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Lindsay Lohan Recovery- Keep Toxic Father Michael Lohan Away

Friday, July 23rd, 2010

MICHAEL – LEAVE LINDSAY ALONE!

What about Lindsay’s telling her Michael Lohan that she doesn’t want to see him, doesn’t he understand? Michael’s most recent desperate and sickening PR move is to go to the women’s jail anyway, despite Lindsay’s wishes, and try to see Lindsay anyway.

But, before she went into the facility, Lindsay has made it perfectly clear that she wants noting to do with this TOXIC MAN . I strongly believe that his visit to her in jail can cause her even more emotional damage than already exists.

Michael Lohan knows that Lindsay most likely will not approve him as a visitor at the jail, so he says via the press that he’ll reach out to the jail’s chaplain to help broker some kind of meeting.

HOW DARE HIM? Let’s pray that the chaplain refuses to meet with him as well.

Michael has done more damage to Lindsay and in my opinion she is in the state she is in, largely because of Michael’s Toxic behavior.

Normally, I believe in healing relationships and in getting people back together. I speak of this in my best-selling book TOXIC PEOPLE and in my new book which will be out in November called TOXIC MEN and can be pre- ordered by clicking here http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X

But as I say in ,TOXIC MEN there are some relationships that are NOT able to be healed . There are some relationships that can never work no matter what. There are some relationships that re-stimulate such toxicity that no good can come of it.I believe the relationship between Lindsay and her father is clearly one of those relationships.

In those cases one must UNPLUG for good as Lindsay has done. I believe that only by Lindsay unplugging from her father and working out her issues concerning him in her lengthy treatment, can she survive in the long run.

MICHAEL IS CLEARLY USING LINDSAY TO BETTER HIS CAREER

To me it is so clear what is going on here. While part of the rehab process in using a 12 step approach is to make amends and to forgive those in your life, what Michael is doing is unforgivable in my view.

There are certain things you can never forgive no matter what . Michael is clearly using Lindsay’s fame and notoriety for his own gain . That is unforgivable.

There was no reason to betray Lindsay and reveal tape recorded conversations between the two of them with the media. That is unforgivable.

There was no reason for him to show up in court when she wanted him away from her.He said it was under the guise of helping her but he is in essence doing it to bring attention to himself so that he can later promote his tv shows and media ventures. That is unforgivable.

There was no reason for him to show up all over the media after Lindsay went to jail, from Larry King live to radar online to TMZ ans shooting his mouth off about Lindsay. He knows NOTHING about Lindsay. He is not in her inner circle and he is not close to her. All he has done is further alienate and embarrass her. That is unforgiveable.

LINDSAY TURNED THE PAIN TOWARDS HER TOXIC FATHER INWARDS

When Lindsay Lohan tweeted before she went to jail that she wanted nothing to do with her father, I believe that this was the first healthy sign for her. I hope and pray that as she gets sober and straightens out her life and that she gets a court order not only forbidding Michael to come near her but forbidding him from ever mentioning her name.

After observing her father’s shenanigans over the years and now observing the latest accusation of violence leveled against him by his fiancé Kate Major, it is my view that Lindsay’s father may very well be the root of Lindsay’s problems.

It seems to me that Lindsay has turned all of the pain she harbors towards her TOXIC father inward as a large part of her path towards self destruction. He no doubt has caused her a lot of emotional damage and intense embarrassment. Her anger and rage are largely due to him.

MICHAEL LOHAN= BONA FIDE TROUBLE SOURCE WHO’S ACTIONS SHOW HE HAS LOST GOD, NOT FOUND HIM

Everywhere that Michael goes, trouble seems to follow this convicted felon who went to prison for beating up his ex wife Dina’s brother.

He says he is a born again Christian and has found God. But I think that based on what we have seen from his behavior over these past years, he may have lost God.

A person who has found God and lives a good Christian life, does not pull a Judas on them and tape record their personal conversations like he did with Lindsay, Dina, his ex girlfriend and fiancé Erin, his ex boy friend Jon Gosselin,and now his ex fiancé Kate Major.

A man who has found God does not act so hateful and tell someone they have a “fat ass” on national television like Michael Lohan did to one of the Housewives of Atlanta.

A man who has found God does not allegedly kick his fiancé out of a chair or physically harm her to the point that he has to have a restraining order or harassment document filed against him.

MICHAEL IS NOT HEEDING ATTORNEY LISA BLOOM’S ADVICE TO NOT SPEAK TO THE PRESS

I only have complete respect and admiration for Lisa Bloom who is a fellow media analyst. She is also a very qualified and respected attorney. She is Michael’s attorney. I ran into her in the makeup room at the Insider at CBS a few weeks ago and asked her how she could represent this Toxic Man.

Lisa told me that was able to see the good in Michael and said he had a big heart. She told me how she first met him when they were both volunteering in a soup kitchen to feed the homeless.

She also told me that he was misrepresented by the press so she said that as his representative one of her responsibilities was to keep him away from speaking to the press without her guidance, so he won’t be left to his own devices and do himself damage.

Her efforts worked for a while as she was able to present Michael in a different light. In fact both Michael and Lisa went to court the day of Lindsay’s appearance, to give Judge Marsha Revel a letter a from Michael stating that Lindsay should be in rehab and not in jail. Lisa spoke to cameras while Michael kept still and it was effective. She even went on Larry King live with him to guide what he could and could not say.

But obviously Michael is not listening to Lisa now. He is disrespecting her orders to him which are to stay away from the media unless she is involved . So now he is running off at the mouth and speaking on his own behalf sans Lisa. What he said on TMZ and Radaronline these past few days has been unconscionable. He is back to his old Michael turn off ways. It is disrespectful to Lisa.

MICHAEL’S COMPLETE DISRESPECT

To me it is clear that Michael has not shown much respect towards women. He certainly doesn’t respect Kate Major. Kicking her out of a chair or harassing her because she may or may not have an alcohol problem is disrespect. Since he too had alcohol issues at one point, he needed to show sympathy not disdain and alleged abusive behavior towards Kate.

Telling Atlanta Housewife on national television she has a fat ass is disrespect.

Yelling at people is disrespect.

Taping Dina the mother of his kids and trashing her in the press is disrespect.

Showing up at the jail when Lindsay wants no part of him is disrespect.

And now, not listening to his attorney Lisa to stay away from the press and no speak to them is disrespect towards her.

IS MICHAEL’S SECRET RECORDINGS OF KATE MAJOR MAY BE CRIMINAL IN CALIFORNIA?

Michael spoke to TMZ and Radaronline and even played an recorded audiotape of his conversation with Kate Majors. What he doesn’t realize is that this secret taping BS may work in NY but may not work in Los Angeles.

The fact that he may have taped the conversation with Kate Major while he was in Los Angeles without her permission may cause him some severe problems with the law. It can be a criminal act to do such a thing in California.

The tapes may have apparently been taped in Los Angeles . The contents deal with his checking into a Los Angeles hotel where there was concern by Kate over another woman. Michael denied he was with another woman and said was simply a woman in the lobby next to him when he was checking in. If he did tape in in California this may open up a whole new legal can of worms for him.

MICHAEL’S VICIOUSNESS AND CLUELESSNESS

Yesterday Michael still thought his engagement and subsequent wedding to Kate Major was still on, as he told this to TMZ. But today it is a different story. He has admitted that the wedding is off.

Just to show how vicious Michael is and threatening he is, he can be heard on TMZ threatening to expose Kate Major’s drinking and personal issues and threatening that there will be a lot about her that will come out if she doesn’t back off. No doubt, he is trying to intimidate her and will be releasing her personal information to the press. He already disparaged her about her relationship with Jon Gosselin.

What Michael doesn’t realize is that all the disparaging remarks he will make about Kate won’t matter as he attempts to put her in a bad light in order to make himself look good. We all know that any woman who was involved with Jon Gosselin and now him has some serious self worth issues. Instead, the public may feel even more pity towards her for having such a low opinion of herself for being with him.

Michael’s actions towards Kate Major made me sick. They were all to familiar with these similiar ractics which he used towards his other ex girlfriend Erin and ex wife Dina, the mother of his kids.

. No wonder Dina can’t stand him to the point that she too has a restraining order against him. Not that she is so innocent and is without her issues, but at least she is not a frightening and vicious as Michael has shown to be.

Lindsay even said in her tweet that Michael frightens her. Since she has seen him up close and personal she knows exactly what she is talking about better than anyone else.

IF MICHAEL REALLY WANTS TO HELP LINDSAY AS HE SAYS HE DOES HE NEEDS TO STAY AWAY FROM HER

Michael needs to stop using Lindsay and her name forever. He needs to stop talking about her to make himself relevant.

He appears to me to be a hussler who is trying to sell a bogus TV show first about divorced dads and now about Tiger Wood’s mistresses Joslyn James and Rachel Uchitel. Rachel said she only met him once and has no intention of doing a show with him.

Any show Michael will do, will never fly in my view. No one in their right mind would want to deal with this over aged Toxic Man who is a completely loose cannon with a violent temper, who has nothing of value to offer. He contributes NOTHING in my opinion except distress. He is irrelevant and the only claim to fame he has is that Lindsay Lohan is his daughter- something to which he desperately tries to hang on to .

If Michael really loves his daughter, than he needs to respect her and her wishes. She wishes him to stay away from her. He must do that to show he loves her, instead of inserting himself into her life when she cannot stand him.

MICHAEL’S BEHAVIOR MAY BE DAMAGING TO HIS OTHER KIDS

If Michael did all of this damage to Lindsay, what in the world is he doing to his other kids Ali and Cody? He has no custody of them and allegedly hasn’t contributed a great deal financially or emotionally based on his antics.

How can these kids respect someone who has had so many verbally violent and public battles with so many women in his life? How can they respect what he is doing? The answer is that they cannot. In my view, his actions will have serious repercussions on them as they mature. Let’s only hope that these kids don’t turn their hurt and pain towards their father inwards as their sister Lindsay has done.

BOTTOM LINE MESSAGE TO MICHAEL- STAY AWAY FROM LINDSAY AND LET HER HEAL!

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Cindy Anthony’s Signals of Deception In The Courtroom- Says She Believes Caylee Still Alive

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

When Cindy Anthony took the stand and gave her testimony about the 911 call, she was articulate and coherent. She presented herself very well for the most part, until she lied that she still thinks Caylee is alive.

TOO MUCH INFORMATION MAY REVEAL DISCOMFORT ABOUT THE TOPIC AND GUILT

Cindy sounded very credible and had it together until she discussed finding Casey’s pants in the car and how she washed them because they smelled bad. That was too much information for the question asked.

When someone coughs up a little too much information it may very well be that they are feeling a bit guilty or uncomfortable concerning that information.

There is no doubt that Cindy, being the intelligent woman she appears to be, knows very well that she should not have washed Casey’s pants no matter how badly they smelled.

She needed to have placed them in a plastic bag and put them in a sealed container in the garage or some place where she would not smell the pants. She knows very well that it was wrong for her to have washed them, especially after knowing that it smelled like a dead body in the car.

Perhaps she instinctively knew Casey was up to no good and had something to do with that smell.

That may be why she was so intent on washing away that smell away as well as washing away her guilt. There is no doubt that deep down Cindy feels guilty for threatening to throw Casey out and keep Cayley. That precipitated this whole mess and she no doubt wished she had never said what she said to Casey or Caylee might still be alive .

You would think that Caylees backpack and toys ,which were in the heated car also smelled like the pants. So why didn’t she wash them as well? It was only Casey’s pants that she washed in her attempt to save and protect Casey. But what about protecting Caylee and her memory?

CINDY’S REAL TEARS

Unlike what we have seen regarding Casey’s fake non tears, Cindy cried real tears as she recalled the events and her frustration concerning Caylee’s disappearance.

She broke down a bit when she told of how she overheard Casey tell her son Lee that she hadn’t seen Caylee in over 32 days and panicked how she panicked. As she relayed this story , it was a though she was re-living the experience. She lost her composure and wipes some real tears. And unlike Casey, she didn’t have to examine her Kleenex to make sure she cried tears. She also didn’t stick her finger in her eyes or wipe away a tearless cheek as Casey repeatedly does.

THE AGGRESSIVE BLAMING CINDY FINALLY SURFACES

Cindy was actually like-able and believable until the topics of what she said to the FBI and when she said that it smelled like there was a dead body in the car. It was then the old Cindy came through- the Cindy we watched for years on television during her press junkets, outside of her home, and in depositions.

Once again we saw the aggressive angry aggressive defensive belligerent Cindy who has the nerve to blame the FBI stating that the FBI got the transcript of what she said all wrong . She complains how there were lots of errors and missing pieces.

So it appeared that Cindy couldn’t keep up her calm, cool, and collected demeanor for long. In a short period of time she was back to her unlikable self.

CINDY BELIEVES CAYLEE IS STILL ALIVE?

