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ITLESS and Infamous Women Rewarded- Kate Gosselin, Michaele Salahi, Rachel Uchitel, Ashley Dupree and Alexis Neiers-What Message Does It Give To Our Young Women?

Sunday, August 8th, 2010

 TALENT IS WHAT COUNTS, NOT SPIN AND HYPE FOR THE ITLESS

As you well know from reading my blogs, I cannot stand spin or hype or manipulating the public. I don’t like it when the public is fed lies or when people are easily given a free ride when they don’t deserve it. In essence, I like the truth! Most of all I like it when people who work very hard for what they do are justly rewarded for their efforts.

Having worked with so many celebrities and extremely talented people over the years in helping them hone their communication and body language skills for so many film and television roles,  I definitely know who has IT and who doesn’t. I know how hard these people work at making themselves the best they can be. I have seen their considerable efforts and what it takes to make it first hand.

That is why it disturbs me greatly when I see people who have repeatedly been “abusive and entitled ” like Kate Gosselin, “alleged White House gate crashing” Michaele Salahi, “jailed burglar of the wealthy” Alexis Neiers, and “ don’t call me a whore or a hooker even though I have repeated sex with married men or I will sue you”, Rachel Uchitel taking up space and getting rewarded for their bad behaviors with television shows and tons of air time.

IN TV, LOTS OF EYEBALLS TRANSLATE INTO  LOTS OF DOLLARS AND CENTS

In my view, these women have absolutely nothing to offer.  But television executives would disagree with me. To them, these women have a lot to offer- lots of eyeballs watching shows on which they appear . They don’t care if  they are hated by the public  or they  did or immoral or  illegal acts.

As long as people are watching them on TV and ratings are high , they are thrilled. When ratings are high that means the networks  can charge a lot of money to advertisers to buy commercials. That translates into more money for the networks. That is called the bottom line.

So as long as the public watches people they love to hate, the longer they will stay in the public eye. It’s a sad commentary but unfortunately, it is true.

THE UNTALENTED ,ENTITLED,  AND ITLESS KATE GOSSELIN

When networks see that they have a cash cow, like they did with Kate Gosselin, they will do anything and everything to make sure that they succeed no matter how ITLESS they are. They will re make their physical image andshow them off  on every major show like Dancing With the Stars so they will get more popular and so that even more people will watch them on their network.

That is exactly what they did with Kate Gosselin. It doesn’t matter if you or I believe that Kate has absolutely nothing to offer. It doesn’t matter whether  you or I think she has some relevant  issues in her psyche that causes her to be so  angry, arrogant, and self centered to name a few. She will continue to alienate people and she will continue to do it over the airwaves. She was even invited to do Sara Palin’s new show in order to boost the ratings.

Like it or not, this woman is here to stay with not one, but with  two television shows and a myriad of appearances and television specials. This former nurse  simply took fertililty pills and got pregnant with septuplets, six of whom survived in her womb.   Luckily a guardian angel- TLC  found her. They helped her out and gave her a show, so she could feed her family. We,  in turn got to watch cute babies develop. At first, people watched the show because of the cute kids. But then, even more people watched  the show  to see how awful Kate was and how terribly she abused  husband Jon.

Then the fiasco between them exploded into a full blown media He Say She Says war, which made even more people watch their show.  TLC was thrilled as people took sides and waited to see the “bad car accident”.

Then Jon pulled the plug, not allowing the kids on the air. He went even further to try and destroy TLC’s ,by trashing Kate so badly and causing so much havoc in the press with his multiple relationship scandals.

This pissed off TLC to no end and they were not going to allow him to  destroy their money making TV venture.  So they showed him a thing or two. They not only gave Kate her own show, but a second show to boot. In addition they slapped him with a lawsuit and silenced him.

They took this “itless” untalented, nasty, self absorbed woman- Kate Gosselin  and tried to make her into a sympathetic  victim by having her cry all over the airwaves.  (And please don’t waste your time calling me a Kate hater. Kate is not on my hate list. That list is reserved for people like Hitler and Stalin, terrorists, child molesters, and for those who do word for word copying of my work, among others I won’t bother to name ).

