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Ocotomom Nadya Suleman’s Body Language Shows Double Message and Manipulation

Tuesday, September 21st, 2010

If you showed the above photo to 100 people and asked “Does the person in this photo look like a  porn star, a large percent may very well answer  “yes. ” They would answer ” yes” because physically the person in this photo above fits the profile of ladies who may be porn stars attractive, toned figure, large breasts, good makeup,  long lashes, and wear a lot of low cleavage showing outfits.

But the photo is not the photo of a porn star(yet). It is  Nadya Suleman known as  who practically  beard her breasts for all to see with her very low cut cleavage enhancing top as she speaks to TMZ about how she will be kicked out of her home.

In the above photo we see Nadya in an interview  with RadarOnline where she  flaunts her cleavage and sticks out her chest for all to see in a provocative pose. She says she   worries 24 hours a day that she can’ t pay her mortgage  and that she is destitute. Yet  her facial expression doesn’t show a person who is too worried about her future as to  whether  or not she can pay her bills.

  

Then  Nadya is asked how  long will she be able to  last financially. She gives a sly smile and looks down. To me that is a clear signal of deception. Nadya knows exactly what she is doing . She is trying to get everyone to feel pity for her so someone will step up to the plate and help her out. The photo leaks out what she is really trying to do in these sudden interviews.

She flips her hair which is a huge signal of deception. She clearly knows her intentions in doing these interviews  with the popular TMZ and RadarOnline. It is to get people to rally for her and step up to the plate to make a donation  so she won’t  be homeless.

Then Nadya gets a case of the itchy scratchies. When people suddenly scratch after they said something like they are destitute when  in fact they are really not destitute , their autonomic nervous system will get their blood vessels to expand. This  in turn creates an itching sensation. Nadya also cocks her head to the side which is  a signal of being coy and also a signal of deception.

Then Nadya is asked about the 500,000 dollar offer from Vivid to make a porn film for an hour of her time. She makes a face as though she was going to throw up. Now here is a person who has no qualms about practically bearing her entire breasts publicly, yet  she wants  to give the impression that she is so offended by this offer.

But why would she act so offended? After all, the people at Vivid  are the people who have stepped up to the plate to save the day so her children wont be homeless or live under a bridge as she says.

Finally the truth comes out! There is righteous indignation which is often a signal of deception as she leans forward and leaks out a smile. She says that she finds it ironic that a PORN company film her  would want to film her naked   showing her naked breasts and privates having sex on camera for an hour when she has been celibate for 11 years.

Personally I think she is more upset that she has not been in a relationship with anyone for all of those years and that she has not had sex in close to a decade. Perhaps doing this porn film might kill three birds with one stone. 

 1) It will finally give her the opportunity to have the sex she misses  and caves after being celibate  for all those years  .

2)  It will allow her to pay her  bills so her kids  be homeless .

3)  And finally it will give her the attention she craves  in showing off her body.

No one dresses with such low cleavage and  in such tight-fitting tops, short skirts, and form-fitting pants,  unless  they want to show off their body. So by doing the film Nadya can carry out all three of her basic needs.

In this photo we see a wide eyed Nadya with a manipulative Cheshire cat grin as she tells that she still has some money for a little while because she borrowed some. She says  that it will last her a month. She then tells how long it will take for the foreclosure to go into  effect which is several months n by that tine she will hope to have money to pay her mortgage.

In essence she  she is   trolling for a handout  from a public  savior   as she attempts to garner public sympathy. She says how she never wants to go on welfare and will only do so if she has to live under a bridge with her kids. These words are the words to conger up an image of a poor helpless creäture with 14 kids braving the elements without a home. She is expecting someone to  save her from the potential of her  living  under a brige with her kids , so she doesn’t have to go on welfare or do porn.

With her head bowed and eyebrows raised Nadya  knows exactly what she is doing. She is playing cat and mouse and toying with the public’s sympathy.

Nadya has done nothing more than try to manipulate public sympathy as she even dragged one of the babies into the fray by holding the poor child,  who may one day be living under a bridge with her.

