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Gary Coleman’s Wife’s Voice on 911 Shows Self Centeredness And Harshness Towards Gary And Her Body Language on TMZ Interview Shows No Love Lost for Gary

Friday, June 4th, 2010

WHAT DOES SHE KNOW?

The tone of Gary Coleman’s wife Shannon, his live in ex wife whom he married in 2007 an divorced in 2008 was cold and harsh. It seems that she is  more concerned about herself than Gary and has all kinds of excuses as to why she can’t help him. ” She seems to repeat the phase” I don’t know what happened” as she gets the operator know this several times throughout the call. This is disconcerting as it makes one wonder if indeed she does know what happened.

SHANNON IS FULL OF EXCUSES

She doesn’t even go over to check on Gary as she screams out “Gary, are you OK?” She sound completely self absorbed. Her husband is lying on the floor with the back of his head bloody and all she can say is that she can’t help him because there was blood around,,She says she can’t drive him because she was an epileptic.

But she could manage to yell at him as in a harsh angry and nasty tone as she screamed”Gary, don’t move. Gary Stay there, OK? You have to keep pressure on your head, You got to put pressure on your head.” What happened?

SAYS SHE CAN’T HELP HER OWN HUSBAND

Then she bluntly tells the operator “I can’t really help him” She goes on to say how there is blood in the back of his head. For the umpteenth time she says “ I don’t know what happened.” He hit his head , I don’t know, It’s all bloody you know.”

There were way too many “I don’t know what happened’s” to make you wonder if Shannon did indeed know what happened. It was as the saying goes, “though dost protest too much.”When someone volunteers that much information that wasn’t requested it often can be a very revealing signal of deception and they may possibly know a lot more than they are saying.

YOU KNOW?”

Also when someone keeps interjecting the phrase “you know” it means that they are looking for your approval and looking for you to believe them. Shannon spoke those words where she asked for reassurance from the operator several times.

IT’S ALL ABOUT SHANNON

The 911 tape continues to be very disturbing as it continued to be ALL about Shannon. She continues with reasons why she can’t help him by saying “I’ve been sick. I can’t do anything right now,” I don’t know what happened He hit his had I don’t know. Its all bloody and you know”.

She continues with” I don’t know if he had a seizure or hit his head and fell.”

The operator tells Shannon to at least give him a towel so he can put pressure on his head. She then says with atone of annoyance ,”if I can find one for him.”

One would treat an animal better than she treated Gary. You would rush to find a towel or anything to help stop the bleeding.

Then she goes back to herself and say “I;m panicked. I don’t know what to do. I’m freaking out,” The operative words here are “ I” and “ I’m.”This should have been about Gary not her!

YELLING AT GARY IN A MEAN TONE

Then you hear her yelling at Gary in a very mean tone. As she screams at him “‘Don’t move! Stay there put pressure. Hold this thing. Don’t move! I don’t know what Sit down! Sit down!, Gary sit down! “ She speaks to him worse than anyone would speak to an animal.

She is harsh with him and very unloving. It seems that all of her humanity has gone out the window when it comes to Gary and his needs.

Then she goes back to talking about herself and how this has affected her as she says “Im gagging. I got blood on myself.”

What I want to know if how did she get blood herself when she couldn’t bear to touch him let alone be near him during his moment of crises. The whole thing sounded very odd.

TMZ INTERVIEW SHOWS DEFENSIVENESS AND DETACHMENT

Shannon looks down as she said that there has been a lot of speculation that she pushed Gary.

Then she gets very defensive and says “Why would I hurt my husband?” As she says this she gets super defensive in her vocal tone and in her facial expression as he furrows her brow and  contorts her mouth in anger.

DID THE DOCTORS REALLY SAY WHAT SHE SAID THEY SAID?

Then she looks down and as she says the following that the doctors said that even if they would have done surgery on him he would have died and bled to death, that even if they took a chunk of his brain he wouldn’t have been the same, and that he would be basically like Muhammed Ali.”

None of this rings true to me, Her body language also says it doesn’t ring true as she looks way up and then looks way down and does not look at the interviewer,This is  indicating signals of deception .