I am simply reporting behaviors I have observed. If you can’t see it them as well, let me suggest you take off your blinders and open your eyes and watch a re-run of  her egregious behavior on DWTS when she  fights with her esteemed dance teacher).

TLC  gave her opportunity after opportunity and she of course took it. They were on full throttle and determined to make Kate not only a  household name, but a  house-gold  name earning scores of money for them .

They redid her image from the frumpy housewife to the glamourous beauty, had her co- host the View where millions would see her, appear on late night shows, and on TV specials where they even had her and had her cry on cue to make her appear more sympathetic.  But when they  put her on DWTS they really saw how powerful their brand was.

Her fight with her teacher Tony Dovolani which showed her disrespect and arrogance and entitlement,  garnered the highest ratings.  People who loved her, watched  to see her succeed, while people who hated her watched to see her fail. When she was voted off the show, DWTS ratings plunged and TLC knew they hit the jackpot with Kate.

They even gave her another show and trotted her out there with more books so more people could connect to her. They threw her back on the View and Kimmel Live and everywhere else. TLC created this “itless”  who some consider to be a “monster,” out of spite  for Jon and they succeeded.

So like or not, love her or hate her, she is here to stay no matter how many latters you write or emails you send. The more people hate her the more they will watch her and the higher her ratings will be.

I only hope she remakes her insides as she did with her outsides for the sake of her kids. While both Kate and her “itlessness” bore me, my only concern is for her kids and how they will turn out. I clearly didn’t like it when I saw the videotape of the kids crying in terror when it came time to go back home to Kate after an outing with Jon. While we don’t know the exact reason the childen are terrified, if they are terrified  because of Kate’s behavior towards them, maybe TLC should use some of the money they earned because of  Kate’s infamy and spring for some therapy for both Kate and those kids.

ITLESS MICHAELE SALAHI-  INFAMY AND MORE TV TIME

To me Kate isn’t as disturbing as Michaele Salahi. I find this woman repulsive in every way from her arrogant tone of voice to her pleadingthe fifth and not being forthright. What did she have to hide?  I am even more repulsed that attorney Lisa Bloom for whom I once had a great deal of respect  has stooped so low as to represent this “itless creature. It was bad enough that Lisa represented one of the most TOXIC MEN Michael Lohan who tapes personal conversations with others and sells them to internet venues and who recenty sold a nude photo of his ex fiance sleeping  to one of the internet tabloid outlets. But now, she has gone further in collecting clients the public  loves to hate. I guess she is following in the footsteps of her mother Gloria Allred  who takes on the infamous like Rachel Uchitel and a myriad of  Tiger’s sex partners.

If Michaele had an invitation to the White  House  party,  like she said she did, why didn’t she show it to everyone?  On the Today Show she told how she couldn’t say anything at the hearing  because of Bravo. That may or may or may  not be the case. Did the Salahi’s have an invitation that Bravo gave to her? If so, why didn’t she just admit to that early on ? Or was she so entitled that she told Bravo that it was no biggie- that she could always get into top of the line events with or without an invite.

Now she and or her husband created a huge fiasco saying that Whoopi Goldberg hit her when the video clearly shows that Whoopi was  only trying to get her attention and merely re directing the topic of conversation. There is no question in my mind that  she knew Whoppi meant no malice. Why would Whoopi risk her reputation and position at the View to hit a guest? It made no sense other than Michaele and her, whom  I perceive as TOXIC husband Tareq,  trying to get more media time.

When her, whom I perceive as  TOXIC  husband Tareq got into the fray and upset Whoopi with accusations she hit his wife and started taking photos of her, I knew then and there what he was trying to do. He was trying to parlay this non incident  into more infamy for his  wife, whom people on her own show found TOXIC .

One thing is for sure, people who would never think of tuning into the DC Housewives, on Bravo will do so now. Because of this incident, Michaele will always  be assured her spot on the show as the villain. I am sure that Bravo is thrilled to no end that this fiasco occurred. Remember the bottom line is more eyeballs equal more revenue for the network.

So the this stylishly dressed , skeletal , very masculine voiced, opportunist who put national security in jeopardy by getting that close to the President of the United States without proper security clearance. is here to stay- at least on Bravo, Many would agree with Sheei Shephard on the View that she should have been put in jail rather than on a televison show.

