Even though Marc and Jennifer appeared  affectionate during the photo shoots,  there was no sincerity  detected body language wise as you can see. In the photo above  Anthony  leads J Lo as he holds her hand. But the giveaway is that they are both looking in different directions.That is not a good sign for a loving couple.

The next giveaway is that neither of them are smiling and J Lo looks directly at Anthony with tension around her eyes in the form of a glare. This is not how a loving couple looks at one another.  Anthony on the other hand, shows a lot of tension in the lower jaw region  ads you can see in the photo, which is another sign that things are not good between them.

To try to show the press that there was intimacy between them, Anthony even held onto J.Lo’s waist as  men  commonly tend to do when their partner’s are pregnant with their child. The pose here is completely contrived and painful to look at. First of all look at the pressure of Anthony’s finger muscles on J’Lo’s abdomen. They are pushing in and the fingers arte not relaxed and open. Instead they are close together and tight. He is pressing too hard to indicate affection.

Next, look at their faces. They are looking in opposite directions which is another bad sign and Marc looks tense and pained. His eyes look sad as they are narrowed where he is also leaking out anger. No doubt deep down he must be feeling angry that he has to perform this charade in order to promote their project together. Look at the muscle tension on the side of his lower jaw. That spells- anger.

J Lo is not doing any better int he anger and sadness department. Even though she appears to be smiling, it is a fake smile. Cover up her lips  int he photo with your hand and you will see sad eyes which are not smiling. This indicates that there is ambivalence on her part. There is tension in her cheeks and  a great deal of muscle tension in her neck region as you can see. This indicates that she is not comfortable being around her ex and is feeling tense and unhappy about the situation, even though she is trying to mask it.   Finally her head is bowed down indicating that she is feeling insecure and less than herself when she is  in Anthony’s presence.

Reporters who attended the press conferences stated that  there was an awkwardness between them. The press conference was so controlled by  press handlers so stop reporters from delving into  J Lo and Mark Anthony’s realtionship issues and detract from promoting their project, that the reporters were barely given time to ask questions.

The tension in J Lo’s face is remarkable. She is clenching down on her back teeth in anger as she leans her upper body away from her ex. He is extremely tense facially and his shoulder is up indicating that he is literally giving her the “cold shoulder.”

They were asked by a member of the press hat it was like working together .  JLo   merely mirrored back the question in a monotone voice as she responded “We have a great time working together.” When someone parrots back phrases rest assured they are not being forthright. When people are going through a split, you can bet they are not having a great time working together. Also the choice of her word “great” is used by her  to overcompensate for the opposite feelings that she really has towards Anthony and towards their current situation.

At one point,  Marc looked at all the rings on Jennifer’s left hand and looked very sad and surprised  as you can see that his jaw is more slack as he did not see the wedding ring  her gave her on her finger. J Lo looks angry and tense as you can see the tension in her neck muscles along with a sweaty shiny forehead to further indicate discomfort anxiety, and tension.

This photo is  further indication that there is indeed hard feelings between them.

In every photo they both look miserable in one another’s presence.

Iran is threatening to close the Straight of Hormuz and if so the military will send in their best allies- dolphins who have been trained to detect mines with their unique communication skills.

Dolphins  have sonar  that is so advanced that  they can discern specific coins from hundreds of  feet away . The  US Navy have many  bottlenose dolphins in the who are taught to hunt for mines and drop acoustic transponders nearby.In the above photo you can see dolphins with a  tracking device attached to its fin

The the dolphins only detect the mines, they don’t destroy them and they are unharmed according to the military.

These  US dolphins are being  trained and used for peace purposes unlike the Iranian dolphins which were purchased 12 years ago from the Soviets who’s navy initially trained them  kill and attack warships and frogmen. All of these killing dolphins who were  trained to attack enemy frogmen with harpoons attached to their backs, or to drag them to the surface to be taken into captivity were sold to Iran, because the trainer could no longer feed them after they were sent to an aquatic attraction in Sevastopol.