If Gary had an intra cranial hemorrhage, he wouldn’t necessarily have bled to death. Look at Brett Michaels. They also would not take a chunk out of his brain for a hemorrhage and finally no doctor would bring up another patient as an example. Muhammed Ali has Parkinson’s disease, not what Gary had.

So what she is saying is ridiculous. It is obviously her self justification for pulling the plug  on Gary so soon.

SHANNON DOESN’T  WANT PEOPLE TO BE HARD ON HER

She then blames Gary’s heart as the reason for his not making it anyway. As she says this she shows no compassion and seems heartless herself.

She says she doesn’t want people to think she is a bitch “and I didn’t care about him.

Then it continues to be al’ about her as she says be in my situation “Look at Terry Shaivo”

THE ONLY EMOTION SHANNON SHOWS IS ANGER.

Then she gets really defensive and tries to justify her action of pulling Gary’s plug by saying
I always think of her when it come to this.“That was a very odd comment to say the least. She  continues to justify her pulling the plug on Gary as she says Gary was gone . His eyes were dilated. She shrugs her shoulders in saying He was just gone as a way to further justify her actions.

The shoulder shrug is that she isn’t sure that he was gone but she as trying to convince herself that he was gone. Also her raised eyebrows mean that she is trying to convince  the interviewer as to what she is saying, It also means that she is trying to convince  herself that she did the right thing in pulling the plug so soon.

ALL ABOUT SHANNON

There is absolutely NO compassion when she talks about Gary as she says how he bought her a car. She  adds “which he chose to do“, indicating that she wants everyone to know that she didn’t demand that he get her one. She makes it a point to a add “which I never asked him for for.”

When someone volunteers that much unsolicited information  chances are that it isn’t true. She most likely asked him for a car and he bought it for her.

SHANNON- THE MATERIAL GIRL

She talks about how Gary took her to Vegas because she loves shopping there and loves getting pampered there and how obviously she would but the high end stuff. No wonder she and Gary had money issues!

 

Then she says how they alwaYs had to stay at Caesars palace but also stayed at Bellagio because they  were obsessed with the fountain view room, Shannon coyly looks away form the camera, indicating that she clearly knows whats he was doing. She is letting everyone know that she has  a certain lifestyle and now she will no longer have it now that Gary is not there to support her.

SHANNON HITS THE PUBLIC UP FOR MONEY

Shannon now raises her shoulders in victim  like fashion and says how she doesn’t know how she will pay for funeral costs .  She leans forward for emphasis as she says this and says she doesn’t know how she will survive.

Then she says what a rough time it has been because Gary hadn’t had much work because of his health’ Then this cold,  heartless sounding woman with no ounce of compassion in her voice has the audacity  to says how Gary worked a lot so her finances were great when they first got married  and how now she has nothing.

This clearly  indicates how she obviously married him for his money. Then she says how he was  never able to have life insurance which could have helped with funeral costs.

She says how now she is hoping people will” pour  out to us and show their compassion with money, as they have been sending letters and emails.

WE NOW SEE WHO TO WHOM GARY WAS MARRIED- A  HARSH,  NOT COMPASSIONATE  SELF CENTERED OPPORTUNIST

Is this woman for real?  Now that Gary is no longer here to take care of her financially, she has the nerve to tell the public to send money along with their letters and emails.

What about her getting a job and stop looking for  handouts like  she obviously  did by marrying Gary.

This woman in my  view has shown in her 911 call and in her TMZ interview that she is obnoxious, cold, and heartless, greedy, selfish,materialistic,  and downright unlikable.

Knowing this, I feel terribly sad for Gary. Now I see why he continued to walk around so miserable with a chip on his shoulder. I can see how  the dynamics of this TOXIC relationship  escalated into domestic violence. There is no doubt that both of them pushed one another’s buttons.

What makes me the saddest and brings me to tears is the fact that poor Gary had to die with no one loving him and holding him. Shannon who lived in the same household didn’t have the human decency to even bring him a towel when he was bleeding to death.

All I can say is Rest in Peace Gary.  You  are finally free of it all. First it was your parents who used you and betrayed you by taking your hard earned money as a child and now it was Shannon who in  a different way,  essentially did the same thing.

They both took your loving  heart and made you an angry person. After meeting Shannon via her 911 call and TMZ  interview, all I can say is who can blame you?

