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Does Kate Gosselin’sBody Language Reveal She’s Happy About Cancelled Show Becuase She’ll Have Her Own Show

drlillianglass — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 06:29:17 +0000

Months ago I shared I believed Kate Plus 8 would be cancelled because there would be very few eyeballs watching the show. People are not interested in seeing grown children and tweens , who are not talented on TV. People also do not want to see train wreck children in the making. Paul Peterson , President of A Minor Consideration and former child actor made us all aware of what can happen to children performers when they grow up. Oftentimes isn’t pleasant and can end in drugs and death.

Jon Gosselin was not being petty or playing “tit for tat” during and after his divorce from Kate on this issue. Instead he was being a very responsible father by loudly vocalizing that he did not think it was good for the kid’s emotional and physical well being to be on TV at this point.

But as we know Kate saw it differently. She even had the audacity to say publicly that the show was good for them emotionally. She insisted the kids were fine and lied on national TV interviews that the kids had any emotional problems. She was adamant that Colin and Alexis were not having any problems when in fact they showed violence at school. So now that the show has been cancelled……to read more click here

Kate Gosselin’s body language is way too happy looking. There are those who have called her a narcissist. Others have called her self centered and craving the limelight. So if Kate did not have another gig lined up, she would no doubt be leaving the show kicking and screaming. As we have discovered over these past years, Kate seems to care about Kate above all else.

TLC cares about Kate above all else as well as long as she brings in cash and eyeballs. Eyeballs didn’t want to see kids innocent from yet another broken home. The beauty of the original show was that the kids had a very hands on father who doled out lots of affection. Viewers loved to see the cohesive family unit until Kate started abusing everyone from Jon to the kids.

She was so unlikeable on the show and even more unlikeable during interviews and hosting gigs. She was whiny and petty and even though she had a very good makeover on the outside she was ugly as sin on the inside in my view with her lying and self absorption. In fact during one of her latest interviews she still mananged to get a dig in and trash Jon.

She was given a lot of golden opportunities and a chance to reviving her vile image from co hosting the View to appearing on Dancing with the Stars. She blew it big time. Her abusiveness to teacher Tony Dovalini did not endear her to anyone. Neither did all her fake tears.

But even though she was hated by so many, it crought in eyeballs for DWTS . People who loved her watched her because they were fans and those who hated her watched her because they hated her and wanted to see her fail and watch what obnoxious thing she would do next.

DWTS is and ABC show as is the View. TLC has an affiliation with ABC, hence Kate’s constant appearance on the network. The suits worked too hard to getting Kate’s physial image right and invested a lot of money in her brand . So they are not going to throw her away just yet. They will try every which way to re-brand her so she is more likeable . But it don;t work.

The real Kate will always emerge and it is not pretty to watch. What is inside your heart comes out in your voice, behavior, speech content, and face. Just look at the above photo.Put your hand over Kate’s nose and mouth in the photo and then look at her eyes. You will see that they eyes are not smiling. That means the smile is fake, forced,and phony.

Personally I think Kate’s 15 minutes of fame are over even though the suits will try their best to push her down our throats in a repackaged way. We got who Kate is and no matter how she is dressed or re-rapped we see a vapid, self centered, mean spirited, whiny, abusive, petty talentless and”itless “woman with nothing to offer. She knocked out six kids with the help of fertility drugs and that is about it, She can’t sing or dance. She is not particularly bright nor does she offer any unique speciality to the world. And please don’t tell me that she is an expert on parenting. An expert on parenting has gone to school to study not just how their children operate but all different types of children. They do original research and learn the research of others in the field.

And please Kate fans do not waste my time and say that I am a Kate hater . I am a Kate reality checker who doesn’t get involved in the spin or drink the kook aid or play”the emperor has new clothes” when in fact they are naked. And if you are so in love with Kate you need to ask yourself who you would love such an abusive woman. Does she remind you of an abuser in your family who may have treated you like she treated Jon and the kids. Do you speak as sarcastically to your own kids? Do you slap your spouse like Kate did?

Anyway, Kate is still here to stay and to make herself relevant so that somehow the network will see the ratings they one say with Jon and Kate Plus 8. But in my view those days are long gone. They are obviously giving happy Kate one more try. If she fails, she is history in tv land. www.drlillianglass,com

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Kate Gosselin’s Anger, Pettiness, and Signals of Deception on the Today Show As She Discusses Kids Expulsion from School And Blames “The Divorce”

drlillianglass — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 23:57:45 +0000

KATE FILLED WITH ANGER WHICH KIDS MIRROR

After watching Kate Gosselin’s latest interview with Meredith Vierra on the Today Show I saw an angry, bitter, and petty woman who just can’t let go of her hatred towards Jon.

She is in such denial that she does’nt have any clue that her inner hatred and anger is being mirrored by those kids and literally destroying them. As she took her anger out on Jon and continues to be filled with hatred, her kids are taking their anger and hatred out on the other kids. at school

They have anger issues because she has anger issues. It’s not because of the divorce. It is because she is so angry about the divorce and that anger carries over to them. Lots of kids are products of divorce and they don[t go around beating on and cursing at other kids.

THE LEG KICK

Kate began the interview kicking her legs. When someone kicks their legs when they are about to be interviewed it means they are very uncomfortable and are not looking forward to the interview because they probably will not be forthright with you.

THE HEAD COCK

Then in a monotone she says ” We are doing great” as she opens her eyes wide. This eye widening is often a signal of deception. Then she says We are very happy and adds the word “actually, ”When you have to add the word actually” it most likely means that things are not actually that great.

When Kate was asked about whether the two of the kids were expelled from school she cocks her head to the side. This is often a signal of deception. She then speaks in a staccato hyper articulated speech pattern saying ” That is false.” When one does that, it is usually signals deception. Also there was a lot of fidgeting with her hands. This is another sign of deception.

Now we hear her convoluted attempts filled with ums. It does not make sense as it is disjointed. She is searching for words as she knows what she is saying is complete spin and nonsense.”

We have a situation where we my kids um are in an academic situation where academics um are pushed and I fully support it. Combined with kids who were having to just go through with a divorce. Their parents suffering some of those normal feelings

When someone speaks in fragments like you see above they are lying, When they speak in tangents they are lying.

The telling thing here is her words ” their parents suffering.” It shows just how narcissistic she is. She doesn’t say the children are suffering but instead brings it back to herself, saying that she is suffering.

‘Then she says and the two collided and they were not doing well with the combination. What about a simple YES THEY WERE EXPELLED BECAUSE THEY ARE TROUBLED EMOTIONALLY!!

Body language wise look at Kate’s upturned palm. What this means is she is begging for Meredith and the audience to to believe her roundabout circumvented deceptive answer.

Look at Meredith’s facial expression. It says that she isn;t buying Kate’s nonsense. either.

KATE’S SELF ABSORPTION AND BRINGING THE TOPIC BACK TO HER DIVORCE

Kate says I felt so alone, I talked to other moms who had gone through the divorces. This is is NOT about Kate and her divorce. It is about the kids but she is obviously too self absorbed to see that.

Then she protests so much as she shakes her head NO, knowing full well what she is saying is complete BS as she says ’Its NORMAL Stuff as she shakes her head no.

Then she suddenly looks down. This is a huge indicator of deception as she says I did what I could do we mutually agreed. I brought them home with a private tutor

Then she says …um um (she smiles as though she remembered to say something she left out as part of her spin) She says and Early education teacher…

Kate is speaking in fragments which means she is most likely reciting some rhetoric she was no doubt told to say . She obviously messed up her lines.’’

Then she shows just how in denial she is as she recites : It is dealing with the very normal results of a divorce.”

WHAt???????? Most kids have parents who get divorced and d they don’t beat one another and curse them like her kids allegedly did. How about admitting that their anger is the result of a hostile hateful and angry mother whom they no doubt mirrored. They saw her anger and abuse towards their father almost every day of their young lives.’

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Kate obviously knows what she is saying is complete BS. That is why she purses her lips in an attempt to hold back all the BS.

STILL BITCHING ABOUT JON

Then Kate Gets bitchy as she has to say how Good she is and how BAD Jon is. She just has to tell one just how she reached out to him first, and how it depend on the day and the hour , thus giving him yet another zing . This is a man she not only emotionally destroyed and emasculated throughout her marriage by hitting him and belittling him, but now she has removed his voice

The man isn’t even allowed to go on the airwaves to defend himself or he will get fined and lose what little he does have.

LEAVE JON ALONE!!!!!!!!

Why does she have to go there? Why can’t she leave him be? If he is the father of her kids and always will be as she made sure to say on the show, then she needs to leave him alone and stop trashing him.

He loves his kids and is the reason they will probably have a chance at life. He has only given them love nd affection.

Now that he has a beautiful lovely and beautiful woman in his life – Ellen Ross, those kids will finally know about a healthy male female relationship. They will see a man and a woman who respect one another not a man and a woman who constantly bicker like they saw with Jon and Kate .

Then she says And Honestly when I think of the old days I try to email him and write him and give him a call. When someone starts a sentence with Honestly chances are they are not being honest,

Then Meredith relayed to Kate how Jon apologized on his twitter account publicly for what he did to Kate. Instead of acting like a mature adult and saying I appreciate it or petty Kate says she doesn’t consider interviews and twitters an apology and that she never got a an apology yet.”

HOW PETTY!!!!!!!!!

Kate, get over it! Talking like that is what will ruin your kids forever. Your pettiness will transfer over to them.

Then she disgustingly says ” Strangely and ironically I have forgiven him..’’

If you have really forgiven him then why the shoulder shrugs which indicate deception. Why all the high drama? In my view Jon is the one who needs to forgive you for abusing and emotionally torturing him until he went over the edge.

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KATE LEAKS OUT ANGER, AND MORE ANGER !!!!!!!

Then she leaks out ” people who are close to me are upset that I don’t get that angry. And who are those people, Steve Neild the bodyguard?

Then on the next breath she leaks out “I am angry,” Then she changes her mind and says What good does it does it do I don’t have time to waste”

But her expression and vocal inflection say it all. She scrunched up her face and goes up at the end of the statement as though she is asking a question. She clearly knows she does not believe what she is saying.

Kate, here is a very valuable message to you. Since the therapist is allegedly already in the house to take care of the two angry home schooled kids, why not have a session with the therapist as well? The therapist can help you get over your anger towards Jon.’

Your anger is making the kids angry which is destroying their little lives. Your anger is being mirrored by them in school. You talk about sending them back to school . Well here is a secret. They will never make it back and succeed there unless you get to the root of the problem-your deep rooted anger.

ADDITIONAL PETTINESS FROM KATE

Kate haven’t you done enough to punish and destroy Jon? You have silenced the man so he cannot speak up or speak back. You have taken away opportunities for him to make big money on the media and now you are suing him for 125K for child support.

Please tell us how this man is supposed to earn a living when you have destroyed his opportunities. Tell us how he is supposed to have a full time job and have no money for nannies and maids and still take care of the kids when you are out and about?

JON IS RIGHT!!!! GET THE KIDS OFF THE AIR

Jon was apparently livid when Kate left their kids with a teenage babysitter whom he did not know and the sitter was instructed by Kate not to talk with Jon.

Kate just dismissed these concerns. The fact that two of the children showed behavioral problems would be a red enough flag for any parent to take their kids off the air. Jon has tried.let’s hope that he succeeds before it is too late.Let’s hope that a disaster can be avoided. . www.drlillianglass.com

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Lethal Combination- Toxic Abuser Racist Mel Gibson And Oksana’s Body Language Showing Signals of Deception and Manipulation During Larry King Interview

drlillianglass — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 14:56:01 +0000

LETHAL COMBINATIONS

In my new book Toxic Men- 10 Ways to Identify, Deal With and Heal from Men Who Make Your Life Miserable, I speak of Lethal Combinations. This is when a certain type of Toxic Man and a Toxic type of Woman get together to cause a Lethal explosion. We are clearly seeing that explosion in the case of Mel Gibson’s and Oksana Gregorieva’s coupling. The old expression, one man’s trash is another man’s treasure applies here. What is toxic and unbearable to one person may not be toxic to the next.

From what we have seen no matter how you look at it, Mel Gibson, stands alone as one of the most Toxic men out there. He is no one’s treasure as far as mostof us are concerned. Based on what we now know about him, the only thing that someone could treasure about him may be the fact that he has a lot of money, a lot of nice material goods, and a lot of connections that he has because he can afford to pay big bucks. This includes his high profile attorneys and pr agents who are defending him and spinning for him.

But in the final analysis no one can spin him. His Control Freak Bullying ways, his sexism (calling a female police officer Sugar Tits and just wanting a woman only for the purpose of engaging in oral sex with him as we all heard on the infamous tape ) his anti- Semitism and rant against Jews, Blacks ( comparing them to animals in a pack and using the egregious N word) and rant against Hispanics, stinginess(not wanting to pay the nanny) selfishness, vulgar and disrespectful speech, complete with name calling and using every expletive to call the mother of his child, makes him the number one example of a Toxic Man.

SLAPPING IS THE SAME AS A HITTING – IT IS PHYSICAL ABUSE

His recent self admission that he didn’t beat or hit Oksana, but instead merely” slapped” her, says it all. He just put his final nail in his coffin in the court of public opinion.