Then Jose Baez tries to Spin it during cross examination after Cindy the unlikable emerged. He couches it by making a statement and telling her how she felt. He says “ You wanted them to know that the smell was different from a dead body.”

Cindy is surprised to hear the words Jose has put into her mouth by telling her what she meant to say. That is why she shakes her head NO as she sheepishly says”I guess.”
She knows that isn’t true. If it was she would have said “Exactly” or “That’s right” in a tone that showed conviction.

Indicating she knows exactly what Jose is doing os ridiculous spin.

Then she realizes what Baez is trying to do by putting those ridiculous words into her mouth. It suddenly dawns on her that Jose is trying to spin it in an attempt to protect Casey.

So she adds additional unrequested information to Baez’ nonsensical statement . Cindy adds a lie. Trying to direct Cindy’s answers to make them more favorable for Casey he makes another statement to Cindy instead of asking her a direct question. Jose says “You told them this because you wanted them to keep searching for a live Caylee.”

Cindy clearly liked where this was going as hooked on to the words “ live Casey.” Jose senses tat she is getting where he is going and now asks her a question concerning his statement. He asks “Youre clear about that?”

Now here is where we see Cindy’s signals of deception. Of course she is “not clear about that.” Of course she knew after smelling the dead body smell in the car, that the cops would not be searching for a live Caylee but rather a dead Caylee.

Cindy immediately shakes her head NO as she replies” absolutely”. Shaking your head in the negative when you are speaking in the affirmative is a sure fire signal that you’re not telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing bur the truth. It may have been wishful thinking on Cindy’s part, But it was far from the truth. Deep down she knew what most likely happened.

Remember what I said about people that add too much information that is unsolicited, I said they might be feeling guilt so they give too much information, They also give too much information to explain a lie away.

The bones were discovered. The memorial service was held. The vigils were over. So there is no way that Cindy isn’t aware that Caylee is dead. But after she said “absolutely” in response to Jose’s comment that she wanted police to search for a live Caylee, she adds unsolicited information.

She adds “ I still think Caylee is alive.” Immediately after she uttered those ridiculous words, she shows a signal of embarrassment as well as deception by she pursing her lips. It as though she instinctively knew she should not have said what she did.

Then the rest of the signals of deception kick in. She shrugs her shoulders which is a definite signal of deception and cocks her head to the side indicting that she is not sure she should have gone that far and said what she did in adding such a ridiculous comment to help create a reasonable doubt.

Then she makes a very goofy looking facial expression which reflects how she goofed up by making that that outrageous statement . Her eyes pop open wide and she tightens her lower lip and her upper lip as if to seal her mouth shut/ The pressure is so tight that it looks like she is puffing out the area above her upper lip ( moustache area ) as the color of her skin above her upper lip has blanched.

She remained in that position for 10 seconds. She didn’t want to say anymore because she knows she did this for affect and as a way to say something to try and help out Casey.

CASEY’S REACTION TO CINDY

For the most part Casey’s expression was lifeless when Cindy took the stand. There was no facial reaction to Cindy as she coldly looked through her mother. It was obvious that she wasn’t thrilled to see her mother full face looking straight in her direction after a two year absence.

LOOKING PRETTY FOR MAMMA

Cindy’s presence on the stand clearly made Casey feel uncomfortable and nervous. As soon as her mother got on the stand there were numerous hair grooming behaviors which took place in succession . Subconsciously she wanted to look nice for mamma Cindy. After all Cindy has indicated in her jailhouse letters to Casey, how beautiful she looks. So Casey’s sudden repeated grooming is her attempt to “look beautiful” for Cindy.

CASEY’S FURTHER DISCOMFORT

Casey’s discomfort with seeing and hearing her mother on the stand is reflected by Casey’s swallowing more often than usual. This means that her throat is dry because her autonomic nervous system is kicking in. She’s not manufacturing enough saliva so that is why her mouth and throat feel dry. Hence, the excessive swallowing. Her gaze was not steady when her mother spoke as she didn’t look directly at her. Instead we observed constant eye shifting .Finally we saw her take many deep breaths to oxygenate herself. This is further indication of her physical discomfort. We clearly saw it when the when the topic of Tony’s apartment came up.

THANKS MOM

For the most part there was no significant emotion reflected n Casey’s face. But right after Cindy made the Caylee is still alive” comment there was a sudden change in Casey’s facial expression. It was softer and she had a slight smile as if to say “thanks for saying that and trying to create reasonable doubt so I can walk out of here, like my attorney Cheney Mason said I would.

ADVICE FOR CINDY ON THE STAND

think that no matter how much coaching or witness preparation Cindy gets the real Cindy will eventually leak out to jurors. Based on this little preview, it appears that she just can’t help herself. She needs to just answer the questions and not editorialize. She needs to not volunteer additional information especially information like thinking Caylee is still alive. If she pulls that nonsense on a jury they will think she is a nutcase and react even more harshly towards Casey. www.drlillianglass.com

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Mel Gibson’s Verbal Tirade Towards Oksana Grigoriova Reveals A Narcissistic, Control Freak Who’s Suffering from the “Madonna/ Whore Syndrome”

Saturday, July 10th, 2010

VOCAL AND VERBAL MURDER

The words a person uses, the emphasis and inflection patterns on those particular words, in addition to a person’s vocal tone can tell you if they are dangerous and ready to do you harm. After listening to Mel’s tone of voice and what he said to Oksana Grigoreieva, there is no doubt that he meant business and he was out to destroy her every way possible.

Words must NEVER be taken lightly. When a person speaks as Mel Gibson has spoken to the mother of his child, he has committed verbal murder.

AN EMOTIONALLY BEATEN DOWN OKSANA TRIES TO FIGHT BACK WITH NO AVAIL

Mel’s rant killed Oksana’s self esteem as we hear a meek sounding abused woman.

She tied to fight back and stand up for herself by telling Mel that it is none of his effing business when it came to her breasts, but it was no use.

Mel continued to berate her. It was too painful to listen to. If this horribly abusive snippet was caught on tape, one can only imagine what went on when Mel was not being taped.

Words and tones can destroy another person and can have a lifelong emotional effect. There is no doubt that Mel’s abusive words and actions have left an indelible scar on the mother of his child.

VOICE AND SPEECH MIRRORS THE SOUL

As Galen the ancient Greek philosopher once said, it is the voice that mirrors the soul. It is also mirrors the speech and the communication patterns.

What is in Mel’s head and his heart came out in his voice and the content of his speech. What emerged was an impotent human being. And that impotence may very well translate to sexual impotence as well as you will see as you read on. It translated into a narcissistic, sadistic, control freak.

VOCAL ATTACKS

The most striking thing about the tape is Mel’s hard glottal vocal attacks. The tone sounds like vocal bullets, as he rained down a spray of hatred and vitriol in a staccato pattern.

He closed off the back of his throat when he speaks. That is why you hear a creaky sound in his tone, much like a croaking frog. The reason he sounds like that is because he is filled with rage and anger. This rage and anger causes his muscles to tense up, including his vocal muscles.

The tight vocal muscles don’t allow the air to flow through the vocal cords when he speaks. Hence, you hear the creaky angry and tense sound.

The tone of his speech shows an offensiveness as though he is looking to pick a fight. He is spooling himself up and is ready to take issue with anything and everything.

The best thing Oksana could have done in this case was to remain calm and even keeled, which she did. But even so, it made little or no difference in terms whatever she said. Mel was gunning for a down and dirty fight. Unfortunately she was the victim.

The contents of his speech was peppered with sudden angry bursts of loudness to emphasize specific words. These specific words are key in analyzing what is really going on in Mel’s psyche.

EMPHASIS ON SPECIFIC KEY WORDS DURING MEL’S TIRADE

The capitalized words are those which Mel emphasized during his tirade are seen below. I did not censor any of the words because I wanted to give a clear picture of the exact words Mel used and how he used them.

“Trying to breast feed with Fucking FOREIGN BODIES in you.The fact that you had FOREIGN BODIES in there. So you’re not LYING to me about FAKE TITS you did you FUCKING LIED to me.They look RIDICULOUS. Get rid of them why dontcha?

They look STUPID, It’s just an appraisal. Keep em they look STUPID, Keep em if you want . I don’t give a FUCK. But you know they’re too BIG and they look STUPID. They look like some Vegas BITCH. Vegas Whore .And you go SHASHAYING around in your tight clothes, I won’t stand for that anymore. You go out in public and it’s a Fucking EMBARASSMENT to me. You look like a FUCKING BITCH on heat.

You;ll get RAPED by a pack of Niggers it’s be your fault. All right because YOU PROVOKED it. You are PROVOCATIVELY dressed all the time with your fake BOOBS. You feel you have to SHOW OFF in tight outfits in tight pants You can see you PUSSY from behind. And that GREEN thing. THAT’s (vocal pitch goes up) provocative.

Ok I’m TELLING you, I’m just TELLING you the TRUTH! I DON’T LIKE IT . I don’t WAN’T want that woman. I don’t want YOU .I don’t BELIEVE you any more. I don’t TRUST you/ I don’t LOVE you. I don’t WANT you. Ok. STAY in the FUCKING house. I’ not GIVING it to you, but I’ll LET you stay there . And I will take care of my child but I DON’T WANT YOU anymore.”

In his rant, we can see that is all about control. Mel is trying to control Oksana completely from her breasts- (telling her to get rid of them),to what she wears (tight clothing and that green thing) to her living arrangements ( sadistically telling her he will allow her to live n the house).

Controlling a person the first sign in the Cycle of Abuse . First, they try to control how you look, what you wear, and then it is your basic needs from what you eat, to where, and how you live.

That is exactly what Mel has done to Oksana. If she fails to obey, he gets more verbally abusive which is the next stage in the Cycle of Abuse we saw.

Then if she fails to do what he says, the next stage is the physically violent phase. While we have yet to see the photos of Oksana’s black eyes and chipped teeth as a result of Mel’s hands, based on the pattern we have seen thus far, I tend to believe that he did indeed abuse her.

MEL’S NARCISSISM IN NOT WANTING OKSANA TO HAVE ALL THE ATTENTION

The next thing we notice in Mel’s rant is that he absolutely hates it when Oksana is the center of attention. After all that attention is reserved for him- the star- not Oksana, the “extra” in his the big screen of his life.

He talks about how he doesn’t like it when she dresses in tight clothes and how it embarrasses HIM. Of course it embarrasses him. He is the one who wants the public to only look at him and he is embarrassed if anyone more attractive or sexy looking surpasses him as far as attention goes.

He doesn’t like the attention Oksana gets from other men and even goes so disgustingly far as saying that since she attracts so much attention to herself by her dress, a pack of “Niggers” will swoop down and gang rape her and that it will be all of her own doing.

But it is not about the dress or the clothes or that green thing or the outfit, which as Mel so vulgarly stated, revealed her “pussy” . It is all about her taking away his limelight and redirecting the attention that he believes should be on him, on to her.

IS MEL SEXUALLY IMPOTENT?

Enraged Mel is vocally focusing on some very key words - BOOBS, BITCH. PUSSY, RAPED, and FUCKING (said multiple times)

He verbally focuses on Oksana’s “big boobs”, the provocative “green thing” she was wearing, her “sashaying around”, and the threat of being “raped
by a pack of “Niggers.”

What he is saying here is that she is clearly sexy and provocative with her large breats and tight clothing that reveal her sexy body, including her private parts .

He is so threatened by this. Thus, he attempts to cut down her breasts by telling Oksana they are fake, too big, and look stupid.

Obviously, her sexy assets are what initially attracted him to her , to the point that he had sex with her, got her pregnant, and left his wife of over 30 years for her.

But suddenly, he is finding fault with what attracted him to her in the first place. He is rationalizing that it is her fake large breasts that are the reasons he is most likely no longer able to perform sexually. He continues to rationalize, that it is the fault of her provocative clothing that doesn’t allow him to get turned on.

He takes his being sexually turned off, a step further. There is no doubt that Mel is a racist, who hates Jews, Mexicans and Blacks as we have all seen via his past behavior and now current tirade.

So what would turn him off more than people he detests? It would be a group of Blacks, having sex with his woman- sex that he may be no longer able to achieve with her.

He took the sexual sterotype of the Black man and his sexual prowess and magnified his fantasy scenario ten fold, with a “group” of “Niggers” “raping” her. He used this egregious term- the N word as an attempt to further degrade Oksana in his sick scenario, as a way to rationalizes why he, most likely cannot perform sexually.

Because he feels Oksana is the reason he is destroyed sexually with impotence, he in turn wants to destroy her for doing this to him. That is why he threatened to burn down the house, but not until after she gives him oral sex.

In saying this, he is in essence, asking her to become the “whore” like image that initially attracted him sexually, until she bore him a child and became the “Madona” like image that now renders him sexually impotent with her. I will get into Mel’s “ Whore/ Madonna Complex” in a just a moment.