Once again my dear Gary, you no longer have to be angry or fight with anyone. May God Bless you and may you always rest in peace! www.drlillianglass.com

 

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Gary Coleman’s Body Language and Behavior In Walking Off Insider Set in Anger Reveals How Desperately He Needs Help

Wednesday, February 17th, 2010

As the Body Language Analyst for The Insider, I was  at  CBS Studios yesterday doing a language analysis post mortem on Gary Coleman’s behavior after he stormed off the set. Gary was interviewed  by the panel  consisting of  anchors Lara  and Chris, steady guest panelist Neece Nash and  guest panelist   Lisa Bloom.  He became very hostile and verbally abusive towards Lisa which was frightening to watch.

It was equally shocking to see how once loveable Gary tuned out. His defensiveness and his  telling  that he has thoughts of not being on this earth were raw were painful to watch. But what was even more painful to watch was his shocking behavior on the set of the Insider.

EMBARRASSMENT AND ESCALATION OF ANGER

Throughout the interview, you could see Gary’s anger escalate. He was very uncomfortable talking about his recent arrest and having to spend time in jail.

It was embarrassing to him, You could tell he was embarrassed as when he spoke he often had his eyes closed, He didn’t want to look at anyone as he spoke about these obviously embarrassing and painful issues. When someone closes their eyes whent hey speak to you, it usually means that they want to disconnect from you and not face you. It reveals embarrassment and shame.

DEFENSIVE AND HOSTILE VOCAL TONES

His tone was extremely defensive and hostile . He made excuses for his behavior and appeared to be in denial as he discussed why he landed in jail. There was also a whininess in his tone which was further indication that he was  on the defensive. He seemed to blame everyone instead of taking responsibility for his actions. He blamed his wife and even blamed everyone including his fans.

SHOCKING REVELATIONS OF SUICIDAL THOUGHTS

What was the most shocking revelation was when Gary spoke of his thoughts of ending his life and not being on this earth.  He was serious  as there was conviciton in his voice when he said these words. This was scary and cler indication that he definateLy needs medical attention.  He also mentioned that he had bipolar disorder.

PROBING QUESTIONS ON THE HOT SEAT APPEARED TO BE TOO  MUCH FOR GARY

Gary was asked whether or not he was still a virgin  by Neece Nash – a question Gary refused to answer directly. Even though he admitted he was a virgin when he was 40, he was not married at the time.  He was flustered by this line of questioning and perhaps rightfullyso.

But instead of giving an simple yes or no  direct yes or no answe,he skirted the issue which made one wonder of he was still a virgin and  whether his physical or medical condition prevented him from consummating his marriage. In an exasperated and angry tone he repeatedly  answered that he  was married and asked “what you do think?”  You could see him becoming very stressed at this point.

CONCERN FOR GARY

When Gary spoke of  thinking about   ending his life, the whole panel became concerned and appeared to reach out to him. In fact, former prosecutor Lisa Bloom  initially reached out to him and touched his arm to reassure him that there was help available  for him with his condition.

MEDICATIONS MAY NOT WORK FOR EVERYONE INCLUDING GARY

He shot back that the medications couldn’t help him. This may very well be the case as it pertains to him. In fact int he recent issue of Newsweek Magazine the cover story is about the ongoing debate about  Antidepressants not working for patients.  In some people medications do not work.

In others there is such an extensive trial and error period to find the right medication  and  the right dosage that this alone could be debilitating.

In others, the side effects of the medication may be worse than the disorder.  And still in others certain medications may not work well when combined with other medications and other medical procedures.

The fact that Gary reportedly goes through dialysis for his kidney problems on a daily basis and may possibly take other medications may be an issue as well. So when he said that medications don’t work for him, he may have a point .

FINGER POINTING AND GARY CURSING LISA OUT

Then body language wise, Lisa may have unknowing done something  that Gary perceived as even more hostile. She pointed her finger at him as she spoke. You can see him physically back up as she does this. Then Gary lets loose with a tirade of vulgarities and in essence curses Lisa out.

She then asks him pint blank if he speaks this way to his wife, He says that he doesn’t unless he has to.