When a man resorts to hitting a woman, you can’t say anything else other than he is a Toxic abuser. Since Mel admitted that she slapped a woman Mel Gibson is a Toxic Abuser !

When we listen to the tape of his wild out of control rant towards Oksana there is nothing more Mel can ever do or say. The die is cast for him as a physical abuser forever and ever.

DID MEL ABUSE FIRST WIFE ROBIN AND WHAT WAS THEIR RELATIONSHIP LIKE?

Maybe he was Toxic to his wife Robyn. Maybe he wasn’t. Only they know for sure.

We do know that he had a drinking problem when he was married to Robynm whom he married when she was young. We do know that he also had a cheating problem when he was married to Robyn.

We don’t know if he yelled at Robyn cursed her, hit her, humiliated her, or caused her to live in fear.

Maybe she did not bring out the worst Toxic traits in him. Maybe she brought out the best in him. Maybe she learned early on in their marriage to turn a blind eye because of a number of reasons.

Maybe she wanted to keep the family together with all the children she had with Mel. Maybe Mel saw her in a different light because she did not seek the limelight but rather sought only to be a mother and to be a caretaker for her children and her husband.

Maybe she never questioned him or demanded anything from him. SHe cerianly did’t insist that he put up the money for her singing career like Oksana did . Maybe she did everything he said. Maybe she was so compliant that he has no reason to get upset with her or yell at her or hit her.

Since their marriage lasted for three decades, there is no doubt that something worked in their dynamic. If his toxic traits emerged around him, she no doubt learned to stuff her feelings or deal with the repercussions, in exchange for maintaining her lifestyle and the cohesiveness of the family unit she had with him.

Maybe without even realizing it, she used some of the techniques I describe in my book for those who choose to stay in a toxic relationship and deal with it.

Maybe she breathed him out of her system every time he acted toxic. Maybe she gave him more love and kindness or calmly confronted him or secretly fantasized about pushing him into oncoming traffic on Pacific Coast Highway in Malibu. Whatever she did to cope with his Toxicity evidently worked for her.

Since I have never met Robyn nor have I ever seen her and Me together, I can only speculate. But I am certain that her personality makeup was not Toxic to Mel. This is clearly the opposite of Oksana’s personality makeup.She was defiantly Toxic to Mel.

OKSANA IS EQUALLY AS TOXIC TO MEL AND MAKE A LETHAL COUPLE

From what we have seen thus far from Oksana via her verbal and non verbal communicaiton , we see that Mel’s assessment of her may be correct. She does appear to be user and a classic manipulator. She loved the limelight as you can see in the photo above , In fact, she may have loved Mel’s money even more and his connections even more than his money, which could propel her mediocre singing talents in my view.

She apparently knew exactly how to push his buttons with her low, emotionless, hypnotic monotones. It is easy to see how frustrated Mel became around her. When he was clearly upset and she calmly and unemotionally said he is mentally disturbed and needs help, it is easy to see why she brought out the worst in Mel.

ALL 39 OF OKSAN’S LAWYERS CANT ALL BE WRONG!

When someone goes through a few attorneys it is understandable. One needs to find one to match one’s needs and personality.

You may even need different attorneys to do different things for you. But when attorney after attorney leave you because you are so difficult and won’t listen to them , then it is you who is Toxic.

When your attorney tells you not to sing on Oprah and you don’t listen there is something wrong. When your attorney says no more press and you don’t listen something is very wrong.

At one time Oksana had the best attorneys in Los Angeles try to help her , One by one they left her camp. They evidently saw right through her and her toxicity. She had Sorrell Trope- the most respected attorney in the city to help her. He was obviously so fed up with her that he quit.

She had the former felony prosecutor Robin Saks trying to help her. I know Robin very well as she is my partner in our new business venture “Courtroom Consultants” where we use our expertise to not only provide jury consulting but media consulting for high profile cases. If she washed her hands of Oksana along with countless other high profile attorneys, something is very wrong Oksana in my view.

Now Okana is delegated to attorney Martin Garbus who appeared on Larry King with her as he tried to spin her BS. I have to say is that no matter how long Mr. Garbus has been doing his job or how much he has spoken publicly on behalf of his clients, he needs to hire Robin Sax and myself and our Courtroom Consultants firm in order to immediately to help him with his on camera presence.

He made Oksana look worse than she already looked. He was clearly spinning and spinning! There were so many signals of deception on his part in my view from his shoulder shrugs and his constantly looking down when he spoke. He did not appear likeable to me and that says a lot to a jury. And adding insult to injury in my opinion, was his lack of on camera manners sucking a mint on TV during the interview. It appeared rude and obnoxious and highly unprofessional.

While it is bad enough to see a client chew gum or suck mints in and out of the courtroom, when a lawyer does it, the message it gives is disrespect.

Not only does her legal mouthpiece show disrespect, Oksana too, shows much disrespect by defying a judges orders. I know many judges and I can assure you that it is not a wise decision to defy their orders. The consequences are too great. But Oksana cannot help herself. She is willing to disrespect the court in order to feed her narcissistic need for publicity by appearing on Larry King Live.

WOMEN’S ABUSE FOUNDATION IS SECONDARY TO OKSANA’S MESSAGE AND PURPOSE

There was no way in my view that Oksana was on the show to represent and promote the women’s abuse foundation. I know this because she spoke about them in the third person. She was detached, She did not speak like a spokesperson. Instead she spoke about herself and she clealry had her own agenda.

WAS OKSANA MANIPULATING HER INJURIES?

I have no doubt that Mel slapped her. Ater all, he admitted it. But did he slap her with the baby in her arms? I wonder.

What makes me wonder is Mel’s response on the audio tape when she accuses him of doing so. He just mocks her and says boohoo hoo. I wonder of she spliced that together. While Mel hates Oksana he clearly does not hate the baby and would not hit the baby in my view.

He would have answered differently like Are you crazy oe how dare you say I hit the baby! Instead, there is no responsem just a mocking of Oksana. Did she splice the tape up to suit her needs?

Now we see that the baby’s injuries may have allegedly been doctored as TMZ showed these two photos of Baby Lucia.

The photo below shows a pimple like mark on Lucia’s chin. If Mel’s slap continued on and hit Lucia one would not see a localized pimple like spot. Instae done would see a swelling and brusing.

WHY IS OKSANA SMILING IN HER DENTAL PHOTO MINUS VENEERS?

In addition we see Oksana smiling as her veneers were allegedly knocked off by Mel. You see a genuine smile in the photo as her eyes as well,as her lips show that she is happy.

Is she happy and smiling because she thinks that this is the money shot which will do Mel in and allow her to collect big bucks? Was Mel wearing a ring when he allegedly slapped her in the mouth? Is that what broke her tooth or did she bite on something hard in a deliberate attempt to crack and chip the veneer?

Did she already have a loose veneer that had nothing to do with Mel’s slap and and then proceed to peel it off off by herself ? Anything is possible!

The dentist appears to be a reluctant witness and even said he didnt;t see signs of abuse. He backtraacked initially. If someone hit you hard enough to cause your veneeer to pop off wouldn’t it seem logical that you would also see some soft tissue damage around the lips?

The fact that she is smiling is disturbing. Even if the dentist said to smile for the camera to show the alleged damage, her eyes would not be crinking with a smile unless she was happy. Who would be happy if someone knocked off their veneers unless they knew there was some big financial compensation coming up?

WAS OKSANA’S FACIAL BRUISING THE RESULT OF RESTALYNE OR BOTOX SHOTS ?

When I saw the small bruise on the side of Oksana’s eye to me it looked like a small bruise one would get after having a Restylyne filler or Botox shot in the area. There are also a cluster of little brown spots located underneath the eye which also look like they may be filler shots. They do not look like an injury from a battery to me. They would be a lot more severe and not at localized ?

There would also be alotmore swelling and distorion. The factthat the bruse was still black and blue and purple indicates that it is fresh. so with a frsh bruise you would see more swellingand distortion in my view.

OKASNA ON LARRY KING LIVE

Personally I found the whole Larry King interview to be very manipulative and disturbing . When someone does not look at the host initially and when they constantly look down, chances are they are not telling the truth about something.

This was the case with Oksana. She did not look at Larry and instead she consistetly looked down as she spoke. If someone has nothing to hide they look right at you.

She continued to look down as she said that Mel continued to hit and choke her in front of her son. Personally I seriously dount that happened. He may have very well choked her and hot her but based on her body language I doubt that he di dit in front of her son. P erhaps Oksana coached her son to say this happened when it may not have happened.

Still looking down which is another signal of deception Oksana says that Mel brandished a gun! Who uses the word branished? To me. his sounds like a term that she rehearsed with her attorney or she heard her attorney say in his argument. If one was being forthright and sincere and truthful they usually would not use big words or words that you need a dictionary to figure out. Instead, they would say he pointed a gun at me.

Personally, I have a hard time thinking Mel would point a gun at her without pulling the trigger. He may have been furious, but he is not insane.

He loves children or he would not have had so many of them. I am sure he loves that baby and I doubt that he would pull a gun on her while she had the baby in her arms. It just doesn’t make sense. It seems she is throwing all the accusations up against the wall, no matter how absurd they are in order to see what sticks.

OKSANA IS BUSTED BY LARRY’S QUESTION ” WHY DIDNT YOU JUST HANG UP?”

Here is where we really see some signals of deception and some spinning on the part of Oksana’s attorney Garbus. Larry asks her why she just didnt hang up on Mel. That is a great question!

Why didnt she just not take his calls. She obviously look his calls because she was recording them. Look at her hands and her facial expression, She is shocked that Larry asked her this.

One hand is cupped and her f ingers are pinched together, This indicates anger. The other hand is open and outstretched m a pleading like motion. What she is doing here in making this gesture is pleading with Larry to be believed. She is angry that he brought this up and pleads that he believe her.

We see her head cocked to the side and her eyes opened wide and an expression of righteous indignation.

When you see something like this it indicates that she was in essence busted . She was embarrassed that she was caught as you see her deer in the headlights wide eyed expression.

If someone was harassing you over the phone you would hang up n them and not continue to converse with them or engage them unless you planned to tape them, perhaps doctor the tapes. and release them publicly.

She says she recorded him because she was afraid for her life. If that was the case she needed to hang up and leave his mansion where she was staying rent free and go to a friends home or to a woman’s shelter.

As Oksana looks on in shock at having no truthful answer , the question that revealed it was why didnt you just hang up on him ? Her attorney immediately steps in a begins his ridiculous spin with mint sloshing in his mouth from side to side. He bothlooks and sounds ridiculous. He is clearly showing signals of deception as well in my view.

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The lawyers umhs and uhs and shoulder shrugs, and lack of eye contact with the host, his leaning his head away are all signals of spin as well as deception.

These are just a few examples of deception but there were so many other signals I observed with regard to Oksana during her interview with Larry King. Her pleading with Larry to help her screamed of manipulation.

It was like she was pretending to be the poor helpless victim from a far away land who needed someone to save her.

After defying the judges orders I believe that there is little if anything that can save Oksana or Mel for that matter. He did by his own admission hit a woman and that is a felony offense. She may very well have extorted him as he has accused.

If they are both found guilty they may both suffer the consequences which may include time behind bars on both of their parts.

And who is the one who will really suffer in the end? Little Lucia! It is so sad for her. She didn’t ask to be born into this mess and hatefest. Now this is a part of her legacy. Unfortunately she has to grow up with the knowledge that her parents essentially used her as a pawn when she was an innocent baby. www.drlillianglass.com

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Dr.Lillian Glass on Joy Behar Show Discusses Expelled Gosselin Kids And How They Need Help

November 18, 2010 – 12 Responses

Click below to see Dr. Glass speaking about the Gosselin children on the Joy Behar Show on HLN

http://cnn.com/video/?/video/showbiz/2010/11/15/behar.gosselin.kids.panel.hln

A while back I wrote a blog where I described the behaviors and the body language of some of the Gosselin children. I observed them on the Jon and Kate Plus 8 television show. In particular, I found the behavior of little Colin Gosselin disturbing as he appeared to be the one who consistently bullied the other children. He was often involved in some type of interaction which resulted one of the other children ending up in tears. He often seemed to be 0ff of his own and appeared to be disconnected from the others, in my view.Also, he rarely smiled. He also seemed to be rewarded for his bad behavior by Kate .

Alexis was described by Kate as being The Wild Child. ” Kate once said on the show that of all the kids, Alexis and Colin did not get along at all. This alligator and reptile loving girl seemed to be loud and out of control throughout the show.

So it did not surprise me at all when I heard that both Colin and Alexis were in trouble in school. But what did surprise me was that they were expelled. They were not suspended. Instead, they were kicked out and asked never to return. It is a huge deal for a 6 year old to get expelled from school. They must have been so out of control and so difficult to handle that the school administration had no other choice. They must have been so disrupting and upsetting to the other children that the only solution was to get rid of them.

Allegedly they cursed up a storm and said words that children of that age should not even know, let alone say. They also allegedly bullied and taunted other children. In essence, because they were not given boundaries in the home, they acted the same way at school.

There is no doubt that they emulated Kate’s ugly behavior to Jon. They grew up learning disrespect from their mother and they in turn followed suit and disrespected others. They constantly saw their father being abused and belittled by their mother, that they now allegedly abused and belittled others.

