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Dolphin Communication to Help Military Keep Strait of Hormuz Open

Saturday, January 14th, 2012

Iran is threatening to close the Straight of Hormuz and if so the military will send in their best allies- dolphins who have been trained to detect mines with their unique communication skills.

Dolphins  have sonar  that is so advanced that  they can discern specific coins from hundreds of  feet away . The  US Navy have many  bottlenose dolphins in the who are taught to hunt for mines and drop acoustic transponders nearby.In the above photo you can see dolphins with a  tracking device attached to its fin

The the dolphins only detect the mines, they don’t destroy them and they are unharmed according to the military.

These  US dolphins are being  trained and used for peace purposes unlike the Iranian dolphins which were purchased 12 years ago from the Soviets who’s navy initially trained them  kill and attack warships and frogmen. All of these killing dolphins who were  trained to attack enemy frogmen with harpoons attached to their backs, or to drag them to the surface to be taken into captivity were sold to Iran, because the trainer could no longer feed them after they were sent to an aquatic attraction in Sevastopol.

Many of these killer dolphins are capable of undertaking  kamikaze strikes against enemy carrying mines that would explode a ship on contact with its hull. In fact the

dolphins were allegedly trained to  distinguish foreign and Soviet submarines  use just by the sound of their propeller. Dolphins were allegedly trained to  distinguish foreign and Soviet submarines  use just by the sound of their propeller.

According to research by the Whale and Dolphin Conservation Society, numerous ex-Soviet military dolphins have been sold to aquariums around the world. The aquarium in Sevastopal was one of them, who in turn sold them to the Iranians for nefarious purposes.

Then seven hers later  in 2007, 152 dolphins were washed up on Iran’s southern coast  when Iranian fisherman were  said to have beaten the animals who got entangled in their fishing nets. While the Iranians accused the US of being behind this , there is no documentation or proof of this. Some even say that these massive dolphin deaths were due to electromagnetic waves from various military vessels in the gulf, including Iranian vessels.

It is unconscionable that any animal is treated inhumanely or used for evil purposes. By nature dolphins are not violent creatures so to use them in this capacity  towards violent acts is a  major sin against nature.  Unlike the Iranians, the US has only utilized the help of these amazing  dolphins for good  and not evil.

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Dr. Lillian Glass Never Lies About What She Sees, Including Kate Gosselin and Bodyguard’s Body Language

Sunday, August 22nd, 2010


Oftentimes different magazine, internet,  and television show venues  will ask me what I think about a particular celebrity or newsmaker’s relationship. They will often present me with a series of photos or videos and ask for my assessment.

Most recently HollywoodLife. com  asked me to comment on the relationship between Kate Gosselin and her bodyguard Steve Neild. I gave them my honest assessment based on various tells which I observed. This is only my opinion and my view. I did not  personally hang out with  Kate or Steve or witness their alleged coziness firsthand.

Apparently there have been documented reports of  physical sightings where Kate and her body guard have become rather cozy with legs touching legs. In fact the esteemed Huffington Post reported it.

I stated in the Hollywoodlife.com blog that that Kate seemed to fancy her bodyguard based on her body language. Steve, on the other hand continued to show professional decorum as you can see in these photos below.

Apparently,  the Kate Gosselin lovers  and fans on their  “Kate Plus Eight Gosselin Family Fansite”   were all up in arms and got their panties in a bunch stating that I made up lies to  promote myself and to insult Kate. This is not true.

In the first place, I do not need Kate Gosselin to promote myself. I have being doing body language analysis well before there was a Kate Gosselin in the media. As far as insulting Kate is concerned, it was never my thought or intention to insult Kate. I was merely describing my personal body language observations.

Here are some excerpts from the  HollywoodLife.com article:

We told you earlier that Kate and longtime bodyguard Steve Neild got cozy while vacationing in Bald Head Island, N.C. during the week of Aug. 9. A shocking eyewitness report from The Huffington Post alleges that the duo were sitting side-by-side, legs touching, on the beach!

