Even though Marc and Jennifer appeared  affectionate during the photo shoots,  there was no sincerity  detected body language wise as you can see. In the photo above  Anthony  leads J Lo as he holds her hand. But the giveaway is that they are both looking in different directions.That is not a good sign for a loving couple.

The next giveaway is that neither of them are smiling and J Lo looks directly at Anthony with tension around her eyes in the form of a glare. This is not how a loving couple looks at one another.  Anthony on the other hand, shows a lot of tension in the lower jaw region  ads you can see in the photo, which is another sign that things are not good between them.

To try to show the press that there was intimacy between them, Anthony even held onto J.Lo’s waist as  men  commonly tend to do when their partner’s are pregnant with their child. The pose here is completely contrived and painful to look at. First of all look at the pressure of Anthony’s finger muscles on J’Lo’s abdomen. They are pushing in and the fingers arte not relaxed and open. Instead they are close together and tight. He is pressing too hard to indicate affection.

Next, look at their faces. They are looking in opposite directions which is another bad sign and Marc looks tense and pained. His eyes look sad as they are narrowed where he is also leaking out anger. No doubt deep down he must be feeling angry that he has to perform this charade in order to promote their project together. Look at the muscle tension on the side of his lower jaw. That spells- anger.

J Lo is not doing any better int he anger and sadness department. Even though she appears to be smiling, it is a fake smile. Cover up her lips  int he photo with your hand and you will see sad eyes which are not smiling. This indicates that there is ambivalence on her part. There is tension in her cheeks and  a great deal of muscle tension in her neck region as you can see. This indicates that she is not comfortable being around her ex and is feeling tense and unhappy about the situation, even though she is trying to mask it.   Finally her head is bowed down indicating that she is feeling insecure and less than herself when she is  in Anthony’s presence.

Reporters who attended the press conferences stated that  there was an awkwardness between them. The press conference was so controlled by  press handlers so stop reporters from delving into  J Lo and Mark Anthony’s realtionship issues and detract from promoting their project, that the reporters were barely given time to ask questions.

The tension in J Lo’s face is remarkable. She is clenching down on her back teeth in anger as she leans her upper body away from her ex. He is extremely tense facially and his shoulder is up indicating that he is literally giving her the “cold shoulder.”

They were asked by a member of the press hat it was like working together .  JLo   merely mirrored back the question in a monotone voice as she responded “We have a great time working together.” When someone parrots back phrases rest assured they are not being forthright. When people are going through a split, you can bet they are not having a great time working together. Also the choice of her word “great” is used by her  to overcompensate for the opposite feelings that she really has towards Anthony and towards their current situation.

At one point,  Marc looked at all the rings on Jennifer’s left hand and looked very sad and surprised  as you can see that his jaw is more slack as he did not see the wedding ring  her gave her on her finger. J Lo looks angry and tense as you can see the tension in her neck muscles along with a sweaty shiny forehead to further indicate discomfort anxiety, and tension.

This photo is  further indication that there is indeed hard feelings between them.

In every photo they both look miserable in one another’s presence.

Iran is threatening to close the Straight of Hormuz and if so the military will send in their best allies- dolphins who have been trained to detect mines with their unique communication skills.

Dolphins  have sonar  that is so advanced that  they can discern specific coins from hundreds of  feet away . The  US Navy have many  bottlenose dolphins in the who are taught to hunt for mines and drop acoustic transponders nearby.In the above photo you can see dolphins with a  tracking device attached to its fin

The the dolphins only detect the mines, they don’t destroy them and they are unharmed according to the military.

These  US dolphins are being  trained and used for peace purposes unlike the Iranian dolphins which were purchased 12 years ago from the Soviets who’s navy initially trained them  kill and attack warships and frogmen. All of these killing dolphins who were  trained to attack enemy frogmen with harpoons attached to their backs, or to drag them to the surface to be taken into captivity were sold to Iran, because the trainer could no longer feed them after they were sent to an aquatic attraction in Sevastopol.

Many of these killer dolphins are capable of undertaking  kamikaze strikes against enemy carrying mines that would explode a ship on contact with its hull. In fact the

dolphins were allegedly trained to  distinguish foreign and Soviet submarines  use just by the sound of their propeller. Dolphins were allegedly trained to  distinguish foreign and Soviet submarines  use just by the sound of their propeller.

According to research by the Whale and Dolphin Conservation Society, numerous ex-Soviet military dolphins have been sold to aquariums around the world. The aquarium in Sevastopal was one of them, who in turn sold them to the Iranians for nefarious purposes.

Then seven hers later  in 2007, 152 dolphins were washed up on Iran’s southern coast  when Iranian fisherman were  said to have beaten the animals who got entangled in their fishing nets. While the Iranians accused the US of being behind this , there is no documentation or proof of this. Some even say that these massive dolphin deaths were due to electromagnetic waves from various military vessels in the gulf, including Iranian vessels.

It is unconscionable that any animal is treated inhumanely or used for evil purposes. By nature dolphins are not violent creatures so to use them in this capacity  towards violent acts is a  major sin against nature.  Unlike the Iranians, the US has only utilized the help of these amazing  dolphins for good  and not evil.

We see a very different looking Joran Van der slot when he was first  arrested and frightened after being arrested for killing Stephanie Flores in Peru and paraded around.  Then we saw a wide eyed frightened Joran. Today we see a heavier and more cocky Joran. The cocked head to the side and the tight lipped appearance indicate his insincerity.