Many of these killer dolphins are capable of undertaking  kamikaze strikes against enemy carrying mines that would explode a ship on contact with its hull. In fact the

dolphins were allegedly trained to  distinguish foreign and Soviet submarines  use just by the sound of their propeller. Dolphins were allegedly trained to  distinguish foreign and Soviet submarines  use just by the sound of their propeller.

According to research by the Whale and Dolphin Conservation Society, numerous ex-Soviet military dolphins have been sold to aquariums around the world. The aquarium in Sevastopal was one of them, who in turn sold them to the Iranians for nefarious purposes.

Then seven hers later  in 2007, 152 dolphins were washed up on Iran’s southern coast  when Iranian fisherman were  said to have beaten the animals who got entangled in their fishing nets. While the Iranians accused the US of being behind this , there is no documentation or proof of this. Some even say that these massive dolphin deaths were due to electromagnetic waves from various military vessels in the gulf, including Iranian vessels.

It is unconscionable that any animal is treated inhumanely or used for evil purposes. By nature dolphins are not violent creatures so to use them in this capacity  towards violent acts is a  major sin against nature.  Unlike the Iranians, the US has only utilized the help of these amazing  dolphins for good  and not evil.

We see a very different looking Joran Van der slot when he was first  arrested and frightened after being arrested for killing Stephanie Flores in Peru and paraded around.  Then we saw a wide eyed frightened Joran. Today we see a heavier and more cocky Joran. The cocked head to the side and the tight lipped appearance indicate his insincerity.

His shoulder shrugs as you can see int his photo when he spoke the words  Yes I want to plead guilty. I wanted  from the first moment to confess sincerely. As he states these words you can see many signals of deception. The statement analysis indicates deception as well based on the words he chose. It is not true that Joran wanted to plead guilty from the first moment to confess.He was adamant from the beginning that he was innocent and then claimed he was coerced into a confession by the Peruvian authorities. Also the word sincerely is also significant as there eis nothing sincere about his confession.

Also the repetition of  the  word  ”wanted” speaks to yet another issue- his seeing himself as a victim in all of this. In essence he says that he wanted to do so at the beginning but no one would let him. We clearly know that this is not so based on reports of his actions early on during his arrest and subsequent incarceration.

His monotone voice along with his cocked head belie his words as he continues to say  I am truly sorry for this bad act. He shrugs his shoulders looks up,  away from the three judges  as he cocks his head. Not only does he shrug his shoulder, he keeps it in the same raised position which indicates that he is literally giving the “cold shoulder” to match his cold monotoned voice pattern.

His words indicate the opposite based on his body language behaviors. He is not sorry at all and does not consider this a bad act. he has no feeling and no remorse  whatsoever and it shows.

Then he immediately switches up the words and says  I am truly sorry for this act. I feel bad. The fact that he repeats his apology as he alters the word order confirms that he is lying about feeling sorry for his “bad act”.

But now he is actually showing signals of honesty when he makes this latest statement. He now focuses his eyes back on the judges as he l looks directly at them as he now bows his head in sorrow. Yes he is sorry, but NOT for killing Stephanie Flores. He is sorry for getting caught . In fact he is truly sorry he got caught. Now he does not call it a bad act as he did initially. Now he simply calls it an act .In essence he is saying that he is sorry he was caught for his act of killing Stephanie Flores which he does not consider  bad , but merely an act.

Then he says I feel very bad. This is true based on his body language. He feels very bad because he was caught doing this act that he did not consider bad. Note how the  position of the words  bad and act have changed in his statement. It is not longer a bad act. Now he feels bad he was caught in the act.

He is still nervous and anxious as she shows signs of this rocking back and forth freighting movements which his legs constantly moving as he sat and waited to speak,  through his profuse sweating  and itching as you can see int he photo above.

