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Cindy Anthony’s Letters to Casey Reveal Her Focus on Casey’s “Beauty” And Possible Manipulative Passive- Agressive “Mind Games”

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

WHY WHY WHY?

Reading Cindy’s letters to her daughter  Casey were very disturbing . My first question was a. ) why is  she writing diatribes about how Caylee will be found and how there were sightings as recent as January 2010 when we all know the remains were already found?

b) Why is she so concerned about  her daughter’s looks- her “beauty” a theme also common to George who also seems  overly concerned with his daughter’s looks and  weight gain  when she may be facing a lethal injection c)  why is she sending Casey photos of  Caylee and writing how much Caylee loved her mommy. Was it done to passive aggressively keep reminding  Casey what she did to Caylee?

In George’s words  WHY?WHY? WHY is she doing this?

CINDY’S ONCERN OVER CASEY’S PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

In my last blog concerning the Anthony’s I discussed George’s concern about Casey’s looks and weight.  Cindy apparently has the same concern with Casey’s looks  as you see above in a 2009 letter to Casey.  First she cuts Casey’s appearance  down by telling her “You look very tired.” Then in the next sentence she builds her up by telling her “You still look beautiful!” complete with exclamation mark for emphasis as she makes a point of Casey’s beauty.


Then she tells Casey how beautiful she looked when she was in Court in January 2010 as you can see above.

No wonder Casey is always seen grooming herself int he courtroom.  From the letters we can now see how much emphasis BOTH  George and Cindy paid to Casey’s appearance. In my view if f they would have put half that energy into paying attention to her  into her personality and correcting  her aberrant behaviors, they wouldn’t have t admire their daughter’s looks from afar in a courtroom where they mostly see the back of her head.

IS CINDY TRYING TO MANIPULATE ‘REASONABLE DOUBT’ VIA HER LETTERS TO CASEY?

As of 2010, everyone knows it was little Caylee’s skull that was found with the duct tape over the mouth and nose area. They know that Casey’s remains were found. So, for Cindy to refer to Caylee sightings as late as January 2010, it seems to me that  possibly Cindy

is  a) so in denial because the truth is too difficult for her to bear,

b) so out of it on medication that her memory is affected

c) is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s or

d)is writing these letters and reference to Caylee, as a form of manipulation in creating ” reasonable doubt”

I choose (d).Cindy is no dummy. Just as she knows all the videos will be seen,  she knows that all the letters  she writes to Casey will be seen and read/ Therefore , she knows that by writing about a Caylee  sighting,  if those letters become pieces of evidence they will be  used by the defense as a possible way to establish reasonable doubt.

Cindy is clearly being manipulative in my opinion and knows exactly what she is doing here. She even mentions  Zani’s half brother Hector as you see in her letter above, when she very well knows that there is no  Zani the nanny and definitely no Hector, which she wrote in parenthesis.

OF COURSE CINDY  WANTS TO UPSET CASEY

What is most telling about Cindy’s manipulation is how she began the sentence regarding the alleged Caylee sighting by writing”  the words“ I don’t want to upset  you.” To me it seems that is  EXACTLY what she wants to do with Casey- upset her.

She knows exactly what buttons to push with her sociopathic daughter. She knows exactly what will upset Casey.

No doubt, her interference,   trying to take control, getting involved in the case, and talking about Caylee sightings is no doubt  of those upsetting things.

I can also imagine how many times he bugs Jose Baez. In her letters she even says how overwhelmed her is. In writing that, she is no doubt trying to justify why he most likely ignores her and doesn’t respond to her. She even writes to Casey telling her to have the jail chaplain call her. I am sure that plea went unheeded as well.

The one thing that Casey is no doubt happy about is that she doesn’t have to deal with Cindy. She can shut her out by not allowing her to visit her in jail. From George’s letters we have seen that it is clearly Casey’s choice as to whom she allows or does not allow to see her in jail. George knows that it has to do with him personally as he begs for Casey to allow him to see her even for a minute.

But Cindy lives in the illusion that Casey is refusing to see her because the media would scrutinize their vista. As far as Casey is concerned, that is the furthest thing from the truth. She simply does not want to see Cindy just like she has no interest in seeing George. After all Cindy is the one who put her in by  calling  the police on her . There is no doubt Casey blames Cindy for her predicament and wants nothing to do with her.

So Cindy can do all the begging and pleading to see Casey, but Casey will not budge. The only good thing about her being in jail in Casey’s mind  is that she doesn’t have to be around Cindy. She can’t even bring herself to look at Cindy as evidenced when she is in the courtroom and ignores her mother and father.

ARE PHOTOS OF CAYLEE MORE OF CINDY’S MANIPULATION AND MORE OF HER WAY TO UPSET CASEY?

Why in the world is Cindy sending Casey so many photos of Caylee and various developmental stages in her babyhood? In my view it is  to serve as a  reminder to Casey of what she  did to Caylee.

The  photo  above of  Casey and Caylee   together was no doubt sent by Cindy to say. ” you killed a child who  looked like you.”  Cindy even emphasizes her point by  mentioning  in the letter  “I can’t get over how much Caylee resembled you.”

Cindy is not done with Casey yet. She attempts to make Casey feel guilty and remorseful for killing Caylee-( emotions which sociopathic Casey cannot and will not ever feel) by sending her an infant photo of Caylee with the following post it note attached to it that says “She was trying to tell us something even then. She loves her momma.”

To me this is a sickening display of passive aggressive manipulation in Cindy’s part.

The note is then signed “Caylee” in Cindy’s writing. If that isn’t a”head game” I don’t know what else is. Cindy is obviously saying” look what you did to this little baby who did nothing but innocently  love you .