But in essence, what he is saying is “I want to destroy you Oksana, because you destroyed my sexuality. But before I do, you have to do something to help revive my sexuality that you destroyed. You must prove to me that you have not destroyed my sexuality. But never the less, I plan to destroy you forever by burning down the house , preferably with you in it.

MEL’ S MADONNA/ WHORE SYNDROME

Mel may clearly be blaming Oksana for his lack of sexuality. But in reality, she has little to do with it. It is all about him. Based on Mel’s words, it is clear that he now sees Oksana, the mother of his child in a very different light. Prior to her being pregnant, he perceived her as the” whore” who sexually tuned him on. But this is no longer the case.

A lot of men can have great sex with a lover, or girlfriend. or wife. But as soon as the lover, girlfriend, or wife delivers a baby, the man may no longer see her as being sexually attractive. She is no longer their sexual “whore”. She is now the “mother” of their child. She is the “Madonna”. That is clearly what Mel may be suffering from, in my view.

It is evident in his speech. He doesn’t want her to look like a “Vegas whore.” He doesn’t want her to dress provocatively. He doesn’t want her to “sashay” around in public because it embarrasses him.

It embarrasses him because now that she is the mother of his child, she can no longer dress the way she dressed before she birthed his child, which now in his mind looks like a provocative “whore”.

He feels that now she must look proper and dress the part of the “Madonna” that she is now isin Mel’s disturbed mind. She must now, go out in unsexy outfits, unlike lithe green one she wore. Otherwise. it will say to Mel that she is still a “whore”- a sexual object to be preyed upon by the by the worst kind of people Mel views, in his racially sick mind- Black people.

To drive home his point and put the fear of God into her ,he warns Oksana about his biggest fear. His fear is that the mother of his child, who he now sees as the Madonna, will be violated and tarnished and “raped” by the people he is most repulsed by- Black men.

He warns further that she will be the one responsible for her own raping and violation. She will be the one who brought it on herself, by not dressing the part of the “Madonna”, but rather the “whore”.

That is why he is allowing her to stay in the house. He wants her out of sight. He wants her to be the Madonna and only care for his precious child. He wants her away from the public attention of the limelight. He wants her away from any other man who may find his “Madonna” a sexy looking “whore”. And he especially wants her home and away from Blacks, whom he feels may “rape: her and tarnish his fantasy “Madonna” forever.

MEL, THE VERBAL MURDERER

Mel committed verbal murder when he attacked Oksana so brutally with his tones and words. He murdered her spirit and you can hear it in her fearful meek voice, as she tries to fight back and give him a dose of his own medicine by using the F word to tell him her breasts are none of his business.

Mel can never take these words back. They are in Oksana’s psyche forever.

Mel’s tones and words murdered his chances of having a civil relationship so his daughter could grow up without the enormous tension that will most likely always be there between Mel and Oksana.

MEL’S WORDS KILLED OFF HIS FAN BASE FOREVER

Mel’s verbal murder also killed off his many fans. These cans can never look at Mel the same. What he said about his loyal supporters is unforgivable. They will NEVER support him at the box office no matter what film he makes in the future .

HE LOST HIS JEWISH FANS.

Just like there is no Jewish fan who can every look at Mel the same, after he made his anti-Semitic remarks when he was in the back of a police squad car after being arrested for a DUI, there is no Black fan that can ever look at him the same after calling them the N word.

HE LOST HIS BLACK FANS FOREVER

And adding insult to injury, he said that a “gang” of Blacks would rape Oksana just because his baby momma would be dressed provocatively. How insulting! How degrading to say that because a person is dressed a certain way that Blacks are so out of control with their sexuality that they would have no choice but to “rape” her in large groups in a pack, as in a pack of hungry, out of control wolves! This is the ultimate in stereotypic racism.

HE LOST HIS LATIN FANS

No Latin fan can ever look at Mel the same, after they heard him refer to Mexicans as “wetbacks.” How ugly! What he said is not only an insult to Mexicans but to every Spanish speaking fan.

MEL LOST HIS FEMALE FANS

And finally, no female fan can ever look at Mel the same. As if calling a female police officer “Sugar Tits” when he was arrested for a DUI wasn’t enough to turn women off, his rant to Oksana is guaranteed to turn off any woman who may have ignored his sexist comment to the police woman, forgiven Mel, or given him a second chance.

The degrading and sexist way he spoke to Oksana sent chills up my spine as I am sure it did to many other women.

The sexist and degrading name calling – from “whore” to “bitch”. The vulgar reference to “tits” and “pussy” is unconscionable. No woman should ever have to hear that type of language coming out of anyone’s mouth.

“YOU’LL NEVER WORK IN THIS TOWN AGAIN”

While Hollywood loves a good comeback, there are certain things you can NEVER come back from. Robert Downy, Mickey Rourke, Britney Spears, are examples of the Hollywood dream. They are examples of having it all, losing it all, and then coming back even bigger and better than before. Hollywood is hoping to add Lindsay Lohan to this list, but only time will tell ,as it all depends on Lindsay now.

But there will never be a comeback for Mel. Mel is on his own this time. Hollywood, who has many powerful Jewish people in control, was going to pull the plug on Mel years ago after his anti semitic comments.

But Mel’s well respected agent at the time, Ed Limato of the William Morris Agency fought tooth and nail to keep Mel alive in the industry.

But last weekend Ed Limato died and so did Mel’s most loyal supporter. Now, there is no one to bail him out and play “the emperor has new clothes” game. Mel’s career is as dead as Ed Limato.

When the William Morris Agency quits you even though you have made millions of dollars for them, you can kiss your career goodbye forever. What Mel did was unforgiveable and the William Morris Agency, headed by Ari Emanual, let Mel know it in no uncertain terms.

Now that his old agent Ed Limato is dead, there is no one to defend Mel and play “the emperor has new clothes when in reality, the emperor isn’t wearing any clothes.” Mel is on his own and it is OVER for him in Hollywood!

Will another agency take him? If they do, it will speak volumes about them and they will not be respected. They will be seen as vultures. A lot of these heavy duty agents work together. They support one another. So, if Mel was fired from WMA/Endeavor, I doubt CAA or ICM – the three agencies who really matter in Hollywood and can do the job Mel requires, will take him on as a client.

SOME THINGS ARE UNFORGIVEABLE!

While you may think that this is no big deal, and that Mel will be even more popular because of all of this publicity, you are sadly mistaken.

The old adage “ there is no such thing as bad publicity” may have worked when Hollywood began in the 20’s, but it doesn’t work in this day and age.

It does work to make people aware of those who are not yet household names or who’s career is waning. While scandals get people to sit up and take notice and increase their awareness of you and hence your popularity, like it did with Kate Gosslelin, making her a star , it works the opposite when someone is already a super star and a household word.

When they do something like Mel has done- verbally abuse a woman and allegedly hit her while she was holding her baby, it is unforgivable!

Look at what happened to Rhianna beater, singer Chris Brown. His career will never be the same. But Mel’s case is much worse. There is not only alleged physical violence, there is a baby involved.

There are words involved that no one will tolerate like the N word. Comedian, Michael Richards. who played Kramer on Seinfield, essentially lost his career after his tirade in a nightclub where he used the N word and made other racist remarks.

Actor Isaiah Washington was let go from Grey’s Anatomy for using the other F word, when he called his fellow co-star a “faggott”.

How people responded to these egregious actions, set a precedent. No one will accept it and there is no going back! It is over for Mel Gibson!

ED LIMATO CAN’T HELP HIM NO AND NEITHER CAN HIS TOP PR SPIN PUBLICIST ALAN NIEROB

Mel can pay his publicist and my dear friend,Paul Block of Rogers and Cowan, millions of dollars and it the spin will never work! I am sure Alan is working 24/7 trying to do damage control .

I see how hard Alan is working ever since this mess occurred, as Alan tries to cast dispersions on Oksana by releasing stories that Mel is suing her for extortion. When that didn’t work, Alan no doubt, released a news flash about how Mel was suing her for leaking the tape, and suing her for breach of contract.

Who cares about what Oksana did? Anything she allegedly did is minor in comparison to what Mel did. In actuality, the tape says it all. It speaks volumes with regard to what Mel did to her.

So what if she leaked the tape? There are no secrets anymore anyway. The truth always comes out! No one can hide. The cat is out of the bag , the feathers are out of the pillowcase, and Humpty Dumpty has fallen off the wall and his pieces can never be put back together at all.

PR SPIN TO MAKE MEL THE VICTIM OF A SAD BRUTAL CHILDHOOD WON’T WORK EITHER

I will save publicist Alan Nierob a lot of time and effort, by letting him know that if his next move is to spin the pity card, it won’t work with Mel.

It would be easy to now blame Mel’s bad behavior on his alcoholism or a bipolar disorder but it won’t work. There is just way too much bad behavior. It is not just one thing. It is a lot of things.

Many people are alcoholics and bipolar and they don’t abuse others like Mel did. They aren’t racists, anti Semites, or alleged physical abusers.

It would also be easy for Paul to spin it by blaming all of his issues on Mel’s bad childhood and his abusive father, the ignorant father who is a Holocaust denier, and whom Mel has never spoken out against.

Maybe Alan Nierob will use this time and throw Mel’s father under the PR bus to save his client. But it won’t work. Lots of people have wacky or ignorant parents and they don’t act like Mel did. And besides, Mel is in his 50’s. How much longer can one blame a parent for their bad actions? It won’t work!

My advice to Alan, who happens to be Jewish and who is the son of precious Holocaust survivors, is to find another client. While you may want to do right by your clients, remember that deep down, Mel is not too crazy about you and could spit his vitriol on you personally in a heartbeat.

And speaking of heartbeats, spinning a story about Mel being rushed to the hospital because of a heart attack or some other unknown ailment or sending him into rehab won’t work either . The public is not stupid and they won’t buy anything but the truth!

TOXIC MEN

This coming November I have a book out called Toxic Men- Identify Deal With And Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. In the book it tells you how to identify Toxic Men like Mel and what body language signals to look for. It tells you what to do – what 10 options you have available if you are in a toxic relationship like Oksana is in. It gives you choices that can either turn the relationship around or end the relationship for good. And finally it tells you how to heal from the events that Oksana experienced.

While the book will be available in bookstores November 2010, you can order it online right now. Just click this link http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X and it will take you to amazon.com where you can order your copy ahead of time and get it as soon as it is released.

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Cindy Anthony’s Letters to Casey Reveal Her Focus on Casey’s “Beauty” And Possible Manipulative Passive- Agressive “Mind Games”

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

WHY WHY WHY?

Reading Cindy’s letters to her daughter Casey were very disturbing . My first question was a. ) why is she writing diatribes about how Caylee will be found and how there were sightings as recent as January 2010 when we all know the remains were already found?

b) Why is she so concerned about her daughter’s looks- her “beauty” a theme also common to George who also seems overly concerned with his daughter’s looks and weight gain when she may be facing a lethal injection c) why is she sending Casey photos of Caylee and writing how much Caylee loved her mommy. Was it done to passive aggressively keep reminding Casey what she did to Caylee?

In George’s words WHY?WHY? WHY is she doing this?

CINDY’S ONCERN OVER CASEY’S PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

In my last blog concerning the Anthony’s I discussed George’s concern about Casey’s looks and weight. Cindy apparently has the same concern with Casey’s looks as you see above in a 2009 letter to Casey. First she cuts Casey’s appearance down by telling her “You look very tired.” Then in the next sentence she builds her up by telling her “You still look beautiful!” complete with exclamation mark for emphasis as she makes a point of Casey’s beauty.

Then she tells Casey how beautiful she looked when she was in Court in January 2010 as you can see above.

No wonder Casey is always seen grooming herself int he courtroom. From the letters we can now see how much emphasis BOTH George and Cindy paid to Casey’s appearance. In my view if f they would have put half that energy into paying attention to her into her personality and correcting her aberrant behaviors, they wouldn’t have t admire their daughter’s looks from afar in a courtroom where they mostly see the back of her head.

IS CINDY TRYING TO MANIPULATE ‘REASONABLE DOUBT’ VIA HER LETTERS TO CASEY?

As of 2010, everyone knows it was little Caylee’s skull that was found with the duct tape over the mouth and nose area. They know that Casey’s remains were found. So, for Cindy to refer to Caylee sightings as late as January 2010, it seems to me that possibly Cindy

is a) so in denial because the truth is too difficult for her to bear,

b) so out of it on medication that her memory is affected

c) is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s or

d)is writing these letters and reference to Caylee, as a form of manipulation in creating ” reasonable doubt”

I choose (d).Cindy is no dummy. Just as she knows all the videos will be seen, she knows that all the letters she writes to Casey will be seen and read/ Therefore , she knows that by writing about a Caylee sighting, if those letters become pieces of evidence they will be used by the defense as a possible way to establish reasonable doubt.