His shoulder shrugs as you can see int his photo when he spoke the words  Yes I want to plead guilty. I wanted  from the first moment to confess sincerely. As he states these words you can see many signals of deception. The statement analysis indicates deception as well based on the words he chose. It is not true that Joran wanted to plead guilty from the first moment to confess.He was adamant from the beginning that he was innocent and then claimed he was coerced into a confession by the Peruvian authorities. Also the word sincerely is also significant as there eis nothing sincere about his confession.

Also the repetition of  the  word  ”wanted” speaks to yet another issue- his seeing himself as a victim in all of this. In essence he says that he wanted to do so at the beginning but no one would let him. We clearly know that this is not so based on reports of his actions early on during his arrest and subsequent incarceration.

His monotone voice along with his cocked head belie his words as he continues to say  I am truly sorry for this bad act. He shrugs his shoulders looks up,  away from the three judges  as he cocks his head. Not only does he shrug his shoulder, he keeps it in the same raised position which indicates that he is literally giving the “cold shoulder” to match his cold monotoned voice pattern.

His words indicate the opposite based on his body language behaviors. He is not sorry at all and does not consider this a bad act. he has no feeling and no remorse  whatsoever and it shows.

Then he immediately switches up the words and says  I am truly sorry for this act. I feel bad. The fact that he repeats his apology as he alters the word order confirms that he is lying about feeling sorry for his “bad act”.

But now he is actually showing signals of honesty when he makes this latest statement. He now focuses his eyes back on the judges as he l looks directly at them as he now bows his head in sorrow. Yes he is sorry, but NOT for killing Stephanie Flores. He is sorry for getting caught . In fact he is truly sorry he got caught. Now he does not call it a bad act as he did initially. Now he simply calls it an act .In essence he is saying that he is sorry he was caught for his act of killing Stephanie Flores which he does not consider  bad , but merely an act.

Then he says I feel very bad. This is true based on his body language. He feels very bad because he was caught doing this act that he did not consider bad. Note how the  position of the words  bad and act have changed in his statement. It is not longer a bad act. Now he feels bad he was caught in the act.

He is still nervous and anxious as she shows signs of this rocking back and forth freighting movements which his legs constantly moving as he sat and waited to speak,  through his profuse sweating  and itching as you can see int he photo above.

However he cannot help but leak out his arrogance and self righteousness through his erect posture and raised shoulder literally giving the judges a cold shoulder via his insincere confession . He does however feel vulnerable as you can see  by his hands clasped over his private area. While he believe he was justified in what he did to Stephanie and feels forced to confess for the reward to a lighter sentence, he is still nervous and frightened by what the sentence will be. Also if you look at the muscle tension of his hands as he clasps them over his groin area you can see that he is indeed exhibiting a lot of nervousness and tension as he is holding on to himself for dear life.

Another change in Joran is that there is a lot of puffiness under his eyes which may indicate he is not getting a lot of sleep in prison and/ or possibly doing drugs. It has been said that for the right amount of money one can get just about  anything in this prison.

Joran’s legal defense was that he had Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome from the Natalie Holloway incident because  he was hounded by the press for her alleged killing. Perhaps this was the best defense that his attorney could come up with because there was certainly no other defense as to why Joran would kill a lovely Peruvian girl with a bright future ahead of her.  This lame defense got him two years less than the maximum 30 years he would have received had he not confessed.

As we see from Joran’s photos, prison life has not been good to him. He looks bad and as he lingers in prison for the next  close to three decades, he will look even worse and prison life will be worse to him. Based on his actions during  his court proceedings he knows this as well.

His slovenly appearance shows that he did not care how he looked or came across. He may have been told by his attorney that his confession would result in less prison time. because of his arrogance he may have interpreted this less prison time to be  only a a few years. That would explain why he was visibly angry when the judge ordered him to 28 years in prison. He was reported to have  cursed  out loud as she was also ordered to  pay $75,000 in reparations.

But Under Peru’s laws, however, van der Sloot could get out after serving half of his sentence. This means the 24 year old  could be out when he is 38. That means he would have a long life ahead of him to live freely. With book, film and TV interviews he could be a very wealthy man, continue his gambling lifestyle and life like nothing ever happened.

But that will not be the case if the US has anything to do about it. He may be extradited to the US for extortion in the Natalie Holloway case.  If found guilty, he would be put away for more time and serve it in the US.

It is unclear  to date whether Joran will stay at Castro Castro prison where he has been isolated from the other prisoners or whether now that he has been sentenced, he  will be among the general population there. it is unclear as to whether he will be transferred to a more harsher prison in Peru and placed int he general population.

If placed the general population Joran will be a walking dead man as there is fierce loyalty even among prisoners when it comes to a national hero- Stephanie Flores’ father.If another prisoner does not kill him, disease such as TB and AIDS may do it, thus making it doubtful that we will see Joran on the streets of Aruba, the Netherlands or any other place int he world.

If by some fluke of nature he does come out of prison alive at age 38, he will no doubt suffer the same fate as OJ and so many others where they commit  another bad act to land themselves in prison for life.

While nothing can bring back Stephanie Flores, justice was  finally served as she can now rest in peace. Let’s hope the same justice can be served for Natalie Holloway so she too can rest in peace and so her loving mother Beth can also have some peace.

In general we see Casey with her new image which mirrors her mother Cindy’s  image complete with blond bleached  hair and that short hairdo. Isn’t  it interesting how subconsciously she emulates Cindy- the very person she hates. Still true to form, Casey does her hair tossing habit as you can see above.