Now we see her signal of deception as she licks her lips and ends up giving her raucous nervous laugh   when she is asked about her book which she is writing.  She tries to show what a dedicated mother she is and how she writes the book only when the kids are napping or asleep for the night. If she is writing a book she must have received an advance for th book. Where is that money? Why doesn’t she use it to pay her mortgage? If she doesn;t have a book deaal, why doesn’t her attorney get her a deal?

From th length of her eye lashes, she has obviously spent some of the borrowed money she has spoken about on a product to  increase lash growth or used the money to purchase  a pair of false lashes. She has spent that money on manicures and makeup. So now she is indirectly asking everyone for a handout.  asking them to pitch .She is subtley asking them to pitch in to help the kids.

I find this disgusting. Instead of begging the public,  she needs to be begging a production company to film her kids. She needs to get a company like TLC behind her.

She once said publicly that she wouldn’t put her kids on TV because  she believe that was abuse. Well I think it is abuse  to have your kids living under a bridge. She made this  comment  to both TMZ and Radaronline. She needs to get her attorney to speak to every single TV venue and beg them to put her on  the air like they did with Kate Gosselin.

Kate will never be living under a bridge. In fact because of TLC she is probably able to buy the bridge. Nadya needs to follow suit and take Kate’s  example. At least Nadya wouldnt be abusing a husband if she had a show like Kate did.

 If people are already watching one emotional self absorbed mess-  Kate Gosselin, why not watch another self absorbed  emotional mess-Nayda the Octomom.  Her kids are still young and  ther eis an audience for people who like watching the babies  grow like they watched the Gosselin babies grow.

And if Nadya is so adamant  about not putting her children on camera then she needs to buck up and  put her  naked body on camera  where she can make the 500, ooo  dollars so the the kids can have a home. There is nothing shameful about that in light of her predicament. What is more shameful than doing porn is sounding like a poor me victim and trying to manipulate the public for money. By finally getting naked  and doing the porn film, Nadya can  satisfy her need for exhibitionism as well as her need for sex,  once and for all. www.drlillianglass.com

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Paris Hilton’s Body Language in Latest Mug Shot Shows Confident Smug Smile That She Will Skirt Cocaine Charge Against Her

Sunday, August 29th, 2010

 SMILING WITH CONFIDENCE

Paris Hilton who was recently arrested for cocaine possession is no stranger to arrests and  mug shots. But unlike her previous mug shots, this time she did a  her ¾ model like turn to the camera, tilted her head and gave a slight Mon-Lisa like closed lipped smile.

The smile spoke volumes. It wasn’t an overly happy excited smile with raised cheekbones. Instead it was a knowing smile. It was a smile that indicated all will work out for her in her favor  and that she really didn’t have a care in the world. It said “ nothing will happen to me and I will get away with this just like I got away with my arrest this summer at the World Cup Match in South Africa in suspicion of marijuana.”   

HIGH PRICED POWERFUL LAWYERS TO PARIS’ RESCUE

 How couldn’t it world out well for her? After all there was more publicity to keep her relevant and on the front pages of the news. Paris’  facial expression indicated that she did not have a care in the world. It showed confidence the confidence of having a  a high priced powerful and connected attorney  who will very likely be able to get her off of this charge of cocaine possession  on some sort of  a technicality.

 Unlike the average Joe who is caught with cocaine, unfortunately Paris gets  to thumbs her nose up against the system and most likely  walk away.

  Apparently in Wynn security cameras filmed the Vegas police searching her handbag and putting her under arrest inside the security office of the Wynn Hotel in after arrested with her latest boyfriend Cy Waits after being pulled over by cops who smelled marijuana. 

 Instead of being arrested right away, Paris was taken into the Wynn’s security office where — as the Las Vegas Metro police put it — “it was discovered that Ms. Hilton had cocaine in her possession.”  Then was she arrested.

Paris lawyer Vegas attorney David Chesnoff believes her  arrest captured on tape, could help her tremendously as he will claim it was an illegal search, in part because she was taken away from the scene to this other location. Chesnoff will also be able to take apart every single thing that happened during the search and arrest because he’ll have the video to work off of. 