ITLESS RACHEL UCHITEL- “CANT SAY “YOU KA TELL SHE’S A HOOKER” EVEN THOUGH SHE HAS BEEN A SEX MATE TO MANY MARRIED MEN,  OR YOU WILL BE SUED”

Then there is Rachel Uchitel. Attorney Lisa Bloom’s mother Gloria Allred was able to secure millions upon millions of dollars for Rachel. She also made it clear that no one could call Rachel a “hooker” or a “whore”, even though many may  look at her in those terms and will always look at her in those terms.

In fact she threatened the View and Joy Behar with a lawsuit if Joy didn’t apologize for the plays he made on Rachel’s last name , “Uchitel” by saying “You ka tell she’s a hooker.” Another comedian even got sued for calling her a “whore.” However, doesn’t seem too worried about the suit, Maybe he has information which can prove she is or  has been a whore.  If he does, then  you can then call her a “whore” without being sued.  To me a whore is someone who exploits others for money. I think getting an alleged  10 million dollars to  buy her silence and not speak publicly about Tiger Woods would fall into that category.

So the message was sent  out not to defame her. But what Rachel doesn’t get is that she defamed herself by having sex with at least two married men of whom we know.

Rachel  allegedly helped break up a marriage and she got rewarded for this not only with what is an alleged 10 million dollars, but with television time. Xtra gave her a TV gig as a reporter, even though she did an awful job in my view and was the ultimate in being ITLESS.

She  was unbearable to listen to with  her hyper-nasal monotone voice and even more unbearable to  watch with  her expressionless monotone face as she constantly brushed her hair back and pursed her over glossed overly inflated lips. Yet, she no doubt received a hefty compensation to do this even though there were so many more qualified,  beautiful, and talented young women who were  journalism graduates to boot, to do this job.

Rachel is no doubt gearing up for an Image Rehab. That is why she agreed to appear on Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew.  She has no doubt, realized that you can have ten million dollars but if people still  view her as a skank and a whore, homewrecker or a hooker, or a low life,  even if you can’t say it publicaly,it doesn’t matter.If people look at you like  alow life and have no respect for you and disdain for you, all the money in the world doesn’t matter as you are  vilified forever and considered a  joke.

So she went into Celebrity Rehab, and together with Dr Drew they came up with some type of addiction for her to use as an excuse for her egregious past behavior. Maybe it will be an addiction to  pills  or an addiction to her relationship with her father in  looking for that father image in married men , or maybe it will be due to an addiction to money and rich and famous men who take care of her financially. I guess we will have to watch the show to find out the big reveal of “ Rachel’s Addiction.”

Even if she is addicted to whatever, it is still no excuse for what she did. Lots of people are addicted to something and don’t act like she did.  People resent her even  more for her capitalizing on the tragedy and earning what is said to be ten million dollars in exchange for her silence towards Tiger Woods.

After watching her body language and how she comes across in interviews, she is not a likeable character and no coaching int he world can ever make her likeable.  There is something in her character that pops out on screen- the entitlement, arrogance, and hardness. When she spoke of being the Original” Mean Girl” in an Xtra interview she had with Mario Lopez, it  said all we needed to know about Rachel. There still appears to be a mean edge about her. It seems to be who she is based on all of the interviwes we have seen of her thus far.

Even if she and Tiger happen to reconnect and he marries her, as the tabloids have recently reported, she will always be looked at by the public with an evil eye. She will always be seen as the other woman and a homewrecker.

The villain label fits her and I don’t believe she can ever shake it no matter what she does. I am sure that this label will be cemented forever, as we watch her clash with super model Janice Dickenson who will also appears on the  Celebrity Rehab show . No matter what you say about Janice, she has earned her stripes. She pioneered her field and worked really hard for everything she has in life. Unlike, Rachel, no one gave Janice a free financial ride.

FORMER PROSTITUTE ASHLEY DUPREEE AND JAILED THEIF ALEXIS NEIRES –HORRIBLE MESSAGE TO YOUNG GIRLS

What bothers me is the message that this is being giving to out young girls by rewarding egregious behavior. It’s not only Rachel Uchitel ( whom you can;t call a hooker or a whore or she will sue you) who got a lot of good things in life for doing bad things. It is other women who were prostitutes  for madams,  like Ashley Dupree, who got rewarded with air time and her own advice column in a New York newspaper.