Casey has a monotone and sounds as though she is depressed.  She has a victim like “poor me” tone to her voice as though he was the victim in all of this- not Caylee. Look at her victim like  half smile ambivalent expression and body language with her rounded shoulders as she says this.

You would think that in her first video blog she would at least mention Caylee and say how sorry she was for what happened or how she missed her and discuss the tragedy of it all. But no!. Instead, she is on camera to tell us. how she finally has something of her own (note key the word  she used- something as though Caylee was a nothing ) as she tells that she has adopted a dog. (Where is PETA when you need them?)

If you look at Casey’s body language there is a lot of shoulder shrugging and lip pursing which indicates anxiety and deception. She knows she shouldn’t be doing a video blog because she knows what people’s reaction will be. But she does it anyway and feels awkward about it because no count the money was right.

And yes I say money. This was on youtube. Depending on how many hits a youtube post gets,money is made. When you see a commercial before a video that means there were a lot of hits and now there is revenue sharing.

In her non emotion filled voice she says Casey says This has been a blessing in so many ways! WHAT???? A dead child is no blessing to anyone but it obviously is to her. Getting off  and out of jail is a blessing for sure only because of Jose Baez’ charming the jury. I believe that and always will. She is out because the jury liked Jose a lot better than they liked Ashton. In her sick mind no doubt not having Caylee around  to compete with her, must also be a blessing.

Why is TMZ putting this on their website?  I will tell you why?  It is for ratings. They know they will get millions fo hits with anything Casey Anthony. I think it is repulsive! Why give this woman any airtime or internet time?

Casey tells us that she’s adopted a dog and she loves  the dog. But as she says this she shakes her he’d NO. The reason her words don’t match her body language is reflected  in that Casey isn’t capable of loving anyone but herself in my view.

And he’s as much my dog as any of the other pets I’ve ever had as she dies off at the end of the sentence and purses her lips. Maybe the dying off at the end of her statement and lip pursing has something to do with perhaps the demise of her other pets. Was she thinking about the other pets she had that were wrapped in plastic bags and duct taped and buried? Remember how many pets died in the Casey Anthony household when Cindy described it on the stand?

This narcissist’s  main concern  on this video is I don’t know whether to look up or at myself as  she conducts her self video. She feels insecure as her main focus is looking good. We saw that by all of her grooming behavior in the courtroom. If she was so interested on looking good she shouldn’t have worn those torn jeans with her  boney knee sticking out  as she caressed it .Her low cut top screamed of the sexual attention Casey craves and once had in abundance.

Then she says, without a smile “Things are starting to change in a  good way. As she looks sad as she says this. While she isn’t getting prison slop three times a day and living in a cage, she will get  a harsh reality when she leaves her halfway house or secret facility. She will see that change may not be in such a good way after all. She will see how hated she is in the outside world. But perhaps the change in a good way that she  was talking about   maybe how much money she  perhaps received from TMZ putting this on their site  or a video broker to air her video blogs. No doubt  this was not done for free. Someone made money from this. Maybe Jose put it up as a way  Casey could pay his hefty legal fees.

Then she says wistfully, I hope things stay good. She looks away and has her had on her neck and makes a doubtful look. Placing her hand on her neck indicates a feeling of vulnerability , high anxiety and fear as she knows  deep down things will not stay good for her.  She  then says that she hopes  that they only get better. She knows there is a long hard road ahead of her with no protection in the real world. She knows the public hate will be severe. 

And of course there is the  usual Casey Anthony hair toss hair toss as she says he will do another video later.

Now here is where she continues hr lies and manipulation. She says she hates doing  (the video blogs) because she hates being on camera  ?????This little narcissist couldn’t get enough camera time. And a stint in jail didn’t change that. This is who she is- an attention seeking self absorbed human being.  She LOVES seeing herself on camera. Look at the countless photos we saw of her mugging for cameras with her tongue between her two fingers and eating a taco in a disgusting manner.

Then she has the audacity to sat she has a fear of being on camera and is  conquering her fear by starting now.WHAT????

This clearly shows deception and manipulation as she is now doing it on her self video blogs.Her facial expressions are an anttempt to get you feel sorry for her like saying Poor me.I’m only doing this to be brave and conquer my fears. Puhleeeze! WE are not stupid! We see right through this stupid nonsense.
In the clip – which Anthony says was taped on October 13, 2011 — she says, “I’m extremely excited … that I’ll be able to Skype and obviously keep a video log … How can one be extremely excited and then hate to be on camera. In essence she is saying she loves that she can be in the public eye and get attention through her video blog and on the other hand she says in her whiney tone how she doesn’t like to be on camera.

She says It’s been a long time since I’ve been able to call something mine.”These words are  HUGELY revealing in my view, She could not call Caylee hers. Caylee was her mother Cindy’s. Cindy was the one who forced Casey to keep Caylee and  not put her up for adoption.Then Cindy took over with the mothering and raising of Caylee so Casey never bonded with Caylee and felt she was hers. After all Cindy was the one who allegedly first held Caylee, not Casey.

Also in the video she says about her  location , “I’ll be here for many many months … even if  I  get off probation early.” Well lets do the math here. Casey did the tape in October. She says he will be out in February (which is fast approaching). In my view this was a way she could get some money to begin her new life out of the facility she is in.

She sounds vapid and unemotional and completely disconnected as she speaks.

