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Pat Houston’s Deceptive Body Language About Whitney’s Drugs – Did Death Due to ” Chasing A Dream” Refer to Whitney’s Romance With Younger Man?

Sunday, March 25th, 2012

During the Oprah interview , it was very clear to me that Pat Houston’s body language showed a lot of signals that did not match her words.  One of the most disconcerting things we heard was how she tried to blame outside influences for the demise of Whitney and Bobby Brown’s marriage and minimize their issues. Above we see her with cocked head, body pulled back and a monotone breathy voice which may very well indicate signals of deception as she speaks. Throughout the interview her body language and voice showed that she was very guarded in what she said,

Now that we have come to find out that Whitney Houston’s death was the result of drowning suggesting  a heart attack was most likely triggered by cocaine, thereby causing  her to  drown in her bathtub.

Her sister in law, Pat Houston  is the  second wife of Gary Houston who was arrested  in 1996 for possession of crack cocaine.  Right after Whitney’s death, Pat  went to court and had herself named executor, replacing the assigned executor of Whitney’s estate.  Now it makes a lot more sense as to why she may have shown signals of deception. She clearly has Whitney’s image to protect especially since the estate is currently making   more money from Houston’s songs than when Whitney was alive.

When Oprah asked Pat point blank Was drugs an issue for her before her death?

Pat Houston replied “ I don’t think drugs were an issue for her before her death…High, absolutely not. Leading up [to her death]? I would say no.

In analyzing her statement we can see signals of deception here. She gives too much information as she volunteers “High, absolutely not.” She also speaks in fragments Leading up? Also look at the words leading up. Oprah asks if drugs were an issue before her death but Pat get specific and volunteers a more specific time line  by  using the term  leading up as oppose to using before.

How could she says he was so close to Whitney and be her manager and closest confidant and not know she wasn’t doing drugs when acute use of cocaine,  as well as marijuana, Flexeril, and Xanax were discovered in her system.

WAS THE DREAM SHE WAS CHASING RAY J


Pat  was deceptive when she told Oprah that it wasn’t drugs that killed Whitney but that she  was “She was chasing a dream.”Perhaps that is true as she did not show signs of deception s she made this statement. She spoke clearly and directly.

Perhaps she was referring to chasing the dream as Whitney’s having  a serious relationship with  younger man Ray J  Brandy’s brother and  Kim Kardashian sex tape partner, and seeing Whitney’s   confrontation with the  X Factor contestant  over Ray J.

When this was going on we see photos of Pat Houston on TMZ looking very upset and annoyed as she even admits to Oprah she was mad. Yet she doesn’t explain what she was mad.  As part of her entourage and Whitney’s team, it seems she was mad that the X Factor star was allegedly  having designs on Whitney’s man and causing Whitney to get so upset in public.

Did Whitney indirectly die of a broken heart by  trying to feel  good and  numb her emotional pain after realizing that her man may  possibly have not have been being faithful to her? It sounds as though Pat believes this is the case based on her statement about Whitney chasing a dream. All of Whitney’s dreams came true with fame and fortune. So what was left was the dream of love which she may have though she found with Ray J.

Apparently, according to sources,  Whitney had been doing very well and was drug free  when she worked  the  film “Sparkle” after doing intensive rehab with Warren Boyd.There were three months between when  the filming “Sparkle” ended and when she died.

She clearly relapsed. Surely Pat Houston, her alleged close confidant must  have known this but chose not to  share it with Oprah during the interview.

It may be that Pat has attributed Whitney’s search for the “impossible dream” with a younger man as the underlying  cause for her death and not the cocaine.

While Ray J has vehemently denied doing drugs with Whitney. But maybe  Ray J’s presence in her life was the catalyst for her relapse. Maybe that fateful night when she ran into the woman she believed was flirting with Ray J caused her heart to break . Maybe that drover her over the edge towards self destruction.

My only hope is that  Pat does not engage in denial with Bobbie Kristina  and gets her the help she needs, especially now that she is the executor of  Whitney’s estate.

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New Book About Body Language of Terrorists Available From Dr. Lillian Glass and Former FBI Agent D. VIncent Sullivan

Sunday, March 25th, 2012

Body Language Expert Dr. Lillian Glass and former FBI Special Agent  D. Vincent Sullivan  have teamed up to write a book on detecting body language of potential terrorists. To order ebook click here http://www.amazon.com/See-Something-Hear-Say-ebook/dp/B007BQFMSG/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1332691951&sr=8-1-spell

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Bobbi Krisitna’s Smoking Self Destructive Body Language As “Fiance” Loves The Newfound Attention

Saturday, March 17th, 2012

Once again Bobbi Kristina Brown’s adopted “brudder” now alleged fiancé is loving the limelight as he comes out of Starbucks carrying two coffee  cups laden with creme. His posture is ramrod straight and his head is up, indicating lot of self confidence.