However he cannot help but leak out his arrogance and self righteousness through his erect posture and raised shoulder literally giving the judges a cold shoulder via his insincere confession . He does however feel vulnerable as you can see  by his hands clasped over his private area. While he believe he was justified in what he did to Stephanie and feels forced to confess for the reward to a lighter sentence, he is still nervous and frightened by what the sentence will be. Also if you look at the muscle tension of his hands as he clasps them over his groin area you can see that he is indeed exhibiting a lot of nervousness and tension as he is holding on to himself for dear life.

Another change in Joran is that there is a lot of puffiness under his eyes which may indicate he is not getting a lot of sleep in prison and/ or possibly doing drugs. It has been said that for the right amount of money one can get just about  anything in this prison.

Joran’s legal defense was that he had Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome from the Natalie Holloway incident because  he was hounded by the press for her alleged killing. Perhaps this was the best defense that his attorney could come up with because there was certainly no other defense as to why Joran would kill a lovely Peruvian girl with a bright future ahead of her.  This lame defense got him two years less than the maximum 30 years he would have received had he not confessed.

As we see from Joran’s photos, prison life has not been good to him. He looks bad and as he lingers in prison for the next  close to three decades, he will look even worse and prison life will be worse to him. Based on his actions during  his court proceedings he knows this as well.

His slovenly appearance shows that he did not care how he looked or came across. He may have been told by his attorney that his confession would result in less prison time. because of his arrogance he may have interpreted this less prison time to be  only a a few years. That would explain why he was visibly angry when the judge ordered him to 28 years in prison. He was reported to have  cursed  out loud as she was also ordered to  pay $75,000 in reparations.

But Under Peru’s laws, however, van der Sloot could get out after serving half of his sentence. This means the 24 year old  could be out when he is 38. That means he would have a long life ahead of him to live freely. With book, film and TV interviews he could be a very wealthy man, continue his gambling lifestyle and life like nothing ever happened.

But that will not be the case if the US has anything to do about it. He may be extradited to the US for extortion in the Natalie Holloway case.  If found guilty, he would be put away for more time and serve it in the US.

It is unclear  to date whether Joran will stay at Castro Castro prison where he has been isolated from the other prisoners or whether now that he has been sentenced, he  will be among the general population there. it is unclear as to whether he will be transferred to a more harsher prison in Peru and placed int he general population.

If placed the general population Joran will be a walking dead man as there is fierce loyalty even among prisoners when it comes to a national hero- Stephanie Flores’ father.If another prisoner does not kill him, disease such as TB and AIDS may do it, thus making it doubtful that we will see Joran on the streets of Aruba, the Netherlands or any other place int he world.

If by some fluke of nature he does come out of prison alive at age 38, he will no doubt suffer the same fate as OJ and so many others where they commit  another bad act to land themselves in prison for life.

While nothing can bring back Stephanie Flores, justice was  finally served as she can now rest in peace. Let’s hope the same justice can be served for Natalie Holloway so she too can rest in peace and so her loving mother Beth can also have some peace.

In general we see Casey with her new image which mirrors her mother Cindy’s  image complete with blond bleached  hair and that short hairdo. Isn’t  it interesting how subconsciously she emulates Cindy- the very person she hates. Still true to form, Casey does her hair tossing habit as you can see above.

Casey has a monotone and sounds as though she is depressed.  She has a victim like “poor me” tone to her voice as though he was the victim in all of this- not Caylee. Look at her victim like  half smile ambivalent expression and body language with her rounded shoulders as she says this.

You would think that in her first video blog she would at least mention Caylee and say how sorry she was for what happened or how she missed her and discuss the tragedy of it all. But no!. Instead, she is on camera to tell us. how she finally has something of her own (note key the word  she used- something as though Caylee was a nothing ) as she tells that she has adopted a dog. (Where is PETA when you need them?)

If you look at Casey’s body language there is a lot of shoulder shrugging and lip pursing which indicates anxiety and deception. She knows she shouldn’t be doing a video blog because she knows what people’s reaction will be. But she does it anyway and feels awkward about it because no count the money was right.