It was very disturbing o watch this video when you are well aware of the motive behind it- MONEY! Producer Scott Sternberg’s low life venture  did not pan out as no one wanted to give Casey 3/4 of a million dollars to talk so now they went to Plan B- the internet.

Perhaps they think that  if ratings are so high, someone out there in media land will offer her a book deal and/or a TV interview. They were obviously testing the waters with this self video. Isn’t it odd that it was released only a few weeks after Scott Sternberg failed to deliver financially?  Now with the amount of hits that this video generated, Casey  and or her handlers are  no doubt making money anyway.

It is all so sickening. A baby is dead and people are profiting from it. Cindy was in the courtroom scribbling her notes. No doubt she will be next on the circuit promoting her book. I hate this. I also can’t stand  that Jeff Ashton is profiting from this. He doesn’t deserve a cent from this tragedy in my view.  He is one of the key  reasons in my view the case was lost. The jury  simply didn’t like him. They found him arrogant. The case was won because the jury liked Jose Baez a lot better. When he laughed at Jose in the courtroom the Jury detested him. It was guy behavior and unprofessional and the jury got it.

Casey has gone to great lengths on this video to show us her changed up image from brunette to blond and  from no glasses to glasses. Why would she do this if she wanted to remain protected and stay under the radar? The answer is simple, M O N E Y!  Don’t be surprised if her image changes again. I hope this is the last video we see.

I think it will only make the public more and more angry. Casey has NOTHING to say. NOTHING! We heard it all through her lies and her body language. And George and Cindy have nothing more to say either . They lied on the stand and are still free which is also a travesty of justice. Anyone else would be behind bars. They needed to be prosecuted for their lies.

Caylee is dead while Casey is out making money and Grandma Cindy and George will  no doubt  soon follow in her footsteps perhaps with a video blog of their own.

Look at Kim  Kardashiasn’s facial expression.  She is sitting on Santa’s lap and is supposed to be happy. But her facial expression says something entirely different. While her lips are parted and teeth are  teeth showing to indicate a  smile, there is something odd about the lip area as there is  no muscle movement seen. When you smile, there is muscle  movement in the lower jaw and at the side of the lips .

In this photo taken earlier in Kim’s life, you can see what I am talking about. There is a slight lower jaw tension and lines at the sides. The naso-labial folds course downwards as they should be. She looks natural and engaging.

But now there is none of that.In addition absolutely no other facial movement in her Santa photo. Her upper face is essentially frozen in a manaquin like position.

In a normal genuine smile there would be a crinkling of the forehead  and definite crinkling around the eyes  or some slight wrinkling under the eyes. But in the Santa photo you see none of that which makes her look wax-like. While she is pretty, there is an unnatural  non-human quality to the look.

Asa body language expert it is disturbing , because you cannot read anything from Kim’s face other than BOTOX. I am not sure Kim has used botox as I haven’t seen anyone shoot it into her face. But in my view, it sure looks like she has been heavy on the syringe lately.

Personally I find the natural look (wrinkles and crinkles) more beautiful  in people. There is nothing wrong with plastic surgery or  enhancing your appearance in my view. But there is a lot wrong when it interferes with your nonverbal facial  communication.

The repercussions are that people tend to turn off to you and they don’t relate to you. Facial expression and body movement are essential for good communication, especially of you want to relate to others. That is why I am not a fan of Botox.

Back in the day, Botox was used on patients who had vocal cord problems and muscle spams in the vocal cords where they could not speak without loosing their voices mid sentences. In that case Botox was a good thing.

It has also been used with cerebral palsy patients to release the muscle constrictions. In fact, I know of a prson who has cerebral pasley who uses Botox for this purpose and it is now difficult to tell if she has Cerebral Palsey as the Botox helped her previously uncontrolled head movement.

But when too much Botox is used to eliminate facial activity it is a bad thing in my view. While Kim’s wedding was a joke as you could tell it was not genuine from  her body language,  fans have rebelled. They have even called  to boycott Kim and the Kardashians all together. But perhaps  they may be rebelling  against Kim in particular for an additional reason as well. Perhaps they can no longer relate to Kim. Perhaps they  find her lack of facial animation unrelatable and a turn off.

Her monotone, nasal, non animated voice matches her now matches  non animated face and that is a very bad thing in terms of image, like ability and relate-ability.

1. The best  Body Language gift to give anyone you care about is a  genuine sincere uninhibited heart to heart hug where your chest (outside where your  heart  is located) is on the other person’s  chest where their heart is located  . Oftentimes, you can feel your hearts both beating together as you hug. Most people don’t give good and meaningful hugs.

They stand too far away or they are at an awkward angle because they feel uncomfortable or inhibited. As a holiday gift to yourself and someone you love, get comfortable real fast  and get rid of any hang ups.  This hug takes between five to 10 seconds to do as you continue your hug for that long.  This hug will be remembered forever. Its a hug you need to do with your husbnd, wife, lover, kids, parents and best friends.It speaks volumes. It says that you really LOVE that person with all your heart. While it may be free, it is actually priceless.

2. The warmest and plushest blankets. Get several for and yourself, your  family  and friends so you  will keep cozy as you are tucked in your bed all year round.

I often keep several of them in the trunk of my car so I can pass them out to those  I see in the street who may  happen to be homeless. Seeing them smile makes me smile and that is the best gift of all.

You can get them at any drugstore or discount stores in you area for a very reasonable price.