Photo #1: “Her head is cocked like she’s interest to know what Steve thinks. He is kind of in control here and she’s not used to that. Look at her toe, they are in sync step wise, and there’s one foot where her toe is facing him — she really likes him. Her shoulders are a little rounded and hunched over meaning she’s being a little subservient. The fact that his hands are in his pockets shows he’s hiding something like he’s hiding what’s going on between them.”

Photo #2: “Look at the way she’s looking at him. It’s like he’s her man servant and she can yell at him. Her foot is directly in the back of him and she’s looking at him like she’s trying to control him and tell him what to do. Kate’s legs are spread wide which means it’s very casual and very very comfortable with this guy … overly comfortable.”

Photo #3: “With her hand on the hip it’s kind of like an arrogant and defiant pose. Her shoulders are rounded again and she’s leaning into him. The distance between them is too close like he’s trying to keep it hidden and professional, but she’s giving it away. It appears in this photo that she likes him more than he likes her with the way he is facing.”


Photo #4: “Her face shows that she’s very happy around him. You never see Kate smile. She’s a step behind him and there’s not a lot of distance between them. They are also in sync again and that indicates she likes him. Again, he has a hand in his pocket which reveals he’s hiding something.

It’s definitely possible they are having an affair. She’s very comfortable around him.”

POSSIBLE” MEANS POSSIBLE

Notice that I said  the word “possible”, I didn’t say they were  100 per cent  having an affair , I said “possible”.

Whether you love Kate or not you have to admit that anything is possible, especially when people spend as much time around one another as these two apparently do, with reported adjoining rooms in hotel stays.

I am not saying they are or they are not having an affair as I am not in their room.  But I will say that they do look rather cozy in my view.’’

TELLING THE TRUTH AND CLEARING UP  FALSE MISCONCEPTIONS AND MISINFORMATION

As a result of this article many Kate supporters, didn’t bother to read what I said exactly but instead,  blindly went off half cocked. They looked at a headline which I did not write and made many comments where they tried to minimize my background and education  in an attempt to dismiss what I had to say in order to make themselves feel better.

So I decided to address and clarify  their issues so there would be no misunderstandings.

Being an open person with nothing to hide, I will address the  concerns and comments from the Kate loving fans  so they can rest easy.

  1. What I do in body language analysis has nothing to do with  neurolinguistic  programming. Body language analysis is both and art in having experience in knowing how to read others and a science based on research concerning specific behaviors which indicate specific meaning.

2. Kate’s alleged “pigeon toedness” that a commenter suggested was not a factor in  describing her body language tells with Steve Neild

3. As far  as any comments I made  regarding the  Gosselin kids are concerned, when Jon and Kate were going through their split up, I was a proponent of their speaking with a counselor to help them with the transition, especially since the divorce was so public, ugly and tense.

Kate even publicly  stated how it was difficult for the kids and how the kids were acting out at the time. I believed and still believe that seeking the advice of a licensed professional that specializes in treating children who appear to be acting out or undergoing stress, can only help a child.

4. As for my background, I am more than happy to share it with you. I am not a medical doctor – an MD. I  do have a PhD in Communication Disorders from the University of Minnesota and a Masters Degree from the University of Michigan in Speech communication. I also have a strong background in the study of psychology although I am not a practicing or licensed psychologist. I have a post doctorate in Medical Genetics  from UCLA where I was the only PhD in an MD program where I closely examined structures and behaviors related to specific genetic disorders. My training in this field has been  instrumental in terms of my developing my body language reading skills.

I have spent close to three decades doing communication and body language analysis not only for my clients in my private practices, but for the Hollywood community for various films and television shows,  as well as using my skills in the law enforcement and legal communities. I have also written numerous books on the topic and lectured around the world.

5. As  far as being a Kate Hater is concerned, I do not hate Kate as I have said repeatedly. In fact, I  respect that she has numerous mouths to feed and has found a way to earn a living in the media to support her children. I believe that she is indeed very lucky to have a guardian angel like TLC to support her and her family.

