, exaggerated claims and blame ( that he has no money- none  of the 900 million  dollars he allegedly has,  because he spent it all on her)  pushing, the hitting(allegedly damaging her teeth), lack of empathy (telling her she deserved it when she complained of his violence) the degrading control (demanding oral sex from her even though they were in conflict) life endangering threats (to burn the house down and to hit her head with a bat) are only a step away from killing a person.

If you think this seems far fetched, think again. This is EXACTLY what happened to Nicole Brown Simpson. This is EXACTLY what happened to millions of women who die each year at the hands of men they are either living with or married to. This is EXACTLY what happens to women all over the world regardless of race, religion,  culture, ethnic background, financial status, occupation, or physical appearance. 

WHO ARE THE ABUSERS WHO CAN KILL?

Anyone who exhibits the patterns that Mel Gibson exhibited can kill!  It doesn’t matter how rich or famous they are, if they have displayed the patterns that Mel displayed, they can definitely kill. Now I am not accusing Mel of being a murderer, but if someone is that consistently enraged and out of control  as we have heard Mel to be, then anything is possible.

He may be so angry that he could  strike a blow, hitting her in the head, causing  a subdural hematoma  where she would bleed into her brain, thus tragically ending her life. 

The verbally violent  tapes we have heard are not of just one conversation. They are of many conversations he had over time with Oksana. The red flag here is that Mel does not change his violent tone during any of the many different conversations we have heard.

 There is no point where his anger and rage is diffused. It is consistent and whenever you hear consistent rage like this that escalates, it indicates that danger is imminent.

Men who are control freaks, silent but deadly erupting volcanos, arrogant condescending know it alls often turn into both emotional and physical abusers. 

LEARNING TO READ THE WARNING SIGNALS OF A TOXIC KNOWLEGE OF A TOXIC ABUSER CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

I have spent a lot of time studying the topic of abuse especially as it relates to men for my new book which will be on shelves this November called TOXIC MEN- 10 Ways to Identify, Deal With and Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable.

This book is NOT a book about male bashing, nor am I an angry woman who hates men. On the contrary, as a heterosexual woman, I happen to love men. I just don’t love TOXIC MEN who abuse women. This book which is a sequel to my best selling book TOXIC PEOPLE which I wrote over 15 years ago, is designed to help save relationships and save lives.

The book is designed to help ANYONE learn to identify the red flags and the signals of any TOXIC MEN by learning to analyze their body language and looking for signals in the voice and speech patterns, (what they say and how they say it)  facial expressions and nuances, and body language and movement.

If you happen to be in  TOXIC  abusive relationship, unlike simply telling you to just to leave, it tells you that you have options 10  specific proven techniques to be exact in an attempt to  turn the Toxic relationship around.

And finally the book gives  you  some unique and unconventional ways to heal from any Toxic Relationship in which you nay have been involved.

The book is now available for preorder on Amazon.com  so if you would like click here

 http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X  and you  will get a copy sent to you as soon as it is released.

WHY HOLLYWOOD IS SO QUIET ABOUT MEL?

One of the things that you are not hearing in the media is other celebrities speaking out against Mel with the exception of Barbara Walters, Joan Rivers and Joy Behar. They made is cler that Mel is not welocm on their shows.

The only ones who have spoken out in favor of Mel is Mickey Rourke and Whoppie Goldberg who is a friend of Mel’s. Her sticking up for him got her in a lot of hot water. Suddenly she became front page news as someone who stuck up for an abuser. While controversey may draw attention to Whoopie and the View and keep the show int he news, most performers don’t want to be associated with that type of news.

That is why most are steering clear of the Mel controversey. They don’t want the stink of Mel on them. They also know well enough that in Hollywood, anything can happen. Today Mel may be the biggest villan but tomorrow, the tide may turn. So that is why no one will stick their neck out.

Also Mel’s money makes him one of the most powerful people in Hollywood who with his alleged 900 million dollars can finance his own movie projects that would employ a lot of people and mean jobs for .  He could be behind the scenes as a director and producer so no one wants to make waves.

If they are forced to speak of him as James Brolin was on the Joy Behar Show, he remarked thaathe wanted to hug Mel who may have been dealing with a lot of childhood deamons to make him so angry. 

Personally, I think his career will take a huge hit. Becuase no matter how you spin it, we all  heard the verbally violent vitriol and that is now etched into our brain forever.  Even if he didn’t physically hit Oksana, he hit her verbally and he hit the baby verbally. Horrible words and emotional beatings are  are often more damaging than the physical beatings. Yelling at a mother with that serverity while she is holding an innocent fragile baby and emotionally frightening abd upsetting the baby is child abuse in my view. 