3.Not Just A pillow By Suzy Smith

2. 3.      Its Not Just A pillow by Suzy Smith

Suzy Smith is an amazing artist and she will custom make ANY pillow for you that you want. Whether it is your pet, family member, love of your life, you or anything  else you like, she will use her amazing creative skills to make something special.  She will match your décor and make it in any materials or colors you like.

Besides pillows she has other very personalized products like table runners and so many other things. Her prices are very reasonable and you can either email her or speak to her personally to let her know what you want.

She importalized my precious dog Lambear a lhassa apso in pillow form which is proudly displayed in my living room.Visit her website at http://www.facebook.com/notjustapillow

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4. Robin Dreek’s Latest book It’s Not About You.

It’s a book that should be read by anyone in any field of endeavor as it will give you the best insight into establishing rapport with others- something we ALL need. In this competitive job marketplace it can give you an added advantage. It can do the same for you socially as well. It’s a great gift not only for you but for your kids because it is never too early to learn these skills which can help them in life.

It is available in ebook form and in soft cover and is an easy read. Robin is not only an author and a speaker. He is the head of the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Program and he practices the techniques he preaches.

I loved the book. You can get it on Amazon by clicking here.

http://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-All-About-Techniques/dp/057809665X/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1324490470&sr=1-2

5 .UGGS Slippers. For men and for women I love the way they look and feel. The cool thing about them besides the fact that they  cuddle your feet  all day long, is that  you can wear them indoors and  outdoors.

You can get  black and grey and tan for men and women  and there is also a really cool pink purplish pink color for women which I own and which you can see above .

They are around a $100  and  you can wear them all year round as well.

So you get the real deal and so you won’t get ripped off  with knock off’s  go  to the official UGG site at

http://www.uggaustralia.com/on/demandware.store/Sites-UGG-US-Site/default/Search-Show?q=slippers

6. Anythng Polka Dot and I mean Anything!

It does’t matter if it is a coffee mug, sheets, underwear, pillows, a keychain, a shirt, pajamas,  a dress or a tie , polka dots make you feel happier. If they are colorful they especially put you in  a better mood.

Maybe it is the contrast of circular shapes that brings us back to our childhood. Maybe it is the fun we associated with polka dots as children like when we saw  clowns or  played with toys in that pattern.

Polka dots say fun and  playfulness. They usually make me smile.

7. My Best Selling Book TOXIC PEOPLE

This book can change your life. I wrote it back in 1995 and the information applies to this very day. It has literally helped millions of people around the world as it is translated into practically every language around the globe. Learn how to deal with the people who make you miserable. Learn the techniques to use that actually work and can change your life and turn it around for the better. Never be a victim again. Now you will learn you have choice.

Whatever you do  I would not recommend your ordering   copyright infringer Marsha Petrie Sue’s version of  the book  with my same title . She had the audacity to not only call her book by the same name as mine Toxic People but she had the audacity to copy my actual material word for word. Last year I sued her in US Federal Court in California and won .

So nowMarsha Petrie Sue  is officially a bona fide copyright infringer.  She has suffered the repercussions of her actions as this Arizona public speaker was kicked out of the National Speakers Association and she was stripped of  honor as a Certified  Speaking Professional this year.

My biggest gift last year was seeing justice served in a US Federal Court  against Marsha Petrie Sue for her egregious behavior. It is also a gift to all of you who are in any creative field of endeavor. No one has a right to take your materials and claim them as their own. You never have to be a victims as the law is on your side.

To get the real TOXIC PEPOLE and not  Marsha Petrie Sue’s copyright infringed version, clck her ego order from Amazon

http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-People-Ways-Dealing-Miserable/dp/0312152329

8. Everlast Cardio Punching Bag

To go along with my Toxic People book,  get an Everlast Cardio Punching bag. They stand upright and you can punch away as you use my fantasy technique which I describe in my book Toxic People.

Just  fantasize who’s head you would like to punch off. Never use  actual physical violence on anyone because you don’t want to ever get yourself in any trouble. But you can certainly fantasize about what you would like to do to that person.  Just don’t ever carry out your fantasy in real life. The bag is enough to get out all of your frustrations.  It sells between $61 to $100 and you can get it  at various places on the internet.

Beth Bath and Beyond has also sold them so that validates that it is  a useful item to have around  your home.

9.ORCHIDS 

If  you are a flower giver or getter orchids are the best flowers ever because they last a very long time if you care for them properly. You have to water them and keep then out of the direct sunlight. I love them.  the purple ones are gorgeous and there are others a well with all kinds of beautiful patterns.

They last all year long if you care for the and they create an elegant addition to any room in any home or in any office. But they aren’t cheap and can run up to $100 with a nice vase attached but they are worth it. I have several orchid plants around my home and one  in my office.  They make me happy to look at  as they are so visually pleasing.

1o. Colorful Wall Clocks

The best way to add some fun and excitement to any room is with a colorful wall clock. They don’t have to be expensive. They just have to be colorful. Ikea one of my favorite stores and  favorite places to eat ( I love the Swedish meatballs and lingen berries and mashed potato lunches for $5) has them in various colors. You can put different colored clocks in very room and  the colors will make you happy.

A lot  has been written about the psychology of color and I am a huge supporter of this theory. I have experienced it on a personal level. That is why my office and my home are decorated in specific colors to bring out the various moods I want in each  living and working area.

Here is a little  color gift for you. If you are dieting or don’t want to eat a lot,  keep your kitchen blue . If you have a red or orange kitchen it tends to stimulate your senses as well as your appetite.