6.And finally, I have  discovered is that there are lot of Kate fans or shall I say “fanatics” who cannot bear to hear anything they may perceive as negative when it may in fact not be negative at all. To them, I say, take off your blinders and look at what” is”, not at what is the fantasy you created there to be.

If  Kate is having an affair with her bodyguard, that is her business. Maybe they spent so much time together and found they had a lot in common. Maybe they fell in love. Maybe he fell out of love with his wife. Maybe he has an open marriage.  Only Steve and Kate know this for sure.

Like everyone else, Kate certainly deserves love.  As I said anything is “possible.” While it is possible that they are an item, it is also “possible”It is also “possible” that they are just very cozy close intimate friends. Only time will tel for sure.www.drlillianglass.com

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Laurence Fishburne’s Daughter’s Body Language Show’s She’s Enjoying Getting Back At Oscar Nominated Father

Friday, August 13th, 2010

When you look at the above photo of  Lawrence Fishburne and his daughter Montana back at a Martin Luther King event  in  2006 when she was around 15, you can see that Lawrence is not paying much attention to his daughter. She doesn’t look that thrilled in this photo either,  as she looks down. There doesn’t appear to be that much of a connection between father and daughter.

Then on closer examination of the two at the same event, you can see how she appears to be looking at her father for some attention or some recognition or some acknowledgment.His shoulder is out  in front of her and she is in the background in her father’s shadows. If he took his daughter out to his event, you,would think he might smile a bit, look over  at his daughter, embrace her,  or show her off a bit as a proud father.

While no one knows for sure what the relationship was between father and daughter while Montana was  growing up,  perhaps these photos captured the essence of their relationship- distant.

If this type of  energy was captured in a photo four years ago, it makes you wonder how much attention Laurence paid  to his daughter in her early life.

If  he was  distant to her or ignored her, is that why she is now coming out as a porn star? Is it to get back at daddy and finally get his attention by publicly embarrassing him for all the  times he didn’t pay any attention to her?

After looking at her body language during her interview with E!’s Guiliana Ransik, it was clear that she was getting some enjoyment at rattling  the cage and finally getting her Oscar nominee and well respected actor father  to notice her.

Apparently, her father was said to be so rattled by his daughter’s porn debut, that it was reported that he unsuccessfully  attempted to but up all the videos of his daughter from the production company, Vivid Entertainment.

When Guiliana asks Montana is her father was upset with her, she lets out a lough laugh and a shows a huge genuine smile, complete with raised cheeks, squinted eyes and lots of teeth, She is clearly thrilled that she made such an impact on her father to the point that he got upset. The fact that he actually showed emotion towards her no doubt thrilled her.

You can then see a big smile on her face as she says that it is hard for any ” any dad to see his daughter like that.” He smile shows that she is no doubt pleased at this.

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In this photo Montana relays that she has had communication with her father but not about her porn video. As you can see she back away and does a shoulder shrug.

This is often  indicative of someone who may not be telling all or telling the truth. She also raised her eyebrows and purses her lips at the same time which indicates that she doesn’t want to say more because most likely she knows what she said is not the case.

It is hard to believe that a father who tried to buy up all of his daughters porn videos would not have a few words with her about the subject. If they communicated, it would have most likely been before he knew about her upcoming porn  career. If they did communicate after he knew about the porn video, I am sure they did not just  discuss  the weather. Frankly, I imagine he was so upset with her that I  doubt they communicated at all.

Then the truth comes out as Montana admits that she and her father are not on speaking terms. You can see that she suddenly has a serious facial demeanor. She backs away and  also turns her shoulder away which may indicate her  upset  at the situation.

Then Montana gets more serious as she says that the reason he is upset about her actions is because it is his reputation and that they are linked together. As she says this you can she lens forward and  that her shoulders are rounded and her  head is bowed and she looks up as she speaks.