Here he checks out all the papas taking his photo and seems to be in awe of all of the attention bestowed upon him. There is a look of contentment and an ever so slight smile as  it is evident that he is really enjoying this.

He doesn’t even acknowledge Bobbi Kristina s they leave the store. He  looks to the right at the papas. She reaches out to grab his hand, indicating her neediness, something we saw on their last outing. He  now ;ooks up at all the papas to the left while she looks down. He doesn’t  hold her hand tightly. Instead he lightly holds it along with is iPhone . He doesn’t even move the iPhone to his other hand in order to grasp her needy hand. That is very telling.

Now Bobbi Kristina breaks away  from his non-hand holding and lights up a cigarette. She is obviously letting everyone know (now that she has a photo forum) that yes, she can smoke and so whatever she wants and no one can tell her what to do.

She allegedly made that comment verbally  as well, earlier today as she responded to her grandmother Cissy’s comment that she was committing incest with her “adopted ” brother. She  apparently said that she didn’t need Crissy’s blessing and could do whatever she wants to do.

Cissy no doubt wants to step in but her self destructive granddaughter is over 18 so there is little she can do. She is trying to get the estate to kick the “adopted” brudder out of the house he is now living in with Bobbi Kristina.

It is so obvious to see what is happening. This child is going through her anger phase in her grief process. She is taking her anger out on her grandmother and doing some very self destructive things like allegedly doing drugs, hooking up with her adopted brother,smoking and who knows what else.

She has every right to be angry. her world just fell apart with her best friend and confidant- her mother. Her father essentially abandoned her when she needed him the most . Most likely grandma Cissy has her own set of issues in dealing with her beloved daughter’s grief, so she can’t focus on Bobbi, ( who doesn’t want to be focused upon)  full-time . Now she appears to be acting out like a rebellious teenager.

I wish she had a responsible adult in her life to go i and take charge but it does;t seem like there is anyone there. When Britney Spears had her meltdown form years back, it was her father who stepped in. That is why she is doing so great now. Too bad Bobby her father hasn’t demonstrated he is man enough to do the same. So Bobbi Kristina in looking for that adult male figure has turned o someone 3 years older than he who may very well be as messed up as she is, of not more messed up. he has no life experience and does not know what is best for Bobby Kristina.

When he was asked questions by the papps he kept saying ” No comment” to whatever question they asked. But then he shared that Bovi Kristina was” staying strong.: He looked very proud as he said those words. The last thing Bobbi Kristina needs to do now is stay strong. She needs to grieve. She needs to be that little girl. She needs to be weak and have someone strong and responsible there for her to guide her into her next phase of  her life. That phase is NOT marriage to this unaccomplished,  uneducated , jobless man who is in he life.

This is the worst train wreck waiting to happen. It is classic in terms of what will most likely happen. As he gets more enrolled in  this vulnerable naive child’s life, he will gain more control. If he marries her he will have more control of her finances. he will have control over what she does and dent do and who to who she can’t associate with. Since her family has rejected him publicly, no count he will keep them away from her. When she does finally grow up a bit and try to step out on her own, it would come as no surprise if verbal or physical violence did no . t ensue. She may end up with a relationship very similar to the one she saw growing up with  her father Bobby and  mother Whitney.  Since Nick lived in their home as well, he too must have seen the same thing as Bobbi Kristina did in terms of a bad relationship role model. This cannot turn out well in my view.

I so wish she had someone to come into her life and insist she get educated, go to college and help her  develop her talents through proper training and coaching. But at this juncture it does not look as it will happen. Seeing Bobbi Kristina light up a cigarette in front of the papas tells us everything. It’s a symbol of rebellion. Unfortunately she needs to rebel against the lifestyle her mother and father led. She needs to rebel against self destruction. Unfortunately this will not happen. I pray she does not have a tragic end  like her mother.


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Donald Trump Son’s Sadistic Body Language As They Pose With Innocent Animals They Killed

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

When I saw the photos of  Donald  Trump sons facial expression of glee as they posed in front of dead animas and carried a beautiful dead leopard, I was sick to my stomach. There happiness spoke volumes. Real men dont delight in their kill. Men who are trying to pose as macho men do this becuase they are so weak as men.

Their father Donald Trump  says that he  divides people into 2  categories as winners and losers.While Donald is a winner in my view his animal murdering sons are losers. And PLEASE do not tell me they killed these animals to feed a village in Africa, That is insulting! The press release on this is a joke. The public is not dumb! They get it! They get that these are two weak nurds with no athletic prowess or intellectual prowess who need to feel macho and important so they go to Africa to kill innocent and beautiful animals. HOW DARE THEM!