So there you  have it.  The best gift would be to get yourself all of these gifts I suggested. Maybe you can get yourself one each month so every month is a holiday  for you except for the real holiday months of November and December.

Have a great one and I want you all to know to I love you and thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of your love and support on my blogs. And for all you haters– well there is that Everlast Cardio Punching Bag! (LOL)   Merry Christmas and the Best New Year Ever!

Now that Kim Jong-il, has died his youngest son Kim Jong Un is the new Successor. The above photo says it all.As you can see Kim Jon Il is clapping with his non genuine  mask -like smile with teeth clenched together. If he was living in the US many would deem it to look like a socioopathic smile.

The soldiers in the photos are clapping along with the Successor  and looking at him and doing exactly as he does,  but none of them are smiling. In fact they are looking quite scared. They don’t know what to expect and neither does anyone else. The older soldiers dressed in uniform show a great deal of tension in their faces which indicates nervousness and uneasiness.

The truth is that they  should be scared and we should be scared as well . After all these are soldiers of the Korean People’s Army, where they no doubt have spent a lifetime being soldiers. Now their  28 year old new leader, who never served in the army and was only home schooled in Computer Programming  has risen to the rank of what is equivalent to a  Four Star General. To the Korean military and to everyone else , it is scary that someone who never served in the military is now  running the military.

In fact he was only carted out publicly a year ago when he attended a political party meeting and sat two seats away from his father. Photos were taken which were  designed to give the public spin that this youngest son was important politically.

Before he died Kim Jong Il made people swear an oath of loyalty that they would support his son, but now that he is dead, will they carry out that oath? Apparently he also encouraged citizens to support his son by singing a newly composed song of praise to his son.

SIMILAR TEMPERAMENT IS A BAD THING

Based on reports of his personality traits his younger son has the same temperament as his father, which is not a good thing.

That means he most likely will rule as his father did with an iron fist.

SHYNESS –  MAY BE  A DETRIMENT

But unlike his father he is reported to be of very shy  temperament and not very social. Apparently he has been like this since childhood according to sources.  As he grew older his shyness became more evident as it was reported that when he was in school in Switzerland he has little to do with other students and has his own chaperone all the time.  Since one does not always outgrow their shy behaviors, his alleged shyness may be a  very bad thing on the world stage.

It is a bad thing because there is no room for shyness and non communication  when dealing with world leaders. It is also a bad thing in that his shyness ( if he still has it) will continue to keep him and his country isolated from other world leaders which will interfere with the peace process.

On the other hand, he may be verbally shy or socially shy but not computer shy perhaps he feels more comfortable communicating online. As a person who was educated in Computer Programming his shyness may be irrelevant, especially if he communicates via the internet. This may serve as  a shield to mask his shyness and thus enable him to communicate with others more freely.

FLUENCY IN ENGLISH  AND LOVE FOR NBA MAY BE A GOOD THING

On a  positive note,  besides being internet aware, unlike his father he

1. speaks fluent English as he was educated  at the English-language International School of Berne, Switzerland,
2. is a huge  basketball fan and loves the NBA Michael Jordan and a few other players and even allegedly had his photo taken with certain players.

These two things, along with his internet awareness  may have positive affect on how the views the world . It may makes him less isolated and more connected to the outside world and the people in it.

Because he is fluent in the international language- English he is much   better equipped communicate  directly with international leaders  than his father was and not lose the impact of what he and other leaders are saying because of any loss of meaning in the translation process.

The fact that he that he loves basketball and certain players is also an excellent thing. If things get tough the US in particular  can send over Michael Jordan  and the NBA  as an ambassador to make to make things right. One often listens more readily to those they trust, like and respect.

NOT BEING  SOCIALIZED IS A BAD THING

But on the negative side, even with his English he does not seem socialized or equipped to deal with those in the West. In fact it has been reported that while he was In Switzerland studying English, he  was not social and  did not associate with the other students, In fact it was reported that he  was constantly chaperoned by an older student throughout his stay.

BEING A BIG DRINKER AND NEVER ADMITTING DEFEAT IS A BAD THING

According to his late fathers personal chef named Fujimoto, Kim Jong un has superb physical gifts, is a big drinker and never admits defeat.”

Perhps the physical gifts he is referring to is Kim Jon un’s size as he is big and tall and apparently strong and athletic.

But even so , it has been reported that he too suffers from the same health issues as his father- diabetes and hypertension.

The fact that he is a big drinker is very very bad for any world leader. It can affect his judgment and perception. His anger can be induced via alcohol which would be a disaster in terms of his international decisions. It may make him more aggressive and irrational towards other countries he perceives as enemies. If someone is a big drinker at 28, unless they stop drinking or get help for their drinking they will most likely continue to drink. This is also not  good sign as his drinking may get worse as he ages.

When someone on the world stage cannot admit defeat or cannot see the other side there is no room for growth or compromise. That is a bad thing. In fact it is a very, very bad thing in terms of never being able to compromise or to work towards world peace.

HE  ONCE REVEALED COMPASSION WHICH IS A GOOD THING.

Even though it allegedly happened ten years ago when when Jong-un was 18, Fujimoto, his father’s chef  described an episode where Jong-un questioned his lavish lifestyle and asked, “We are here, playing basketball, riding horses, riding Jet Skis, having fun together. But what of the lives of the average people?”[29]

If this is true  and he did actually make this statement , it shows that Kim Jong un  may have much more compassion than his father. On the other hand, it was allegedly said a decade ago and much can change in a person’s viewpoints during that period of time, especially of they are indoctrinated.