This is a signal indicating embarrassment. It is a kind of sheepishness as deep down she knows she has caused her father embarrassment. She in  turn, feels  a bit embarrassed  herself in that she created this embarrassment for him . She knows her power of being linked together as father and daughter and used it in an attempt to tarnish his reputation.

In an interview with TMZ, she said

I heard that he’s mad at me, but I haven’t spoken to him yet,”I feel pretty confident that I can work things out with him. I think he wants to support me in everything I do, and though he sees this now as a negative, I believe in time he will view it as a positive.” .

She can dream on. Laurence will never support her action  after she appeared in a hardcore pornographic video with the tagline “An A-List Daughter Makes her XXX Debut.” How could this man who has worked so hard hos entire live to develop such a stellar reputation in show business, ever see his daughter’s move as positive?

NOT GETTING DAD’S HELP IN SHOW BUSINESS MAY HAVE  LEAD HER TO DOING PORN

In my view based on Montana’s comments and actions indicate that she may be  self entitled and expect things to be handed to her. She said that she was  eager to break into Hollywood and become a star like dad, but doesn’t realize that to become a star like her dad takes a lot of work and a lot of paying her dues something she was not willing to do.

Perhaps she expected dad’s help to get into show business and he ignored her .  Perhaps he told her  to find another profession. Perhaps he told her that she needed to do the work and pay her dues like taking acting classes and  starting off in smaller roles and working her way up. Whatever the case, she decided to capitalize on his good name and go into show business anyway.

She took the fasted route towards fame and notoriety BY taking off her clothes. She saw others do is so she thought, “Why not?”

BLAME IT ON KIM KARDASHIAN

In fact she looked at  Kim Kardashian as  a role model in terms of how to make a name for herself. But what she didn’t  get is that Kim did not intentionally release a porn tape. It was allegedly leaked and she as a reluctant porn star, not a willing one like Montana. She naively says:

“I’ve watched how successful Kim Kardashian became and I think a lot of it was due to the release of her sex tape,”I’m hoping the same magic will work for me. I’m impatient about getting well-known and having more opportunities and this seemed like a great way to get started on it.”

This statement clearly shows how misguided  her thinking appears to be. The only reason Kim Kardashian made it is because of her dealings with Ryan Seacrest and having her own reality show with her sisters and her family. Unless Ryan Seacrest or anyone else offers her a reality show, then she is going nowhere. For many, it might be a curiosity at  first it to see Lawrence Fishburne’s daughter having X rated sex, but after that,  unless she has  unique and special talents and skills, she is just one of the many porn stars who will come and go.

MORE ISSUES WITH MONTANA

Montana’s father isn’t the only man who’s attention Montana was trying to get.  Currently she is being investigated for allegedly roughing up her boyfriend’s ex girlfriend.

In fact she was was arrested in February and accused of breaking into the woman’s home. Forced her into the bathroom and repeatedly bet her. Even though she  pleaded not guilty to simple battery and false imprisonment,she  may be facing on additional charges of assault with a deadly weapon and trespassing.

Apparently this is a very troubled young lady. We will never know  how she became so troubled. We will never know whether she felt neglected or unloved by her father while growing up or whether she was spoiled and over indulged. The bottom line is that she needs to get her father issues  sorted out if she wants live a healthy and productive life with self respect. www.drlillianglass.com

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Lee Anthony, Accused of Sexual Molestation By Sister Casey, Exhibits Inappropriate Behaviors on Witness Stand Mouthing “I Love You” to Sister

Monday, July 19th, 2010

CINDY’S STUNT IN THE COURTROOM SAYING CAYLEE IS STILL ALIVE WON’T WORK AT TRIAL

It was hard enough  to stomach Cindy Anthony lying through her teeth  as she told Jose Baez and the world that she believed Caylee was still  alive as a  lame attempt to save Casey’s worthless hide by trying to instill reasonable doubt.