Eldest son Don would be nothing in the world if not for Donald. He is not an asset to the show  as he speaks in his boring monotone and sits there so stiffly like a manequin. He displays no personality and no charisma. He has lived a very sheltered life coddled by his father.  The other son is groomed by Donald to take over some of his businesses as is Ivanka.

What they have done is unforgiveable. To see these two losers smiling and thrilled with the kill as though this is the most manly thing they ever did in their coddled lives,  is devastating. It makes me never want to look at the Apprentice show again to see TOXIC Donnie’s face.

Look at how  TOXIC loser Donny rests his body on the dead carcass of the innocent water buffalo. There is even blood dripping out of the poor animal,  near Donny’s hand. Wouldn’t that be  great karma if Donny contracted some disease from this dead animal’s blood that he accidently touched. The smile on his face is beyond repulsive.

The other Toxic Trump son Eric tweeted that the elephant he killed fed the village for weeks. Well Villagers don’t eat elephants. They are sacred! How dare him kill an innocent Elephant!!!

As I write this blog I am so angry. I have been to  Kenya, Africa and I have been in the Tsavo on a safari to see the beautiful wild animals . I have seen the elephants up close and personal walking with their lovely families, guiding adorable  baby elephants in the pack. The thought of a baby elephant losing it’s mother or father due to these Trump boys makes me furious.

I love what Peta said

“Like all animals, elephants, buffalo, and crocodiles deserve better than to be killed and hacked apart for two young millionaires’ grisly photo opportunity,” a spokesperson from PETA exclusively tells us exclusively. “If the young Trumps are looking for a thrill, perhaps they should consider skydiving, bungee jumping, or even following in their anti-hunting father’s footsteps and taking down competing businesses — not wild animals. If the Trumps want to help villagers, they have plenty of resources at their disposal.”

If the Trumps want to help the Africans, then  build them homes and fly in food daily. Put in money to get them proper hospitals with proper doctors and money for medicines. Put money in African education against AIDS and HIV. Fund AIDS research so children wont have to die of the disease and be orphaned at such early ages.

While it has been know that Donald has created a lot of controversy to keep himself relevant in the press,it is no doubt that his boys have followed in his footsteps. But being the most hated young men in America now is not the press they need.  There is so much bad Karma  for them associated with this egregious act.

When I look at the facial expression of  these two Toxic Trump son’s with their cheek raised,  eye squinting , teeth showing smiles indicating they are thrilled to be in front of  a helpless crocodile , tortured with a stick in it’s jaws, I am livid.

Here is where I walk the walk and employ my Fantasy Technique from my Toxic People book and  form my latest book TOXIC MEN- (who Eric and Donny appear to be) book. I fantasize that the crocodile  in the photo somehow gets a huge burst of energy and is able to dislodge the stick in it’s mouth and has Donny and Eric for lunch!.

I am officially boycotting all things Trump after seeing these sadistic horrific photos. And don’t tell me that Donald didn’t know what his sons were up to. He knows everything about his family. He controls everything Trump. He may have even put them up to this to generate his name in the press.

If we see a statement from his disavowing what his sons did and taking issue with them, you will know it is contrived. Donald always says that you can’t trust anyone , not even your family. He has now proven this fact by setting his sons up. There is no way they would do this without his blessing as the Trump brand is controlled and micromanaged. Controversy like this doesn’t happen unless it is planned.

The only thing is,  that it backfired on  Donald and his sons. They  underestimated the public reaction. It is not just the “crazy” PETA people that they assumed would get bent out of shape with these photos and in turn generate loads of publicity. It is people like me who love animals and support humanity and humane acts. This is inhumane. Torturing an animal and smiling in a photo with your kill  to enhance your own lack of masculinity is atrocious.

There is a karmic justice when you torture  and bother animals. Look what happened to Steve Irwin – Crocodile Hunter. He was disturbing and  bothering these poor animals for years until one animal- a sting ray  had enough of him and stung him and killed him.

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Bobbi Kristina’s Body Language Shows Neediness In PDA With Nick Gordon

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

News has broken that Bobbi Kristina, Whitney’s  biological daughter has hooked up with her “adopted” brother ,whom Whitney raised as a child. Apparently now they are engaged to be married. This is a very very bad idea in my view on a number of levels. For one, Bobbi is still in her mourning phase and cannot possibly make rational life decisions at this point on her life.

It is understandable that she is lonely and confused and scared  and very needy at this juncture in her life. She is so needy that she has sought comfort in the arms of her “brudder” as she calls him- Nick Gordon. Apparently, they share a bed together as she revealed on twitter.

Video was released on TMZ which shows the two of them together. What struck me body language wise, was just how physically needy she appeared to be in making the first gestures for Nick’s affection.