Cindy is clearly being manipulative in my opinion and knows exactly what she is doing here. She even mentions Zani’s half brother Hector as you see in her letter above, when she very well knows that there is no Zani the nanny and definitely no Hector, which she wrote in parenthesis.

OF COURSE CINDY WANTS TO UPSET CASEY

What is most telling about Cindy’s manipulation is how she began the sentence regarding the alleged Caylee sighting by writing” the words“ I don’t want to upset you.” To me it seems that is EXACTLY what she wants to do with Casey- upset her.

She knows exactly what buttons to push with her sociopathic daughter. She knows exactly what will upset Casey.

No doubt, her interference, trying to take control, getting involved in the case, and talking about Caylee sightings is no doubt of those upsetting things.

I can also imagine how many times he bugs Jose Baez. In her letters she even says how overwhelmed her is. In writing that, she is no doubt trying to justify why he most likely ignores her and doesn’t respond to her. She even writes to Casey telling her to have the jail chaplain call her. I am sure that plea went unheeded as well.

The one thing that Casey is no doubt happy about is that she doesn’t have to deal with Cindy. She can shut her out by not allowing her to visit her in jail. From George’s letters we have seen that it is clearly Casey’s choice as to whom she allows or does not allow to see her in jail. George knows that it has to do with him personally as he begs for Casey to allow him to see her even for a minute.

But Cindy lives in the illusion that Casey is refusing to see her because the media would scrutinize their vista. As far as Casey is concerned, that is the furthest thing from the truth. She simply does not want to see Cindy just like she has no interest in seeing George. After all Cindy is the one who put her in by calling the police on her . There is no doubt Casey blames Cindy for her predicament and wants nothing to do with her.

So Cindy can do all the begging and pleading to see Casey, but Casey will not budge. The only good thing about her being in jail in Casey’s mind is that she doesn’t have to be around Cindy. She can’t even bring herself to look at Cindy as evidenced when she is in the courtroom and ignores her mother and father.

ARE PHOTOS OF CAYLEE MORE OF CINDY’S MANIPULATION AND MORE OF HER WAY TO UPSET CASEY?

Why in the world is Cindy sending Casey so many photos of Caylee and various developmental stages in her babyhood? In my view it is to serve as a reminder to Casey of what she did to Caylee.

The photo above of Casey and Caylee together was no doubt sent by Cindy to say. ” you killed a child who looked like you.” Cindy even emphasizes her point by mentioning in the letter “I can’t get over how much Caylee resembled you.”

Cindy is not done with Casey yet. She attempts to make Casey feel guilty and remorseful for killing Caylee-( emotions which sociopathic Casey cannot and will not ever feel) by sending her an infant photo of Caylee with the following post it note attached to it that says “She was trying to tell us something even then. She loves her momma.”

To me this is a sickening display of passive aggressive manipulation in Cindy’s part.

The note is then signed “Caylee” in Cindy’s writing. If that isn’t a”head game” I don’t know what else is. Cindy is obviously saying” look what you did to this little baby who did nothing but innocently love you .

What is written between those lines by Cindy speaks volumes.But Cindy doesn’t get it! Cindy doesn’t get that no matter how many photos or notes she sends Casey with regard to Caylee, Casey, doesn’t care! It means nothing to her. She doesn’t feel guilt or upset that she killed Casey. She feels relief that Casey is gone. The only upset she feels is a) when Cindy annoys her and b) that she got caught and is now in jail so she can’t party.Those are the extent of Casey Anthony’s feelings.

CINDY RUBBING MALLORY IN CASEY’S FACE

Cindy also tries to get to Casey by rubbing Mallory, Lee’s girlfriend in her face. No doubt this annoys Casey. After all Casey was the star of the family whom everyone doted on.

So now that Casey has to hear about Mallory I am sure that this is not music to narcissistic eyes, let alone ears.

Cindy goes on about how Mallory does this or that and how happy Lee is with Mallory and how Lee and Mallory are so cute together. That is yet another reason Casey want’s nothing to do with Cindy.

CASEY NEVER WANTS TO WRITE CINDY

The above statement from Cindy even supplying Casey with paper and and a self addressed envelope shows how desperate she is to get Casey to write. There is no way Casey will do that, especially if Cindy wants her to do so. No matter how many blank sheets of paper or envelopes Cindy provides, Casey is not writing her.

Cindy knows this. So to save face so she won’t look like she is a groveling like we saw George do in his letters. she casually asks Casey to simply drop her a line even if it is to say Hi. She is even willing to settle for a “Hi” on a blank sheet of paper hopefully sent in a self addressed envelope.

CINDY TELLS CASEY TO CONTINUE TO FIGHT- BUT FIGHT FOR WHAT?

In her letters, Cindy consistently tells Casey to continue to fight. In doing so is she telling Casey to continue to lie? It seems that way to me. What is she fighting for? What can Casey possibly say at this point? She lied about so much.

Then Cindy writes Casey about a dream that Casey was back home and how she prays Casey is “back home with us.”That is about all Cindy can do- dream and pray as the only home Casey will ever go to is a small prison cell and perhaps a coffin where she will be housed after she is executed for torturing and killing Casey.

Cindy also tells Casey “Don’t let them win.” In saying this is she encouraging Casey to continue to lie about what really happened to Caylee? This isn’t a game where one wins or loses. This is serious reality to find out the truth so that justice can be served.

IS CINDY’S DENIAL AND FIGHT DUE TO HER OWN GUILT?

There is no doubt in my mind that Cindy must be feeling tremendous guilt for the death of Caylee.

After all she was the one who told Casey that she was going to keep Caylee and throw Caylee out. Had she never said such a thing to Casey. perhaps Caylee might be alive today.

She tries to pass that guilt on to Casey by sending her pictures and making manipulative statements that will never affect Casey, who does not have any feelings of guilt.

Cindy’s attempts at manipulating Casey to get her to feel guilt are really Cindy’s deep rooted feelings of her own guilt. I imagine she has guilt for how poorly she raised Casey, how she didn’t set boundaries, or use enough tough love and how she let Casey get away with way too much for way too long.

Deep down Cindy knows what is going on. But for now. she tries to remain the loyal and supportive parent to Casey out of her own guilt. There is no doubt that when this is all over, her recovery time and her freedom from her guilt will be quick.

WILL CINDY MOVE ON QUICKLY WHEN IT IS ALL OVER WITH CASEY?

If Casey is sent away for life or dies by lethal injection, my thoughts are that Cindy will quickly move on. Why I say that has a lot to do with the handwriting in her letters to Casey.

The slant of the writing is consistently upwards, unlike George’s which is consistently slanting downwards. Generally, when handwriting is slanted upwards it usually means happiness and optimism as opposed to a downward pessimistic and depressed outlook.

Maybe subconsciously, Cindy is happy that Casey is where she belongs- in jail. Maybe deep down she is happy that Casey is being punished for what she did to her beloved Caylee.

Maybe Cindy is happy that Casey is locked up and she doesn’t have to deal with her stealing money or her lies any more. After all it was Cindy who made sure that the police was called so they could lock Casey up. Maybe Cindy is optimistic that once Casey is finally out of her life for good, she will be more optimistic about her own future.

Personally, I believe that she will use what happened with Casey and Caylee as a vehicle for her own purpose and her own future - to make a lot of money . This will be in keeping of what she wrote to Casey, regarding” Caylee not dying in vain”

For starters, Cindy will most likely write a book and get a huge advance. In fact it has been said that she is writing a book now. Perhaps George’s essay that he read on Fox 35, ” Under the Microscope” may have been part of his book proposal that he too will write.

If Cindy’s book becomes a reality, no doubt she will make a lot of money from the serial rights, foreign rights, speaking tours, and may even get paid top dollar for exclusive interviews from various media outlets.

Even though she is not a very likable, her infamy may translate into dollars and cents. I hope not, but look at what has happened to others in the past who were unlikable!

Her infamous notoriety may allow her to get a TV gig like Tiger Wood’s sex partner, Rachel Uchitel has on Access Hollywood, or a column in the NY Daily News like Elliott Spitzer’s prostitute Andrea Dupree , a co-hosting gig on CNN like Andrea Dupree’s “john,” former Governor Elliott Spitzer, or even her own TV show like Omarossa may have and Kate Gosselin is about to have.

All I can say is let’s just hope any show in which Cindy Anthony is involved wouldn’t be about parenting! The whole notion of this makes me sick, but unfortunately it could very well become a reality.

One thing for sure is that you will never find me reading any book by George or Cindy Anthony or watching any show they may obtain in the future.

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George Anthony Continues to Play Martyr In His Letter to Casey But Remains “Mum” or “Num” on Whether He Sexually Molested

Tuesday, June 29th, 2010

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George’ Anthony’s letter written to Casey two months ago, after Casey confided to fellow inmate Robin Adams that her father and brother Lee sexually molested her, communicates a great deal about George and his relationship with his daughter.

WALKING ON EGGSHELLS WITH “CASEY MARIE”

In his jailhouse visit early on, we heard George refer to Casey as “Gorgeous” which I have always found inappropriate. But in this letter of two months ago , her refers to her by her full name “Casey Marie” indicating that he is less than pleased with her . I cannot recall that he has ever publicly called her by her entire name. Using her entire name indicates that he is clearly angry with her, for perhaps revealing their family secret.

He starts the letter with “Where do I begin?” This statement indicates that he is at a loss for words and does not know how to approach Casey with what he is about to tell her. His tentative approach also reflects how he continues to walk on eggshells around Casey as he has for years.

Instead of getting right to it and writing something like “Casey, how dare you lie about your brother and I sexually molesting you !”, he gives a meek and hesitant initial statement. George’s timid behavior continues with his uses of the next word “Well” instead of jumping right into what he really wants to say.

In leaving out the word “I” and just writing “met with Jose and Cheney Mason”, he doesn’t want to attribute what he is about to write to himself because it is understandably embarrassing and shameful for him. So subconsciously, he eliminates himself by eliminating “I” at the beginning of the sentence .

A DATE TO REMEMBER

He then says that he met with “Jose and Cheny Mason on Wednesday, March 24^th . ” By giving the exact date, he is being more formal and putting a distance between himself and Casey. In essence he is documenting exact the date as one that is memorable. He also mentions the date twice in his letter.

Perhaps this date may turn out to be very memorable for him if indeed it was the date that Casey betrayed family confidences. Remember how George always talked about family loyalty and how Lee and Casey spoke about keeping their secrets during the jailhouse tapes? If this is the case, it is no wonder as to why George is so upset.

GEORGE SEEMS TO HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR “CHENEY MASON THAN “JOSE”

George doesn’t respect attorney Jose Baez as much as he does Cheney Mason as he refers to him as “Jose” while he refers to “Cheny Mason” by his entire first and last name. This indicates that he has more respect for him. He does this twice as he says “Jose” in “Chaney’s” office delivered me heartbreaking news & ask me 2 heartbreaking questions?

I should also add that if you look at George’s handwriting in his letter in the photo above , you will see that it slants downward. When this occurs it usually means that the person is depressed and upset.

“HEARTBREAKING” INSTEAD OF “SHOCKING”?

George’s use of the word “heartbreak” twice seemed like an odd choice of a word to use. Does it imply that his heart was broken about her revelation that Lee and George molested her? Using words like “upsetting” “devastating” “disgusting” or “shocking” news make more sense in this case. Likewise “shocking,” unbelievable” surprising” “outrageous” “unconscionable” questions would make make sense than using the term heartbreaking questions.

In my view one is heartbroken when they feel betrayed. One is shocked and surprised and flabbergasted if someone made an accusation about then that they heard for the first time and it was not true.

PASSIVE AGRESSIVELY ADMONISHING CASEY

Then George passively aggressively admonishes Casey by saying “You know what 2 questions he asked and I said mum…..”

George’s response is hugely telling. He doesn’t tell her what the heartbreaking news is in his letetr, but we can imagine that the two possible questions were “Did brother Lee and or George sexually molest Casey, like she said they did in her jailhouse letters.

MUM ???n or NUM UNDERLINED

It is confusing as to whether George meant to say that he was numb and left off the final b offf , “num” or he meant to say mum.

The fact that George wrote he was “mum” or num is no doubt because he was between a rock and a hard place. Even if he was numb, he was mum.

If he answered “yes”, then he could go to jail for sexually molesting his underage daughter at the time. If he answered “yes” the defense (Jose Baez and Cheney Mason) could use that information as an argument and excuse as to why “poor” Casey may have allegedly murdered her daughter.

If he says “no” then the defense can’t use it as an excuse and it validates Casey’s sociopathic personality as a liar- that she would lie about her own father and brother sexually molesting her.

So, he remained “mum.” This word was underlined for emphasis which indicates that he most likely plans to remain mum on the subject if he is indeed referring to Casey’s accusing him and Lee of sexual molestation.

But I can assure you that during his deposition and during cross examination by the State, there is no way he will be able to continue to remain “mum” on these particular accusations which Casey made.