Instead of giving such a gig to a qualified relationship expert, the message is that just by having sex with famous men, you too can get you rich and famous, especially of you get caught.

The message is also that even if you burglarize things from the rich and famous like 18 year old Alexis Neires did, you can get rich and famous as well. If you happen to get caught, you can get even richer and more famous and even get your own TV show like Alexis did on the E! channel with her show “Pretty Wild TV!”.

IF THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH EYEBALLS THERE IS NOT ENOUGH MONEY AND NO SHOW

The whole thing absolutely repulses me. Someone needs to put their foot down and say” enough is enough “ when it comes to rewarding people for egregious behavior. While someone definitely needs to set these standards, perhaps  that “someone” is us.

Remember- eyeballs translate into money for the networks. The less eyeballs, the less money. So keep that in mind the next time you are curious about watching  Kate Gosselin, Rachel Uchitel, Michaele Salahi, or Alexis Neiers. www.drlillianglass.com

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Lindsay Lohan’s Lying Body Language to In Hollywood.com Interview Shows Defensiveness and Anger

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

As a body language expert being able to read between the lines can be very upsetting when you see someone who was once so gorgeous and talented headed for destruction. Lindsay Lohan’s one on one interview with Hollywood.com was very sad and disturbing to me.

As Lindsay answered the very blunt and direct questions posed to her, there was nothing about it that rang true except for one part.

That was the part when she spoke about how negatively she feels about her father and how she can’t stand him.  She called him a convicted felon and said with regard to her father  that “enough is enough.”

You can see this in the above photo. That was the only time that her body language showed that she was direct. She faced forward and leaned out and looked directly at the interviewer.

Her facial expression was congruent with what she said. She looked pained and angry based on the tension in her lips and jaw area and on her forehead.

It makes one wonder whether  father Michael Lohan’s negative  actions stimulate Lindsay’s very disturbing and destructive behavior.

If she does have an alleged alcohol and or drug problem, is his going to the press and sharing her private conversations adding to her aberrant behaviors?

What rings very true is when she says she has nothing to do with him.

LINDSAY’S “ TELLS” WHICH INDICATE   LYING

The rest of her interview was filled with signals of deception, which indicated that she was lying about almost every one of the issues about which she was questioned.

Here were the lying “tells” which were observed throughout the interview :

1. Shoulder shrugging

2. Pulling back

3. Looking down and away from the interviewer

4. Looking up to indicate that she was manufacturing answers to the questions

5. Excessive eye blinking

6. Repetition of words and phrases

7. Repeating the question at the beginning of the sentence

8. Using “uh” um’s a lot

9. Telling way too much information

10. Going off on tangents

11. Making countless excuses for actions and behaviors

12. Pulling the head and body back

13. Squirming in her seat

BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS IS DEFINITELY NOT “PSEUDOSCIENCE” OR “JUNK SCIENCE” . INSTEAD IT IS BOTH AN ART AND A SCIENCE

And for those of you who are:

a. contentious,

b. die hard Lindsay Lohan fans who can see nothing wrong with her behavior, or

c. who just plain like to argue, please take your fight somewhere else . ‘

Don’t waste your time or mine or show your lack of knowledge by telling me that body language analysis is a pseudoscience or junk science.

I can assure you that it is not. It is based on science and behavioral analysis.

Look at the work of one of the greatest body language researchers of our time, Dr. Paul Ekman, of Stanford University. who’s work on facial tells and micromovement  analysis is showcased in the Fox hit television show “ Lie to Me.”

While body language analysis is based on scientific evidence , there is also an art to it. It takes a long time to learn it and an even longer time to be really good at it.

I liken it to what a surgeon does. Based on his education, knowledge and experience, the surgeon, knows exactly what to do during an operation. But the success of the operation depends on his skill as a surgeon and how well he uses and manipulates his hands. In that respect, it is an art.

The same holds true in body language analysis. Anyone that tells you differently that it is a junk science or that it is a pseudoscience is completely ignorant and/ or has a personal axe to grind like a certain self proclaimed Tourette syndrome psychologist named Leslie E. Packer PhD who writes the blog called pogowasright and  “ Chronicles of Dissent” with the operative word being on her moniker “dissent.”