And yes I say money. This was on youtube. Depending on how many hits a youtube post gets,money is made. When you see a commercial before a video that means there were a lot of hits and now there is revenue sharing.

In her non emotion filled voice she says Casey says This has been a blessing in so many ways! WHAT???? A dead child is no blessing to anyone but it obviously is to her. Getting off  and out of jail is a blessing for sure only because of Jose Baez’ charming the jury. I believe that and always will. She is out because the jury liked Jose a lot better than they liked Ashton. In her sick mind no doubt not having Caylee around  to compete with her, must also be a blessing.

Why is TMZ putting this on their website?  I will tell you why?  It is for ratings. They know they will get millions fo hits with anything Casey Anthony. I think it is repulsive! Why give this woman any airtime or internet time?

Casey tells us that she’s adopted a dog and she loves  the dog. But as she says this she shakes her he’d NO. The reason her words don’t match her body language is reflected  in that Casey isn’t capable of loving anyone but herself in my view.

And he’s as much my dog as any of the other pets I’ve ever had as she dies off at the end of the sentence and purses her lips. Maybe the dying off at the end of her statement and lip pursing has something to do with perhaps the demise of her other pets. Was she thinking about the other pets she had that were wrapped in plastic bags and duct taped and buried? Remember how many pets died in the Casey Anthony household when Cindy described it on the stand?

This narcissist’s  main concern  on this video is I don’t know whether to look up or at myself as  she conducts her self video. She feels insecure as her main focus is looking good. We saw that by all of her grooming behavior in the courtroom. If she was so interested on looking good she shouldn’t have worn those torn jeans with her  boney knee sticking out  as she caressed it .Her low cut top screamed of the sexual attention Casey craves and once had in abundance.

Then she says, without a smile “Things are starting to change in a  good way. As she looks sad as she says this. While she isn’t getting prison slop three times a day and living in a cage, she will get  a harsh reality when she leaves her halfway house or secret facility. She will see that change may not be in such a good way after all. She will see how hated she is in the outside world. But perhaps the change in a good way that she  was talking about   maybe how much money she  perhaps received from TMZ putting this on their site  or a video broker to air her video blogs. No doubt  this was not done for free. Someone made money from this. Maybe Jose put it up as a way  Casey could pay his hefty legal fees.

Then she says wistfully, I hope things stay good. She looks away and has her had on her neck and makes a doubtful look. Placing her hand on her neck indicates a feeling of vulnerability , high anxiety and fear as she knows  deep down things will not stay good for her.  She  then says that she hopes  that they only get better. She knows there is a long hard road ahead of her with no protection in the real world. She knows the public hate will be severe. 

And of course there is the  usual Casey Anthony hair toss hair toss as she says he will do another video later.

Now here is where she continues hr lies and manipulation. She says she hates doing  (the video blogs) because she hates being on camera  ?????This little narcissist couldn’t get enough camera time. And a stint in jail didn’t change that. This is who she is- an attention seeking self absorbed human being.  She LOVES seeing herself on camera. Look at the countless photos we saw of her mugging for cameras with her tongue between her two fingers and eating a taco in a disgusting manner.

Then she has the audacity to sat she has a fear of being on camera and is  conquering her fear by starting now.WHAT????

This clearly shows deception and manipulation as she is now doing it on her self video blogs.Her facial expressions are an anttempt to get you feel sorry for her like saying Poor me.I’m only doing this to be brave and conquer my fears. Puhleeeze! WE are not stupid! We see right through this stupid nonsense.
In the clip – which Anthony says was taped on October 13, 2011 — she says, “I’m extremely excited … that I’ll be able to Skype and obviously keep a video log … How can one be extremely excited and then hate to be on camera. In essence she is saying she loves that she can be in the public eye and get attention through her video blog and on the other hand she says in her whiney tone how she doesn’t like to be on camera.