10 WHYS?????????

Then he continues in his passive aggressive way, to admonish Casey as he asks a series of questions where he repeats the word “why” twice for emphasis and to no doubt elicit a reaction of guilt in Casey.

He does this as he asks her why she would bring down every member of her family. There are 8 “whys” and two additional ones throughout his letter.

The only problem is that sociopaths have no feelings of guilt. So his efforts are wasted on asking her why? Casey, like all sociopaths have no idea why they do what they do. They are impulsive and never consider the implications of their actions.

SHAME AND EMBARRASSMENT FOR GEORGE

George is understandably upset and embarrassed that Casey accused him and Lee of sexually molesting her. That is why he possibly can’t even bring himself to write those words.

Instead he writes:

Why, Why also destroy Lee…
Why, Why also destroy Mom…
Why, Why also destroy me, your family…
Why, Why also destroy Caylee Marie…

If he and Lee didn’t molest Casey, why wasn’t he more direct? Most people would have adamantly and angrily defended themselves and have written something “ How dare you accuse your brother and father of molesting you when you know that never happened!” They would have been more direct and not sidestep the issue as George has apparently done in this letter if indeed he is indeed referring to her accusations.

If this is the case, then in using all those WHY’S George really saying, “WHY did you spill the beans and tell all the family secrets?” The fact that he did not angrily defend himself and deny what Casey accused him and Lee of doing to her leads to a lot of questions about whether Casey is finally telling the truth about something.

After all she spilled the beans in a jailhouse letter to her then girlfriend Robin Adams. I doubt she knew that this information would be made public. In my view, she is not that bright to plan this. It just happened. If Robin would not have revealed those letters or destroyed them, no one would know about these allegations which Casey made against Lee and George.

I have no doubt that after Casey read all those “why’s” , she may have derived some sadistic pleasure in knowing that her actions upset not only George and Lee, but also her mother, Cindy, her nemesis.

It is interesting that George adds Caylee Marie into the mix as he knows quite well that Casey Marie most likely has already destroyed Caylee Marie.

GEORGE LAYING A GUILT TRIP ON DEAF EARS AND ACTING THE MARTYR

We have all seen George act out the martyr in his exclusive Fox 35 interview months back. He’s still at acting the martyr in this letter as he also tries to guilt trip Casey by writing:

“After all I have tried, sacrificed, continued
to have you, My Daughter, Why???
Continually coming to court, continually
wanting to see you, Why???

What he’s essentially telling her is that he has sacrificed so much for her by showing up in the courtroom for her. He mentions the word “continually” twice for emphasis to let her know that he never let up and was loyal in coming to court because he wanted to see her.

With his two question marks following the “why” he is essentially asking her “why” he even bothered to do that if she that if she was going to “out” him and make accusations not only about him but Lee as well.

It can also mean “ Casey why would you not be loyal to me when I have been loyal to you and showed up in court for you continually?”

IS GEORGE LEAKING OUT INFORMATION WHEN HE SAYS “ CONTINUED TO HAVE YOU or LOVE YOU , MY DAUGHTER?”

Just as there is confusion whne George wote num or mum, there is also confusion as to whehter wrote have or loveWhen George writes “continued to have you, My Daughter,” If he meant to say have, I found that to be a rather strange choice of words.” Is he leaking out some information that he continued to have his daughter sexually? If he used the word love, it may or may not mean the same thing, Exactly what is George saying here?

MORE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE ADMONISHING WHICH MUST THRILL SADISTIC CASEY

Again, George tries to passive aggressively admonish Casey by asking “Why” and adding three question marks next to it for emphasis ???.

Little does George know that his doing this, no doubt thrills Casey. If she heard George speak those words it would be music to her ears. But since she is reading it, the words are music to her eyes. It demonstrates that she got to George. Sociopaths love it when they get an emotional rise out someone. It mskes them smile.

Remember in the jailhouse tapes when Casey was smiling sadistically and laughing at Cindy when Cindy was crying and she remarked to her father about Cindy, “What is this one crying about?”

Did George continually show up in court out of his own guilt? Was George’s suicide attempt due to the overwhelming guilt he may have felt about what Casey allegedly said he did to her?

As we lean more and more from the letters, we can see that the pieces of the puzzle are coming together and giving us a clearer picture of this horribly and sadly dysfunctional family. www.drlillianglass.com

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Cindy Anthony’s Image Is Made Over But Her Body Language Shows Signals of Deception and Denial By Refusing To Identify With Anita Van der Sloot

Wednesday, June 16th, 2010

CINDY ANTHONY’S IMAGE MAKEOVER

Outer image makeovers to make someone more attractive and likeable only work if the person is attractive and likeable on the inside to begin with. That is clearly not the case with Cindy Antony, mother of Casey Anthony. who is accused on murdering Cindy’s grand daughter Caylee.

As I have said repeatedly, the body does not lie. Neither does the voice or speech.

You can use all the bleach you want to lighten you hair, grow it and style it into a more feminine less severe looking hairdo, the real you will always leak out.

You can even follow a coache’s advice and speak in slow and soft measured tones void of anger and upset, but the real you will always emerge.

Your real voice will always leak out and so will your lies in how you move. How you sound and what you say will always give away the lies you tell.

CINDY’S MULTIPLE SIGNALS OF DECEPTION

People are not stupid.For the most part they know if someone is telling them the truth or not.

I believe in her GMA interview with Ashley Banfield, Cindy was not being honest and forthright as there were so many signals of deception which leaked out when she spoke.

Her first signal of deception was when Cindy gazed upwards up after Ashley confronted her with You didn’t say that?”

Ashley’s question was in response to Cindy’s denial about the 9ll tape. During the 911 tape, Cindy said that she found her daughter’s car that was missing and it smelled a dead body in the” damn car.

As Cindy gazes upwards as you can see in the above photo, it is evident that she is trying to manufacture an answer that is most likely not true.

She said she lied to police when she told them she smelled a dead body in the car in order to get police out quicker. As she said this, she not only looks up and not directly at Ashley,she shrugs her shoulder,

Her looking up. along with her shoulder shrug, indicate two huge “tells” that show deception.

George even knows she is lying as he looks at her with a scrunched up facial expression showing disdain at her lie.

Suddenly, Cindy gazes looks down, also another tell of deception and says “ there was never… I never thought that….”

When people repeat words and speak in changed fragments, rest assured they are usually lying.

Another major tell that indicates she was most likely not being truthful was that her voice pitch rose up higher as she spoke those fragmented statements.

CINDY’S SEMANTICS

Cindy then looks straight at Ashley as she says in a strong and full voice “ a liar doesn’t make you a murder.”

The operative word here is the word “you”. It make not make “you” at home who is watching the show. a murderer.

But repeated lying may very well make anyone a sociopath and a sociopath has often been found to be a murderer.

So in Casey’s case, using the associative property applied to Cindy’s language, lyingto police about her missing daughter’s whereabouts may very well make her a sociopath and also murder.

THE REAL CINDY LEAKS OUT

When asked about Casey accusing George of molesting her, Cindy replied in measured unemotional tones, “ I read the letters and they were hurtful.”

As she says this she looks to George instead of maintaining her direct eye contact with Ashley

As she looks at George. it may be that she may perhaps be giving him the message that what he allegedly did to Casey did indeed hurt Cindy.

Then Cindy is back to her old Cindy ways – in running George and speaking for him as she adds “ It was hurtful to George”

GEORGE’S TELL’S OF DECEPTION

Next, without one hint of emotion, as if on cue, George nods and does his “golly gee shucks lip pursing, chin scrunching. I want everyone to like me,
” facial expression. And as if it was rehearsed a hundred times says “It still is.”

Well if Casey did manage to eek out the truth and let it be known what George did her- sexually molest her. then it is even more hurtful to Casey.

Maybe what is “hurtful” to George is that Casey may have betrayed their family secrets and in doing so, let it out for the world to know.

Then Ashley asks if what Casey said hurt him. What George does next is very telling body language wise.

First he shakes his head no when he should be shaking it yes and says “ I’m still gonna be there for my daughter. “ He then closes his eyes as you see in rhe photo above and looks down, as if to shut Casey out.

His words say one thing but his body certainly belies him.

He says “I‘m still gonna be there for my daughter.” It is said in a soft tone that dies off at the end.

He adds “That’s unconditional love. “ Now we see his most telling tell. He shrugs his shoulders as he says these words.

This clearly indicates that he is NOT telling the truth here. His shoulder shrug indicates that he is not only lying to us, but lying to himself as well.

MESSAGE TO GEORGE

Here is a reality check George Anthony. When your own daughter accuses you of sexually molesting her and if as you say, it isn’t true, then maybe it is high time you put some conditions on what you call “ love.”

On the other hand, if it is true and you did sexually molest your daughter, then you need to be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. If that is the case, it is no wonder your daughter is such a TOTAL mess.

THE ONLY TIME CINDY SPOKE THE TRUTH

The only time anything Cindy said in the interview rang true was when she looked directly at Ashley and said how much she misses Caylee. She said that Caylee was gone for as long as she had been alive.

You could heard the true heartfelt emotion and grief in Cindy’s voice and see it in her face. She was clearly distraught and her emotions were genuine.

CINDY GETS BACK INTO DENIAL AND GEORGE JOINS HER

Then Ashley asks Cindy “ Are you prepared for the outcome?” Both Cindy and George look down without a hint of emotion.

To me it is apparent that they have no doubt prepared for the worst outcome but refuse to admit it.

That is when Cindy in a measured unemotional tone says that she has
dreams where Casey as home.

I believe that deep down Cindy knows that the only time she will ever see her daughter come home again is in her dreams. I think that this may be Cindy’s way of coping with the brutal truth.

CINDY’S DENIAL AS SHE CAN’T RELATE TO THE MIRROR IMAGE OF JORAN VAN DER SLOOT’S MOTHER

Cindy continued to be in denial when she told Ashley that she identifies with Beth Twitty, the mother of Natalie Holloway, but NOT with Joran Van der Sloot’s mother.

I can certainly understand why she would identify with Beth Twitty from the standpoint that they both lost daughters forever and will never see their daughters live out their lives ands share experiences together.

On the other Cindy tried desperately to draw a line with the differences between Casey and Joran and between herself and Mrs. Van der Sloot. “

In fact she said to Ashley, “You know, there have been issues where she saw his angry side. I don’t know that of Casey. I don’t know Casey as being anybody that could hurt anybody.”

Cindy must have a very short memory. There certainly were instances where Casey went off on her mother and got very angry.

She just needs to go back and look att he jailhouse tapes. Casey is absolutely livid with Cindy. It looked as though Casey was so angry, that if she could get through the glass partition, she may have smacked Cindy.

There has also been a reported history of violence between Cindy and Casey. In fact brother Lee addressed it as did bounty hunter Leonard Padilla.

Casey’s anger was also directed towards her father on multiple occasions. She even told him to act like a father for once and not a cop.

So it is clear that Cindy is in denial here. Looking in the mirror and seeing another mother who will soon face seeing her child on trial and knowing that her child may probably end up dead because of being killed in prison or dying in prison for some other reason, hits Cindy too close to the bone.

The similarities between Anita Can Der Sloot’s situation and Cindy Anthony’s situation is clearly evident.

Mainly, they have both been enablers and have let their children get away with too much for way too long.

Next. it must be excruciatingly painful for Cindy to admit that like Anita, she too spawned a lying and alleged murderous sociopath who destroyed her life. www.dtlillianglass.com

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Jesse James Body Language in Nightline Interview Shows He Doesn’t Love Sandra Bullock, Hasn’t for Years And Has Humiliated and Abused Her

Thursday, May 27th, 2010

JESSE JAMES’ MONSTER FACE EXPRESSION LEAKS OUT THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW HE REALLY FEELS ABOUT SANDRA- HE CAN’T STAND HER!

First of all when someone volunteers information that was not requested, adds additional information and goes on and on, it usually means that those thoughts are in the forefront of their mind.

So when Jesse James volunteered out of the blue, that that was not a monster and said” it’s not like I think I want to get back at them” (referring to Sandra) the photo above is the facial expression that Jesse leaked out.

The truth is that this is exactly what Jesse was doing to Sandra by cheating on her. He was indeed “getting back at her”.

It was the ultimate act of passive aggression and jealously towards her. What was he getting back at Sandra? The answer is simple. He can’t stand her. She IS what he ISN’T. He resents her. Instead of talking it out or going through counseling, he acted passive aggressively with his cheating behavior and with how he spoke about her during the interview.

As he relayed those words, his previously mono faced expression and monotone voice which he had throughout the interview, transformed into a monster like expression the angry evil face you see above. This expression shows how he really feels about Sandra deep down.

As researcher, Dr. Paul Ekman of Stanford University has shown, people’s true feelings are revealed in their microexpressions which leak out. This is a perfect example of what he is talking about.