Her we see how Bobbi reaches out and  grabs Nick  hand to hold.

Next we see how she pulls his hand  in order to  place it  in back of her

as she succeeds in  pulling his arm and hand all the way back so he essentially rests it on her lower back on her buttock.

She then pulls him closer to her body and reaches up to kiss him on the lips for all to see,  as they enter a store.

As they leave the store, she grabs a hold of his arm. It is not Nick that is reaching out to Bobbi Kristina,  but Bobbi reaching out to him.

These little body language nuances mean a lot when you look at her emotional state. She is literally reaching out to the closest person to her because she is so needy. This is very understandable in light of the tragic circumstances she has been under.

Her family is allegedly upset about this relationship because it has been reported that they believe he is  a bad influence on her.Others feel that their engagement is Nick’s insurance policy that he will get some money. If Nick was “adopted” by Whitney, it strikes  me as a bit odd that she would not have left some money for him in her will.

Suddenly Nick released a statement to ABCNews.com that he is not dating Bobbi Kristina as he says ”

“We’re just close — just going through her mom’s passing and grieving together,” he said.

But he has given double messages on twitter as he recently tweeted :

“Yeah, we got a little closer and what!!!”

That was followed by ”

All the haters that don’t know us or the real story can’t unfollow me. I don’t give a f**k.” “I’ve proved my loyalty to her and the Houston family. I don’t owe any of you anything. Ha, I don’t even know y’all haters.”

“Some ppl [people] have no lives so they gotta be in ours,” he added as he made a point to say that he and Bobbi Kristina

are not related by blood as he tweeted

“For the stupid ppl out there, she gave birth to 1 child. And she trusted me with EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

He added, “She called me her “God Son.” I swear some ppl in this world act like they don’t have a brain …”

Perhaps all the “haters”got to Nick,  as he may have called off their engagement or their public romance by announcing that he is not dating Bobbi Kristina. There is no doubt that he  had had second thoughts on the matter. Perhaps that is why he was not seen making the first moves in their (PDA) public displays of affection seen in the above photos.

THE  REVEALING OPRAH INTERVIEW

In looking back at the Oprah interview with Bobbi Kristina you could clearly see this young lady is so fragile and so much in denial. She is confused and scared and alone. She had no business doing that interview at this time in her life. It was ALL about Oprah and Oprah’s ratings for her network. It was NOT about Bobbi Kristina.If it has been about Bobbi Kristina she would not have been there for the interview. I felt that it was exploitative and very disturbing to watch.

When Bobbi Kristina enthusiastically told Oprah she was still had a voice and was going to  sing and act and dance Oprah was not supportive , and rightfully so. Short of telling Bobbi Kristina that  she was delusional, she said to her  that she was putting a lot of pressure on herself.

This reality check is not what Bobbi Kristina wanted or needed to hear during this extremely emotionally volatile time in her life.

As I said on ET,  Bobbi Kristina stood during the whole interview and fidgeted. It was clear that she did NOT want to be there.

CONCERN FOR BOBBI KRISTINA

I am very concerned about this young lady. She has no one to give her the right guidance. She is 19 and a very young 19 at that. She was sheltered and coddled and was never independent. She never had to go out and get a job and fend for herself.

Nick is only 22 and  since he was raised by Whitney, it is like the blind leading the blind(no offense to anyone who is blind). Bobbi Kristina is blinded by her pain and neediness and has reached out to someone who is just as needy and in pain for a number of reasons from having  biological father in prison to not being mentioned in Whitney’s will.

Even though Bobbi Kristina was “groomed” by Whitney to become a singer she is NOT Whitney.  Not to be mean, she does not have Whitney’s looks or extraordinary talent or charisma. She thinks she is Whitney as indicated in the Oprah interview when she revealed she “Still had a voice.” Someone needs to set this poor child straight or she will be setting herself up for more disappointment.

Hollywood is one of the cruelest places on earth and is NOT for the emotionally fragile. First, there  is a lot of  pressure to look a certain way. Not to be mean,  but Bobbi Kristina was not blessed with Whitney’s genetics, looks wise. She is not attractive enough and makeup won’t do the trick. She needs a makeover which includes a nose job and dental work to balance out her features and perhaps a breast enhancement. Like it or not, the reality is that this is Hollywood and there are certain requirements one has to have in the public eye if they are to make it as an entertainer. It is way too competitive and you have to look your best.

Next  you have to have the talent to carry off your desires to be a singer, actress or dancer.  At 19 Bobbi Kristina is old in terms of starting out in the business. She has not performed publicly yet . She has not performed in any little clubs to develop her chops. She has not enrolled in acting classes or done any local theatre to get her chops.

Following her mother around  may have given her a lot of insight in terms of what is required of a star but it will never make her a star.