She says It’s been a long time since I’ve been able to call something mine.”These words are  HUGELY revealing in my view, She could not call Caylee hers. Caylee was her mother Cindy’s. Cindy was the one who forced Casey to keep Caylee and  not put her up for adoption.Then Cindy took over with the mothering and raising of Caylee so Casey never bonded with Caylee and felt she was hers. After all Cindy was the one who allegedly first held Caylee, not Casey.

Also in the video she says about her  location , “I’ll be here for many many months … even if  I  get off probation early.” Well lets do the math here. Casey did the tape in October. She says he will be out in February (which is fast approaching). In my view this was a way she could get some money to begin her new life out of the facility she is in.

She sounds vapid and unemotional and completely disconnected as she speaks.

It was very disturbing o watch this video when you are well aware of the motive behind it- MONEY! Producer Scott Sternberg’s low life venture  did not pan out as no one wanted to give Casey 3/4 of a million dollars to talk so now they went to Plan B- the internet.

Perhaps they think that  if ratings are so high, someone out there in media land will offer her a book deal and/or a TV interview. They were obviously testing the waters with this self video. Isn’t it odd that it was released only a few weeks after Scott Sternberg failed to deliver financially?  Now with the amount of hits that this video generated, Casey  and or her handlers are  no doubt making money anyway.

It is all so sickening. A baby is dead and people are profiting from it. Cindy was in the courtroom scribbling her notes. No doubt she will be next on the circuit promoting her book. I hate this. I also can’t stand  that Jeff Ashton is profiting from this. He doesn’t deserve a cent from this tragedy in my view.  He is one of the key  reasons in my view the case was lost. The jury  simply didn’t like him. They found him arrogant. The case was won because the jury liked Jose Baez a lot better. When he laughed at Jose in the courtroom the Jury detested him. It was guy behavior and unprofessional and the jury got it.

Casey has gone to great lengths on this video to show us her changed up image from brunette to blond and  from no glasses to glasses. Why would she do this if she wanted to remain protected and stay under the radar? The answer is simple, M O N E Y!  Don’t be surprised if her image changes again. I hope this is the last video we see.

I think it will only make the public more and more angry. Casey has NOTHING to say. NOTHING! We heard it all through her lies and her body language. And George and Cindy have nothing more to say either . They lied on the stand and are still free which is also a travesty of justice. Anyone else would be behind bars. They needed to be prosecuted for their lies.

Caylee is dead while Casey is out making money and Grandma Cindy and George will  no doubt  soon follow in her footsteps perhaps with a video blog of their own.

I can’t think of anything more repulsive than hearing anything out of  liar Casey Anthony’s mouth besides producer Scott Stenberg trying to cash in on the action and make a quick  buck off her back and the back of a dead baby. If he sells it I am boycotting it and him to boot.

Acquitted or not, no one deserves to make money off of  a dead baby- Caylee Marie Anthony. We have wasted enough time  dissecting this case. We have heard ALL that Casey Anthony has to say with her body language and repeated verbal and vocal  lies.

We have  even heard her repulsive mother  Cindy lie repeatedly  on the stand and in the media. We have heard the same lies from her father and brother.  It is over! Let this precious baby rest in peace.

If Scott  whom I happen to know personally sells this sleeze for the quarter of  the quarter of a  million he is asking for  it, Casey doesn’t deserve to get a cent and neither does he. As far as I am concerned it is nothing more than blood and death  money. Scott obviously knows its sleazy  otherwise he would be pitching the show openly and not” quietly” as  the Hollywood Reporter quoted.

While Scott asks for his hefty sum of up to  $750,000  for a promised no holds barred Casey Anthony interview, thankfully no  network is touching his offer. They know  that it will be a disappointment  mainly because the know  Casey will never tell the truth and they will receive severe backlash from the public and national outrage news

In fact, according to the Hollywood Reporter Anthony’s pariah status has already spurred divisions to publicly disavow the common and age-old practice of licensing personal photos and home video from interview subjects as a fig leaf to paying outright for interviews. And ABC News, CBS News and NBC News all have stated adamantly that they would not pay for an Anthony interview specifically.