So now there is a side show instead of the real issue of Paris having illegal drugs on her. Paris’ repeatedly claimed while she was being detained that the purse wasn’t hers.  While the purse may not have been hers, was the cocaine hers? Perhaps a fingerprint analysis could determine that.    

   WILL PARIS’ NEW BEAU BE ABLE TO SKIRT THE LAW AS WELL?

                                  

Paris’ latest beau Cy Waits was also arrested , But he was arrested on suspicion of driving under the influence of drugs and alcohol where he could get up to a year in county jail.

But Waits’ also has a high powered attorney. His attorney  said “”As the case proceeds, a lot of facts are going to come to light that will ultimately lead to exoneration.”

 Let’s hope not. Let’s hope that justice is served and the message is sent out loud and clear that those who use and are caught with illegal drugs of any kind will have to suffer the consequences no matter how much money or fame they have.  

WHERE IS THE MESSAGE OF ACCOUNTABILITY TO OUR YOUNG PEOPLE? 

 As you well know from reading my blogs I am disturbed by young women who are in the limelight like Paris who exhibit bad heavier and are subsequently rewarded  for their  bad behavior with millions of dollars, television shows etc. I do not like the  message this give to our young women.

Young people need to know loudly and clearly that no matter who a person is or how much money they have, if they do something wrong they will be held accountable. They need to know that they  can not  get away with things. They need to be fully aware of the fact that they will not receive rewards for bad  behavior or illegal actions.They need to know that Paris Hilton cannot be an exception to the rule. They need to see that she is treated as anyone else who breaks the law.

 PARIS’ PREVIOUS EMPTY WORDS

 After Paris  spent only half of her 45 day sentence in a Los Angeles jail three years ago, she appeared on Larry King Live when she was released. On the show,  she said her jail experience caused her to re-evaluate the role partying played in her life.

Perhaps she needs  yet another jail sentence to help her further re-evaluate her priorities. Let’s hope that our young people don’t continue to get the message that  all is not equal when doing the  wrong thing and that there there is a different set of rules for the rich and famous. www.drlillianglass.com

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Dr. Lillian Glass Never Lies About What She Sees, Including Kate Gosselin and Bodyguard’s Body Language

Sunday, August 22nd, 2010


Oftentimes different magazine, internet,  and television show venues  will ask me what I think about a particular celebrity or newsmaker’s relationship. They will often present me with a series of photos or videos and ask for my assessment.

Most recently HollywoodLife. com  asked me to comment on the relationship between Kate Gosselin and her bodyguard Steve Neild. I gave them my honest assessment based on various tells which I observed. This is only my opinion and my view. I did not  personally hang out with  Kate or Steve or witness their alleged coziness firsthand.

Apparently there have been documented reports of  physical sightings where Kate and her body guard have become rather cozy with legs touching legs. In fact the esteemed Huffington Post reported it.

I stated in the Hollywoodlife.com blog that that Kate seemed to fancy her bodyguard based on her body language. Steve, on the other hand continued to show professional decorum as you can see in these photos below.

Apparently,  the Kate Gosselin lovers  and fans on their  “Kate Plus Eight Gosselin Family Fansite”   were all up in arms and got their panties in a bunch stating that I made up lies to  promote myself and to insult Kate. This is not true.

In the first place, I do not need Kate Gosselin to promote myself. I have being doing body language analysis well before there was a Kate Gosselin in the media. As far as insulting Kate is concerned, it was never my thought or intention to insult Kate. I was merely describing my personal body language observations.

Here are some excerpts from the  HollywoodLife.com article:

We told you earlier that Kate and longtime bodyguard Steve Neild got cozy while vacationing in Bald Head Island, N.C. during the week of Aug. 9. A shocking eyewitness report from The Huffington Post alleges that the duo were sitting side-by-side, legs touching, on the beach!

Photo #1: “Her head is cocked like she’s interest to know what Steve thinks. He is kind of in control here and she’s not used to that. Look at her toe, they are in sync step wise, and there’s one foot where her toe is facing him — she really likes him. Her shoulders are a little rounded and hunched over meaning she’s being a little subservient. The fact that his hands are in his pockets shows he’s hiding something like he’s hiding what’s going on between them.”