There is no more spin agent Ed Limato to help Mel out fo this mess. Personally I am boycotting any movie or project in which Mel gets involved. I have no tolerance for TOXIC PEOPLE who are  abusers (physical or emotional)  or racists who call people the N word or say abusive things about  Mexicans or Jews. That means you- Mel Gibson. www.drlillianglass.com


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The Body Language of “Itless” Infamy On Television And the Message It Sends To Our Young Girls

Sunday, February 14th, 2010

It never ceases to amaze me when I see who shows up on a TV gig or their own show these days. In many instances, it doesn’t matter if they have talent, a skill, and education, on camera experience, charisma or the IT factor. It seems that these days if  some women take of their clothes, sleep with a rich and powerful married guy, make a sex tape, have lots of babies at once, or are a train wreck, there is a good chance you may make it to the TV screen for your 15 minutes to one hour of fame if not more.

PROSTITUTES, MISTRESSESS AND CALL GIRLS AS A WAY OF ACHIEVING FAME
YOU KA TELL SHE DIDN’T HAVE” IT” ON TV


While Rachel Uchitel May have IT in the bedroom, based on her affairs with rich and powerful men including, Tiger Woods, in my view she was clearly ITLESS as she appeared on Extra with her nasal monotone, choked off , throat- closing voice, and lack of charisma .Even so, this ITLESS non- camera talent, like her or not, has a regular gig on Extra where she will be covering the party scene.

FORMER NY GOV. ELLIOT SPITZER’S PROSTITUTE GIVING ADVICE?

Equally “ ITLESS” non-camera talent who obviously had IT in the bedroom was prostitute Ashley Dupree, who’s liason with former NY Governor Elliott Spitzer, stripped him of his office. As much IT as she had in the bedroom, was as much” ITLESSNESS” she had when she appeared throughout the media giving advice to the other prostitute/ call girls/ mistresses and to Tiger’s wife Elin. Dupree consistently wore a mean-looking mono- faced expression as she doled out her limited and in my view lame advice!

Yet, she is not only giving that advice over the airwaves on top rated shows, this uneducated unprofessionally trained Elliot Spitzer prostitute, is disseminating advice on a regular basis in print , in the New York Post.

TIGER’S TEAM OF MISTRESSES REGULAR APPEARANCES IN THE MEDIA

Tiger’s  mistresses and call girls are also cashing in big and getting their share of fame. Jaime Grubbs who is now posing for Maxim magazine and Jaime Jungers both got their 15 minutes of fame by appearing on top rated shows as the Today Show and Access Hollywood. Apparently there is also talk of a reality show consisting of all of Tiger’s mistresses.

While Jungers is monotone and monofaced, I do believe that Jaime Grubbs, actually seems to have little bit of the IT factor.

She has some life to her based on how she comes across in her interviews. I especially saw some watchability and likeability in her personality as she recently appeared in a Radaronline interview discussing her Native American heritage.

MULTIPLE BABY-MAKING AS A WAY OF ACHIEVING FAME AND NOTORIETY
NADYA

Now, ITLESS  Nadya Suleman who’s claim to fame was irresponsibly undergoing fertility treatment to have 8 more children when already had 6 that she could barely care for, is allegedly in talks with the Game Show Network about doing a dating show with her.
While she definitely needs the money to feed and care for her brood, getting your own show when you have no media experience is absurd. If she hosts a talk show I think that is a bad idea.

But if she  has a show where the premise of the show is to find her a boyfriend or a husband to help her with her babies, that might be a good idea. After all, why shouldn’t Nayda get some love in her life? I only hope it is not a show where her babies will be ever exploited. So far she has been really good about not exposing them.

KATE

Then there is the other woman who also rose to public fame as a result of taking fertility pills and ending up with sextuplets. On her Jon and Kate Plus 8 Show we saw Kate Gosselin abuse her husband, yell at her kids, throw things, and have multiple tantrums. It was not a pretty sight.

On her TLC Specials we saw her self -centeredness, sarcasm, snarkiness and arrogance up close and personal, as we watched her disrespectfully throw her papers on the ground containing viewers questions. Then we had to endure her fake tears as she publically complained about the father of her children.

Nevertheless, TLC is rewarding Kate’s abusive and bad behavior with her own show. They aren’t even sure of the format. At first they said it would be a talk show. Then it was changed to a dating show and apparently now it is a show where Kate does various jobs, like the old Simple Life on MTV with Paris Hilton and Nichole Richie.

While they are trying to give Kate some experience and develop her chops by having her serve a guest host on the View, in my personal view she still remains ITLESS. No matter how many image makeovers or hair extensions they give her and how much money she needs to support her brood, I personally can’t seem to erase the images of all of her egregious and abusive behaviors that have been engrained in my mind as I recall her previous antics on TV and in photos throughout the years.

And please don’t tell me what inspirational single mothers Kate and Nadya are and how difficult it is to have so many children to raise. No one forced the fertility drugs down their throats. They knew the risks, especially Kate who was a bona fide nurse at the time.