What is written between those lines by Cindy speaks volumes.But Cindy doesn’t get it! Cindy doesn’t get that no matter how many photos or notes she sends Casey with regard to Caylee, Casey, doesn’t care! It means nothing to her. She doesn’t feel guilt or upset that she killed Casey. She feels relief that Casey is gone. The only upset she feels is a) when Cindy annoys her and b) that she got caught and is now in jail so she can’t party.Those are the extent of Casey Anthony’s feelings.

CINDY RUBBING MALLORY IN CASEY’S FACE


Cindy also tries to get to Casey by rubbing Mallory, Lee’s girlfriend in her face. No doubt this annoys Casey. After all Casey  was the star of the family whom everyone  doted on.

So now that Casey has to hear about Mallory I am sure that this is not music to narcissistic eyes, let alone ears.

Cindy goes on about how Mallory does this or that and how happy Lee is with Mallory and how Lee and Mallory are so cute  together. That is yet another reason Casey want’s nothing to do with Cindy.

CASEY NEVER WANTS TO WRITE CINDY

The above statement from Cindy even supplying Casey with paper and and a self addressed  envelope shows how desperate she is to get Casey to write. There is no way Casey will do that, especially if Cindy wants her to do so. No matter how many blank sheets of paper or envelopes Cindy provides, Casey is not writing her.

Cindy knows this. So to save face so she won’t look like she is a groveling like we saw George do in his letters. she casually asks Casey to simply drop her a line even if it is to say Hi. She is even willing to settle for a “Hi” on a blank sheet of paper  hopefully sent in a self addressed envelope.

CINDY TELLS CASEY TO CONTINUE TO FIGHT- BUT FIGHT FOR WHAT?

In her letters, Cindy consistently tells Casey to continue to  fight. In doing so is she telling Casey to continue to lie? It seems that way to me. What is she fighting for? What can Casey possibly say at this point? She lied about so much.



Then Cindy writes Casey about a dream that Casey was back home and how she prays Casey is “back home with us.”That is about all Cindy can do- dream and pray as the only home Casey will ever go to  is a small prison cell and perhaps  a coffin where she will be housed after she is executed for torturing and killing Casey.

Cindy also tells Casey “Don’t let them win.” In saying this is she encouraging Casey to continue to lie about what really happened to Caylee? This isn’t a game where one wins or loses. This is serious reality to find out the truth so that justice can be served.

IS CINDY’S DENIAL AND FIGHT DUE TO HER OWN GUILT?


There is no doubt in my mind that Cindy must be feeling tremendous  guilt for the death of Caylee.

After all she was the one who told Casey that she was going to keep Caylee and throw Caylee out. Had she never said such a thing to Casey. perhaps Caylee might be alive today.

She tries to pass that guilt on to Casey by sending her pictures and making manipulative statements that will never affect Casey, who does not have any feelings of guilt.

Cindy’s attempts at manipulating Casey to get her to feel guilt are really Cindy’s deep rooted feelings of her own  guilt. I imagine she has guilt for  how  poorly she raised Casey, how she didn’t set boundaries, or use enough tough love and how she let Casey get away with way too much for way too long.

Deep down Cindy knows what is going on. But for now. she tries to remain the loyal and supportive  parent  to Casey out of her own guilt. There is no doubt that when this is all over, her recovery time and her freedom from her guilt  will be quick.

WILL CINDY MOVE ON QUICKLY WHEN IT IS ALL OVER WITH CASEY?

If Casey is sent away for life or dies by lethal injection, my thoughts are that  Cindy will quickly move on.  Why I say that has a lot to do with the handwriting in her letters to Casey.

The slant of the writing is consistently upwards, unlike George’s which is consistently slanting downwards. Generally, when handwriting is slanted upwards it usually means happiness and optimism as opposed to a downward pessimistic and depressed outlook.

Maybe subconsciously, Cindy is happy that Casey is where she belongs- in jail. Maybe deep down she is happy that Casey is being punished for what she did to her beloved Caylee.

Maybe Cindy  is happy that Casey is locked up and she doesn’t have to deal with her stealing money or her lies any more. After all it was Cindy who made sure that the police was called so they could lock Casey  up. Maybe Cindy is optimistic that once Casey is finally out of her life for good, she will be more optimistic about her own future.

Personally, I believe that  she will use  what happened with Casey and Caylee as a vehicle for her own purpose and her own future -  to make a lot of money . This will be in keeping of what she wrote to Casey, regarding” Caylee not dying in vain”

For starters,  Cindy  will most likely  write a book and get a huge advance.  In fact it has been said that she is writing a book now.  Perhaps George’s essay  that he read on Fox 35, ” Under the Microscope” may have been part of his book proposal that he too will write.

If Cindy’s book becomes a reality, no doubt she will make a lot of money from the serial rights, foreign rights,  speaking tours, and may even  get paid  top dollar for exclusive interviews from various media outlets.

Even though she is not a very likable, her infamy may translate into dollars and cents.  I hope not, but  look at what has happened to others  in the past who were unlikable!

Her infamous notoriety may allow her to  get a TV gig like Tiger Wood’s sex partner,  Rachel Uchitel has on Access Hollywood, or a column  in the NY Daily News like Elliott Spitzer’s  prostitute Andrea Dupree , a co-hosting gig on CNN  like Andrea Dupree’s “john,” former Governor  Elliott Spitzer,  or even her own TV show like Omarossa may have and Kate Gosselin is about to have.

All I can say is let’s  just hope any show in which Cindy Anthony is involved  wouldn’t be about parenting!  The whole notion of this makes me sick,  but unfortunately it could very well become a reality.

One thing for sure is that you will never find me reading any book by George or Cindy Anthony or watching any show they may obtain in the future.

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