Has premature senility set in? Doesn’t she remember that  Caylee’s bones were found along with her skull that still had light brown hair attached to it? Doesn’t she remember that there was duct tape across Caylee’s dismembered head? Perhaps Jose Baez needed to show her the photos of  dead Caylee’s duct  taped skull to refresh her memory .Then she wouldn’t act like the TOXIC person she appears to be, in trying to manipulate a potential jury.

I can assure you that when a jury is present and she tries to pull this stunt, the prosecution will be all over her. They will ask her why she had a memorial that she alone organized if Caylee was still alive? One does memorials for dead people not for people who are still alive.

There certainly are people who are in  such denial  they may still believe  a granddaughter was still alive when she wasn’t. Their body language and voice and speech patterns would reflect this. Cindy is clearly not one of these people. She knew exactly what she was doing on the stand. She was too coherent, too articulate, too precise, too together, and too knowledgeable to pull off this ridiculous stunt she tried to do.

LEE’S BEHAVIOR WAS REPREHENSIBLE!

But to next watch Lee Anthony act like a complete buffoon was equally if not more appalling. His attempts to be cutesy and funny and loveable were nauseating. But even more nauseating was the disrespectful and inappropriate stunt he  get go.

Also don’t the male Anthony’s own a tie and a pair of nice slacks? When people know they are going to be testifying in  a court of law, they usually dress in something a lot more respectable than a pair of old worn, stained blue jeans and an untucked golf shirt as you see above. Lee looked like a complete slob in my view. A jury will not respond well to Lee and his  attire has a lot to do with it. I am surprised that  his attorney didn’t   give him some tips on how to dress in the courtroom.

His disrespect in the courtroom was also evidenced from the get go as he pointed both fingers in front of him as he was confused as to where to go in terms of getting on the witness stand.

He needed to quietly ask his attorney and not rudely point and shuffle. His walk to the stand was a cocky one. He literally bounced to the stand .He seemed overly self confident and overly full of himself at that point, which was a first impression turn off. 

WHAT DID HE SAY??? “I LOVE YOU” TO A SISTER HE ALLEGEDLY SEXUALLY MOLESTED?

Then he had the audacity to mouth the words “I LOVE YOU” to his sister Cayleee. This is the same sister who told Jesse Grund her former fiance that at her brother  Lee sexually molested her.

This is also the same sister who told a fellow inmate that her brother sexually molested her. Perhaps you believe that she may have told her fellow inmate this on purpose to help her case. Perhaps you may feel that Casey thought  in case her letters became public, the sexual molestation excuse would be a solid  reason as to why she allegedly killed Caylee.

But the fact that she told Jesse Grund very early on about Lee’s sexual abuse convinces me that something sexual may very well happened between Casey and her brother.  I have a lot of respect for the Grund family and I believe that Jesse was telling the truth to law enforcement with respect to what Casey shared with him about Lee.

If  Lee did sexually molest her and now tells her how much he loves her on the stand  it is beyond sickening to me. The prosecutor was equally sickened as she wanted to bring what he did to the attention of the court. She cleaverly said ” I take it that that wasn’t meant for me?”

Instead of saying, ”No”  and feeling embarrassed about what he did, he bellows out in a loud tone”No definately not.”

It was completely disrespectful. Since Judge Perry runs such a strict and tight ship I  am surprised he did not admonish Lee for this and warn him not to have personal communication with the defendant.

LEE’S DISRESPECT TOWARDS CHENEY MASON

 Cheney Mason attempted to make light of his hearing problems and hearing aids as an attempt to let people know he is hearing impaired. He did it in order to  diffuse any embarrassment  in case he was not able to  catch every word the witness may say. By bringing  it out in the open he was also letting the witness know that he may ask them to repeat their answer if he doesn’t catch what they say the first time around.

The hearing aid issue appeared to be an issue with regard to microphone feedback as a humming noise was heard periodically. Cheney made light of it as he mentioned that he couldn’t believe two hearing aid batteries could cause that much static.

The information Cheney Mason revealed was NOT meant to be thrown back at him in the form of a joke.