He was obviously indoctrinated by his father as he was hand picked to become the Successor when his father realized his failing health.

In 2009, however he was elevated to a mid-level position in the National Defense Commission, a branch of the North Korean military and a year later elevated to the equivalent of a Four Star General when he in fact never served in the military.

POSSIBLE MUTINY?

To further promote his son as  a leader he made his son’s birthday a national holiday. Also in 2010 he made sure his sone was named as the Vice Chairman of the Central Military Commission and appointed to the Central Committee fo the Workers Party which was a sign he would be the successor.  To conform his son’s position on the political stage, his father mad sure a lot of press was present to document his son’s presence at the worker’s Party’s 65th anniversary where he was seated near his father.

But none of that may matter now that his father is dead. His extreme inexperience may be a huge detriment in his leadership which may cause a mutiny of sorts or  it may cause him to make some very wrong decisions in leading a country as volatile as North Korea has been in the world.

Since North Korea is a highly militarized state, Kim Jong-eun faces the  Herculean task of holding  everything together and maintaining it as it was. But since he is inexperienced militarily, the big question is how can he even think of running a highly militarized state? No doubt there will be resentment at his never having served in the military or knowing much about the military which could lead to internal struggles within the country.

THE CITIZEN’S  ANGER AS PART OF THEIR GRIEVING PROCESS

There is also the psychological issue that the citizens will face in grieving the loss of his father whom they loved and reveared.

Statements  heard on video reports made by the citizens  such as  Why did he leave us like this?” or “How could he leave us now?” may reflect the anger stage in the grief process that the citizens will go through. In mass, this may  possibly create a rebellion and  mutiny among the citizens of North Korea.

Stephen Bosworth, who was the US envoy for North Korea policy until  this past October said “The young man will not take office with the same authority his father had,”.

That is a hugely significant statement from someone in the know. It means that his son will not have the same  respect of the people or the military that his father had which may translate into a weaker leadership and a rebellion.

I can’t think of anything more repulsive than hearing anything out of  liar Casey Anthony’s mouth besides producer Scott Stenberg trying to cash in on the action and make a quick  buck off her back and the back of a dead baby. If he sells it I am boycotting it and him to boot.

Acquitted or not, no one deserves to make money off of  a dead baby- Caylee Marie Anthony. We have wasted enough time  dissecting this case. We have heard ALL that Casey Anthony has to say with her body language and repeated verbal and vocal  lies.

We have  even heard her repulsive mother  Cindy lie repeatedly  on the stand and in the media. We have heard the same lies from her father and brother.  It is over! Let this precious baby rest in peace.

If Scott  whom I happen to know personally sells this sleeze for the quarter of  the quarter of a  million he is asking for  it, Casey doesn’t deserve to get a cent and neither does he. As far as I am concerned it is nothing more than blood and death  money. Scott obviously knows its sleazy  otherwise he would be pitching the show openly and not” quietly” as  the Hollywood Reporter quoted.

While Scott asks for his hefty sum of up to  $750,000  for a promised no holds barred Casey Anthony interview, thankfully no  network is touching his offer. They know  that it will be a disappointment  mainly because the know  Casey will never tell the truth and they will receive severe backlash from the public and national outrage news

In fact, according to the Hollywood Reporter Anthony’s pariah status has already spurred divisions to publicly disavow the common and age-old practice of licensing personal photos and home video from interview subjects as a fig leaf to paying outright for interviews. And ABC News, CBS News and NBC News all have stated adamantly that they would not pay for an Anthony interview specifically.

Any advertiser who would put their product in a show featuring Casey Anthony would run the risk of having their products boycotted as well just by the negative association.

And what does  Scott Sternberg have to say about all of this?  As the Hollywood Reporter quotes “He declined to comment. ” To me that says it all!

So when I watched Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries take their vows on television some 70 something days ago and saw too much space between them, and an awkwardness, I knew something was way off. When I was asked to analyze their body language by the media I knew something was seriously wrong and they would NEVER last long as a couple.I was clearly right in my assessment as they soon announced that they would be divorcing.

But when Kris Humphries, on the second installment of Kris and Kourtney take New York, said to Kim as they were horsing around on the bed “Your armpits smell like a combination of fish and hot garbage.” it revealed a lot.

In so many photos Kim literally seemed repulsed by Kris as I even mentioned this on Hollywoodlife.com But Kris’s statement about Kim’s smell reflects that he too may have been repulsed by her and her smell and her pheromones.

PHEROMONES SPEAK VOLUMES

Research has shown how powerful pheromones can be in terms of physical attraction. If you have ever been madly in love with someone you can’t get enough of them. When they are not around you miss everything about them- even their smell. You may even resort to sleeping with their tee shirt just to get a blast of their pheromones they left behind. Pheromones are what is referred to in common terms as “chemistry”. You have it or you don’t. And Kim and Kris obviously don’t have it.

And please don’t write t tell me Kris was only kidding. He could have kidded by saying something else. But to actually describe the smell of Kim’s pits so graphically also giving choices – “fish” or “hot garbage” it is clear that it was a smell thing. That does not mean that Kim stinks or has a body odor.