JESSE LIKES HIS TITLE AS THE MOST HATED MAN IN THE WORLD

One of the most telling and disturbing points of the interview was when the interviewer asked him how it felt to be “the most hated man in America,” He then smiled and laughed that he was”:the most hated man in the world.”

His smile was not a nervous smile which may have been the case had it been a fleeting expression. The fact that it lingered for quite a while leads me to believe that Jesse was indeed enjoying and relishing in his new title. It added to his “bad boy” image and he obviously liked that.

JESSE NEVER WAS INTO SANDRA FOR A LONG TIME

Jesse’s egregious behavior did not surprise me. I saw it years ago. Just look at the photo above. When a man walks in front of the woman he loves and has a dour expression, chances are he is not into her and.or is angry with her for some reason

Walking in front of a woman shows a lack of respect, Men in Western culture do not walk in front of a woman.

REFUSING TO COMPROMISE MY INTEGRITY ABOUT WHAT I PREVIOUSLY SAW IN JESSE AND SANDRA’S BODY LANGUAGE

When I was interviewed about the relationship of various couples throughout the years by various magazines, I was inevitably shown photos of Jesse and Sandra.

I always spoke the truth and said how there appeared to be trouble in their marriage and that Jesse was not into her.

The person writing the article often wouldn’t like what I said because they had an agenda to write about such as Hollywood’s coolest or sexiest couples.

So they would get some other body language expert who was less qualified, less educated, and less experienced, to go along with what they wanted them to say for the sake for the spin on the article they were writing .

But not me. I stuck to my guns and never compromised my integrity just to have my name in print. I never have and I never will. I reported what I saw and would not waiver from the truth of my observations.

So when news broke that Jesse had all of these mistresses I wasn’t at all surprised. Sandra And Jesse;s body language during their public outings always gave it way to me, especially on the Red Carpet.

It showed that Sandra was usually into him as you see in the above photo, but he did not reciprocate the attention or affection. He would usually be seen looking away or pulling away from he as he is in this photo.

JESSE’S BEHAVIOR TOWARDS SANDRA ON THE RED CARPET SPOKE VOLUMES FOR YEARS

This photo is the most recent one of the to of them together and you can see how Jesse appears to be in his own separate world.
The most telling thing for me was when I observed Jesse’s behavior on the Red Carpet the night before Sandra received her Academy Award.

Mark Steinmetz of ET was interviewing Sandra. Jesse was in the background, Sandra called him to come over to join her during the interview and he walked away. He ignored Sandra’s pleas. She made light of it during the interview, but her body language showed that she was embarrassed about it.

In this photo at yet another awards ceremony when it was raining, he holds the umbrella over his head, not Sandra’s. It shows selfishness on his part, especially when it was her night and it was important for her not to get wet.

TEARS OF SHAME AND EMBARRASSMENT

During the interview Jesse was confronted with the words Sandra spoke at the Academy Awards” that I finally know what it’s like for someone to have mu back.”

Hesse pursed his lips which indicated that the didn’t want to discuss it, He also looked away.

His tears at the Academy Awards ceremony were clearly the result of tears of guilt and embarrassment.

He knew very well that he did not deserve the accolades that Sandra was bestowing upon him and his body reacted to that in shame. That is why you saw him teary eyed. They weren’t happy tears. They were embarrassed tears.

The other thing that was telling about his relationship with Sandra was when he was doing Celebrity Apprentice as you see in the photo above.

He could have called Sandra, his wealthy wife who had tons of celebrity connections to help raise money for his charity but he didn’t. That was passive aggressive behavior.

In fact Donald Trump Jesse on it. Donald said “You are married to one of the richest women in Hollywood, so why didn’t you call upon her to help you raise the money? Jesse had no real answer to this question. That spoke volumes to me.

JESSE WAS FULL OF BS EXCUSES AS TO WHY HE CHEATED FROM SELF SABOTAGE TO CHILDHOOD ABUSE

Jesse had all kind of excuse as to why he cheated on Sandra from his sabotaging things to his childhood abuse. Puhleez!

The sabotage excuse when he said that he always sabotages things in his life is complete bullshit or he never would have been that successful with his bike business or TV show. He would have sabotaged that as well.

So I am not buying the “ I sabotage things” as the reason he cheated. He cheated on Sandra because deep down he couldn’t stand her. ‘

He couldn’t stand her popularity, her fame, her upbeat and positive personality, and who she was as a person. It was the polar opposite of who he was as a person, no doubt.

That is why he sought out sex partners who were the complete opposite of her and more like him. He sought out sex partners with whom he could feel superior- more than and not less than he felt around Sandra.That is why he chose like minded Nazi loving Michelle McGee.

Jesse no dount was like minded as you can see as he wears his Nazi hat and makes the”sig heil” Nazi salute complete with fingers over his upper lip to signify Hitler’s trademark mustache.

THE CHILDHOOD ABUSE EXCUSE IS LAME AND A LIE

He paused and looked down and then he away when he was talking about child abuse. This indicates he was lying.

He did the same when he began crying by pausing and looking down. He also took a while to cry which shows that he was trying to bring up emotion to try to bring up tears.

He also had to excuse himself because he could apparently only eek out one tear so he had to leave the stage to “regain his composure.”

And even if his father Larry did abuse him, which I seriously doubt based on the body language analysis I did on his father, what does that have to do with cheating on your wife?

Millions of people have been abused as children and remain faithful. In fact in many cases it may make you more faithful as you cling to someone who doesn’t abuse you.

JESSE JAMES FATHER IS TELLING THE TRUTH

Based on Jesse Jame’s father’s Larry’s body language, I completely believe him, Larry said that Jesse made himself a criminal and nothing is true and all that he has been saying all these years is a lie.

Jesse’s father showed no signals of deception. He looked right at the interviewers as he spoke and his voice never wavered, He spoke lovingly about his son’s childhood and said how they did everything together and were best friends.

It was clear through his tone of voice and facial expression that he was devastated by Jesse’s no doubt false allegations.

YOU WHEN INTO REHAB FOR WHAT???????

The above photo is Jesse leaking about a smile as he discusses rehab right before he eeks out a tear. That is telling. It shows that his teary emotion was not genuine.

Also, here is the scoop. You DO NOT go into rehab because you have been abused as a child. You go into rehab because you have a problem dealing with addiction to drugs, alcohol, or sex.

So when Jesse was asked point blank as to why he went into rehab as soon as he said that he went because he was abused as a child it conformed everything I said since day one that it was all done for PR spin and that there was no way he was a sex addict. He was just doing it for effect.

Then when the interviewer asked what Sandra said he quickly replied that she was proud of him. WHAT?????? I seriously doubt that this woman who was apparently clueless as to what he was doing to her behind his back used the words “ I” and “ proud” in the same sentence.

JESSE ABUSED SANDRA

Jesse in his interview stops himself as he almost says that the one who is abused often abuses. He then went in a different direction as he realized where he was going with that line of talking. Body language wise you see him stop mid thought as he purses his lips to suppress what he was about to say and implicate himself as an abuser.

But the truth is that Jess has abused Sandra. He had abused her emotionally. Cheating on someone who trusts you and cherishes you and humiliating her like that is abuse. Subjecting her to potential disease by having affairs with multiple women is abuse.

Jesse has humiliated her publicly. I have no doubt that he did the same thing to her privately.

Most likely Sandra ignored it for a variety of reasons. Either she was too bust to deal with it or she thought it would change, or perhaps she wanted to keep the peace and stay married.

But I am certain that there were signals of emotional abuse throughout the marriage. There certainly were signs in their body language as depreciated in so many photographs of the two of them together.

As you will read in my upcoming book called Toxic Men- Identify, Deal With and Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable from Adams Media in November, many women are unaware they are being abused emotionally until it is too late. They often ignore the body language and verbal signs as Sandra unfortunately did. www.drlillianglass.com

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Lindsay Lohan’s Lying Body Language to In Hollywood.com Interview Shows Defensiveness and Anger

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

As a body language expert being able to read between the lines can be very upsetting when you see someone who was once so gorgeous and talented headed for destruction. Lindsay Lohan’s one on one interview with Hollywood.com was very sad and disturbing to me.

As Lindsay answered the very blunt and direct questions posed to her, there was nothing about it that rang true except for one part.

That was the part when she spoke about how negatively she feels about her father and how she can’t stand him. She called him a convicted felon and said with regard to her father that “enough is enough.”

You can see this in the above photo. That was the only time that her body language showed that she was direct. She faced forward and leaned out and looked directly at the interviewer.

Her facial expression was congruent with what she said. She looked pained and angry based on the tension in her lips and jaw area and on her forehead.

It makes one wonder whether father Michael Lohan’s negative actions stimulate Lindsay’s very disturbing and destructive behavior.

If she does have an alleged alcohol and or drug problem, is his going to the press and sharing her private conversations adding to her aberrant behaviors?

What rings very true is when she says she has nothing to do with him.

LINDSAY’S “ TELLS” WHICH INDICATE LYING

The rest of her interview was filled with signals of deception, which indicated that she was lying about almost every one of the issues about which she was questioned.

Here were the lying “tells” which were observed throughout the interview :

1. Shoulder shrugging

2. Pulling back

3. Looking down and away from the interviewer

4. Looking up to indicate that she was manufacturing answers to the questions

5. Excessive eye blinking

6. Repetition of words and phrases

7. Repeating the question at the beginning of the sentence

8. Using “uh” um’s a lot

9. Telling way too much information

10. Going off on tangents

11. Making countless excuses for actions and behaviors

12. Pulling the head and body back

13. Squirming in her seat

BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS IS DEFINITELY NOT “PSEUDOSCIENCE” OR “JUNK SCIENCE” . INSTEAD IT IS BOTH AN ART AND A SCIENCE

And for those of you who are:

a. contentious,

b. die hard Lindsay Lohan fans who can see nothing wrong with her behavior, or

c. who just plain like to argue, please take your fight somewhere else . ‘

Don’t waste your time or mine or show your lack of knowledge by telling me that body language analysis is a pseudoscience or junk science.

I can assure you that it is not. It is based on science and behavioral analysis.

Look at the work of one of the greatest body language researchers of our time, Dr. Paul Ekman, of Stanford University. who’s work on facial tells and micromovement analysis is showcased in the Fox hit television show “ Lie to Me.”

While body language analysis is based on scientific evidence , there is also an art to it. It takes a long time to learn it and an even longer time to be really good at it.

I liken it to what a surgeon does. Based on his education, knowledge and experience, the surgeon, knows exactly what to do during an operation. But the success of the operation depends on his skill as a surgeon and how well he uses and manipulates his hands. In that respect, it is an art.

The same holds true in body language analysis. Anyone that tells you differently that it is a junk science or that it is a pseudoscience is completely ignorant and/ or has a personal axe to grind like a certain self proclaimed Tourette syndrome psychologist named Leslie E. Packer PhD who writes the blog called pogowasright and “ Chronicles of Dissent” with the operative word being on her moniker “dissent.”

DR.LILLIAN GLASS HAS NEVER BACKPEDDLED, AS ” PSYCHOLOGIST” LESLIE E. PACKER AUTHOR OF “CHRONICLES OF DISSENT” AND POGOWASRIGHT, ERRONOUSLY STATES.

I first encountered this psychologist, Leslie E. Packer Ph.D , author of the blog “Chronicles of Dissent” and pogowasright , after I read a very nasty and defamatory blog where she wrote an internet headline that I backpeddled in relation to my series of blogs about Britney Spears . Britney if you remember, had had some issues at the time.

I wondered who would anonymously write such untrue and defamatory comments about me, be such a hater towards other media psychologists, in show cowardly behavior by not signing their name, and even go as far as admitting she wrote to the Board of Psychology (who by the way ended up ignoring her hostile efforts).

This blogger continued her personal vendetta by attacking my work as a body language expert, thumbing her nose at it and calling it junk and pseudoscience.

But what she didn’t count on was how I ironically used my scientific skills as a body language expert to uncover this formerly anonymous blogger’s identity. In doing so it completely refuted her ignorant claims that body language analysis is junk or pseudoscience.

DR. LILLIAN GLASS’ BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS WAS USED TO UNCOVER THE IDENTITY OF ANONYMOUS BLOGGER, TOURETTE SYNDROME PSYCHOLOGIST LESLIE E. PACKER. AUTHOR OF BLOG CHRONICLES OF DISSENT AND POGOWASRIGHT

After analyzing various “tells” in her blog writings, I discovered that all of this Toxic verbal venom towards me and my profession came from a 70 something New York based psychologist ( a non- media psychologist) who in my view had a definite axe to grind.

In fact, to me it seemed like nothing else but a clear case of professional jealousy. Based on my analysis of her specific “tells” I discovered her name was Leslie E Packer a PhD who reportedly dealt with patients with Tourette’s Syndrome . She was also the author of a blog called Chronicles of Dissent” and pogowasright. When I punched up her name on the internet it appeared that she was no stranger to her activity as there were numerous allegedly derogatory headlines over the internet which several others made about her.