So when Lee wasn’t focused on what Cheney asked him he didn’t remember  what Cheny had asked him. .  Instead of politely asking Cheney to repeat the question, he tried to be cutesy and funny and says that there is static in his ears. He then laughed at  his own joke.

Lee’s behavior  was disrespectful and inappropriate. He was completely out of line. His behavior would definitely NOT endear him to any jury. During the trial Lee needs to cut the cutesy funny guy routine if he is intent on trying to save his sister from the lethal needle.  www.drlillianglass.com

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George Anthony’s Body Language Says He’s Not Into Cindy and Does Not Want to Be in Court Supporting Casey

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

  

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 After watching and analyzing George Anthony s exclusive Fox 35 interview a while back, it became clear that George needs to be liked and needs to be seen as the “good guy”. So in keeping up his  ”good guy” image,  he decided to show up in court to support his wife Cindy, who was going to testify about the 911 call she made when Casey wouldn’t cooperate and Caylee went missing.  

 The only thing is that he certainly didn’t look like a  supportive “good guy”  husband .  He kept his distance  from her physically.  

    In the photo above  which was taken after Cindy testified and  was listening to Judge Perry’s ruling, you can see that although  they are sitting close to one another, they are  not touching. There is no physical contact. It is obvious from Cindy’s nail biting that she could have used a little TLC and reassurance. She could have used an arm around her  or a hand held.  But George seemed to be in a world of his own.   

   When you look at the physical distance that George is keeping from Cindy it is not a very good sign. Also note how Cindy turns away from George. It is clear that they are both not happy together.  

 The stress of this trial is definitely showing. One can only imagine what will happen in terms of their relationship when the major trial begins next year.  

 GEORGE  HAS NOTHING TO LAUGH ABOUT WITH CASEY’S  SEXUAL MOLESTATION ACCUSATIONS     

 

 Even before she testified, Cindy shared a little tension releasing laugh with her attorney Brad Conway. George completely ignored her as he pulled his shoulder away from her and towards his body. This is  a  clear distancing signal.    

George certainly had nothing to laugh about, especially since he was accused of sexually molesting Casey. In all honesty, I can’t imagine anyone ever laughing about anything with regard to this case! An innocent  child is dead and Cindy’s daughter may soon  die on death row.  So Cindy’s chuckle with attorney Brad Conway  clearly  turned George  off even further.    

 A TURNED OFF GEORGE   

   

George looks absolutely miserable. He doesn’t acknowledge Cindy at all.  His shoulders are rounded in a submissive posture as he is resigned to be somewhere he clearly does NOT want to be.  

 His face is sour and dour, complete with downturned lips and furrowed brow and very sad looking eyes. They are completely disconnected. Cindy  on the other hand seems to be excited about giving her testimony as she is all smiles.  

 Not to be petty, but since body language involves what you chose or do not chose  to wear on your body, it seems that Cindy has chosen to not  wear a bra or to wear a very ill fitting one. The fact that she is wearing a Caylee necklace on her chest, brings attention to her chest so it is hard not to notice.   

 With all the money she earned from licensing the photos of Casey, perhaps she should use some of it to purchase some proper fitting under garments. Once again I am not being mean here, I am just telling it like it is.  It speaks volumes about her  self care.  

             DARK  ROOTS AND SELF CARE      

 

 And while we are on the subject  of  Cindy’s outward appearance and her self care , it is clear that she has taken a cue from Casey. Like Casey, she too is growing her hair out.  

 

But if one has decided to have longer hair and also be a blond, it is necessary to take more self care and bleach out your roots because it shows up more and doesn’t look good. If she  can’t afford to do that, then she may want  stick to  her original hair color shown in her roots. If she insists on being a blond and doesn’t have the money or the time to keep up  her roots, then she needs to cut it short so that  the roots aren’t as visible to others.  