Her cover of Adele’s song on youtube was sweet for an amateur,  but she needs a lot of work with breath control and phrasing and pitch levels.

Being a dancer is another huge undertaking where dance routines can be grueling. It requires a lot of  daily practice and dedication and athletic stamina. Dancing starts at an early age with lessons and classes  on a regular basis.

The bottom line is that unless someone takes her under her wing like a major manager who  has her best interests at heart and instills in her the discipline it takes to accomplish her goals, she is setting herself up for another major disappointment. Someone needs to watch over her that all her investments are being handled well and that she is not going to be ripped off.

Someone needs to get this young lady to a professional therapist to help her and guide her. She needs t occupy her time getting a formal education and go to college where she should major in  business so she can learn  how to handle her finances.  If she is determined to sing and dance and perform, she needs to be in dance class, have voice coaching, and  take  acting classes  along with her studies.

She needs to focus on her healing and on developing herself so she can be the best she can be. Just being Whitney Houston’s daughter will not cut it  in terms of her success and future. She needs to prove herself on her own.


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Bobbi Kristina’s Body Language During Oprah Interview Says She’s Not Doing Well

Tuesday, March 13th, 2012

Yesterday  I appeared on Entertainment Tonight where I discussed Bobbi Kristina’s body language as she was interviewed by Oprah. To me the interview was very telling and somewhat disturbing. Even though Bobbi said he is doing “just fine” her body language told a different story in my view.

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The most telling thing is that Bobbi Kristina did the whole 10 minute interview standing up. No one does an intimate  interview standing up unless they are planning to hightail it out of there if the going gets rough or the interview is too much to handle.

Initially we see Bobbi with her hands on her hips  as you can see above, indicating a defensiveness and an anger as though she really does not want to be there. Even though her words said one thing, her body said another.  In my view she was not ready to open up and talk about her mother who tragically died less than two weeks ago. To me it was a very premature interview. Look at Bobbi’s hands on her hips. This indicates a defensiveness, a discomfort  and an inner anger at having to do the interview. There is a tight lipped smile as she shows her ambivalence.

It was also difficult for her to maintain eye contact with Oprah, which further  indicated her discomfort. When she told Oprah “I still have a voice.” it was a very revealing statement. The only time we have heard her voice was when she did a cover of  an Adele song and put it on youtube. We have not heard her perform publicly. He choice of the word “still” says a lot . It may reflect her enmeshing her identity with Whitney’s. Whiney is not longer alive and hence has no voice . But Kristina says of her self that she” still has a voice” indicating to herself at least on a subconscious level that  her mother will have a voice through her.

She then tells Oprah how she plans to acts and sing and dance. In essence Bobbi wants to carry on where Whitney left off. But can she?  Even if she has been groomed to do so by Whitney, the question remains as to whether she has the talent to do so in such a public an competitive arena. Even if she was groomed by her mother and even of she is taken under Clive Davis’ wing and given all the contacts to become a singer and an  actress, the reality is that she may not be able to pull it off for a variety of reasons.

Oprah knows this as well as she immediately replied “Don’t you think that;s a lot of pressure? ” Oprah is right. Bobbi is putting a lot of pressure on herself as she will never live up to what her mother did or take over and channel her mother as an actress and singer,  no matter how much she has been groomed.

It will take a lot of work and a lot of practice to get her chops in music and in acting, not to mention natural talent. She will have to do a lot of studying and will have to have a lot of focus.

Also there will be enormous pressure because the public will be highly critical. She is not Whitney nor does she have Whitney’s singing abilities or physical appearance. While Bobbi Kristina did a lovely job singing Adele’s song on youtube it was sweet and pretty but nothing remarkable. Her breath control needs a lot of work as does her phrasing. She is off key in many plaecs and as Paula Adbul used to say n American Idol she is “pitchy” , Her is the link for you to hear Bobbi and make a judgment of her singing for yourself. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GImAjkWMXgI

For every Natalie Cole who followed in her famous father Nat King Cole’s footsteps and succeeded, there are the Lisa Marie Presley’s who  for whatever  reason could never follow in her father’s footsteps, even though I personally love the way she sings. The post humous duet she sings with her dad Elivis “In the Ghetto” is awesome.

Not to be mean,  but the public is highly critical when it comes to physical appearance and presence and at this point Bobbi Kristina in my view needs a lot of work in that area from braces to close the gap in her teeth to perhaps some cosmetic facial refinement to balance out her features. She needs work on her posture and movement an stage presence

Almost everyone ha done this to make their brand even more appealing from Leanne Rhimes to J Lo to Madonna  to Jennifer Hudson, to Fantasia Barino. So Bobbi Kristinia is no exception. Even Adele who  publicly says she is happy with her looks allegedly took off some pounds for the Grammy ceremonies.