So, the bottom line is that anyone who calls body language analysis a pseudoscience or junk science is to be ignored.

They may allegedly have “issues” or a personal axe to grind.

WHAT LINDSAY REALLY SAID

ANGER. DENIAL AND DEFIANCE

When Lindsay was asked point blank whether she should be in rehab , the most telling signal was that she looked away, In a defensive facial move, she slightly wrinkled her forehead as she lifted her shoulder (as in giving the cold shoulder)

In an angry clipped staccato tone stated “ I don’t see why I have to go.” Her answer clearly indicated that she was in denial. She was angry at the question and even more angry at the notion that someone would think of sending her to rehab .

As she looks away her face reflects her defiance as she continues on making lame excuses.

SIGNALS OF DECEPTION AND VULNERABILITY WHEN DISCUSSING “MISSING” PASSPORT

When someone repeats the question you asked and manipulates one of your key words, chances are they a re not telling you the truth.

The interviewer bluntly asks Did your passport really go missing or was it an excuse.?”

Immediately you notice a shoulder shrugs she repeats the same sentence. These are two definite signals of deception.

Then she continues , as she touches her neck. “ and says “ other thing a piece of jewelery and items that were in my possession, so I thought.”

The volunteering of that much information which was not requested, along with her shoulder shrug were two more signals of deception, making it a total of four signals in just a sentence .

When Lindsay denied that her passport didn’t go missing but rather was stolen, this change in semantics shows that she has definite problems with getting things straight. She had no proof the passport was stolen.

In the photo above you can clearly see that notice that Lindsey holding onto her neck and chin. The neck is one of the the most vulnerable parts of our body

So when someone holds onto it it usually reflects that they are indeed feeling vulnerable. Lindsay may very well have felt vulnerable after being asked this question which she most probably knew was not true.

Finally her shifting her eyes to the side as soon as she was asked the question is further indication of deception.

WAY TOO MUCH INFORMATION ABOUT MISSING PROGRAMS’

When someone gives you too much information and makes excuses and gets into excess detail, they are usually not telling you the truth.

Lindsay is full of justifying her behavior and that is a huge signal of deception.

LYING ABOUT TAKING DRUGS

When Lindsay was asked if she was still taking drugs the telling signal of deception was a shoulder shrug and her looking away as though she didn’t want to face the truth. The muscle tension in her forehead indicating that she as angry she was asked this question. d

Her cocking her head to the side and looking own to the side indicates that she is attempting to manufacture an answer.

DEFENSIVENESS

Perhaps the most telling thing throughout the interview was Lindsay’s defensiveness,. This was really evident when she was asked about missing her programs.

Instead of a simple yes or no answer as to whether she attended all of her programs she looks worried and terrified and is full of excuses about how she stayed in NY and did another class and something about a funeral.

THE INDIAN EMBASSY ???

When people lie their excuses often get more and more creative. They make no sense whatsoever min terms of their decision making process.

When Lindsay said she tried everything to get back to LA for her court date she said she even went to the Indian embassy.

This makes no sense at all. An American has no business going to an Indian embassy. They can only help their Indian citizens not American ones.

ANGRY CHIN JUT WHEN ASKED ABOUT HER PARTYING IN CANNES

In this photo above we really see a very angry Lindsay Lohan who looks very defiant as she juts her chin forward and glares at the interviewer who asked her about her partying in Cannes. She completely denied it stating that she was working.

She was extremely defensive body language wise with a raised shoulder indicting that she was ready for a fight. It;s much like an aggressive animal does with raised hackles when they are ready to attack.

The odd thing was that the movie that she was allegedly promoting a movie on which she says she was working hasn’t even been made. So in essence she was there to promote an idea for a movie that has no production date

LINDSAY AND HER NEW ADDITON – A SCRAM BRACELET

The whole thing is so sad. It was so sad to see Lindsay looking so devastated in the courtroom as she was sentenced to wear a SCRAM bracelet to determine if she would be free of alcohol in her system.

She was then told that she would be subject to random drug testing. I certainly hope that Lindsay can accomplish these two things. I hope that she will not drink or take drugs. I hope that if she is addicted to either of these substances that she take advantage of this situation to get herself sorted out in a 12 step program or get herself to an addiction specialist who can help her. Rehab may also be a good choice for her. Even though she failed at it in the past, she just may succeed this time around. Oftentimes it may take many stints in rehab to get clean of drugs and alcohol.

FAMILY DYNAMICS

I pray for Lindsay. I would love to see her succeed and become an inspiration to others. I know that this talented and beautiful young woman has suffered a lot of emotional distress due to her relationship with her TOXIC father.

Instead of taking it out on herself and self destructing, she needs to get some professional help so that she can turn her pain outward and not inward.

DAD

Personally, I believe that the damage between Lindsay and her father is irreparable. When he shared her personal audiotapes with the world and allegedly received payment for doing so I believe that was the ultimate betrayal. There are some things which are unforgivable and in my view that is one of them.

I believe that she needs to continue to unplug from her father and continue to keep him at arms length from her. He does not need to be in her life. I believe that there are some people who are so TOXIC to others that they can wreak havoc on their psyche and restimulate self destructive behaviors.

MOM

While Dina her mother is clearly an enabler based on her actions and denial of Lindsay’s issues, there is no doubt that Lindsay loves her mother. You can see her love for her mother when she talked about her mother in the Hollywood.com interview.

You could even see the affection the two have for one another in the latest ET interview where Lindsay surprised her mother with having her mother’s house cleaned by a professional organizer. I think that their relationship could be a lot healthier if they both had some joint counseling together and Dina learned about boundaries and not enabling her daughter.

SIBLINGS

There is also a lot of affection between Lindsay and her siblings. In fact she became teary eyed when she talked about not being able to attend her younger brother’s graduation because she was going to be in court .

I believe that Lindsay can turn this negative experience into a positive one and use the time to get herself sorted out.

I hope that she gets counseling to help her deal with the pain that appears to be gnawing inside of her. Nothing would be more inspiring than to see a positive comeback for this beautiful and gifted actress. www.drlillianglass.com

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Tommy Croslin’s Voice and Speech Patterns in Jailhouse Confession Ring True. What Does Ron Cummings Know?

Wednesday, May 19th, 2010

TOMMY’S NON DECEPTIVE VOCAL TELLS

Tommy Croslin, brother of Misty Croslin, the ex step mother of missing five year old Haleigh Cummings, told his grandmother, Flora Hollars that he knows how Haleigh died. Based on his vocal tells during his phone conversation with his grandmother he appears to me to be telling the truth.

He is fluent in speech, without hesitation, repetition, and does’t use ” like um and ums” – tells which can often be heard when there is deception. He has a fluidity to the rate of speech. His tone of voice is appropriately inflected, especially when he speaks about being scared. He says that he is scared of anyone hurting his kids and I believe him. In fact, n you can actually hear the fearful emotional state reflected in his vocal tone.

I especially believe Tommy when he tells his grandmother that he was threatened to keep quiet about what happened. Perhaps that would seem to explain the headless rat that arrived in his mailbox, which Ron allegedly sent as a reminder to not “rat him out”.

WHAT REALLY HAPPENED TO HALEIGH?

Grandmother Flora Hollars questioned her grandson Tommy about that horribly fateful night that Haleigh was last seen. She said:

“I was told that Ron come home, and Haleigh and found one of his pills and took it and was dead … Ron called you to get you to come up there and help Misty clean the house while he disposed of Haleigh,”

But then Tommy denied this scenario which his grandmother presented and said it simply wasn’t true.

He said he was threatened to stay quiet about what happened, or risk being killed. He told his grandmother he feels more safe in jail.

Tommy then asked his grandmother about his sister Misty and if she has told investigators all she knows about Haleigh.

This line of Tommy’s questioning definitely leads me to believe what I have said all along that Misty knows a lot about what happened to the little girl.

I read it in her vocal pattern during the 911 call and saw it in her body language on every subsequent television interview she did where she discussed how she didn’t know what happened to little Haleigh.

DID HALEIGH OVERDOSE ON OXYCONTIN?

Even though Tommy denied Flora’s scenario that she heard Haleigh and found one of his pills and took it and was dead …and even denied the rest of her scenario that “ Ron called you to get you to come up there and help Misty clean the house while he disposed of Haleigh,” the real question is, what part of the scenario is Tommy denying? Is there any part of the scenario which is true? Is he denying the part that:

Haleigh found one of his pills and took it and was dead, or that
Ron called him to come up there and help Misty clean the house, or that
Ron disposed of Haleigh?

Was Tommy saying “no” to all of this story or only to a part of it?

This is not the first time we heard something about Haleigh in relation to drugs. It was one of the three stories that Flora said that Misty shared with her grandmother as to what happened to Haleigh.

It was also a scenario that we read about in one of Misty Croslin’s friend’s jailhouse letters. Apparently her friend Kristina Prevatt aka Nay Nay made reference to Haleigh getting into some “oxycottin.”

If it was true that Haleigh got a hold of the drug and ingested it, did she first become unconscious before she died? As soon as she was unconscious why wasn’t she immediately taken to the emergency room where her stomach could have been pumped and her life could have possibly been saved ?

The reason may have been simple. If it was discovered that she ingested oxycontin, authorities question would be where she got the drug. There would be no doubt be an investigation and Ron’s drug dealing business would be over. So nothing was done to save her, if indeed she did ingest the drug. If this is the case, she was obviously neglected and left to die.

Could this be the reason that Ron acted so odd throughout this entire situation? Did he know what happened to Haleigh as he had Misty call 911 and as he subsequently went on television to do all of the interviews?

RON’S ODD BODY LANGUAGE AND BEHAVIOR SINCE THE 911 CALL

I have always been troubled by Ronald Cummings’ body language and behavior ever since I first heard the 911 tape where he had his then 17 year old girlfriend Misty reported his daughter Haleigh missing.

To me, his behavior seemed very confusing and not congruent. Did he know a lot more than he was saying during his interviews? In my view, his behavior was very odd. Here are the elements which have troubled me about Ron’s behavior.

The 911 call was made by a 17 year old girl and not by Ron, the parent of the child. As we all saw in the Greta van Sustern interviews, Ron is a “ take charge kind of guy” as he appeared to direct Misty as to what to say and not to say. So why didn’t he take charge that night and call 911?

In the brief moment he speaks to the 911 operator, Ron said ” I just got home from work. If I find who took my daughter I will kill them. He then repeats this threat several times, which is very odd. Most people who were missing a child would go into the woods, even in the dark and start to call out to the child. They would wonder why she would have walked off.They would plead with 911 to help them locate their child. They would not make threats.

3. During the 911 call he told Misty to hang up because he had” better people to talk to.” Who were these “better” people to whom he was referring that were more important to speak to other than law enforcement?

4. His sudden rush to marry a legally underage 17 year old shortly after the child disappeared was also cause for concern. Was his rush to marry Misty done so that his wife could not testify against him? Did he marry her so quickly because he did not want to get arrested for being with an underage girl?

5. His controlling behavior over Misty during the Greta van Sustern interview and Today show interview and inconsistent statements make one wonder whether he already knew what happened to his daughter. Why was he so controlling over Misty in her speaking? Did he not want her to reveal something relevant to the press?

6. Ron’s hurling himself on the ground for what seemed to be for the effect of the camera and his non tears were also odd.

7. Ron was too sure that Haleigh was taken and still alive. After a year, most people would at least question whether Haleigh had been killed.

8.Ron’s constant verbal theme that he was “at work,” said throughout all of his interviews was odd. It was as though he mentioned it to everyone who would listen so they would be sure to know he had nothing to do with Haleigh’s disappearance because he was somewhere else- “at work”.

While it was documented that Ron was indeed at work, what happened before he went to work? During one interview, he had a smug Chesire cat grin, when he spoke about how he was”at work.”

He even made the same statement to the undercover officer to whom he sold the drugs in the car as he also told him that he was “at work”.

9.Ron’s volunteering too much unsolicited information that “Haleigh was not a victim of a dope boy”- a young male that moves hard drugs (ex. cocaine, crack), as well as the standard marijuana and prescription pills to a specific geographic area or neighborhood, was also odd.

10. His deceptive verbal tells of hesitation, fragmentation, and the repetition to Geraldo Rivera’s interview were also concerns.

11. Ron made a disconcerting statement to Geraldo when Geraldo tells him he was told that Ron hit his child. Ron’s answer was fragmented as he repeated Gerlado’s exact words in the beginning of the question .Ron then goes on to say “ Me and my child have an agreement. Daddy, daughter. She has been spanked on her behind the way DCF says that you can take care of disciplining your children.”

First of all what is this daddy daughter agreement? This fragmented statement with way too much information leads me to question as to whether Ron may have possibly hit Haleigh or possibly backhanded her to the face as Geraldo asked.

12. Ron lied to Geraldo about having nothing to do with drugs when in fact we know that he did, based on his recent drug bust.