Instead of getting these children psychological help they apparently need, Kate decided to home school them.

In essence she is home schooling two children who do not get along with one another. This is a recipe for emotional disaster. These children need to be forced to socialize with others who are not their brothers and sisters. They need to be in a school in order learn how to get along with others.

Home schooling is a bad idea for them for other reasons as well. It can cause problems with them and their other brothers and sisters. They might be seen as “bad” or as outcasts who are being punished. This could affect their subsequent relationships with one another. They might be viewed as lesser than by their fellow siblings.

NO TO HOME SCHOOLING IN THE CASE OF ALEXIS AND COLIN !

Also who is going to home school them? Who is going to be the hands on teacher? Will it be Kate who is never there? Will it be Steve her “bodyguard”? Will it be a private teacher who will be fired at Kate;s whim if the teacher doesn’t do what Kate wants? Kate has had a history of going through countless house cleaners and nannies. So what is to say that she won’t go through countless teachers? This could be devastating for the kids.

I think Alexis and Colin need to be put int another school right away so they will be forced to deal with and get along with other children . I also hope that all the other kids are in different classes with different teachers so that they can have a sense of being an individual and not a part of a group of brothers and sisters.

Nothing good is going to come out of this situation unless Kate gets out of her denial and gets them proper help from proper people which definitely include mental health professionals in my view. Otherwise, things will get worse and worse. If they are this out of control as children one can only imagine what will they be like when they are teenagers and completely unmanageable.

PULL THE PLUG ON THE TV

All of these children need to off TV in my view. They have enough money. They have a trust fund for their higher education. They need to focus on being kids and the getting the emotional help they need that just comes from being sextuplets. They need to learn how to adjust to life as individuals.TV is clearly not working for them at this point in their lives. Someone needs to be responsible and step up to the plate and pull the TV plug on these kid.

FATHER DOES KNOW BEST

Joy Behar made a joke on the show that Jon was now becoming ” Father Knows Best” . What she was saying was that he seemed to be the only steadying factor for these children. He is the loving and the nurturing of the two parents. He is why I feel there is hope for these kids. Jon now has a lovely woman who is a steady force in his life and in the kid’s lives- Ellen Ross . Now the kids will have more positive role model. They will be able to see love and kindness from a man and a woman (Jon and Ellen) instead of hatred and bickering (Jon and Kate) .

I don’t know what Jon and Kate’s agreement is concerning he children’s educational and medical needs. I don’t know if Kate has all the power to make decisions or they both have equal decision making rights. If he has any say in this he needs to get ALL of them into therapy asap and he needs to find a different school for Colin and Alexis where they can have a second chance and learn from their actions. www.drlillianglass.com

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Ocotomom Nadya Suleman’s Body Language Shows Double Message and Manipulation

drlillianglass — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 05:51:51 +0000

If you showed the above photo to 100 people and asked “Does the person in this photo look like a porn star, a large percent may very well answer “yes. ” They would answer ” yes” because physically the person in this photo above fits the profile of ladies who may be porn stars attractive, toned figure, large breasts, good makeup, long lashes, and wear a lot of low cleavage showing outfits.

But the photo is not the photo of a porn star(yet). It is Nadya Suleman known as who practically beard her breasts for all to see with her very low cut cleavage enhancing top as she speaks to TMZ about how she will be kicked out of her home.

In the above photo we see Nadya in an interview with RadarOnline where she flaunts her cleavage and sticks out her chest for all to see in a provocative pose. She says she worries 24 hours a day that she can’ t pay her mortgage and that she is destitute. Yet her facial expression doesn’t show a person who is too worried about her future as to whether or not she can pay her bills.

Then Nadya is asked how long will she be able to last financially. She gives a sly smile and looks down. To me that is a clear signal of deception. Nadya knows exactly what she is doing . She is trying to get everyone to feel pity for her so someone will step up to the plate and help her out. The photo leaks out what she is really trying to do in these sudden interviews.

She flips her hair which is a huge signal of deception. She clearly knows her intentions in doing these interviews with the popular TMZ and RadarOnline. It is to get people to rally for her and step up to the plate to make a donation so she won’t be homeless.

Then Nadya gets a case of the itchy scratchies. When people suddenly scratch after they said something like they are destitute when in fact they are really not destitute , their autonomic nervous system will get their blood vessels to expand. This in turn creates an itching sensation. Nadya also cocks her head to the side which is a signal of being coy and also a signal of deception.

Then Nadya is asked about the 500,000 dollar offer from Vivid to make a porn film for an hour of her time. She makes a face as though she was going to throw up. Now here is a person who has no qualms about practically bearing her entire breasts publicly, yet she wants to give the impression that she is so offended by this offer.

But why would she act so offended? After all, the people at Vivid are the people who have stepped up to the plate to save the day so her children wont be homeless or live under a bridge as she says.

Finally the truth comes out! There is righteous indignation which is often a signal of deception as she leans forward and leaks out a smile. She says that she finds it ironic that a PORN company film her would want to film her naked showing her naked breasts and privates having sex on camera for an hour when she has been celibate for 11 years.

Personally I think she is more upset that she has not been in a relationship with anyone for all of those years and that she has not had sex in close to a decade. Perhaps doing this porn film might kill three birds with one stone.

1) It will finally give her the opportunity to have the sex she misses and caves after being celibate for all those years .

2) It will allow her to pay her bills so her kids be homeless .

3) And finally it will give her the attention she craves in showing off her body.

No one dresses with such low cleavage and in such tight-fitting tops, short skirts, and form-fitting pants, unless they want to show off their body. So by doing the film Nadya can carry out all three of her basic needs.

In this photo we see a wide eyed Nadya with a manipulative Cheshire cat grin as she tells that she still has some money for a little while because she borrowed some. She says that it will last her a month. She then tells how long it will take for the foreclosure to go into effect which is several months n by that tine she will hope to have money to pay her mortgage.

In essence she she is trolling for a handout from a public savior as she attempts to garner public sympathy. She says how she never wants to go on welfare and will only do so if she has to live under a bridge with her kids. These words are the words to conger up an image of a poor helpless creäture with 14 kids braving the elements without a home. She is expecting someone to save her from the potential of her living under a brige with her kids , so she doesn’t have to go on welfare or do porn.

With her head bowed and eyebrows raised Nadya knows exactly what she is doing. She is playing cat and mouse and toying with the public’s sympathy.

Nadya has done nothing more than try to manipulate public sympathy as she even dragged one of the babies into the fray by holding the poor child, who may one day be living under a bridge with her.

Now we see her signal of deception as she licks her lips and ends up giving her raucous nervous laugh when she is asked about her book which she is writing. She tries to show what a dedicated mother she is and how she writes the book only when the kids are napping or asleep for the night. If she is writing a book she must have received an advance for th book. Where is that money? Why doesn’t she use it to pay her mortgage? If she doesn;t have a book deaal, why doesn’t her attorney get her a deal?

From th length of her eye lashes, she has obviously spent some of the borrowed money she has spoken about on a product to increase lash growth or used the money to purchase a pair of false lashes. She has spent that money on manicures and makeup. So now she is indirectly asking everyone for a handout. asking them to pitch .She is subtley asking them to pitch in to help the kids.

I find this disgusting. Instead of begging the public, she needs to be begging a production company to film her kids. She needs to get a company like TLC behind her.

She once said publicly that she wouldn’t put her kids on TV because she believe that was abuse. Well I think it is abuse to have your kids living under a bridge. She made this comment to both TMZ and Radaronline. She needs to get her attorney to speak to every single TV venue and beg them to put her on the air like they did with Kate Gosselin.

Kate will never be living under a bridge. In fact because of TLC she is probably able to buy the bridge. Nadya needs to follow suit and take Kate’s example. At least Nadya wouldnt be abusing a husband if she had a show like Kate did.

If people are already watching one emotional self absorbed mess- Kate Gosselin, why not watch another self absorbed emotional mess-Nayda the Octomom. Her kids are still young and ther eis an audience for people who like watching the babies grow like they watched the Gosselin babies grow.

And if Nadya is so adamant about not putting her children on camera then she needs to buck up and put her naked body on camera where she can make the 500, ooo dollars so the the kids can have a home. There is nothing shameful about that in light of her predicament. What is more shameful than doing porn is sounding like a poor me victim and trying to manipulate the public for money. By finally getting naked and doing the porn film, Nadya can satisfy her need for exhibitionism as well as her need for sex, once and for all. www.drlillianglass.com

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Kate Gosselin’s Body Language Is In Step With Bodyguard Steve Neild in Mexico As They Wear Their Matching Colored Tops

drlillianglass — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 05:52:45 +0000

When two people are in step and their feet are in synchrony chances are they are often a couple.

When they share similar facial expressions, it usually m eans that they are like-minded.

When they are seen wearing the same colored top it also usually means they are like-minded.

When they walk in step ,have similar facial expressions, and wear the same colors, chances are even higher high that they are a couple.

When someone looks adoringly at the other party and smiles a genuine smile as you see Kate smiling towards her bodyguard, it indicates that there is often emotional closeness and a lot. Kate of affection. Kate”s smile is one of the most genuine smiles we have ever seen her smiling. I don’t recall seeing such a smile when she is around her kids. We definitely never saw her smiling like this around Jon. Could Kate be in love with her bodyguard? Could Steve be the hot romance of her life?

There has been talk in the past that when these two travel there are adjoining rooms. Were they in adjoining rooms on this trip to Mexico as well? Were they on the same room? Is Steve still married? If he is still married, does he have an open marriage?

It was also reported that an eyewitness saw the the two of them getting very cozy with legs touching legs this summer when they were away together. Were the two just as cozy in Mexico? Were there eyewitnesses this time or were they more careful to take their coziness behind closed doors if they happened to be cozy? These are just questions which come to mind when you see people together so often.

Now before Kate lovers get their panties in a bunch and accuse me of telling lies, I say to them , first of all. I don’t lie. And most import of all, the body doesn’t lie and neither do these photos . Steve Neild the bodyguard and Kate look like they are are very close to one another, even though Steve tries to look professional with an often non-smiling serious facial expression. The other “tells” seem to me to be huge give aways.

And while I am on the subject of bodyguard, why in the world would Kate need a bodyguard? There are no mobs around her. She is also in Mexico where she is not known. She is simply a reality celebrity and only became one because she is a mother of 8 because she took fertility drugs. She’s not Lady Gaga or Madonna. To me her bodyguard is nothing more than her traveling companion and perhaps maybe more. Only the two of them know for certain what goes on behind closed doors. The rest is speculation. But the fact that they are so much in synch is not speculation.

Since the two of then spend so much time together they cannot help but become like-minded. When people become like-minded, anything can happen- even a love affair. Now I am not accusing Kate and Steve of having a love affair as I am not privy to their private comings and goings. But based on these photos and their body language they look like they are very much in synch and they look very, very close to one another.

And finally we see how Kate has once again created a statement of deception and some PR spin for herself where she told the world on Regis and Kelly how when the kids are with Jon, she sits at home by the phone to wait for their calls where they cry that they want to return home. This certainty didn’t seem to be the case as she walked in step with Steve in Mexico, wearing matching colored tops. And she certainly didn’t look very lonely as she also reported on the show. www.drlillianglass.com

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Kate Gosselin’s Disdainful Body Language and Ugly Verbal Digs Towards Jon Can Do Irreparable Emotional Damage to the 8 Kids

drlillianglass — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 04:29:30 +0000

LIKE IT OR NOT KATE SEEMS TO BE HERE TO STAY

With two television shows on TLC, View, Emmy, and DWTS appearances under her belt and a huge PR machine behind her, whether you love her or hate her Kate Gosselin appears to be here to stay. She’s here to stay for one reason and one reason only- she brings in eyeballs viewer’s eyeballs. Those fans who love her, watch her because they love her. Those fans who hate her often want to see what she will do next. Then there are those who are curious. They watch her to see what all the fuss is about. As long as she gets eyeballs watching her, she is here to stay. When the eyeballs turn away to another channel, Kate Gosselin will be nothing more than a faded memory. TLC is her guardian angel and they have invested a lot of money on star building this “itless” persona. Some TLC exceutive or “suit” as they are called in the business thought it would be a good idea to make Kate a star, so they set forth on that quest.

They made her look great but that is about it. She can’t act, sing, dance, has no expertise . Please don’t tell me that she is an expert on motherhood. Popping fertility drugs and having sextuplets does not make one an expert in parenting or child rearing. Getting an advanced education in the subject, where you are aware of all the nuances in the scientific literature gives you that expertise , along with experience of working with a lot of different children that do not happen to be your own offspring.

She cannot host because she is way too consumed with Kate. Also the smarminess, entitlement, selfishness, anger, sarcasm, hostility, and inner hatred that leaks out with consistency is so deep-rooted that it will be very difficult to get that under control without years and years of the therapy.In my view that is who she is. She demonstrated it in her original show, DWTS, on many talk shows on which she appeared, and most recently on Regis and Kelly.

Why was Kate on Regis and Kelly when she had nothing to promote? She was no doubt put there by her PR minions where TLC is obviously the helm. She was on the show for one reason only- damage control!