To illustrate Bobbi Kristina’s discomfort and uneasiness during the interview we constantly see her fidgeting and moving around. She plays with her hair and constantly pushes it off of her face. She fiddles with her clothes and brushes herself off. There is constant movement which indicates anxiety. There is also a lot of scratching. Oftentimes when a person feels anxiety their autonomic nervous system takes over and blodd flow starts to increase causing an itching sensation.

It once again confirms to me that she was clearly not ready to do any interviews about her mother and how she is doing. In watching this interview once can see how she is doing. She is not doing well. How could she do well?

Her best friend and mother died so unexpectedly and under such tragic circumstances.  They were so close that she and her mother even napped together  as she indicated.

Her flesh and blood father has not been there for her in the moments she needed him the most. He was not there when she was taken to Cedars Sinai the second time. Instead he was out performing and feeding his own ego. And most of all he a not there to sit by her side and hold her during the memorial and funeral. Instead he chose to let his ego get in the way, leave and perform the evening he left.

So essentially she is an orphan now. She has no mother and no father to speak of.

Also she said she has been staying in Whitney’s house- alone. Personally I do not think that is very healthy,. I think she not only needs her family’s help, she need s professional help from a licensed therapist and grief counselor to help her through her hard and impossible days.

It is going to take a long time for Bobbi to cope with this. So far she has allegedly coped by getting high as it has been reported that she was high at the funeral. Is she still getting high to cope with the intense pain? Several have questioned her fidgeting and constant movement on the Oprah interview and wondered if it was related to any drug use.  I don;t know the answer to that but it certainly may be a possibility.

This young lady has a lot ahead of her and needs someone who is stable and has a level head  and who is drug free to guide her. I hope that she does set up with someone who can get her to a great therapist as she desperately needs one.

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Rush Limbaugh’s Body Language Says Apology Was Not Sincere

Tuesday, March 6th, 2012

While Rush Limbaugh’s words may have indicated he was sorry for referring to  the 30 year old law student  as a “slut” his body language said something entirely different. As you can see in the photo above he is looking down and reading his apology. When you give a heartfelt apology you don’t look down and read it. You speak it form your heart.

Next his voice was monotone and devoid of emotion. When you apologize there is the sound of contrition in your tones. There was none here. Then as we see in the photo above there was a lot of lip pursing. This means that Rush was angry that he had to apologize at all.

Now look at Rush’ hand as he apologizes. The palm is down and fingers are splayed. This body language gesture means that he is not being sincere.

As he continues we really see his anger through his body language a he makes a fist when he apologizes. When someone makes a fist as they speak to you, they are angry. Rush was angry that he was forced to apologize. No doubt he meant every word he said about the young woman. He just was angry that the advertisers were pulling out and that he had to succumb to an apology.

When Rush said that the advertisers no longer wanted to advertise on his show, while he indicated he didn’t mind through his matter of fact  intonation, his  body language said the opposite as he pursed his lips and swallowed hard.

You could actually see him gulping. This indicates that he was indeed upset about what was happening.  As you can see below, the names of some of the advertisers are pretty significant such as AOL and  Allstate. They did NOT want their reputations tarnished by the Toxic fallout of  Rush’s hateful  words.

While Rush was filing during his apology, it was not a sincere one. The apples of his cheeks were not raised and his eyes were not smiling  which one sees in a genuine smile. His teeth were also clenched as you can see int he photo above.

Rush tried to brush this incident off as comedy. But there was nothing comical in his tone or in the punch line or in what he said. While he is entitled to agree or disagree with the issue at hand like any talk show commentator does, he is not entitled to name the woman and refer to  her as a slut or a prostitute. That is hateful and harsh.

It also reflects in my view some major deep seated  hateful feelings towards women- strong women – formidable women with opinions and with a voice. And please don;t tell me that he has no issues with women because he got married recently. He got married four times so there is obviously some major issues with women going on here.

Back in the day, he called Sally Jesse Raphael who at the time was a powerful women with her own talk show, a Femi- Nazi. That was harsh back then and it is harsh now when he used the term over a decade later. It shows rage towards women. Just putting the word Nazi attached to women is offensive in itself. It is hateful and hostile.

While over 15 million people listen to Rush and he represents a significant voice in the conservative circles, that voice can be silenced as well. No one is beyond public opinion or the law. Look at what is happening to Rupert Murdoch and al of the investigations and arrests in his media empire for allegedly  doing the wrong thing and illegally wiretapping people.

It is interesting to listen to all of the politicians and supporters of Rush pussyfoot around and play The Emperor ha new clothes when he is intact naked.” Those who don’t come out and say this is uncalled for or unacceptable show weak character in my view. they don;t want to alienate or upset the 15 million supporters so they pussyfoot around it. To mea that is just as bad a Rush.