Any advertiser who would put their product in a show featuring Casey Anthony would run the risk of having their products boycotted as well just by the negative association.

And what does  Scott Sternberg have to say about all of this?  As the Hollywood Reporter quotes “He declined to comment. ” To me that says it all!

So when I watched Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries take their vows on television some 70 something days ago and saw too much space between them, and an awkwardness, I knew something was way off. When I was asked to analyze their body language by the media I knew something was seriously wrong and they would NEVER last long as a couple.I was clearly right in my assessment as they soon announced that they would be divorcing.

But when Kris Humphries, on the second installment of Kris and Kourtney take New York, said to Kim as they were horsing around on the bed “Your armpits smell like a combination of fish and hot garbage.” it revealed a lot.

In so many photos Kim literally seemed repulsed by Kris as I even mentioned this on Hollywoodlife.com But Kris’s statement about Kim’s smell reflects that he too may have been repulsed by her and her smell and her pheromones.

PHEROMONES SPEAK VOLUMES

Research has shown how powerful pheromones can be in terms of physical attraction. If you have ever been madly in love with someone you can’t get enough of them. When they are not around you miss everything about them- even their smell. You may even resort to sleeping with their tee shirt just to get a blast of their pheromones they left behind. Pheromones are what is referred to in common terms as “chemistry”. You have it or you don’t. And Kim and Kris obviously don’t have it.

And please don’t write t tell me Kris was only kidding. He could have kidded by saying something else. But to actually describe the smell of Kim’s pits so graphically also giving choices – “fish” or “hot garbage” it is clear that it was a smell thing. That does not mean that Kim stinks or has a body odor.

Obviously Reggie didn’t think so, or maybe he did as they are obviously not together. But it does mean that Kim’s pheromones were not compatible with Kris Humphry’s pheromones. There relationship or lack therof, shows us that there is a lot more that goes into a relationship than money, power, looks, or status. It involves smell. Animals know it better than anyone. They either like ort dislike another animal based on their smell. We are just the same, only we try to disguise it with all of the other things mentioned above.

This photo of the two of them walking down the isle is haunting. Look at Fernando’s body language. He is stiff. He leans away from his bride. There is no smile on his face. He is wide-eyed and there appears to be an enormous amount of tension around his mouth and shoulder area a he awkwardly hold his bride’ hand. He does not look like a man who is happily in love or happy to be married.

Trudian Hay, who is also the mother of his two young daughters has no clue what he was about to do a few hours later.In contrast, she appears to be elated and in a world of her own. She is laughing. Her head and body  is turned away from Fernando as she  has no clue that he  looks extremely uncomfortable, upset  and  almost on a state of shock as he completed  saying his vows and walked down the isle.

No one seemed to notice Fernando’s misery as he and the bride kissed as they all looked on , sharing in what they thought was the couple’s mutual joy. If you look closely at their post marital kiss he is stiff and non responsive.

It is Trudian who appears to be more dominant in reaching up to kiss him as indicated by the way she is straining and elongating her neck. He doesn’t bend down to meet her kiss. He is ridged  in his posture and there appears to be no joy expressed in his face. It is the complete opposite facial expression that his bride has on her face.

Trudian leans into fernando but he looks pained . he looks as though he is about to cry- and not from happiness. He looks terribly sad as he shows no affection and does not reciprocate the leaning in towards Trudian. His shoulders are slouched and he looks severely depressed.

Apparently Fernando was so upset over feeling forced into getting married by Tudian , according to his sister, Shawna Weeks that hejumped into the Harlem River  and ended his life.

According to his sister, Fernando came to her home every week after work to talk about his concerns – and stated his eyes were eyes “blood shot” and in a state of despair. She said he shared with her that he and Trudia “had nothing in common and .”That’s why they postponed the wedding a year ago. He was being pressured into it.”