Why would esteemed Anderson Cooper ask her those obviously pointed questions if he was not fed those questions by her team? It was no doubt done to was clearly done to spin it Kate’s way . It was obvious that the questions could be answered by her in a way to make Jon look bad and make her look good. It was done to quell the recent hoopla that appeared all over the internet where all the hysterical sextuplets were clearly heard sobbing at the top of their lungs and wailing. hey didn’t want daddy to leave and they appeared terrified to go home to Kate.

PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES AND KATE’S BEHAVIOR ON REGIS AND KELLY WAS NOT PRETTY

Even though she has pulled it together with awesome makeup complete with red glossy lips , a toned body with muscular arms , and a beautiful face, I am still of the school that pretty is a pretty does” and there are too many instances when I believe Kate’s behavior just hasn’t been pretty.

When a parent tries to pit their kids between them and their ex, it is time for me to speak up. That is exactly what Kate did on Regis and Kelly. She pitted her children against her and Jon by trashing him in front of millions. And don’t tell me he did the same to her on national TV. That was then and this is now. And two wrongs don’t make a right. It was immature and hateful on BOTH of their parts. But now that over a year has gone by it is clear that she needs to speak about her hatred and anger towards Jon to a therapist, not to Kelly and Anderson in front of millions of people.

It makes her look disturbed, bitter, immature, and very UGLY inside and out. Her anger at Jon’s past behavior with his cheating, running off at the mouth on national TV, and acting irresponsible is misdirected. Instead, she needs to take a good look at herself and her role in abusing this poor guy to the point he had enough and went off the deep end. Yes, years of constant emotional abuse can make a person behave as we saw Jon behave.

MESSAGE TO ALL KATE FANATICS

And please to all you Kate fanatics who take it as a personal affront when anyone says anything that may not be music to you eyes or ears about Kate. I say the following to you:

If you are such a good and loyal fan of Kate’s then you need to be a real friend and a fan and let your friend know when they are messing up. You need to send Kate a message that she is messing up her children emotionally, by acting the way she did on Regis and Kelly.

I don’t want to hear about what you think about my credibility. After the education, background, and experience I have and the years I have devoted to the study and analysis of body language, I can assure you that I am credible enough be used by top media outlets around the world and in law enforcement an in the legal field and to have been a qualified witness in both state and federal courts. So I am not concerned with what you think of my credibility simply because I add my opinions to my body language analyses. That is what blogs are for- to give your opinions.

And please don’t waste my time telling me I am writing about Kate because I am jealous of her or I want to enhance my own populatity. I am jealous of no one. And just for the record, I have been around well before there was a Kate Gosselin on television. And as far as popularity goes, I have millions of books around the world that bear my name. So I don’t need Kate Gosselin to enhance my notoriety or for people to read my blog. Thousands of people read my blogs each day with or without Kate Gosselin as the subject matter.

KHATE’S ANGRY JAW

Substitute host Anderson Cooper asked if her relationship with Jon was as contentious as it appears to be. Kate nodded her head yes and tightened up her jaw and let out a hissing snake like sound as she said Itssss ya now. She then shrugged her shoulders and let loose with her first jab towards Jon. You can really see the anger and hatred Kate holds towards Jon. It’s in her jaw. Look at the enormous tension . There is so much tension and anger that you see dimpling. In addition, look at how her lips are pulled back in anger. When a person harbors hatred and anger it is readily seen in their lower jaw as we see with Kate.

In typical Kate form as she continues to remind us how good she is and how bad Jon is she jabbed “ I do try to keep it as peaceful as possible. I’ll speak for myself , How’s that?”

I’ll tell you how that was Kate. It was awful! It was unnecessary and downright nasty. You did not have to go there! And you said he is the kids father. STOP ! End of Sentence! Stop the facial contortions and snide smarminess. It makes you look small and petty and downright UGLY.All the enhancements that were done to you physically mean nothing if you act bitchy, witchy, and snitchy.

Then in order to make herself look good again and redirect the spin in response to the video of a few weeks back when all the kids were crying in the car after they arrived at her home and screamed that they didn’t want daddy to leave, as you see below

Kate makes a contorted phony expression with a phony laugh. You can see the phony expression with her furrowed forehead, raised eyebrow and tight non genuine smile, where there is tension around the corners of the mouth. The facial gestures are incongruent which indicates phoniness. She states that she “ waits at home for a phone call from the kids asking when they can come home.”

ONE WAY STREET! KATE CAN TRASH JON BUT JON CAN’T FIGHT BACK OR HE GETS SUED

That is horrible! It is so obvious what she was doing! She has the national forum and was getting aback at Jon and spinning her image. The ony thing is that she spun is her image into the ground. It made her look awful and revealed who she is.

If TLC’s PR Dept. put her on that show and directed the spin so they can have her loveable when her new show debuts, they need to be ashamed of themselves in my view. It completely backfired. She was anything but loveable. Jon has been punished by TLC enough in my view. He got the message loud and clear to not talk to the press. Now this has added insult to injury. Jon is a person too.

He has no forum to speak about Kate because he is not allowed to do so or he will get sued. So it is a one way street where Kate can trash him and he can’t say anything to defend himself! It is unfair and appalling.

I doubt that with all the things she has going on in her life professionally, that she waits by the phone with baited breath just to hear which child will call asking to come home . And if the kids do call, what does she do about it?

a. Does she come and get them?

b. Does she call Child Protective Services because they are so miserable and thinks Jon is harming them?

c. Does she believe Jon is abusing them by forcing them to stay in unlivable conditions - his little apartment with a few toys as opposed to their luxurious big home with a truckload of toys?

d. Is she making this all up?

Chances are the correct answer is it is d . She is making this all up .

Kelly Ripa also knows that what Kate is saying is complete BS. Look at Kelly’s body language. She pulls up her shoulder and tucks in her head and crosses her arms over her body. This is a defensive motion as she is not going to let Kate get away with her nonsense . In reference to Kate’s ridiculous statement of how the kids call her and want to come home, Kelly asks Kate in a deliberate and measured tone Are they are they allowed to?

Kelly immediately changes her body position as she awaits Kate’s answer. You can see Kelly is not comfortable with Kate or the answer she knows Kate is about to spin. You can see that Kelly’s shoulders are raised which indicates she is upset and displeased. It’s similar to what a cat does when they are upset and uncomfortable they raise their hackles. They are on alert. Kelly is on alert for Kate’s answer .You can even see how Kelly has pressed her hand on her lap to center herself as she is about to listen to Kate’s nonsensical spin.

IF KATE HAD NOT ABUSED JON MAYBE THEY WOULD STILL BE SLEEPING IN THEIR OWN HOME AND PLAYING WITH THEIR OWN TOYS

And Spin it Kate did! Kate says that it’s hard to tell your kids why they can’t sleep in their beds and play with their own toys. Well maybe it is time that Kate stop trashing Jon and tell the kids that they need to learn to compromise and sleep in a bed away from home that daddy has prepares especially for them. Maybe she needs to tell then that they can bring their own special toys when they stay at daddy’s. Maybe she needs to tell them that daddy who loves them and wants to see them .

Maybe it wouldn’t be so hard for the six year-olds to understand why they have to sleep at daddy’s house if she would stop trashing Jon. Maybe Kate needed to have thought about this situation before she abused the daylights out of Jon and emasculated him for so many years until he had no choice but to leave her. Her constant abuse was the catalyst for his going off the deep end in my estimation.

Here we really see her signal of deception as she says she talks about the kids and says she is “there for them.” She shakes her head NO as she says this and looks down and away , knowing very well what she is saying is complete BS . She is not there for them. She is there for herself as she runs around the country doing book tours and TV gigs.

She clearly knows that it is a spin to get back at Jon and to make herself good like the perfect mommy . The PR spin was designed to help her get that positive image now that her show is going to début int he near future.

The only thing she did that rang true was when she said ”I’m Lonely” She made a genuine sad expression when she spoke those words. So I believe that when kids are mot around, she is indeed lonely. After she alienated so many family members and friends throughout the years, what she says does seem to ring true.

PUTTING THE KIDS IN THE MIDDLE OF HER HATRED FOR JON WILL AFFECT THE KIDS DOWN THE ROAD

Anderson Cooper then paraphrases all of her spin and bluntly says So what you’re saying is that they don’t enjoy being with him. Kate immediately looks down and with a slow tentative articulation pattern says looks Some of them don’t mind.

Why would anyone in their right mind say something know that will hurt the kids in the long run? In essence she just trashed Jon by telling the world that the kids don’t like being with their own father who has shown them nothing but love, tenderness and affection since their birth. He hs been the more emotionally nurturing of the two.

If what she is saying that kids dont enjoy being with him, it is no doubt because she put that through into their little heads to choose between her or Jon. If the kids didn’t want to be with daddy why would they wail for him to not leave them when he dropped them off?

And why in the world would anyone go on national television and say something like this? This will have emotional repercussions as far as the children are concerned. What we have just seen is exactly why I have insisted all along that Jon and Kate get a qualified counselor to help them properly handle these children so that they don’t have to be in the middle of their emotional mess.

AND YET ANOTHER DIG AT JON WHICH IS NOT GOING TO HELP THE KIDS

After Kate showed her ugliness with all of her digs towards Jon, she then had to get yet another dig in by saying how it’s only been three months since Jon has taken the kids on a regular basis and how it is all so new.

In essence she let everyone know that Jon was being bad and only now stepped up to the plate with the kids. Once again whether that is true or not is no one else’s business. This dirty laundry did not have to be aired out on public. And why did she wait until the end to say this? It is because her intention for being on that show was to make Jon look bad. She and TLC did not carry out their goal. It made her look bad instead.

If that is the case and it has only been three months, then Kate should know that this is an adjustment period and the kids need to be encouraged about this new arrangement, not given subliminal messages to tear them in two and mess up their little minds about which parent they need to show more loyalty.

UGLY IS AS UGLY DOES AND UGLINESS IS PUBLICLY AIRING ANGER ABOUT AN EX WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT THE EFFECT ON YOUR KIDS,

No matter how well coiffed Kate’s hair looked or how shiny her red lip gloss was or how toned her arms looked in her red sleeveless dress, Kate’s open anger and hostility towards Jon make her look ugly!

Her inner hatred contorted the muscles in her face. The sarcastic digs and smarmy, nasty tones negated all the hard work her stylist and make up artist did in putting Kate’s look together. Kate looked like a bitter bitten woman.

But more than her looks, the effect that her bitterness and hatred will have on her children is more serious. These children need to see a mature adult as a role model . They do not need to see their mother acting like a nasty, angry, and centered child having a temper tantrum. Kate needs to grow up and let go of her hate because hate spreads. These children do not need the added burden of dealing with hate. They need love the grow and flourish. www.drlillianglass.com

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ITLESS and Infamous Women Rewarded- Kate Gosselin, Michaele Salahi, Rachel Uchitel, Ashley Dupree and Alexis Neiers-What Message Does It Give To Our Young Women?

drlillianglass — Sun, 08 Aug 2010 15:01:58 +0000

TALENT IS WHAT COUNTS, NOT SPIN AND HYPE FOR THE ITLESS

As you well know from reading my blogs, I cannot stand spin or hype or manipulating the public. I don’t like it when the public is fed lies or when people are easily given a free ride when they don’t deserve it. In essence, I like the truth! Most of all I like it when people who work very hard for what they do are justly rewarded for their efforts.

Having worked with so many celebrities and extremely talented people over the years in helping them hone their communication and body language skills for so many film and television roles, I definitely know who has IT and who doesn’t. I know how hard these people work at making themselves the best they can be. I have seen their considerable efforts and what it takes to make it first hand.

That is why it disturbs me greatly when I see people who have repeatedly been “abusive and entitled ” like Kate Gosselin, “alleged White House gate crashing” Michaele Salahi, “jailed burglar of the wealthy” Alexis Neiers, and “ don’t call me a whore or a hooker even though I have repeated sex with married men or I will sue you”, Rachel Uchitel taking up space and getting rewarded for their bad behaviors with television shows and tons of air time.

IN TV, LOTS OF EYEBALLS TRANSLATE INTO LOTS OF DOLLARS AND CENTS

In my view, these women have absolutely nothing to offer. But television executives would disagree with me. To them, these women have a lot to offer- lots of eyeballs watching shows on which they appear . They don’t care if they are hated by the public or they did or immoral or illegal acts.

As long as people are watching them on TV and ratings are high , they are thrilled. When ratings are high that means the networks can charge a lot of money to advertisers to buy commercials. That translates into more money for the networks. That is called the bottom line.

So as long as the public watches people they love to hate, the longer they will stay in the public eye. It’s a sad commentary but unfortunately, it is true.

THE UNTALENTED ,ENTITLED, AND ITLESS KATE GOSSELIN

When networks see that they have a cash cow, like they did with Kate Gosselin, they will do anything and everything to make sure that they succeed no matter how ITLESS they are. They will re make their physical image andshow them off on every major show like Dancing With the Stars so they will get more popular and so that even more people will watch them on their network.

That is exactly what they did with Kate Gosselin. It doesn’t matter if you or I believe that Kate has absolutely nothing to offer. It doesn’t matter whether you or I think she has some relevant issues in her psyche that causes her to be so angry, arrogant, and self centered to name a few. She will continue to alienate people and she will continue to do it over the airwaves. She was even invited to do Sara Palin’s new show in order to boost the ratings.