13. Finally, Ron’s bravado when he was first arrested, telling reporter Dan Treen that he will kill the person who killed Haleigh makes me once again question if this was his way to possibly mislead authorities who so they would take the focus of of him.

DID MISTY HARM HALEIGH?

One of the other possible scenarios that Flora Hollars said that Misty relayed to her in relation to what happened to Haleigh was that she hit Haleigh over the head with some wood.

The inconsistencies with regard to Misty during her interviews since Haleigh went missing are a follows:

Misty told Greta Van Sustern she did not sleep with Haleigh.
Misty told Nancy Grace that Hailey was not in bed with her, indicating they had not slept together.
Misty then said at one time Hailey was asleep in the same bed with her brother.
Misty said she was washing the sheets and put a blanket over Haleigh when she was sleeping
Misty told Meredith Viera that Haleigh was in her bed
Misty told Nancy Grace that she and Haleigh were in bed together.
Misty also said she went to bed at 10 PM and woke up at 3. Ron said he called Misty at 3:25 as he was pulling into the driveway.I want to know what happened in those 25 minutes when Misty reported that she woke up to the time Ron called her as he pulled into the driveway. And why would anyone call anyone as they were pulling into the driveway when they would see the person in a matter of seconds? It didn’t make any sense at all.

TOMMY IS THE FIRST

During one interview where I was on a panel with Leonard Padilla, the famous bounty hunter, he said that”:Tommy would be the first to crack.” He said that Tommy would be the first one to tell what happened and Leonard was absolutely correct.

Tommy is frightened to losing his wife Lindsey and his family and keeps mentioning this. In fact in his last conversation with Tommy, grandmother Flora Hollars reassured Tommy that Lindsey loved him and wasn’t leaving him.

So it seems to me as though Tommy is highly motivated to get back to the wife and family he loves. No doubt that is why he has decided that it is in his best interest to tell the truth and to tell all that he knows and , finally cooperate.

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Naomi Campbell’s Body Language and Vocal Tone On Oprah Indicates She May Continue To Be A Danger to Others As She “Sees Red,” Is In Denial, and Blames Others

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

NAOMI NEEDS TO BE TALKING TO A MENTAL HEATH PROFESSIONAL INSTEAD OF OPRAH

Perhaps one of the most disturbing interviews I have ever seen was watching model Naomi Campbell on Oprah.

Naomi’s :

crying for no reason for no reason at all

not knowing why she was crying when asked by Oprah,

her telling Oprah that she” sees red’ and then doesn’t remember anything and

her making countless excuses for her egregious behavior

leads me to believe that she is a clear danger to anyone who has to work with her or deal with her personally or professionally.

A person with no clue why they act the way they do and abuses others because they don’t do exactly what is expected, is a TOXIC PERSON and frightening to be around.

Perhaps Oprah may have even sensed that Naomi might possibly be dangerous and go off on her as well, especially after Naomi said that she “sees red” and then doesn’t remember what happens after she goes off on someone.

Maybe that is why Oprah’s body language indicated that she was particularly gentle with Naomi on her show. Perhaps she didn’t want to upset Naomi to the point that she saw red and ended up throwing something at Oprah.

WHY OPRAH HAD NAOMI ON THE SHOW AND WHAT NAOMI WAS TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH BY BEING ON THE SHOW?

We obviously know why Oprah had Naomi on the show- sweeps ot ratings season. But what was Naomi’s reason for being on Oprah’s show?

She had nothing to promote and really had nothing of value to say except make excuses for her bad behavior and to display how TOXIC she was.

Sometimes people go on Oprah to set the record straight. They want to tell their side of the story and to let the public know who they really are.

Well Naomi’s appearance definitely let everyone know who she is- a very disturbed woman in my view who needs to be feared until she gets some major professional help and gets her anger in control .

Looking at the little red Kabballah bracelet tied to her wrist, it will take a lot more than Kabbalah, Madonna’s organization to set this woman straight. It will take hours and hours of serious therapy by a qualified professional.

NAOMI BEING A SELF ADMITTED” CONTROL FREAK” SPEAKS TO HER IMMATURITY, LACK OF SELF CONTROL, BOUNDARIES AND IMMATURITY AND BEING A TOXIC PERSON

While not everyone who is a self admitted control freak is abusive, being a control freak and not being flexible and tolerant of others can often lead towards abusing others.

Look at another self admitted “control freak,” Kate Gosselin and how she abused her former husband Jon, her kids, and most recently, her dancing partner on Dancing With the Stars, Tony Dovalani.

While Kate has been seen throwing clothing and toys, Naomi’s throwing items like cell phones and other items and hitting people and ABC cameras shows that this woman is out of control herself.

This is the case with most control freaks. They cannot control themselves and their own impulses , so they try to control others and everyone around them.

When A baby doesn’t get their way, they cry or often throw a tantrum. That is exactly what Naomi does. She obviously hasn’t grown up. She still resorts to this immature and infantile behavior. Mature grownups use words. They don’t throw things at others and hit them.

BRINGING HER MARRIED BOYFRIEND ON THE SHOW DID NOT ENDEAR NAOMI TO MANY VIEWERS

For someone who espouses to do the right thing and encourages moral turpitude, it didn’t seem very Oprah-like to me to allow Naomi to display her married boyfriend on the show like a first grader brings a pet turtle to school for “show and tell.”

I don’t care if the man is a handsome Russian or looks like he stepped out of the pages of Gentleman’s Quarterly, or that he has been separated for ten years.

I don’t care if he said it twice or twenty times. The fact is that he is still a married man and doesn’t sit right with a lot of viewers. That did not help Naomi in trying to rehab her image on Oprah in my view. Instead, it showed very poor judgment on her part.

Control Freaks as Naomi described herself, may be on their best behavior with a lover Naomi says she likes to have a man in control. So no doubt, her Russian married boyfriend agrees with this philosophy or he wouldn’t be with her for very long.

But eventually one’s the real personality comes out. So no doubt when Naomi starts showing more signs of a her control freak nature, who uses violence to get her way, her married Russian lover may go back to the wife to whom he was separated from for the past ten years.

NAOMI IF FULL OF THE BLAME GAME FROM ACCUSING ABC OF PUTTING IN SOUND EFFECTS WHEN SHE HIT THE CAMERA TO HER EMPTY WORDS ABOUT AN ABANDONED CHILDHOOD

As soon as Naomi spoke she turned millions off viewers. While she had every right to not speak about an issue when she was interviewed and even had a right to walk off the set if it upset her that much, she did NOT have right to slap a producer’s camera on her way out.

She could have done some major damage to extremely sensitive and sophisticated equipment.

Naomi claimed to Oprah that there was “a sound effect” added to the ABC News reports on the incident. ABC News claims that they did not add any sound effects to the ABC News reports on the alleged blood diamond gift, which aired April 22 on both World News and Nightline.

I believe them as news organizations do not do such things. Having worked for ABC’s Los Angeles’ affiliate myself as a reporter, I can assure you that this does NOT happen.

Naomi had no accountability whatsoever. ‘She actually smiled as smug smile as you can see in the above photo. She spoke about her lashing out as though she was proud of her TOXIC behavior.

EXCUSES, EXCUSES , AND MORE EXCUSES AS SHE EXPLAINS HER THROWING THINGS COMES FROM ABANDONMENT ISSUES

Naomi had to clarify that it was not a jewel encrusted phone that she threw at the housekeeper but a regular one!

When Oprah calmly asked her “What it is in you that tells you it’s OK thow throw things?” Naomi looks away and says sees red as she said she didn’t even remember why she threw the phone at the housekeeper who couldn’t find her jeans. She says “ I don’t remember I just threw the phone .

She then goes on to say “I’m ashamed.” Nut Naomi showed no visible body language signs of shame and no vocal signs of shame. It was clearly noting more than rehearsed rhetoric, especially when she attributed her actions to “abandonment issues.”

After Naomi had no clue or insight as to why she behaves as she does, she decided to bring in some psychology 101 and discuss “abandonment issues.”

As she discussed this she looked down. She couldn’t even look at Oprah as she knew this was complete BS. Like Oprah remarked in a calm monotone, lots of people have abandonment issues and mamma issues and they don’t throw things.

When Naomi tied to lamely explain that since she was abandoned she keeps trying to build up a family around her “ that’s not my immediate family.” She goes on to say that if she feels a mistrust then” she let’s loose with her violent behavior.

Well here is a clue Naomi. Your helpers and assistants and cab drivers and people on airplanes and taxi drivers are NOT your family.

I would say create a real family of your own, but on second thought until you get your anger and your psychological issues sorted out, it would be a tragedy to bring anyone into your life and abuse them like you have constantly abused others.

NAOMI”S MOTHER SPILLS THE BEANS

While Naomi tried to attribute her issues on to her mother, he mother let out some very valuable information about Naomi.

She said that she worked hard as a 19 year old mother and sacrificed a lot so that Naomi could have everything she wanted and get a great education and attend private schools.

This screams at what an ingrate Naomi is. Instead of focusing on what she didn’t have – her mother’s time, she needs to focus on what she did have- and how her mother made every opportunity possible like going to private school. Perhaps that would help her diffuse her internal rage.

PLAYING THE VICTIM ROLE COMPLETE WITH TEARS

When a person cries and cries and can’t tell you why they are crying, a possibility is that they are in a depression.

But when one is on Oprah and doesn’t wipe off their tears and leaves them there to glisten, chances are very high that they are using their tears as a form of manipulation in leaving them there for effect. They want you to feel sorry or pity for them.

I have no doubt that this was the case with Naomi. Oprah offered her a kleenex, but the tears were still there, glistening. Also when she wiped away some non tears that is when I was convinced it was all for effect and all for control and manipulation.

THUMBING HER NOSE UP AT HER PUNISHMENT FOR COMMUNITY SERVICE

When Naomi had to undergo hours of community service she wore her designer clothing complete with evening gown. This was an obvious message to the powers that be. She tried to explain it away that she had a photo shoot afterwards.

One does NOT come to photo shoots in a designer gown. The gown is usually put on at the time of the photo shoot as to not ruin it with perspiration or dirt.

If she was doing her community service washing out toilets and floors, there is a high percentage that she would get some dirt and grime on her gown. So what she was saying was ridiculous.

She then tried to spin it that she had nice clothing and likes to dress well and so she wore what she usually wears. Puhleeze!

It was clear as to what Naomi was doing and saying by this action. Her message was “ I am above it I am entitled and I will show you! I will wear designer elegant gowns to your lowly common community service to further rub in your face just who I am!”

It was clear that she was thumbing her nose at the system in a very immature way.

PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES AND NAOMI IS NOT PRETTY

Watching Oprah fawn over Naomi and drool over how beautiful she was and the perfection 0f her body was absolutely sickening to me. In my eyes. When Oprah spoke about how she envied Naomi and her glamorous life, it spoke volumes about Oprah and her insecurities about her looks and self admitted weight issues.

Naomi is anything but pretty, attractive, or beautiful in my eyes. In fact she is quite the opposite. I strongly subscribe to the “pretty is as pretty does” philosophy.

So what is she has a proportional figure which makes her sexy to men as Bono said. Maybe in her past she took cocaine to keep thin and keep her model figure as so many models did back in the day.

But now that she is 40, she showed that she spends hours and hours a day of grueling exercise to keep that figure. That is her job. As a live mannequin , Ii she gets flabby she won’t look as good in the clothing which people pay her a lot of money to showcase.

Anyone who is that nasty, clueless, in denial, unaccountable for their actions, superficial and remorseless is anything but pretty in my eyes !

NO REMORSE IN VOCAL TONE AS SHE CLAIMS TO WANTS TO BE A BETTER PERSON

Wearing her her little red $20 Kabbalah Center string on her wrist, Naomi wipes away her contrived tears as in a monotone, she says that she wants to be a better person.

Based on her lack of emotion in her tone and her looking away, and lack of remorse in her facial expression or body language, those appeared to be empty words. They sounded good but they were not heartfelt.

If Naomi wants to be a better person, the first thing she needs to so is stop working and gallivanting around and get into some serious and intensive therapy before she interacts with others.

She needs to give some of her millions that she earned throughout the years to charitable causes like the Smile Train Foundation or Doctors Without Borders who operate on patients with facial deformities.

A better person gives and is not only consumed with themselves. They donate their time and efforts to help others.

Maybe Naomi needs to start at modeling school or class for inner city young women to help them build their self esteem.

Finally anyone who wants to be a better person does the right thing. That includes not going with a married man – even if he has been separated for ten years. If he hasn’t divorced his wife and made a commitment, it means that he is still connected to his wife.

Oprah’s last words to Naomi was that she hopes she finds peace and that Naomi not spend as much time on her external world and more on her internal world.

That is like asking a duck to use a computer. What Oprah really needed to say was, “run and see a therapist as soon as you can because you have clearly demonstrated on this show that you are in serious need of help.” www.drlillianglass.com

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