And that  Tudia was a to be a “great person,” but “just not for him.”

HE  WENT THROUGH WITH THE MARRIAGE

But  unwillingly he went through with the wedding anyway.Perhps he didn’t know how to say no to Trudia, that he didn’t want to marry her. Perhaps the fact that he reportedly dated her since they were teenagers made it more difficult to break it to her that he didn’t want to spend the rest of his life with her. Maybe he felt obligated  to go ahead with it because they had a two and a five year old together. Maybe he didn’t want to upset their families who knew one another for so many years.

But Fernando’s tragic act has now ended up hurting EVERYONE- his bride, his family, her family, their friends and most of all their babies who now have to grow up fatherless.

He was  clearly depressed. His sister confirmed it. He reached out to his her but unfortunately he wasn’t equipped to say No. He took the cowardly way out  in my view. He did a very TOXIC and  passive aggressive act. He went ahead and married and gave Trudian what she wanted but then he in essence said, I’ll show you, I’ll marry you but that’s it. There is no living happily every after with us.

LESSONS TO BE LEARNED

This tragedy upsets me on so many levels. It upsets me that poor Fernando didn’t see a professional who could have saved his life by either giving him needed medication or by teaching him how to stick up for himself and his needs and say NO to the marriage.

It upsets me that Trudian will  now be traumatized for the rest of her life as will her children.

All Trudian  most likely  wanted was happiness and the dream of having her man. Who knows if she gave him ultimatums like so many women and men unfortunately do-  marry me or you won’t see the kids or marry me  or……. (fill in the blank).

I don’t know if Trudia did this but Fernando; sister seemed to imply that she as the one who pressed him into marriage. If that is the case it upsets me on yet another level.

For decades , there have been  books written on how to get your man to marry you. SO many of them are filled with techniques of how to manipulate your man to get them to marry you  ( they can apply to gettingyour woman to marry you as well). I have always been in opposition to these books and the authors who write them .

While you may very well get someone to marry you by following their cookbook approach. But will you get that person to stay married to you? The answer is a resounding NOOOO!

Fernando’s story  is one  tragic way out but there are others- from violence to abuse to living separate lives to cheating to being miserable.

If one of the parties does not want to marry you, you can’t manipulate or force them. It HAS to be mutual or chances are it won’t end well. You can’t clap with one hand and you can’t marry with one partner being all for it an the other one being unwilling.

I am sure there are stories out there of the reluctant bride or groom who ended up being married for 50 years But were they happily married?  Most likely they were not and for whatever reason the reluctant bride or groom adapted.

The bottom line is that you can’t manipulate for force anyone to do anything- especially marry you or it might end up like Fernando and Trudian’s tragic story. And most important of all JUST SAY NOOOOO if you feel something isn’t  right and TALK to a professional. If Fernando did this he may have been alive today.

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When I saw the video of icon and leading man heartthrob back in the day, Omar Sharif of Dr. Zhivago fame ,I was beyond shocked. He abusively slapped  a woman simply because she wanted to have her photo taken with him. It was appalling. What was more appalling was looking at the video frame by frame and seeing how he gets enraged, slaps her, goes off on her, feels guilty about it, tries  to make nice but he is still  angry as he considers her the catalyst  for making him angry.

Meanwhile, like many abused women, she smiles through it all an accepts it. But the smile is tense and a smile of embarrassment.  Her body language reveals fear. As he tries to make nice, she backs off. He agrees to take a photo with her but his body language shows that he still habors resentment towards her.

Several years ago a study was done which showed women in Qatar tend to overlook when they are abused. That is devatsating news. The woman Sharif slapped seems to demonstrate this .

Below are the shocking series of events.

Sharif’s body language shows he is enraged  as he slaps this poor woman and yells at her that she needed to wait her turn to have her photo taken with him.

The woman fears him and his rage as she holds up her hand defensively.

The woman smiles and continues to smile throughout the ordeal.This is typical of abused women who may believe that they “deserved” it. No one deserves this kind of treatment-EVER!