These two have an army of nannies and helpers, giving them plenty of time to get hair extensions and their nails done regularly, go to the gym, and pick out nice outfits to wear, as they gallivant around in limos to get them their various TV gigs.

Instead, tell me about the single mothers who have to do it ALL by themselves- the cooking the cleaning the clothes washing, the driving, the care taking on a full-time basis, so they don’t have time to go to the gym or get their hair done or nails manicured .

Tell me about the mothers who have to raise their kids on their OWN with NO HELP and yet stay up late and during their kid’s nap times and school times, take classes on- line so they can get a college education and earn a degree to better their lives. These women are inspirations to me and would be to any young woman out there.
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NUDE PHOTOS AND MAKING A SEX TAPE AS A WAY OF ACHIEVING FAME
KIM KARDASHIAN

While Kim Kardashian is very pretty, after she opens her mouth and you hear her uptalk, nasality and monotone in my opinion, that is where her prettiness ends. Why is this woman famous and how did she become famous enough for her and her entire family to now have a reality show on E!

“No one heard of Kim Kardashian until she made sex tape where her ample butt was featured. That paved the way for her and her sisters to become household names. Today they are featured in practically every magazine in the country on a regular basis.

TILA TEQUILA

Then there is Tila Tequila who everyone seemed to forget about after her show, “A Shot With Tila Tequila” 1 and 2 on MTV ended. But recently, after a sex tape of her surfaced giving oral sex to someone, being allegedly abused by a former boyfriend, and becoming engaged to now deceased Johnson and Johnson heiress Casey Johnson, and now her alleged developing pregnancy, she is suddenly back in the limelight where her every move appears to be documented on Radaronline.

SNOOKI

Now an alleged  sex tape and definate naked photos have allegedly surfaced of diminutive Snooki of the Jersey Shore, no doubt insuring that she will retain top star status of her show, if not a spinoff of her own show which she has mentioned she wants. She’s even names it “Sookin for Love.” There is no doubt that someone will eventually give her some type of show.

GIVING YOUNG WOMEN A WRONG MESSAGE

While I’m all for being making a living and even making that living on television, in my view, I feel that rewarding women for bad, vulgar or lewd abusive, or irresponsible behavior by giving them a show and an opportunity to be a role model, gives a very bad message to our future generation of young women.

I see it as a setback to women who have struggled so hard to gain respect and dignity that has been so difficult to achieve.

Women have worked very hard for equality and respect over the past three decades. Today women are in positions that they would never have been in decades ago. They are doctors, lawyers, CEO’s, politicians, judges , businesswomen, philanthropists, entrepreneurs, and world leaders.


SEEING THE RIGHT WOMEN WHO INSPIRE AND HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER

Some of the top movers and shakers in the world are women. These are the women who are talented and accomplished and  have so much to offer

They inspire others and need to be rewarded and looked up to as role models in my view. Women who have made it on their own, against all odds ,and who have done unselfish things for others also need to be looked up to and admired and rewarded in my opinion.

ANGELINA AND HAYDEN AS INSPIRATIONS

No matter what you think of Angelina Jolie, she in my view , a wonderful woman who is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside. She is a great role model to women. Not only did she adopt needy children, she raises social awareness of what is going on with women and children in third world countries.

Even young and beautiful actress Hayden Panettiere is someone to be looked up to as she puts her passion into a worldwide crisis — being dedicated to save dolphins.

Their positive behavior, education, unselfish actions, awareness and genuine accomplishments need to be rewarded- not the reverse.

In my view I think that having these type of women on a television show where they can be a voice to other women and serve as a role model would be so beneficial to young people.

YOUNG WOMEN SEEING OTHER INSPIRING WOMEN ON TV

Mind you thes type of women on TV do exist in the form of Oprah, Ellen, Nancy Grace, Diane Sawyer, Katie Couric, Mary Hart, Joy Behar, Meredith Viera, Heidi Klum, Jane Velez Mitchell, Greta Van Sustern, Tyra Banks, Robin Roberts, Barbara Walters, Julie Chen, Chelsea Lately, Rachel Ray, and Whoopie Goldberg. Seeing these type of wonderful women over the airwaves needs to happen more in my view.

Young women need to look at these women and others as a means of inspiring them towards being the best they can be!

They need to see that it is a woman’s brains, behavior, actions, accomplishments talents, and abilities that should inspire them- not the fact that someone has spread their legs, shown off their booty, shown ugly abusive and self-centered behavior or are talentless and ITLESS.

There are way too many other women out there who have worked hard to gain the respect and recognition they deserve They have proven talent and abilities and have IT.

Let’s go forward with these type of women, not backward! Let’s feature women who can inspire our future generation of young women.  www.drlillianglass.com

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