Like it or not, this woman is here to stay with not one, but with two television shows and a myriad of appearances and television specials. This former nurse simply took fertililty pills and got pregnant with septuplets, six of whom survived in her womb. Luckily a guardian angel- TLC found her. They helped her out and gave her a show, so she could feed her family. We, in turn got to watch cute babies develop. At first, people watched the show because of the cute kids. But then, even more people watched the show to see how awful Kate was and how terribly she abused husband Jon.

Then the fiasco between them exploded into a full blown media He Say She Says war, which made even more people watch their show. TLC was thrilled as people took sides and waited to see the “bad car accident”.

Then Jon pulled the plug, not allowing the kids on the air. He went even further to try and destroy TLC’s ,by trashing Kate so badly and causing so much havoc in the press with his multiple relationship scandals.

This pissed off TLC to no end and they were not going to allow him to destroy their money making TV venture. So they showed him a thing or two. They not only gave Kate her own show, but a second show to boot. In addition they slapped him with a lawsuit and silenced him.

They took this “itless” untalented, nasty, self absorbed woman- Kate Gosselin and tried to make her into a sympathetic victim by having her cry all over the airwaves. (And please don’t waste your time calling me a Kate hater. Kate is not on my hate list. That list is reserved for people like Hitler and Stalin, terrorists, child molesters, and for those who do word for word copying of my work, among others I won’t bother to name ).

I am simply reporting behaviors I have observed. If you can’t see it them as well, let me suggest you take off your blinders and open your eyes and watch a re-run of her egregious behavior on DWTS when she fights with her esteemed dance teacher).

TLC gave her opportunity after opportunity and she of course took it. They were on full throttle and determined to make Kate not only a household name, but a house-gold name earning scores of money for them .

They redid her image from the frumpy housewife to the glamourous beauty, had her co- host the View where millions would see her, appear on late night shows, and on TV specials where they even had her and had her cry on cue to make her appear more sympathetic. But when they put her on DWTS they really saw how powerful their brand was.

Her fight with her teacher Tony Dovolani which showed her disrespect and arrogance and entitlement, garnered the highest ratings. People who loved her, watched to see her succeed, while people who hated her watched to see her fail. When she was voted off the show, DWTS ratings plunged and TLC knew they hit the jackpot with Kate.

They even gave her another show and trotted her out there with more books so more people could connect to her. They threw her back on the View and Kimmel Live and everywhere else. TLC created this “itless” who some consider to be a “monster,” out of spite for Jon and they succeeded.

So like or not, love her or hate her, she is here to stay no matter how many latters you write or emails you send. The more people hate her the more they will watch her and the higher her ratings will be.

I only hope she remakes her insides as she did with her outsides for the sake of her kids. While both Kate and her “itlessness” bore me, my only concern is for her kids and how they will turn out. I clearly didn’t like it when I saw the videotape of the kids crying in terror when it came time to go back home to Kate after an outing with Jon. While we don’t know the exact reason the childen are terrified, if they are terrified because of Kate’s behavior towards them, maybe TLC should use some of the money they earned because of Kate’s infamy and spring for some therapy for both Kate and those kids.

ITLESS MICHAELE SALAHI- INFAMY AND MORE TV TIME

To me Kate isn’t as disturbing as Michaele Salahi. I find this woman repulsive in every way from her arrogant tone of voice to her pleadingthe fifth and not being forthright. What did she have to hide? I am even more repulsed that attorney Lisa Bloom for whom I once had a great deal of respect has stooped so low as to represent this “itless creature. It was bad enough that Lisa represented one of the most TOXIC MEN Michael Lohan who tapes personal conversations with others and sells them to internet venues and who recenty sold a nude photo of his ex fiance sleeping to one of the internet tabloid outlets. But now, she has gone further in collecting clients the public loves to hate. I guess she is following in the footsteps of her mother Gloria Allred who takes on the infamous like Rachel Uchitel and a myriad of Tiger’s sex partners.

If Michaele had an invitation to the White House party, like she said she did, why didn’t she show it to everyone? On the Today Show she told how she couldn’t say anything at the hearing because of Bravo. That may or may or may not be the case. Did the Salahi’s have an invitation that Bravo gave to her? If so, why didn’t she just admit to that early on ? Or was she so entitled that she told Bravo that it was no biggie- that she could always get into top of the line events with or without an invite.

Now she and or her husband created a huge fiasco saying that Whoopi Goldberg hit her when the video clearly shows that Whoopi was only trying to get her attention and merely re directing the topic of conversation. There is no question in my mind that she knew Whoppi meant no malice. Why would Whoopi risk her reputation and position at the View to hit a guest? It made no sense other than Michaele and her, whom I perceive as TOXIC husband Tareq, trying to get more media time.

When her, whom I perceive as TOXIC husband Tareq got into the fray and upset Whoopi with accusations she hit his wife and started taking photos of her, I knew then and there what he was trying to do. He was trying to parlay this non incident into more infamy for his wife, whom people on her own show found TOXIC .

One thing is for sure, people who would never think of tuning into the DC Housewives, on Bravo will do so now. Because of this incident, Michaele will always be assured her spot on the show as the villain. I am sure that Bravo is thrilled to no end that this fiasco occurred. Remember the bottom line is more eyeballs equal more revenue for the network.

So the this stylishly dressed , skeletal , very masculine voiced, opportunist who put national security in jeopardy by getting that close to the President of the United States without proper security clearance. is here to stay- at least on Bravo, Many would agree with Sheei Shephard on the View that she should have been put in jail rather than on a televison show.

ITLESS RACHEL UCHITEL- “CANT SAY “YOU KA TELL SHE’S A HOOKER” EVEN THOUGH SHE HAS BEEN A SEX MATE TO MANY MARRIED MEN, OR YOU WILL BE SUED”

Then there is Rachel Uchitel. Attorney Lisa Bloom’s mother Gloria Allred was able to secure millions upon millions of dollars for Rachel. She also made it clear that no one could call Rachel a “hooker” or a “whore”, even though many may look at her in those terms and will always look at her in those terms.

In fact she threatened the View and Joy Behar with a lawsuit if Joy didn’t apologize for the plays he made on Rachel’s last name , “Uchitel” by saying “You ka tell she’s a hooker.” Another comedian even got sued for calling her a “whore.” However, doesn’t seem too worried about the suit, Maybe he has information which can prove she is or has been a whore. If he does, then you can then call her a “whore” without being sued. To me a whore is someone who exploits others for money. I think getting an alleged 10 million dollars to buy her silence and not speak publicly about Tiger Woods would fall into that category.

So the message was sent out not to defame her. But what Rachel doesn’t get is that she defamed herself by having sex with at least two married men of whom we know.

Rachel allegedly helped break up a marriage and she got rewarded for this not only with what is an alleged 10 million dollars, but with television time. Xtra gave her a TV gig as a reporter, even though she did an awful job in my view and was the ultimate in being ITLESS.

She was unbearable to listen to with her hyper-nasal monotone voice and even more unbearable to watch with her expressionless monotone face as she constantly brushed her hair back and pursed her over glossed overly inflated lips. Yet, she no doubt received a hefty compensation to do this even though there were so many more qualified, beautiful, and talented young women who were journalism graduates to boot, to do this job.

Rachel is no doubt gearing up for an Image Rehab. That is why she agreed to appear on Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew. She has no doubt, realized that you can have ten million dollars but if people still view her as a skank and a whore, homewrecker or a hooker, or a low life, even if you can’t say it publicaly,it doesn’t matter.If people look at you like alow life and have no respect for you and disdain for you, all the money in the world doesn’t matter as you are vilified forever and considered a joke.

So she went into Celebrity Rehab, and together with Dr Drew they came up with some type of addiction for her to use as an excuse for her egregious past behavior. Maybe it will be an addiction to pills or an addiction to her relationship with her father in looking for that father image in married men , or maybe it will be due to an addiction to money and rich and famous men who take care of her financially. I guess we will have to watch the show to find out the big reveal of “ Rachel’s Addiction.”

Even if she is addicted to whatever, it is still no excuse for what she did. Lots of people are addicted to something and don’t act like she did. People resent her even more for her capitalizing on the tragedy and earning what is said to be ten million dollars in exchange for her silence towards Tiger Woods.

After watching her body language and how she comes across in interviews, she is not a likeable character and no coaching int he world can ever make her likeable. There is something in her character that pops out on screen- the entitlement, arrogance, and hardness. When she spoke of being the Original” Mean Girl” in an Xtra interview she had with Mario Lopez, it said all we needed to know about Rachel. There still appears to be a mean edge about her. It seems to be who she is based on all of the interviwes we have seen of her thus far.

Even if she and Tiger happen to reconnect and he marries her, as the tabloids have recently reported, she will always be looked at by the public with an evil eye. She will always be seen as the other woman and a homewrecker.

The villain label fits her and I don’t believe she can ever shake it no matter what she does. I am sure that this label will be cemented forever, as we watch her clash with super model Janice Dickenson who will also appears on the Celebrity Rehab show . No matter what you say about Janice, she has earned her stripes. She pioneered her field and worked really hard for everything she has in life. Unlike, Rachel, no one gave Janice a free financial ride.

FORMER PROSTITUTE ASHLEY DUPREEE AND JAILED THEIF ALEXIS NEIRES –HORRIBLE MESSAGE TO YOUNG GIRLS

What bothers me is the message that this is being giving to out young girls by rewarding egregious behavior. It’s not only Rachel Uchitel ( whom you can;t call a hooker or a whore or she will sue you) who got a lot of good things in life for doing bad things. It is other women who were prostitutes for madams, like Ashley Dupree, who got rewarded with air time and her own advice column in a New York newspaper.

Instead of giving such a gig to a qualified relationship expert, the message is that just by having sex with famous men, you too can get you rich and famous, especially of you get caught.

The message is also that even if you burglarize things from the rich and famous like 18 year old Alexis Neires did, you can get rich and famous as well. If you happen to get caught, you can get even richer and more famous and even get your own TV show like Alexis did on the E! channel with her show “Pretty Wild TV!”.

IF THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH EYEBALLS THERE IS NOT ENOUGH MONEY AND NO SHOW

The whole thing absolutely repulses me. Someone needs to put their foot down and say” enough is enough “ when it comes to rewarding people for egregious behavior. While someone definitely needs to set these standards, perhaps that “someone” is us.

Remember- eyeballs translate into money for the networks. The less eyeballs, the less money. So keep that in mind the next time you are curious about watching Kate Gosselin, Rachel Uchitel, Michaele Salahi, or Alexis Neiers. www.drlillianglass.com

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Is Jon Gosselin Trying to Gain Public Sentiment or Are Sextuplets Truly Fearful Returning To Kate Gosselin’s Home?

drlillianglass — Sun, 08 Aug 2010 12:37:11 +0000

First and foremost I want to make it clear that I am not Jon bashing. I am merely asking a question here. In the past we have seen these two go at it to make one another look bad. I was wondering of this was one of those times or if those kids are really suffering at the hands of Kate. The tone of their crys were haunting. As someone who knows a lot about the human voice and sounds made from that voice, including crying,I can tell you for sure that those were not crys of hunger, or lack of sleep, or not getting what you want such as a a toy. They were crys of fear, terror,a nd angusih.

Not that I am defending Kate by any means, I am just curious as to whether things are that bad or manipulate to look that bad.

I recently received countless emails from my dear readers and fans asking me to analyze the body language of Jon Gosselin and the Gosselin kids when he drove them up to the gate of their home and they were sobbing. Many reported that they felt the video was heartbreaking and wanted me to analyze what I thought was really going on.

I have to admit that after initially watching the video, my heart went out when I heard terror in the sound of the voices of the sobbing children. It seemed that they could not stop sobbing. At first glance it looked like the kids were sobbing because they love their father so much and they didn’t want him to leave them after spending time with him. It appeared that they felt terrorized that they had to go back home to Kate. Maybe that is the case.

IS SOMETHING IS OFF HERE?

But there may be another side to the situation as well. On a closer inspection, it appeared to me that the whole video might possibly be contrived and manipulated by Jon in order to get some media attention and public sympathy and to make Kate look bad. Not that Kate hasn’t proven to look bad on her own. The whole situation makes me want to ask a number of questions . Not that I am not accusing Jon of anything, I am just asking questions.

First of all how come there is only one paparazzi there? Usually there are lots of papps but that day there was only one. And how come the papp was asking such leading and spinful questions? And how come Jon spoke to the papp when he was instructed to never speak to them? It was my undertsanding that as part of Jon’s legal agreement with TLC he is to not say even one word to them.

The papp loudly and openly asks Jon if Kate will come out to meet him. To me , it seems that the question was rehearsed. Jon immediately responds, as if on cue, that probably the nanny will be the one to come get them. As I said, it is odd in that Jon has been instructed to not speak to the papps. But in this case, he speaks. It’s like this little movie scene was shot with the purpose of letting the audience know that Kate can”t even bothered to pick up her own kids and that the nanny has to do it.