He continues to berate her.He gestures wildly to ask her what he was thinking. All she did was try to get a photo with  him. An Egyptian, Sharif is considered one of the biggest  Middle Eastern  actors of all time. So for this woman to get a little excited and perhaps not wait her turn to get his photo is understandable.

He continues to berate this poor woman unmercifully. It is so embarrassing that the woman standing next to him who is most likely a handler bows her hed in shame as she wears an ambivalent smile.

Sharif now has a sudden change of heart as he realizes what he has done in front of the cameras. Can you imagine what this Toxic man must do when there are no cameras present ?

You can actually see him thinking about what he just did as the expression on his face  dramatically changed. His handler on the right has now distanced herself from Sharif as she looks downa nd away. Meanwhile the abuse victim continues to wear a mask like smile of embarrassment in order to save face..

As he has second thoughts as to what he did he bows his head in sham and walks over in the slapped woman’s direction. The photographer in the corner appears to be nervously amused and surprised . Hence the tense  ambivalent smile. He wonders what Sharif will do and whether there will be some more berating or slapping.

He comes over to her and this time the abuse victim cannot even beaar to look at him as she holds up her hand with the palm of her hand showing in an defensive gesture. He looks at her with hate and disdain. She creates a barrier between them with her hand as she looks away , yet continues her ambivalent smile. In essence she is guarding herself from another potential slap and or verbal abuse from Sharif.

He tried to “make up” by allowing her to have a phot with him. She obliges as that is what she wanted in the first place. She continues smiling her mask like smile as she did throughout the entire ordeal.  Meanwhile he turns his body away during this photo op as he really doesn’t want to have his photo taken with her but he does it to make himself feel better in trying to right his wrong in slapping her.

He now turns to look at her and says something in Arabic which causes her  to have a genuine smile. Look at the crinlking around her eyes. It is no longer mask like. She is  clearly taken aback as you can see by her retracted chin. This leads me to believe he may have even apologized to her. This is tyoical behavior of so many abusers. They las.h out, feel guilty and try to make things right.

Now they get ready to pose for the photographer. The woman is back to her mask like smile. He leans in for the phoo and looks at her to see how she is reacting to all of this. There is a look of  remorse  on his face  as he leans into her and looks directly at her. She does not look at him. Instead she looks in the direction of the photograher. Even though she has a slight smile on her lips, her eyes reflect sadness.

The photo is snapped and the woman is elated. Here she wears a genuine smile. It was a huge price to pay, but she finally got what she wanted- a photo of her with Omar Sharif. He leans in but does NOT smile. He is not happy with himself that he acted like a complete jerk for the world to see. His hunched over shoulders show embarrassment,  He feels even worse that this woman seems so happy now that the photo is taken, despite her slap.

The woman is so pleased and says thank you to him several times. In true Toxic Man form he turns away from he  and doesn’t even acknowledge her  thank you. He can’t wait to get away fast enough.

This is HORRIBLE! He is lucky the slap took place in Quatar. had it happened in the US, this woman would be very rich and he would be facing criminal charges as he would be hauled off to jail.

Having written the book Toxic Men which was released last year, I can assure you that Sharif shows all the characteristics of an abusive man. Here we all saw it frame after frame. Having seen the real Omar Sharif, there is no way I would even consider viewing any film he was in. This image of him slapping a woman is in my mind forever and that is the image I would see every time he would come on the screen for his acting scene.

This incident shows up a lot. It shows us how we idolize people for no good reason. We idolize them simply because they were in a film or on TV or they played well in a sport we like. If we admire and look up to  someone we should know a lot more about them-like their character. Apparently this was no an isolated incident.

Apparently Sharif has a long history of  getting physically abusive  with people  . In fact less than a decade ago, he attacked a policeman in a Paris casino and four years back, he pleaded no contest to” misdemeanor battery” for beating up a Beverly Hills parking attendant.