Photo #2: “Look at the way she’s looking at him. It’s like he’s her man servant and she can yell at him. Her foot is directly in the back of him and she’s looking at him like she’s trying to control him and tell him what to do. Kate’s legs are spread wide which means it’s very casual and very very comfortable with this guy … overly comfortable.”

Photo #3: “With her hand on the hip it’s kind of like an arrogant and defiant pose. Her shoulders are rounded again and she’s leaning into him. The distance between them is too close like he’s trying to keep it hidden and professional, but she’s giving it away. It appears in this photo that she likes him more than he likes her with the way he is facing.”


Photo #4: “Her face shows that she’s very happy around him. You never see Kate smile. She’s a step behind him and there’s not a lot of distance between them. They are also in sync again and that indicates she likes him. Again, he has a hand in his pocket which reveals he’s hiding something.

It’s definitely possible they are having an affair. She’s very comfortable around him.”

POSSIBLE” MEANS POSSIBLE

Notice that I said  the word “possible”, I didn’t say they were  100 per cent  having an affair , I said “possible”.

Whether you love Kate or not you have to admit that anything is possible, especially when people spend as much time around one another as these two apparently do, with reported adjoining rooms in hotel stays.

I am not saying they are or they are not having an affair as I am not in their room.  But I will say that they do look rather cozy in my view.’’

TELLING THE TRUTH AND CLEARING UP  FALSE MISCONCEPTIONS AND MISINFORMATION

As a result of this article many Kate supporters, didn’t bother to read what I said exactly but instead,  blindly went off half cocked. They looked at a headline which I did not write and made many comments where they tried to minimize my background and education  in an attempt to dismiss what I had to say in order to make themselves feel better.

So I decided to address and clarify  their issues so there would be no misunderstandings.

Being an open person with nothing to hide, I will address the  concerns and comments from the Kate loving fans  so they can rest easy.

  1. What I do in body language analysis has nothing to do with  neurolinguistic  programming. Body language analysis is both and art in having experience in knowing how to read others and a science based on research concerning specific behaviors which indicate specific meaning.

2. Kate’s alleged “pigeon toedness” that a commenter suggested was not a factor in  describing her body language tells with Steve Neild

3. As far  as any comments I made  regarding the  Gosselin kids are concerned, when Jon and Kate were going through their split up, I was a proponent of their speaking with a counselor to help them with the transition, especially since the divorce was so public, ugly and tense.

Kate even publicly  stated how it was difficult for the kids and how the kids were acting out at the time. I believed and still believe that seeking the advice of a licensed professional that specializes in treating children who appear to be acting out or undergoing stress, can only help a child.

4. As for my background, I am more than happy to share it with you. I am not a medical doctor – an MD. I  do have a PhD in Communication Disorders from the University of Minnesota and a Masters Degree from the University of Michigan in Speech communication. I also have a strong background in the study of psychology although I am not a practicing or licensed psychologist. I have a post doctorate in Medical Genetics  from UCLA where I was the only PhD in an MD program where I closely examined structures and behaviors related to specific genetic disorders. My training in this field has been  instrumental in terms of my developing my body language reading skills.

I have spent close to three decades doing communication and body language analysis not only for my clients in my private practices, but for the Hollywood community for various films and television shows,  as well as using my skills in the law enforcement and legal communities. I have also written numerous books on the topic and lectured around the world.

5. As  far as being a Kate Hater is concerned, I do not hate Kate as I have said repeatedly. In fact, I  respect that she has numerous mouths to feed and has found a way to earn a living in the media to support her children. I believe that she is indeed very lucky to have a guardian angel like TLC to support her and her family.

6.And finally, I have  discovered is that there are lot of Kate fans or shall I say “fanatics” who cannot bear to hear anything they may perceive as negative when it may in fact not be negative at all. To them, I say, take off your blinders and look at what” is”, not at what is the fantasy you created there to be.

If  Kate is having an affair with her bodyguard, that is her business. Maybe they spent so much time together and found they had a lot in common. Maybe they fell in love. Maybe he fell out of love with his wife. Maybe he has an open marriage.  Only Steve and Kate know this for sure.