If he spoke this way to a perfect stranger, Lisa Bloom, no telling how he is speaking to his wife at home. You could see Gary’s anger escalate as the veins in his temple region became visibly prominent. He even pointed his finger back at Lisa as she spewed forth obscenities.

Luckily,  Gary took off his microphone and left the set. He left the set cursing all the way to his limo, but nevertheless he left without punching anyone out or using a weapon.

THE PSYCHIATRIST WEIGHS IN ON GARY BEING A DANGER

Even psychiatrist  Dr. Charles Sophy who came on the set to discuss the aftermath of Gary’s behavioral tirade, said that it was frightening and he could have been dangerous right before he walked off the set.

Gary did admit on camera  that he had bipolar disorder. The worst thing for someone with Bipolar disorder is stress as it brings out the worst behavior in a person with that condition.  No doubt that Gary was completely stressed out when he was being interviewed and being on the hot seat . Talking about the arrest, his marriage, his intimacy, and feeling as though he was put into a corner. It obviously  brought out the worst in him.

GARY KNEW AHEAD OF TIME WHAT HE SIGNED UP TO DO

While Lisa is great and a wonderful legal analyst and prosecutor, in retrospect,  think that after Gary reveled he was bipolar, perhaps she could have not been so aggressive with him in terms of her tone and the finger  pointing behavior. It was the finger pointing  in my view that casued Gary to back u and become very hostile towards her.

While the confrontation made great TV, it certainly was jarring to Gary for him to react as he did.

On the other hand, Gary knew that this would be the focus of the show and that he would be on the hot seat and would be  grilled. He is a seasoned professional and  knew what he signed up for and he did not have to be there. No one forced him to do the show.  In fact at the beginning of the show he said that he was  there for the money.

WALKING OFF A SET IS PROFESSIONAL SUICIDE

Gary being the professional he is and literally growing up on television and film sets, knows that you NEVER walk of any set. You handle yourself and deal with what has to be dealt with while the cameras are rolling, no matter what. You NEVER walk off any set! That is the professional suicide. But obviously the stress was so intense he had to break it, by leaving the set.

At one point during his interview he also tries to break the stress level my changing the subject and telling Chris he looks like Matt Lauer which was a complement. But then he takes that compliment back by telling Chris he doesn;t want hin to get a swelled head. It was said as a tension releaser.

GARY’S PARTING SHOT

His parting shot was to obscenely  put up his finger and shout an obscenity into the camera as he got inside the awaiting limousine, which ironically happened to be Lisa Bloom’s limousine.

GARY;S AFTERMATH

In the wake of Gary’s tirade, he left a lot of frightened and upset people. Many of the cast and crew were frightened by his behavior, especially towards the end. There is no doubt that seeing this scenario unfold on camera is jarring to Gary’s many fans who grew up watching and loving him.

It is clear from his anger filled behavior  that Gary needs to get himself sorted out before he makes any additional public appearances. He needs to put himself in situations where he doesn’t get that stressed, especially of he isn’t taking medication to help control his Bipolar disorder.

PRAYERS FOR GARY

I pray for Gary that he does not self- destruct. He needs to take a more positive approach to life and count his blessings. There are people who really love him out there, like one of his fans who bailed him out of jail, whom he has yet to thank.

Gary has been through a lot of hell with his health issues that he has discussed publicly. He has been through a lot with his TOXIC parents literally ripping him off financially and leaving him destitute. He has had to endure a lot of public ridicule throughout the years.

He reportedly  felt the public humiliation at having to work as a mall security guard to earn a living after being at the top of a show business career.  He felt humiliated by the play Avenue Q where he was parodied  and felt helpless because he didn’t have the money to sue.   He has had many runs ins with so may people  that landed him in the headlines in a negative way.

My heart goes out to Gary  because there is no doubt that life has been difficult for him . But life has also been great for him and he needs to look at all of those great things in his life and count his blessings.

Maybe that will help him eliminate some of the internal stress and hostility  he harbors  and give him a happier more productive  life. There is no doubt that Gary needs professional help. Even if he doesn’t take medication,in my opinion  he needs to have someone on hand whom he can speak with on a regular basis to help him cope with his issues.

You can see my body language analysis of Gary Coleman on the Insider tonight on CBS   at 7:30 PM www.drlillianglass.com

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