Obviously Reggie didn’t think so, or maybe he did as they are obviously not together. But it does mean that Kim’s pheromones were not compatible with Kris Humphry’s pheromones. There relationship or lack therof, shows us that there is a lot more that goes into a relationship than money, power, looks, or status. It involves smell. Animals know it better than anyone. They either like ort dislike another animal based on their smell. We are just the same, only we try to disguise it with all of the other things mentioned above.

As I said previously , my blogs have no political or any other agenda. I just report objectively what I see and hear. This blog confirms   my lack of showing favoritism towards any candidate.

When Sharon Bialeck  came forward with Gloria Allred in tow as she who claimed  Herman Cain sexually harassed her, I observed many signals of deception and a story that made absolutely  no sense to me when she told of how Cain allegedly put his hand up her skirt and her mere reply was “You know I have a boyfriend.”

Most people would say something like  ”Stop it” or What do you think you are doing?”  They wouldn’t bring up their boyfriend as an excuse.

Then when I saw the interview that Cain’s wife did with  Greta Van Sustern  as she  who “stood by her man”  I saw  a  sweet and well meaning  woman with  down to earth demeanor as she vehemently insisted her husband was innocent and the Herman Cain she knew was not the one portrayed by these women. She strongly claimed that the Herman Cain described is not the one she knows for all these years and that she is not one of the wives who is the last to know.

Well unfortunately after hearing what Ginger White had to say and studying her body language, poor Mrs. Cain is indeed the last to know.

I observed that body language wise, Ginger White was forthright in her admission that she had an affair based on her body language Ginger was pained as she spoke. She was telling he truth.

She showed no deception when she said she  did Not want to come forward. It showed in her face,  She looked terribly pained . Look at the lines of emotional agony in her face. Look at the vertical line above her brow which screams distress.

There is no doubt that Ginger came forth because she was outed and because her who family was being harassed. She is not enjoying this media blitz. She is the opposite of Bialeck who was loving every minute of it based on her genuine starry eyed smiles.

CAIN SHOWS DECEPTION

When Cain says I have never acted inappropriately with anyone, the first tip off something is wrong is that he is reading  this statement from his script. He is looking down  t his notes.  If he was being sincere and speaking from the heart, he  definitely didn’t need notes to speak those words.

Also look at his hands , they are cupped in anger – anger  no doubt at having to defend himself. His palms are  down, not up. If the palms were up he would be openly and truthfully saying these words.

Here  we see that there is a  mechanical choppiness to this gesture which shows shows  that he is being over the top in making his point which may often  point to deception.

GINGER IS HONEST AND IN  EMOTIONAL PAIN

Ginger in  contrast is pen and honest and speaks in a modulated tone . As to why she had the affair . she said it took her away fro her humdrum life and it was exciting. As she said this there was a sight eyebrow  rise which means that she meant what she said.

Then for the first time during her interview,  we  notice that she had a slight smile when she said  he was confident and the same as he is on the campaign trail. Her demeanor  leads me to believe that she still may have feelings for him.

But then she quashes her feelings by saying  Herman Cain loves Herman Cain WOW!  In essence she is saying Herman Cain didn’t  love her, he  loves himself. In essence she is outing him as a narcissist.

So why would she put up with an alleged narcissist as she see it, The reason is simple, she benefits financially and she gets to have ex with a powerful man which may turn her on physically and make her feel like she is special to have such a man attracted to her.

His book CEO of Self  now  seems to have a whole different meaning in light of the narcissism comment by White.

Her comment was a clear dig at Cain. She is angry. She is hurt and it shows. She is angry at the fact that perhaps he was indeed having affairs with other women besides her. The fact that all of these women came forth may have put her in the same emotional shoes as Ms. Cain. The only difference is that Ginger knows first hand that he is a cheater. While some of the women may be fabricating their claims, she may believe that there are others who are not lying.

SADNESS AND PAIN AT RELIZATION RELATIONSHIP IS  OFFICIALLY OVER

Looks pained as she stammered  as the interviewer asked if the relationship is going on now. She said it  Well um and stammered and breathes a sigh and  looked very pained as she said well its safe to say that after  this interview I guess this will be the end of it.

She still harbors feeling as she is emotional as she says these words.

HELPING HER FINANCIALLY

When confronted as to why he had Ginger White’s number,  he said he had her number because he was trying to help her financially

WHAT?? Doe he think we are that stupid. Was he  getting something in return for helping her out financially. No one gets financial help unless they are your family member, getting paid for a service rendered, getting a loan, or receiving a Pell grant.

CAIN IS BUSTED AND SUSPENDED!!!

After listening to Cain’s suspension speech and hearing his arrogance in his tone  and  loud defensiveness  and watching his body language there was  no question that the man was busted! Ginger White’s interviews and her public admission along with the phone record evidence did in Cain’s campaign.

What  the public initially liked about Cain was his open demeanor and his candidness. But he wasn’t being that candid  when he was busted by Ginger White or during his  Campaign Suspension speech.

The last thing the American public needs or wants is a candidate without integrity or moral turpitude. In these crucial times we are looking for a leader we can trust. We have to trust that leader to do right by us. If someone lies about their personal affairs, what will they lie about when it comes to the public’s affairs?

Ginger’s admission was no match for Cain no matter how he tried to spin it. Body language wise it showed he was involved with him and had feelings for hm. She may have thought she was special to him and that she was his only dalliance. But as more and more women came forth, she realized that perhaps where there is smoke there is  most likely fire. She stated she came forth because of the allegations of the other women. Perhaps she also came forth because there were other women besides her and that angered her.

The bottom line is the public will not welcome a cheating leader in or out of the bedroom.