Like everyone else, Kate certainly deserves love.  As I said anything is “possible.” While it is possible that they are an item, it is also “possible”It is also “possible” that they are just very cozy close intimate friends. Only time will tel for sure.www.drlillianglass.com

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Cindy Anthony’s Signals of Deception In The Courtroom- Says She Believes Caylee Still Alive

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

When Cindy Anthony took the stand and gave her testimony about the 911 call, she was articulate and  coherent. She presented  herself very well for the most part, until she lied that she still thinks Caylee is alive.

TOO MUCH INFORMATION MAY REVEAL DISCOMFORT ABOUT THE TOPIC AND GUILT

Cindy sounded very credible and  had it together until she discussed finding Casey’s pants in the car and  how she washed them because they smelled bad. That was too much information for the question asked.

When someone coughs up a little too much information it may very well be that they are feeling a bit guilty or uncomfortable concerning that information.

There is no doubt that Cindy, being the intelligent woman she appears to be, knows very well that she should not have washed Casey’s pants no matter how badly they smelled.

She needed to have placed them in a plastic bag and put them in a sealed container in the garage or some place where she would not smell the pants. She knows very well that it was wrong for her to  have washed them, especially after knowing that it smelled like a dead body in the car.

Perhaps she instinctively knew Casey was up to no good and had something to do with that smell.

That may be why she was so intent on washing away that  smell away as well as  washing away her guilt. There is no doubt that deep down Cindy feels guilty for  threatening to throw Casey out and keep Cayley. That precipitated this whole mess and she no doubt wished she had never said what she said to Casey or Caylee might still be alive .

You would think that Caylees backpack and toys ,which were in the heated car also smelled like the pants. So why didn’t she wash them as well? It was only Casey’s pants that she washed in her attempt to save and protect Casey. But what about protecting Caylee and her memory?

CINDY’S REAL TEARS

Unlike what we have seen regarding Casey’s fake non tears, Cindy cried real tears as she recalled the  events  and her frustration concerning Caylee’s disappearance.

 She broke down a bit when she told of how she overheard Casey tell her son Lee that she hadn’t seen Caylee in over 32 days and panicked how she panicked. As she relayed this story , it was a though she was re-living the experience. She lost her composure and wipes some real tears. And unlike Casey, she didn’t have to examine her Kleenex to make sure she cried tears. She also didn’t  stick her finger in her eyes or wipe away a tearless cheek as Casey repeatedly does.

THE AGGRESSIVE BLAMING  CINDY FINALLY  SURFACES

Cindy was actually like-able and believable until the topics of what she said to the FBI  and when she said that it smelled like there was a dead body in the car.  It was then  the old Cindy came through- the Cindy we watched for years on television during her press junkets, outside of her home, and in depositions. 

Once again we saw the aggressive angry aggressive defensive belligerent Cindy who has the nerve to blame the FBI stating that the  FBI got the transcript of what she said all wrong . She complains how there were lots of errors and missing pieces. 

So it appeared that Cindy couldn’t keep up her calm, cool, and collected demeanor for long. In a short period of time she was back to her unlikable self.

CINDY BELIEVES CAYLEE IS STILL ALIVE?

Then Jose Baez tries to Spin it during cross examination after Cindy the unlikable emerged. He couches it by making a statement and telling her how she felt. He says “ You wanted them to know that the smell was different from a dead body.”

Cindy is surprised to hear the words Jose has put into her mouth by telling her what she meant to say. That is why she shakes her head NO as she sheepishly says”I guess.”
 She knows that isn’t true. If it was she would have said “Exactly” or “That’s right” in a tone that showed conviction.

 Indicating she knows exactly what Jose is doing os ridiculous spin.

Then she realizes what  Baez is trying to do by putting those ridiculous words into her mouth.  It suddenly dawns on her that Jose is trying to spin it in an attempt  to  protect Casey.

So she adds additional unrequested information to  Baez’ nonsensical statement . Cindy adds a lie. Trying to direct Cindy’s answers to make them more favorable for Casey he makes another statement to Cindy instead of asking her a direct question.   Jose says “You told them this because you wanted them to keep searching for a live Caylee.”