DR.LILLIAN GLASS HAS NEVER BACKPEDDLED, AS ” PSYCHOLOGIST” LESLIE E. PACKER AUTHOR OF “CHRONICLES OF DISSENT” AND POGOWASRIGHT, ERRONOUSLY STATES.

I first encountered this psychologist, Leslie E. Packer Ph.D , author of the blog “Chronicles of Dissent” and  pogowasright , after I read a very nasty and defamatory blog where she wrote an internet headline that I backpeddled  in relation to my series of blogs about Britney Spears . Britney if you remember, had  had some issues at the time.

I wondered who would anonymously write such untrue and defamatory comments about me, be such a hater towards other media psychologists, in show cowardly behavior by not signing their name, and even go as far as admitting she wrote to the Board of Psychology (who by the way ended up ignoring her hostile efforts).

This blogger continued her personal vendetta by attacking my work as a body language expert, thumbing her nose at it and calling it junk and pseudoscience.

But what she didn’t count on was how I ironically used my scientific skills as a body language expert to uncover this formerly anonymous blogger’s identity. In doing so it completely refuted  her ignorant claims that  body language analysis is  junk or pseudoscience.

DR. LILLIAN GLASS’ BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS WAS USED TO UNCOVER THE IDENTITY OF ANONYMOUS BLOGGER, TOURETTE SYNDROME PSYCHOLOGIST LESLIE E. PACKER.  AUTHOR OF  BLOG CHRONICLES OF DISSENT AND POGOWASRIGHT

After analyzing various “tells” in her blog writings, I discovered that all of  this  Toxic verbal venom towards me and my profession came from a 70 something New York based psychologist ( a non- media psychologist) who in my view had a definite axe to grind.

In fact, to me it seemed like nothing else but a clear case of professional jealousy. Based on my analysis of her specific “tells” I discovered her name was Leslie E Packer a PhD who reportedly dealt with patients with Tourette’s Syndrome . She was also the author of  a  blog called Chronicles of Dissent” and pogowasright. When I punched up her name on the internet it appeared that she was no stranger to her activity as there were numerous allegedly derogatory headlines over the internet  which several others made about her.

So, the bottom line is that anyone who calls body language analysis a pseudoscience or junk science is to be ignored.

They may  allegedly have “issues” or a personal axe to grind.

 WHAT LINDSAY REALLY SAID

ANGER. DENIAL AND DEFIANCE

When Lindsay was asked point blank whether  she should be in rehab , the most telling  signal was that she looked away, In a defensive facial move, she  slightly wrinkled her forehead as she lifted her shoulder (as in giving the cold shoulder)

In an angry clipped staccato tone stated “ I don’t see why I have to go.” Her answer clearly indicated that she was in denial. She was angry at the question and even more angry at the notion that someone would think of sending her to rehab .

As she looks away her face reflects her defiance as she continues on making lame excuses.

SIGNALS OF DECEPTION AND VULNERABILITY WHEN DISCUSSING “MISSING” PASSPORT

When someone repeats the question you asked and manipulates one of your key words, chances are they a re not telling you the truth.

The interviewer bluntly asks Did your passport really go missing or was it an excuse.?”

Immediately you notice a shoulder shrugs she repeats the same sentence. These are two definite signals of deception.

Then she continues , as she touches her neck. “ and says “ other thing a piece of jewelery and items that were in my possession, so I thought.”

The volunteering of that much information which was not requested, along with her shoulder shrug were two more signals of deception, making it a total of four signals in just a sentence .

When Lindsay denied that her passport didn’t go missing but rather was stolen, this change in semantics shows that she has definite problems with getting things straight. She had no proof the passport was stolen.

In the photo above you can clearly  see that notice that Lindsey  holding onto her neck and chin. The neck is one of the the most vulnerable parts of our body

So when someone holds onto it it usually reflects that  they are indeed feeling vulnerable. Lindsay may very well have felt vulnerable after being asked this question which she most probably knew was not true.

Finally her shifting her eyes to the side as soon as she was asked the question is further indication of  deception.