It is also very odd that does Jon not have the entry code to get through the gate to drop his own kids off in front of their own home. I am told that Jon has been banned from entering the gate of the home, but I would think that he would be given the code in case of an emergency situation. If that is the case, I think it is very wrong. Those are his kids and he needs to have the code.If Kate doesn’t want Jon to bring his girlfriends or anyone else on the property then Kate needs to work that out with him. But to not give him the code is unconscionable. If that is the case and he does not have a code it is as though he is waiting therein the role of a delivery person,insted of the is the father.

When Jon reached out to touch the intercom and said “I can’t hear you.” It was said in a monotone devoid of inflection or concern. Granted he has always had a monotone,but most people who were tired and couldn’t get thorugh after a long day and upset kids, would should a little more inflection and upset in theor voice. Who was on the other end of the intercom and why could Jon not hear them? Why didn’t he try and try again to contact them or to push specific buttons until he could finally hear them? Was there really anyone at the other end of the intercom at all? Did he pretend there was someone there? ? I am just asking these questions, as another point fo view.

Then Jon gets out of the van and says “I love you too. hold on.” He then goes over to the sliding door of the van to get access to the kids . As he enters the van and confronts the kids he says the words “don’t panic,”

Why would he say “don’t panic” , That was an intersting choice of wors. As he said that I could definately hear that the crys were crys of panic and terror. Were they really panic and in terror becuase they had to go home to Kate’s house? What is going on in there to cause them so much panic? Or the other side of the coin is , did Jon possibly say something to them which frightened them or caused them to panic ? Did he say something to them scared and afraid?

Instead of closing the door behind him to console several of the crying children, he manages to leave the van door open so that papp can conveniently shoot all the footage. The kids definatey sound terrorized.

Were the kids really crying becuase they were so frightened to go home becuase they felt something bad would happen to them or did Jon say something to those kids to get them to cry like that? Why are they all crying at once? Why do they sound so scared?

As a body language and communicaiton expert I have studied various crys and what they mean. That is why I am even writing this blog. That cry is not the whining cry of not wanting to do someting or the cry of being overtred and cranky. Those crys were crys of fear and terror. They were jarring, unlike other crys. The fact that the same type of cry was amplified by all of those kids was very disturving.

Maybe one or two kids might cry at once, but the fact that ALL of them seemed to be sobbing in unison makes me wonder if he didn’t say something to ALL of them that indeed caused then to “panic.” or they were indeed panicked to be at Kate’s home. I don’t ever remember any of the kids crying in unison like that on any of the previous Jon and Kate shows.

Jon gets to the first row of kids and hugs one of them. Then more screaming and wailing little voices are heard as Jon goes to the next row of kids and attempts to comfort them as well. Then Jon goes back to the first row of kids and comforts them. Why do these kids need all that comforting? . Six year olds can usually be comforted with reassuring words. It is difficult to comfort infants becuase they don;t have the words to tell you what is wrong. But had the words to express themselves, yet their emotional distress did not ease, even after they were allegedly comforted by Jon. That is diconcerting.

Even though there are still wails and screams, Jon steps out of the van. Conveniently, younger twin, Maddy shows up with outstretched arms with two little fists at the end . In essence she is requesting a hug from daddy. But her clenched fists show hidden anger. So does her lack of genuine smiling. She is upset about something. Maybe she was upset that she didn’t get to spend indicudual time with Jon or maybe she was told to come out to greet the van and maybe she didn;t want to do it.

They hug in an awkward embrace as Mady then turns her head to the side as if to purposefully face a camera man. She then walks into the van and Jon follows her in. Maybe he called her to help quell the sextuplets.

Suddenly, her her twin sister Cara shows up and waits her turn to hug Jon.

She awkwardly waits outside the van until Jon comes out. At one point she reaches her arms out Jon as if to hug him, but his back is turned. In the meantime, Jon is still comforting the screaming kids with MAdy ont he van as well. It is not helping.

Then he closes the door and awkwardly hugs Cara from the side , who like Mady turns her head towards the camera sans smile. It looked odd and unnatural, as though she wasn’t that happy to see Jon. It looked as they were hugging in a position to get a good camera angle. Jon spends several seconds hugging her. Was that done for the camer or was she summonded to the van to help him quiet the upset children?

Meanwhile, all the kids are still screaming and Jon suddenly goes from the loving looking action of hugging to severely yelling at the kids as he turns away from Cara and towards the van.

He loudly shouts ‘ENOUGH! THAT’S ENOUGH! The kids still scream and sob as he helps Cara into the van. He is obviously frustrated and had enough of their terrorized screams. My only question is why are they screaming?

They sob in terror as he shuts the door with all of the kids still in there.

He then walks away from the van with six screaming kids and the twins locked up inside of the van. His hands are in his pockets and he looks down as the papp conveniently says in a tone that makes him sound like a bad actor “The kids seem really upset to leave you. I imagine you feel the same.” To me this may have possibly sounded scripted. It sounded like it was a planned act to get the public to think that the kids were sobbing because they were leaving their “wonderful” dad and forced to go back to their “mean” mother that he was devasted to leave them becuase they were going onto a house of terror. My only question again is are they really that terrorized or did Jon say something to them, even inadvertenly that created this panic int hem. Jon then gets into a male friend’s car.

Did Jon do this in order to get the public to think they didn’t want to go back to their mother’s home, but rather wanted to stay with him becuase life with Kate is unbearable?

While Jon has been and affectionate and loving parent on a consistent basis , did he cooperate with the papp to to gain attention and to once again be in the press or is this a real problem for the children? The only way we will ever know what really happened is the find out from the kids and until they are old enough to write a book about their experiences int he Gosselin household then we will never know for sure.

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Mel Gibson’s Verbal Tirade Towards Oksana Grigoriova Reveals A Narcissistic, Control Freak Who’s Suffering from the “Madonna/ Whore Syndrome”

drlillianglass — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 20:53:57 +0000

VOCAL AND VERBAL MURDER

The words a person uses, the emphasis and inflection patterns on those particular words, in addition to a person’s vocal tone can tell you if they are dangerous and ready to do you harm. After listening to Mel’s tone of voice and what he said to Oksana Grigoreieva, there is no doubt that he meant business and he was out to destroy her every way possible.

Words must NEVER be taken lightly. When a person speaks as Mel Gibson has spoken to the mother of his child, he has committed verbal murder.

AN EMOTIONALLY BEATEN DOWN OKSANA TRIES TO FIGHT BACK WITH NO AVAIL

Mel’s rant killed Oksana’s self esteem as we hear a meek sounding abused woman.

She tied to fight back and stand up for herself by telling Mel that it is none of his effing business when it came to her breasts, but it was no use.

Mel continued to berate her. It was too painful to listen to. If this horribly abusive snippet was caught on tape, one can only imagine what went on when Mel was not being taped.

Words and tones can destroy another person and can have a lifelong emotional effect. There is no doubt that Mel’s abusive words and actions have left an indelible scar on the mother of his child.

VOICE AND SPEECH MIRRORS THE SOUL

As Galen the ancient Greek philosopher once said, it is the voice that mirrors the soul. It is also mirrors the speech and the communication patterns.

What is in Mel’s head and his heart came out in his voice and the content of his speech. What emerged was an impotent human being. And that impotence may very well translate to sexual impotence as well as you will see as you read on. It translated into a narcissistic, sadistic, control freak.

VOCAL ATTACKS

The most striking thing about the tape is Mel’s hard glottal vocal attacks. The tone sounds like vocal bullets, as he rained down a spray of hatred and vitriol in a staccato pattern.

He closed off the back of his throat when he speaks. That is why you hear a creaky sound in his tone, much like a croaking frog. The reason he sounds like that is because he is filled with rage and anger. This rage and anger causes his muscles to tense up, including his vocal muscles.

The tight vocal muscles don’t allow the air to flow through the vocal cords when he speaks. Hence, you hear the creaky angry and tense sound.

The tone of his speech shows an offensiveness as though he is looking to pick a fight. He is spooling himself up and is ready to take issue with anything and everything.

The best thing Oksana could have done in this case was to remain calm and even keeled, which she did. But even so, it made little or no difference in terms whatever she said. Mel was gunning for a down and dirty fight. Unfortunately she was the victim.

The contents of his speech was peppered with sudden angry bursts of loudness to emphasize specific words. These specific words are key in analyzing what is really going on in Mel’s psyche.

EMPHASIS ON SPECIFIC KEY WORDS DURING MEL’S TIRADE

The capitalized words are those which Mel emphasized during his tirade are seen below. I did not censor any of the words because I wanted to give a clear picture of the exact words Mel used and how he used them.

“Trying to breast feed with Fucking FOREIGN BODIES in you.The fact that you had FOREIGN BODIES in there. So you’re not LYING to me about FAKE TITS you did you FUCKING LIED to me.They look RIDICULOUS. Get rid of them why dontcha?

They look STUPID, It’s just an appraisal. Keep em they look STUPID, Keep em if you want . I don’t give a FUCK. But you know they’re too BIG and they look STUPID. They look like some Vegas BITCH. Vegas Whore .And you go SHASHAYING around in your tight clothes, I won’t stand for that anymore. You go out in public and it’s a Fucking EMBARASSMENT to me. You look like a FUCKING BITCH on heat.

You;ll get RAPED by a pack of Niggers it’s be your fault. All right because YOU PROVOKED it. You are PROVOCATIVELY dressed all the time with your fake BOOBS. You feel you have to SHOW OFF in tight outfits in tight pants You can see you PUSSY from behind. And that GREEN thing. THAT’s (vocal pitch goes up) provocative.

Ok I’m TELLING you, I’m just TELLING you the TRUTH! I DON’T LIKE IT . I don’t WAN’T want that woman. I don’t want YOU .I don’t BELIEVE you any more. I don’t TRUST you/ I don’t LOVE you. I don’t WANT you. Ok. STAY in the FUCKING house. I’ not GIVING it to you, but I’ll LET you stay there . And I will take care of my child but I DON’T WANT YOU anymore.”

In his rant, we can see that is all about control. Mel is trying to control Oksana completely from her breasts- (telling her to get rid of them),to what she wears (tight clothing and that green thing) to her living arrangements ( sadistically telling her he will allow her to live n the house).

Controlling a person the first sign in the Cycle of Abuse . First, they try to control how you look, what you wear, and then it is your basic needs from what you eat, to where, and how you live.

That is exactly what Mel has done to Oksana. If she fails to obey, he gets more verbally abusive which is the next stage in the Cycle of Abuse we saw.

Then if she fails to do what he says, the next stage is the physically violent phase. While we have yet to see the photos of Oksana’s black eyes and chipped teeth as a result of Mel’s hands, based on the pattern we have seen thus far, I tend to believe that he did indeed abuse her.

MEL’S NARCISSISM IN NOT WANTING OKSANA TO HAVE ALL THE ATTENTION

The next thing we notice in Mel’s rant is that he absolutely hates it when Oksana is the center of attention. After all that attention is reserved for him- the star- not Oksana, the “extra” in his the big screen of his life.

He talks about how he doesn’t like it when she dresses in tight clothes and how it embarrasses HIM. Of course it embarrasses him. He is the one who wants the public to only look at him and he is embarrassed if anyone more attractive or sexy looking surpasses him as far as attention goes.

He doesn’t like the attention Oksana gets from other men and even goes so disgustingly far as saying that since she attracts so much attention to herself by her dress, a pack of “Niggers” will swoop down and gang rape her and that it will be all of her own doing.

But it is not about the dress or the clothes or that green thing or the outfit, which as Mel so vulgarly stated, revealed her “pussy” . It is all about her taking away his limelight and redirecting the attention that he believes should be on him, on to her.

IS MEL SEXUALLY IMPOTENT?

Enraged Mel is vocally focusing on some very key words - BOOBS, BITCH. PUSSY, RAPED, and FUCKING (said multiple times)

He verbally focuses on Oksana’s “big boobs”, the provocative “green thing” she was wearing, her “sashaying around”, and the threat of being “raped
by a pack of “Niggers.”

What he is saying here is that she is clearly sexy and provocative with her large breats and tight clothing that reveal her sexy body, including her private parts .

He is so threatened by this. Thus, he attempts to cut down her breasts by telling Oksana they are fake, too big, and look stupid.

Obviously, her sexy assets are what initially attracted him to her , to the point that he had sex with her, got her pregnant, and left his wife of over 30 years for her.

But suddenly, he is finding fault with what attracted him to her in the first place. He is rationalizing that it is her fake large breasts that are the reasons he is most likely no longer able to perform sexually. He continues to rationalize, that it is the fault of her provocative clothing that doesn’t allow him to get turned on.

He takes his being sexually turned off, a step further. There is no doubt that Mel is a racist, who hates Jews, Mexicans and Blacks as we have all seen via his past behavior and now current tirade.

So what would turn him off more than people he detests? It would be a group of Blacks, having sex with his woman- sex that he may be no longer able to achieve with her.

He took the sexual sterotype of the Black man and his sexual prowess and magnified his fantasy scenario ten fold, with a “group” of “Niggers” “raping” her. He used this egregious term- the N word as an attempt to further degrade Oksana in his sick scenario, as a way to rationalizes why he, most likely cannot perform sexually.

Because he feels Oksana is the reason he is destroyed sexually with impotence, he in turn wants to destroy her for doing this to him. That is why he threatened to burn down the house, but not until after she gives him oral sex.