Cindy clearly liked where this was going  as hooked on to the words “ live Casey.”  Jose senses tat she is getting where he is going and now asks her a question concerning his statement. He asks “Youre clear about that?”

Now here is where we see Cindy’s signals of deception. Of course she is “not clear about that.” Of course she knew after smelling the dead body smell  in the car, that the cops would not be searching for  a live Caylee but rather a dead Caylee.

Cindy immediately shakes her head NO as she replies”  absolutely”. Shaking your head in the negative when you are speaking in the affirmative is a sure fire signal that you’re not telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing bur the truth. It may have been wishful thinking on Cindy’s part, But it was far from the truth. Deep down she knew what most likely happened.

 Remember what I said about people that add too much information that is unsolicited, I said they might be feeling guilt so they give too much information, They also give too much information to explain a lie away. 

The bones were discovered. The memorial service was held. The vigils were over. So there is no way that Cindy isn’t aware that Caylee is dead. But after she said  “absolutely” in response to Jose’s comment that she wanted police to search for a live Caylee, she adds unsolicited information.

 She adds “ I still think  Caylee is alive.” Immediately after she uttered those ridiculous words, she   shows  a signal of embarrassment as well as deception by  she pursing her lips. It as though she instinctively knew she should not have said what she did.

Then the rest of the signals of deception kick in. She shrugs her shoulders which is a definite signal of deception and cocks her head to the side indicting that she is not sure she should have gone that far and said  what she did in adding such a ridiculous comment to help create a reasonable doubt.

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 Then she makes a very goofy looking facial expression which reflects how she goofed up by making that  that outrageous  statement . Her eyes pop open wide and she tightens her lower lip and her upper lip as if to seal her mouth shut/ The pressure is so tight that it looks like she is puffing out the area above her upper lip ( moustache area )  as the color of her skin above her upper lip has blanched.

She remained in that position for 10 seconds. She didn’t want to say anymore because she knows she did this for affect and as a way to say something to try and help out Casey.

CASEY’S REACTION TO CINDY

For the most part Casey’s expression was lifeless when Cindy took the stand. There was no facial reaction to Cindy as she coldly looked through her mother. It was obvious that she wasn’t thrilled to see her mother full face looking straight in her direction after a two year absence.

LOOKING PRETTY FOR MAMMA

Cindy’s presence on the stand clearly made Casey feel uncomfortable and nervous. As soon as her mother got on the stand there were numerous  hair grooming behaviors which took place in succession . Subconsciously she wanted to look nice for  mamma Cindy. After all Cindy has indicated in her jailhouse letters to Casey, how beautiful she looks. So Casey’s sudden repeated  grooming is her attempt to “look beautiful” for Cindy. 

CASEY’S FURTHER DISCOMFORT

Casey’s discomfort with seeing and hearing her mother on the stand is reflected by Casey’s  swallowing more often than usual. This means that her  throat is dry because her autonomic  nervous system is kicking in. She’s not manufacturing enough saliva  so that is why her mouth and throat feel dry. Hence, the excessive swallowing. Her gaze was not steady when her mother spoke as she didn’t look directly at her. Instead we observed  constant eye shifting .Finally we saw her take many deep breaths to oxygenate herself. This is further indication of her physical discomfort. We  clearly saw it when the when the topic of Tony’s apartment came up. 

THANKS MOM

For the most part there was no significant emotion reflected n Casey’s face. But right after Cindy made the Caylee is still alive” comment there was a sudden change in Casey’s facial expression.  It was softer and she had a slight smile as if to say “thanks for saying that and trying to create reasonable doubt so I can walk out of here, like my attorney Cheney Mason said I would.

ADVICE FOR CINDY ON THE STAND

 think that no matter how much coaching or witness preparation Cindy gets the real Cindy will eventually leak out to jurors. Based on this little preview, it appears that she just can’t help herself. She needs to just answer the questions and not editorialize. She needs to not volunteer additional information especially information like thinking Caylee is still alive. If she pulls that nonsense on a jury they will think she is a nutcase and react even more harshly towards Casey. www.drlillianglass.com

 

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