WAY TOO MUCH INFORMATION ABOUT MISSING PROGRAMS’

When someone gives you too much information and makes excuses and gets into excess detail, they are usually not telling you the truth.

Lindsay is full of justifying her behavior and that is a huge signal of deception.

LYING ABOUT TAKING DRUGS

When Lindsay was asked if she was still taking drugs the telling signal of deception was a shoulder shrug and her looking away as though she didn’t want to face the truth. The muscle tension in her forehead  indicating that she as angry she was asked this question.  d

Her cocking her head to the side and looking own to the side indicates that she is attempting to manufacture an answer.

DEFENSIVENESS

Perhaps the most telling thing throughout the interview was Lindsay’s defensiveness,. This was really evident when she was asked about missing her programs.

Instead of a simple yes or no answer as to whether she attended all of her programs she looks worried and terrified and is full of excuses about how she stayed in NY and did another class and something about a funeral.

THE INDIAN EMBASSY ???

When people lie their excuses often get more and more creative. They make no sense whatsoever min terms of their decision making process.

When Lindsay said she   tried  everything to get back to LA for her court date she said she even went to the Indian embassy.

This makes no sense  at all. An  American has no business going to an Indian embassy. They can only help their Indian citizens not American ones.

ANGRY CHIN JUT WHEN ASKED ABOUT HER PARTYING IN CANNES

In this photo above we really see a very angry Lindsay Lohan who looks very defiant as she juts her chin forward and glares at the interviewer who asked her about her partying in Cannes. She completely denied it stating that she was working.

She was extremely defensive body language wise with  a raised shoulder indicting that she was ready for a fight. It;s much like an aggressive animal does with raised hackles when they are ready to attack.

The odd thing was that the movie that she was allegedly promoting a movie  on which she says she was working hasn’t even  been made. So in essence she was there to promote an idea for a movie that has  no production date

LINDSAY AND HER  NEW ADDITON – A   SCRAM BRACELET

The whole thing is so sad. It was so sad to see Lindsay looking so devastated in the courtroom as she was sentenced to wear a SCRAM bracelet to determine if she would be free of alcohol in her system.

She was then told that she would be subject to random drug testing. I certainly hope that Lindsay can accomplish these two things. I hope that she will not drink or take drugs. I hope that  if she is addicted to either of these substances that she take advantage of this situation to get herself sorted out in a 12 step program or get herself to an addiction specialist who can help her. Rehab may also be a good choice for her. Even though she failed at it in the past, she just may succeed this time around. Oftentimes it may  take many stints in rehab to get clean of drugs and alcohol.

FAMILY DYNAMICS

I pray for Lindsay. I would love to see her succeed and become an inspiration to others. I know that this talented and beautiful young woman has suffered a lot of emotional distress due to her relationship with her TOXIC father.

 Instead of taking it out on herself and self  destructing,  she needs to get some professional help so that she can turn her pain outward and not inward.

DAD

Personally, I believe that the damage between Lindsay and her father is irreparable. When he shared her personal audiotapes with the world and allegedly received payment for doing so I believe that was the ultimate betrayal. There are some things which are unforgivable and in my view  that is one of them.

I believe that she needs to continue to unplug from her father and continue to keep him at arms length from her. He does not need to be in her life. I believe that there are some people who are so TOXIC to others that they can wreak havoc on their psyche and restimulate self destructive behaviors.

MOM

While Dina her mother is clearly an enabler based on her actions and denial of Lindsay’s issues, there is no doubt that Lindsay loves her mother. You can see her love for her mother when she talked about her mother in the Hollywood.com interview.

You could even see the affection the two have for one another in the latest ET interview where Lindsay surprised her mother with having her mother’s house cleaned by a professional organizer. I think that their relationship could be a lot healthier if they both had some  joint counseling together and Dina learned about boundaries and not enabling her daughter.

SIBLINGS

There is also a lot of affection between Lindsay and her siblings. In fact she became teary eyed when she talked about not being able to attend her younger brother’s graduation because she was going to be in court .

I believe that Lindsay can turn this negative experience into a positive one and use the time to get herself sorted out.

I hope that she gets counseling to help her deal with the pain that appears to be gnawing inside of her.  Nothing  would be more inspiring than to see  a positive  comeback for this beautiful and gifted actress. www.drlillianglass.com

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