In saying this, he is in essence, asking her to become the “whore” like image that initially attracted him sexually, until she bore him a child and became the “Madona” like image that now renders him sexually impotent with her. I will get into Mel’s “ Whore/ Madonna Complex” in a just a moment.

But in essence, what he is saying is “I want to destroy you Oksana, because you destroyed my sexuality. But before I do, you have to do something to help revive my sexuality that you destroyed. You must prove to me that you have not destroyed my sexuality. But never the less, I plan to destroy you forever by burning down the house , preferably with you in it.

MEL’ S MADONNA/ WHORE SYNDROME

Mel may clearly be blaming Oksana for his lack of sexuality. But in reality, she has little to do with it. It is all about him. Based on Mel’s words, it is clear that he now sees Oksana, the mother of his child in a very different light. Prior to her being pregnant, he perceived her as the” whore” who sexually tuned him on. But this is no longer the case.

A lot of men can have great sex with a lover, or girlfriend. or wife. But as soon as the lover, girlfriend, or wife delivers a baby, the man may no longer see her as being sexually attractive. She is no longer their sexual “whore”. She is now the “mother” of their child. She is the “Madonna”. That is clearly what Mel may be suffering from, in my view.

It is evident in his speech. He doesn’t want her to look like a “Vegas whore.” He doesn’t want her to dress provocatively. He doesn’t want her to “sashay” around in public because it embarrasses him.

It embarrasses him because now that she is the mother of his child, she can no longer dress the way she dressed before she birthed his child, which now in his mind looks like a provocative “whore”.

He feels that now she must look proper and dress the part of the “Madonna” that she is now isin Mel’s disturbed mind. She must now, go out in unsexy outfits, unlike lithe green one she wore. Otherwise. it will say to Mel that she is still a “whore”- a sexual object to be preyed upon by the by the worst kind of people Mel views, in his racially sick mind- Black people.

To drive home his point and put the fear of God into her ,he warns Oksana about his biggest fear. His fear is that the mother of his child, who he now sees as the Madonna, will be violated and tarnished and “raped” by the people he is most repulsed by- Black men.

He warns further that she will be the one responsible for her own raping and violation. She will be the one who brought it on herself, by not dressing the part of the “Madonna”, but rather the “whore”.

That is why he is allowing her to stay in the house. He wants her out of sight. He wants her to be the Madonna and only care for his precious child. He wants her away from the public attention of the limelight. He wants her away from any other man who may find his “Madonna” a sexy looking “whore”. And he especially wants her home and away from Blacks, whom he feels may “rape: her and tarnish his fantasy “Madonna” forever.

MEL, THE VERBAL MURDERER

Mel committed verbal murder when he attacked Oksana so brutally with his tones and words. He murdered her spirit and you can hear it in her fearful meek voice, as she tries to fight back and give him a dose of his own medicine by using the F word to tell him her breasts are none of his business.

Mel can never take these words back. They are in Oksana’s psyche forever.

Mel’s tones and words murdered his chances of having a civil relationship so his daughter could grow up without the enormous tension that will most likely always be there between Mel and Oksana.

MEL’S WORDS KILLED OFF HIS FAN BASE FOREVER

Mel’s verbal murder also killed off his many fans. These cans can never look at Mel the same. What he said about his loyal supporters is unforgivable. They will NEVER support him at the box office no matter what film he makes in the future .

HE LOST HIS JEWISH FANS.

Just like there is no Jewish fan who can every look at Mel the same, after he made his anti-Semitic remarks when he was in the back of a police squad car after being arrested for a DUI, there is no Black fan that can ever look at him the same after calling them the N word.

HE LOST HIS BLACK FANS FOREVER

And adding insult to injury, he said that a “gang” of Blacks would rape Oksana just because his baby momma would be dressed provocatively. How insulting! How degrading to say that because a person is dressed a certain way that Blacks are so out of control with their sexuality that they would have no choice but to “rape” her in large groups in a pack, as in a pack of hungry, out of control wolves! This is the ultimate in stereotypic racism.

HE LOST HIS LATIN FANS

No Latin fan can ever look at Mel the same, after they heard him refer to Mexicans as “wetbacks.” How ugly! What he said is not only an insult to Mexicans but to every Spanish speaking fan.

MEL LOST HIS FEMALE FANS

And finally, no female fan can ever look at Mel the same. As if calling a female police officer “Sugar Tits” when he was arrested for a DUI wasn’t enough to turn women off, his rant to Oksana is guaranteed to turn off any woman who may have ignored his sexist comment to the police woman, forgiven Mel, or given him a second chance.

The degrading and sexist way he spoke to Oksana sent chills up my spine as I am sure it did to many other women.

The sexist and degrading name calling – from “whore” to “bitch”. The vulgar reference to “tits” and “pussy” is unconscionable. No woman should ever have to hear that type of language coming out of anyone’s mouth.

“YOU’LL NEVER WORK IN THIS TOWN AGAIN”

While Hollywood loves a good comeback, there are certain things you can NEVER come back from. Robert Downy, Mickey Rourke, Britney Spears, are examples of the Hollywood dream. They are examples of having it all, losing it all, and then coming back even bigger and better than before. Hollywood is hoping to add Lindsay Lohan to this list, but only time will tell ,as it all depends on Lindsay now.

But there will never be a comeback for Mel. Mel is on his own this time. Hollywood, who has many powerful Jewish people in control, was going to pull the plug on Mel years ago after his anti semitic comments.

But Mel’s well respected agent at the time, Ed Limato of the William Morris Agency fought tooth and nail to keep Mel alive in the industry.

But last weekend Ed Limato died and so did Mel’s most loyal supporter. Now, there is no one to bail him out and play “the emperor has new clothes” game. Mel’s career is as dead as Ed Limato.

When the William Morris Agency quits you even though you have made millions of dollars for them, you can kiss your career goodbye forever. What Mel did was unforgiveable and the William Morris Agency, headed by Ari Emanual, let Mel know it in no uncertain terms.

Now that his old agent Ed Limato is dead, there is no one to defend Mel and play “the emperor has new clothes when in reality, the emperor isn’t wearing any clothes.” Mel is on his own and it is OVER for him in Hollywood!

Will another agency take him? If they do, it will speak volumes about them and they will not be respected. They will be seen as vultures. A lot of these heavy duty agents work together. They support one another. So, if Mel was fired from WMA/Endeavor, I doubt CAA or ICM – the three agencies who really matter in Hollywood and can do the job Mel requires, will take him on as a client.

SOME THINGS ARE UNFORGIVEABLE!

While you may think that this is no big deal, and that Mel will be even more popular because of all of this publicity, you are sadly mistaken.

The old adage “ there is no such thing as bad publicity” may have worked when Hollywood began in the 20’s, but it doesn’t work in this day and age.

It does work to make people aware of those who are not yet household names or who’s career is waning. While scandals get people to sit up and take notice and increase their awareness of you and hence your popularity, like it did with Kate Gosslelin, making her a star , it works the opposite when someone is already a super star and a household word.

When they do something like Mel has done- verbally abuse a woman and allegedly hit her while she was holding her baby, it is unforgivable!

Look at what happened to Rhianna beater, singer Chris Brown. His career will never be the same. But Mel’s case is much worse. There is not only alleged physical violence, there is a baby involved.

There are words involved that no one will tolerate like the N word. Comedian, Michael Richards. who played Kramer on Seinfield, essentially lost his career after his tirade in a nightclub where he used the N word and made other racist remarks.

Actor Isaiah Washington was let go from Grey’s Anatomy for using the other F word, when he called his fellow co-star a “faggott”.

How people responded to these egregious actions, set a precedent. No one will accept it and there is no going back! It is over for Mel Gibson!

ED LIMATO CAN’T HELP HIM NO AND NEITHER CAN HIS TOP PR SPIN PUBLICIST ALAN NIEROB

Mel can pay his publicist and my dear friend,Paul Block of Rogers and Cowan, millions of dollars and it the spin will never work! I am sure Alan is working 24/7 trying to do damage control .

I see how hard Alan is working ever since this mess occurred, as Alan tries to cast dispersions on Oksana by releasing stories that Mel is suing her for extortion. When that didn’t work, Alan no doubt, released a news flash about how Mel was suing her for leaking the tape, and suing her for breach of contract.

Who cares about what Oksana did? Anything she allegedly did is minor in comparison to what Mel did. In actuality, the tape says it all. It speaks volumes with regard to what Mel did to her.

So what if she leaked the tape? There are no secrets anymore anyway. The truth always comes out! No one can hide. The cat is out of the bag , the feathers are out of the pillowcase, and Humpty Dumpty has fallen off the wall and his pieces can never be put back together at all.

PR SPIN TO MAKE MEL THE VICTIM OF A SAD BRUTAL CHILDHOOD WON’T WORK EITHER

I will save publicist Alan Nierob a lot of time and effort, by letting him know that if his next move is to spin the pity card, it won’t work with Mel.

It would be easy to now blame Mel’s bad behavior on his alcoholism or a bipolar disorder but it won’t work. There is just way too much bad behavior. It is not just one thing. It is a lot of things.

Many people are alcoholics and bipolar and they don’t abuse others like Mel did. They aren’t racists, anti Semites, or alleged physical abusers.

It would also be easy for Paul to spin it by blaming all of his issues on Mel’s bad childhood and his abusive father, the ignorant father who is a Holocaust denier, and whom Mel has never spoken out against.

Maybe Alan Nierob will use this time and throw Mel’s father under the PR bus to save his client. But it won’t work. Lots of people have wacky or ignorant parents and they don’t act like Mel did. And besides, Mel is in his 50’s. How much longer can one blame a parent for their bad actions? It won’t work!

My advice to Alan, who happens to be Jewish and who is the son of precious Holocaust survivors, is to find another client. While you may want to do right by your clients, remember that deep down, Mel is not too crazy about you and could spit his vitriol on you personally in a heartbeat.

And speaking of heartbeats, spinning a story about Mel being rushed to the hospital because of a heart attack or some other unknown ailment or sending him into rehab won’t work either . The public is not stupid and they won’t buy anything but the truth!

TOXIC MEN

This coming November I have a book out called Toxic Men- Identify Deal With And Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. In the book it tells you how to identify Toxic Men like Mel and what body language signals to look for. It tells you what to do – what 10 options you have available if you are in a toxic relationship like Oksana is in. It gives you choices that can either turn the relationship around or end the relationship for good. And finally it tells you how to heal from the events that Oksana experienced.

While the book will be available in bookstores November 2010, you can order it online right now. Just click this link http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X and it will take you to amazon.com where you can order your copy ahead of time and get it as soon as it is released.

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Octomom’s Body Language on Oprah Shows Denial, Misguided Perception, and a Cry For Help While Oprah’s Body Language Showed Disgust

drlillianglass — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 17:38:48 +0000

Days later, I am still haunted by Oprah’s “Day In the Life of Nadya Suleman.” In observing Nadya’s body language, I can clearly say that this woman is misguided and disconnected from the reality of her very serious situation.

With her inappropriate laughter, at one extreme, and on the other extreme with her deadpan lack of appropriate facial animation and expression, monotone, meaningless mea culpa filled with self deprecation, and her misguided and unrealistic views, there is no question that Nadya is in need of some serious help.

OPRAH’S BODY LANGUAGE INDICATED SHE WAS NOT TOO KEEN ABOUT HAVING NADYA ON HER SHOW

Nadya said that her intention in appearing on Oprah because she was sick and tired of people having the wrong idea about her. So she wrote to Oprah to have her on the show and Oprah obliged, albeit unwillingly, based on Oprah’s body language.

Oprah, was clearly not too keen about having Nadya on her show and it showed in . Oprah’s uncharacteristic stiffness, lack of smiling, tenseness in her face and a turned –off vocal tone, showing disgust.

Oprah Winfrey even said on the show that she “had reservations” about interviewing Nadya Suleman, That is why she initially refused to join in on the Octomom media frenzy, until she received a letter from Nadya telling her how she wanted the world “to see her for who she is.”

WAS NADYA’S REAL INTENTION FOR GOING ON OPRAH TO GET OPRAH’S FINANCIAL HELP?

If you are not promoting a book , a TV show , a product,, or some charitable cause, why go on Oprah? While Nadya says her intention for going on the show was to set the record straight, I think that it may have been a lot more calculated on Suleman’s part.

Perhaps she thought that by going on Oprah, she could play the victim role , with the hope of Oprah bailing her out of her mess, like Oprah has done for so many of her guests in need throughout the years.

Oprah has been known to give away houses, college educations, seed money to start businesses, pay mortgages, and buy cars for previous guests .

So, perhaps Nadya thought why not go on Oprah and allow her to film her life with her children. This way, Oprah could see what a difficult time Nadya was having with all her chaos and perhaps Oprah would now provide her with more nannies, a bigger home, pay off her mortgage, provide a trust fund for all the kids for a college education, or all of the above.

But by the tone of Oprah’s voice and the direction of her questioning, along with the regular flashes of a disgusted facial expression, Oprah was having none of it.

She clearly let Nadya know that Nadya and her brood were on their own, sans Oprah’s help.