They could say that they like and repeat Rush but have to take issue with how he referred to this young lady. When they say it was a bad joke or humor or start going on the offensive and saying how the liberals can say the C word and speak similarly about others and nothing happens to them, it makes you think less of the politician and shows you that they are weak and wimpy  and kiss ups that have their best interests at heart. But their non commitment to saying what is really wrong backfired on them.

I am not political a you know from reading my blogs. I say it like it is regardless of the party or who is involved. This is wrong. It is so insincere and the fact hat he apologized so insincerely makes him look even worse. The woman whom he insulted doesn’t even want his apology. In fact there was some talk by Geraldo Rivera on his new radio show that this was slander and libel and that she could sue him for thee things.

While that may be an option for her to remedy her situation, the good news is that it put her issue in the forefront so that she has a bigger voice to speak her mind and to let the public know her viewpoint. Once again I am not saying that I agree or disagree with her as that is not the point. The point is that while you may be angry with a person’s point of view and what they say, you should never call them out for being a slut or a whore , especially when you don’t even know them.

This was clearly a personal attack on this woman that was not deserved. While he could attack her ideas, he should never have attacked her moral character.

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Lindsay Lohan’s New Body Language and Image Desperately Needs Voice Work As Well

Saturday, March 3rd, 2012

Lindsay Lohan recently  looked  a lot more mature than the fresh faced girl next door look we have come to know as she appeared on all the NBC talk shows  like Today and Jimmy Fallon in order to promote her SNL gig to give her career a  well needed boost.

Looking more and more like her stage mom Dina, she looked  attractive with her  desperately needed newly veneered teeth. She also got rid of the lip trout that previously  looked out of proportion to her facial features.

Despite her new classical facial appearance and  curvaceous figure the one thing she still really needs to work on is her voice. As someone who did voice and speech and body language coaching with A list actors for various movie roles  over the years, I know what I am talking about here.

VOICE THERAPY NOW!

She sounded hoarse, gravely and harsh. I think that as she ventures into acting and gets her life and acting career back on track it would be in her best interest to also get some desperately needed vocal therapy.

Her voice sounds  so bad because of the vocal abuse from what often happens when one abuses drugs and  or alcohol . This is what people sound like who abuse themselves for a long period of time. Vocal muscles  and tissues get taxed and there can be damage to them. The wasy she sounds will clearly limit her roles because she has a harsh limited note range. As a performer you need a wide range.

COMEBACK AT 25

Personally, I was happy to hear that she is getting her act together and was impressed with her persistence, She contacted Lauren Michaels and literally begged him to host the show until he said yes. Hopefully this will work for her. Hopefully this is her comeback but only time will tell. She may rock it or people may have had enough of her antics and lose interest in her  and consider it too little too late.

She is making a  comeback at  age 25 and even laughed at how ridiculous it sounds on her interviews. But the reality is that  for a woman in Hollywood 25 is  considered old. She wasted the best years of her life from 18 to 22. That is when actresses are in their prime in Hollywood. If they are any good and the public accepts them, they  continue to work like a Jessica Lange and a Meryl Streep.

We don’t know how Lindsay will do as an actress as it remains to be seen. She has to get her chops back .  She hasn’t worked in a while. He behavior has affected her ability to be insured on a set  no  doubt. When she performed in the  recent past she was reported to be wasted so many times. She was  always late  and upset filming.

SECOND CHANCES

Early on, she had natural talent as a cute redheaded innocent tween and teen but how will she fare as a serious actress? Will her reputation cloud her performance? Will people say “why bother?”

Robert Downey Jr. was a complete mess and also did jail time  due to his drug and alcohol issues . But he turned himself around t be one of the most respected actors in Hollywood. Hopefully Lindsay will do the same, but it is harder for a woman, That is the reality like it or not.

Men in Hollywood don’t happen until they are 40 something. They age into their roles whereas a woman ages out of her roles unless she is a character actress.

I do wish Lindsay the best. I  love to see people get back on track like Britney Sears. I was so worried about her four years ago that I even wrote a blog reaching out to her as did so many others. Since then she has her life in gear and a wonderful man her in life. Her  terrific father stepped in and helped her tremendously in every way. Now she has a wonderful supportive man in her life and is engaged to him.

LINDSAY’S PARENTS MAY BE THE ROOT OF  HER PROBLEMS

Unfortunately this is not the case with Lindsay’s father or mother Dina Lohan. Lindsay has an enabling lying mother (yes I said lying as she lied on TV about her daughters problems) who spun her daughters bad behavior and was seen partying with her daughter during her daughters out of control times.  She is desperate for attention as she had  appeared over the airwaves to talk about her daughter to get some face time. She saw herself as becoming the next Oprah. According to reports

Her father  Michael Lohan in my view is a complete Toxic mess with his own issues too massive to go into. From his anger issues to his fights with women and betrayal of friends (Jon Goselin) to shooting off his mouth about his  daughter who clearly detests him and rightfully so.