At the end of the show Oprah offered up nothing to Nadya except for wishing her well in an uncharacteristically non- Oprah-like unenthusiastic tone..

OPRAH TRIED TO PROVIDE OPTIONS FOR NADYA THROUGH HER QUESTIONING

While many would say that Nadya’s appearance on Oprah brought in a larger viewership that day and for that alone, Oprah should have rewarded Nadya with a little something like paying off her mortgage so that Nadya and her kids would have a roof over their heads and their home wouldn’t go into foreclosure.

But after watching Oprah for decades, this is not how Oprah works. Oprah is all about empowering people and helping those who try to help themselves. She doesn’t give them the fish. Instead she gives them the fishing pole so that they can be empowered to do things on their own.

After listening to Oprah’s questioning of Nadya, you could see Oprah getting more tense body language wise and more angry facial language and vocal wise because she soon discovered that talking to Nadya was like talking to a wall.

Nadya had no intention of helping herself. For example, Nadya was insistent that she would NEVER ever put her kids on television . She even remarked that it was “boarderlinbe abuise.”

Oprah then probed further asking Nadya if someday will she feel forced to put her kids on TV to earn money so they can survive, Nadya was adamant that she would never do it. Case closed!

Nadya then went on to say that she did appear on the cover of a magazine in a bikini but that is not who she is and that when the money runs out from that media gig, she doesn’t know how she will survive.

Nadya’s answer it appears was a clear ploy to get Oprah to feel sorry for her as a person who had “:no way out.” It was as though she was waiting for Oprah to say. “ Oh poor Nadya. Here is some money so now all your problems will go away.”

But Oprah did nothing of the sort. Instead Oprah probed deeper with her questioning and Nadya was even more adamant that she would not put her kids in the media.

NADYA’S INTENTION OF HAVING OPRAH HELP HER BACKFIRED DUE TO HER HYPOCRISY, CONTRADICITONS AND STUBBORNESS

Nadya’s stubbornness at not wanting her kids on TV and her hypocrisy of having posed bikini-clad for photos for money to feed her kids turned views off.. This, along with her now actually having her kids filmed on TV showing them in a day in her life reeked of hypocrisy and contradiction.

OPRAH MAY HAVE BEEN WILLING TO HELP BEFORE NADYA MENTIONED “BOARLINE ABUSE “

I have no doubt that Oprah could have helped if Nadya would have only shown signs of wanting to help herself. When Oprah openly asked her that if someday, wouldn’t she feel that she might have to put her kids on TV, Nadya barely let Oprah get the question out as she chimed in that she was appalled at the suggestion, calling it “ boarderline abuse.”

As Oprah asked that question I could see the wheels turning in Oprah’s mind . Oprah is the most powerful woman in the television world with her OWN television network incidentally called OWN (Oprah Winfrey Network) . Oprah could have easily given Nadya a prime time show like TLC did with Jon and Kate plus 8 where we watched these multiples grow up. The show could have provided Nadya with more nannies and more financial help to address the children’s needs.

If Oprah was behind Nadya’s show .Oprah would have NEVER abused any children by having them filmed for their own show. There is no doubt in my mind that she would have abided by the strict child labor laws ,

Oprah could have definitely helped Nadya in a legitimate way. But Nadya was too unaware and disconnected to the reality of her situation allow Oprah to help.

Oprah didn’t offer her the fish. Instead,. though her line of questioning , Oprah was no doubt was offering Nadya the fishing pole, with the opportunity to do a show so she could support her kids.

But as soon as Oprah head the words “boarderline abuse the wheels stopped turning in her mind as to how she could help Nadya get out of her dire financial situation. Oprah was done!

NADYA’S MISGUIDED PERCEPTION THAT PUTTING HER KIDS ON TV IS
“BOARDERLINE ABUSE!”

Nadya’s misguided perception of putting her kids on TV is not abuse , especially if Oprah was involved in doing a show with her. As long as there were proper things in place like the number hours they could be filmed, having medical help on hand, having psychologists the team available, having educators on hand, there would not be abuse.

ABUSE IS EMOTIONAL NEGLECT

Abuse is what we saw on TV in watching the day in Nadya’s life . Neglect is abuse and those kids are clearly neglected emotionally. She knows it and even mentioned that she feels guilty she cannot give them enough attention or supervision.

NOT IMMEDIATELY TAKING A BABY WITH AN EAR INFECTION TO THE ER IS ABUSE

The little baby with the ear infection, needed immediate attention STAT . He needed to be taken to the emergency room immediately and not have to wait until Nadya made a call to get someone to help. That baby did not have to suffer in pain until Nadya’s helper got out of bed in the middle of the night, went to the bathroom, got dressed, got in their car, to arrive at her house to get the baby to put him in her car , to buckle him into a baby car seat, and finally drive him to the ER.

Instead, Nadya needed to have someone on hand right then and then to grab the child and take him to the ET immediately so there would be less time that the child had to suffer in agony.

HAVING NO NANNIES OR ADDITIONAL HELP AT NIGHT WHEN SO MANY CHILDREN NEED ATTENTION IS ABUSE

The woman is so overwhelmed and sleep deprived , that she and not able to give each child the correct supervision. There are not enough nannies to go around during the day with only three nannies for 14 children. That is one nanny for 5 children.

The fact that there are NO nannies at night, is appalling . Oprah was even appalled any this and told Nadya she needed night nannies.

How can Nadya Not have nannies at night? It is a MUST!

Night time is when children need can need help the most,. This is the time when they often get scared and cry or something often goes wrong with them health wise. The fact that these babies are left crying all night long with no one to comfort them , I find this highly abusive and unconscionable.

There are thousands of reputable and decent people out there who would love to volunteer for a night shift to hold and care for any of those crying babies.

ABUSE IS NOT SUPERVSING YOUR KIDS TOT HE POINT THAT YOU ARE CLUELESS THAT ONE CHILD WAS STEPPING ON ANOTHER AND HURTING THEM

If it wasn’t for the Oprah camera crew, who knows what would have happened to the baby who was stepped on by their older sibling!. Who knows what damage was done to that child.! That was only one incident that we saw when there were camera filming the children..

One can only imagine what else goes on in that household when there are no cameras..

ABUSE IS ALLOWING A CHILD TO WALK AROUND WITH A CLEFT LIP WITHOUT SURGICAL REPAIR

Seeing the baby with the open cleft lip at that age disturbed me greatly. Having spent a lot of my early career working with patients who had facial deformities, I know a lot about people who are born with cleft lips and palates.

I know that surgery is usually performed during the first 3 to 6 months to repair a cleft lip and between 9 and 14 months to repair the cleft palate. . This baby apparently only has a cleft lip. That lip should have been repaired at least 6 months ago,

To allow this child to live with a gaping split in his lip where it will make his eating, swallowing, and speech and language development problematic as he grows is abuse in my book. It is unconscionable to not repair the child’s cleft and to have let it go untreated for so long a period

ABUSE IS ONLY GETTING TWO HOURS A NIGHT SLEEP AND NOT FUNCTIONING EFFECTIVELY AROUND YOUR CHILDREN

WE all know that most parents of babies rarely get a good night’s sleep. But when a human being ONLY gets 2 hours of sleep a night and that situation has been going on for over a year, this is very bad.It is not only bad for the parent but very bad for the child.

There have been enough studies in the literature throughout the years concerning sleep deprivation and what happens to a person if they have no slept for long periods of time, The bottom line is that they cannot function properly.

They cannot make the right decisions, Their perceptions are distorted, Their physical coordination and reaction time is impaired. They become less emotionally stable and more emotionally labile..

With Nadya getting a reported 2 hours of sleep per night, it is no wonder that her perceptions are distorted .How can she properly care for all of these children if her perceptions are misguided and she doesn’t think clearly? She could make a lot of mistakes in terms of how she cares for these children thereby endangering their welfare..

ABUSE IS NOT IMMEDIATELY ADDRESSING THE NEEDS OF A POTENTIALLY TROUBLED CHILD

Nadya mentioned several times how her 8 year old boy acts up and how he is more of a handful than her 8 babies. Maybe he acts up because he needs the attention. Maybe he acts up because he is troubled.

Whatever the case, the fact that this boy is acting up needs to be immediately addressed by a professional. By neglecting and not getting this boy proper help in the form of a therapist or counselor she is doing him a huge disservice.

EMPTY MONOTONE RHETORIC COMPLETE WITH MEA CULPA REFLECT MANIPULATION

Nadya has all the right words and says all the right things to show us she has psychological insight with regard to what she has irresponsibly and irrevocably done.

She says the 14 children came from “my own childish desires.” She says shew as “selfish and immature.”

As she self deprecates in telling us how bad and dumb she was to do this , she offers up no solutions for her problem.

Her monotone indicates that she has robotically discovered that it is much easier to agree with what the public thinks of her than to argue with them as she did early on when she appeared on the Dr. Phil show fighting with her mother. .

All of this is manipulation in my view. Her agreement with public sentiment is a way of shutting them up. What more can you say when you point the finger at someone and they in turn, point the finger at themselves in agreement that they were wrong? You can say nothing!

So now that she has shut people up by agreeing with them, she can now play the victim role and to the hilt and tell them how bad off she is in hopes that they will now help out. After all, she agrees with them as to what a bad thing she did.

NADYA LOVING THE ATTENTION !!!!!

Nadya tries to get you to feel sorry for her as she tries to justify her actions for accepting $100,000 for a bikini photo shoot in a magazine by appeasing any detractors and saying she feels “a tremendous amount of guilt” There is no doubt in my mind that she LOVED IT!!

Personally I have spoken to many limo drivers who have chauffeured Nadya back and forth to her many media gigs and they ALL tell me she LOVES all the attention.

Even though she tries to paint herself as this prim and proper innocent woman who just made a mistake because she loves kids so much, she no doubt LOVES that she has been offered a role in a porn film “three times. ” While she says she found being offered these film roles “disrespectful,”there is no doubt in my mind that it flattered her very fragile ego.

Nadya’s immaculate makeup, manicured fingernails, low cut tee shirts, figure hugging dresses, and short skirts not only scream for attention but scream that she wants to be seen a sexy. What better validation for your sexiness than to have a porn company offer you a film deal!

NADYA LOVES THE PAPPS AND THE ATTENTION

Pushing awkward multiple giant strollers to go to to a public park for a few minutes of playtime with the kids is bound to get anyone to look at you., l et alone the paparazzi..

That is exactly why Nadya does it. She no doubt LOVES the papps and loves the public attention. It is what fuels her.

She does not hate the papps as she says. According to my sources, . she has even contacted them to let them know of her whereabouts so that they can film her.

NADYA NEEDS TO GET SOME HELP BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE

When we saw Nada in a day in her life on Oprah talking to her eldest child who didnt want to go to school and told him that it was illegal for him not to go to school. She also said that and if he didn’t go to school social services would come and take him away or disrupt he family/

As we heard Nadya tell this to her little boy, it was clear to see that Social Services is in the forefront of Nadya’s mind.

There is no doubt that they are watching her like a hawk and waiting for some major slip up, so that they can to intervene,

When Oprah asked her if she would consider giving the kids to foster families to help take care of them, Nadya adamantly refused to consider the thought and said she would do anything in her power to make sure this never happened. But it may very well happen.

The ONLY way this will never happen is if she earns enough money to properly support these kids, get more nannies and more help for the kids, so that all of their immediate needs can be addressed.

She needs to have more time to sleep so that she can function properly. She needs to stop living in the illusion that she will find some work out there to support her family that isn’t media related. It will NEVER happen. Who will hire her? She cannot start a business of her own and take care of this family. There is only one solution.

NADYA NEEDS TO IMMEDIATELY RECONSIDER HER MEDIA OPPORTUNITIES

The only way Nada cn earn enough money for her kids and still be with her kids is if she puts her them on TV so that we can all watch them grow up. As far as abuse and exploitation, if child labor laws are followed and there is a therapist on hand at all times I foresee that this can be a win- win situation for all.

Say what you will about Kate Gosselin,, she never has to worry about having enough money for her kids. She may have to worry about other things like their psychological health. But she will at least have enough money to afford therapists for them in the future if and when they need one.

Love her or hate her, Kate has taken advantage of her situation and made a cottage industry out of her sextuplets as they are cared for financially, They will never starve to death and they have enough money in their trust funds to attend college if they choose to do so.’

This cannot be said for Nadya’s kids. People will continue to notice them and know who they are just because Nadya is their mother ,. Her excuse at wanting to givev them a normal life is naive. There is no way they will ever have a normal life based on their circumstances.

So in order to give them a better life, why not share them with the public and afford them opportunities they could never have? The one thing ,Kate Gosselin said about her show was that it gave the kids experiences and opportunities to do things they could never do because there was no money to do them.

For that reason alone Nadya should consider having them on a show, Besides people love watching babies grow, especially multiples as we saw from Jon and Kate Plus 8’s popularity.

That is why in my view, Nadya needs to write another letter to Oprah, Only this time she needs to let Oprah know that she reconsidered having her kids on TV and gives the OWN Network first choice in making a decision to produce and air her show.

By having a show featuring the kids, there will be a very public watchful eye over them so that no harm can come to them, In addition Nadya or her children will never have to worry where their next meal will be coming from.. http://www.drlillianglass.com/

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