I do hope that Lindsay gets constant therapy to deal with her mom and dad issues as well as badly needed voice therapy so she can have a good chance out there to really make it.If not it will be easy for her to regress.

PLAYING ELIZABETH TAYLOR

She is said to be up for the role playing Elizabeth Taylor. The two of them had a lot in common  of being child stars to hang alcohol an drug issues, so it is not that much of a stretch for Lindsay. But there will be a lot of critical eyes on Lindsay in that role. It is one of the hardest things in Hollywood to play another person’s life. It takes so much work.

Ask my former client Forest Whitaker who got the Academy Award for playing Idi Amin or

Andy Garcia who played Modigliani.

Michelle Williams got many awards for her portrayal of Marilyn Monroe. But it could have easily gone the other way.  Those who have played Marilyn in the past often made her campy or exaggerated her. Michelle caught her nuances and portrayed her just right.

I think that the best portrayal of JFK of all time was Greg Kinnear . He all  hof JFK’s subtle mannerisms as he studied JFK religiously. Hopefully Lindsay will do the same with her Elizabeth Taylor role. If not, it can be a disaster for her career and self esteem. So there is a lot riding on this role and how she does with it.

At any rate I hope she gets her head and her heart and her voice together . After all,  what goes on in your head and your heart is often reflected in your voice.

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Toxic People: Ohio School Shooter- Silent But Deadly Erupting Volcano

Tuesday, February 28th, 2012

As the author of the best selling book Toxic People http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-People-Ways-Dealing-Miserable/dp/0312152329/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330452498&sr=1-1 and my latest book Toxic Men http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330452562&sr=1-1 which has just been released in paperback, I came up with the category of Silent But Deadly Erupting Volcano. This category says it all when it comes to 17 year old T.J. Lane who shot and killed fellow classmates and injured others in his Ohio high school.

Many of his fellow students said  he was “quiet”. Others  said he was sweet. One student who played basketball with him after school several years ago said he seemed happy when he was around him and that he was shocked because he wasn’t a violent kid. Another student at his church group said that he was  “a nice boy.”

But others said had a “simmering temper”. And  my view is that “simmering temper’ was fueled by inner rage that was not verbally expressed.

TJ had a lot to be angry about. One reason was that this father had a series of arrests for abusing women including his mother. His mother also had her share of problem as between 1995 and 1997 his mother Sara A. Nolan as well as his father were each charged with domestic violence against each other. It is most likely that a very young TJ witnessed his father’s and mother’s violence at an early age.

His father also served time in prison for assaulting a police officer after trying to suffocate another woman he married several years after his son was born, according to court records. Records show he held the woman’s head under running water and bashed it into a wall, leaving a dent in the drywall.

TJ spent his formative years living with his grandparents in a home that was reported to be dysfunctional.

TJ wanted what every other person his age and older wants- to be loved and accepted. Instead he was ostracized and was said to be bullied by fellow students.So he retaliated. In fact he allegedly shot one boy who began dating the girl with whom he broke up with.

He was not unlike Dylan Kleibold and Eric Harris, Columbine High school shooters or  Seung Cho the Virginia Tech shooter. All of these troubled young men had something in common The were all rejected by their peers who considered  them outcasts and most of all they were bullied.

Bullying can unleash anger as well as shame. Most often the person bullied takes tat anger out on themselves by committing suicide rather than dealing with the constant emotional pain.

But there are other times where that anger is turned outwards towards others as we saw in this case with TJ the Ohio shooter and with the Columbine and Virginia Tech Shooters. In fact every other school shooter has reported a history of being bullied.

These incidents give even more credence to why there MUST be a no tolerance for bullying in any school system.

In addition it is essential that school counselors and teachers not just pay attention to the rowdy kids in class, but pay even closer attention to the quiet ones- the ones who stay by themselves and don’t interact with others. These children are often troubled and keep their pain to themselves.

In many cases their actions can explode from all of the pressure they hold inside of them. That is why counselors and teachers need to spend some special time with these kids and give them the attention they need and a place to vent their feelings.

Apparently social workers were aware of TJ’s problems as he allegedly had  a run in with the law in the past. Children such as TJ can never be allowed to fall through the cracks.

The bottom line is that it is the quiet ones, the silent ones, the ones who retreat into a shell, and of course the bullied ones  who may be the most dangerous ones. So teachers, parents, clergy, and  especially social workers be aware and reach out to them with urgency to prevent anything like this tragedy ever happening again.

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