  LOOK OF DISGUST AND DISDAIN    

 

   

There is no question in my mind based on watching the raw  video of  George and Cindy  in the courtroom  that George appears to be disgusted by Cindy based on his facial expression whenever he looks at her. There are consistent  and numerous  flashes of disgust in his facial expression.  

 There is no doubt that he is disgusted with his daughter  Casey for either lying that he molested her, if in fact  he did not do so,  or outing  him if he did indeed molest her  and Casey’s  breaking the family bond of  loyalty and exposing the family secret.Rather than show his sour puss to the world and passive aggressively show up for image sakes so that he  can be seen as the “good guy” – the  supportive husband and father, it would have been a lot more genuine if  he sayed at home.  

 GUM CHEWING GEORGE    

 

   

 If George would have stayed home, he could have chewed all the gum he wanted in the privacy of his own home.  

  Why doesn’t  George’s attorney and friend Brad Conway teach him some proper courtroom etiquette? Since has neglected to do his job, perhaps I can do it for him  and educate George through this blog.   

  When you go into a courtroom it is not a movie theatre or a baseball game. You cannot eat or drink in there or chew gum there. To do so would be disrespectful. George’s  gum chewing in the courtroom shows complete ignorance of how to comport yourself in a courtroom and complete disrespect.  

  So here is the bottom line to George and Cindy too. Take a Kleenex and spit out your gum BEFORE you walk into the courtroom. I am sure that there are trash cans around where you can deposit the Kleenex containing the gum.  

 And speaking of disrespect int he courtroom, it seems that the apple does not fall to far from the tree.  I will get to George’s son Lee Anthony’s disrespectful courtroom  behavior  in my next blog.  

   MORE DISTANCING BODY LANGUAGE  FROM GEORGE   

     

George and Cindy are not a united front as far as their body language reveals. He sits out in front of  her as you see here as a distancing mechanism. He looks away from her.And please don’t write to tell me that this is based on one photo. It’s based on a lots of photos and a lot of video watching. Oftentimes just from one moment in time you can see the leakage of how a person really feels about someone.   

GEORGE WALKS OUT OF THE COURTROOM ALONE AND LEAVES CINDY BEHIND     

    

 Finally it  was time for  George and Cindy to leave the courtroom. They faced in opposite directions. He left her trailing  behind and didn’t even look back at her or speak to her.   

 As you can see in the above photo, his rounded shoulders  indicate that he has had to submit to being there even though he clearly did not want to be there at all. This photo and the ones preceeding it show that he clearly does not want to be around Cindy.   

  His expression mirrors how he feels inside. George is completely miserable and no doubt  feels stuck . Also note how he pulls his head away from Cindy. Once again, that is a distancing behavior.   

  Finally George left the courtroom and Cindy was standing there alone  by herself.   

 There is no doubt that this entire ordeal has taken it’s toll on their previously fragile relationship. Even though they have tried to put up a good public front in the past, as things become more stressful I believe it will put an even greater strain on them.   

GEORGE FACING THE GRIM REALITY FOR THE FIRST TIME IN TWO YEARS    

 A lot of this strain has to do with George coming out of the fog and finally facing reality. Casey’s accusations of him sexually molesting her, jolted him back into reality. 

  
  Whether it is true or not, he is now out of  his illusion concerning Casey. He sees her for exactly what she is. If he didn’t molest her, he sees her as the lying dangerous  monster that she is.  He may now clearly see her as killing Casey and now trying to kill him and his reputation with her lies .   If he did indeed sexually molest her, then he faces the grim  reality of realizing  how  his improper actions may have contributed  to Case’s aberrant  behaviors.     

 Either case is a very grim scenario. He can no longer look at Casey the same way. He can no longer sit there with a straight face and defend her to the hilt. He can no longer go on and on about a fictious Zanny the Nanny or try to use River Cruz as a cause for reasonable doubt.   

 For the first time George is feeling emotions other than  the grief  of losing the only person in his life who gave him a reason to wake up in the morning- little Caylee.  The emotional  veil has finally been lifted. So he has to be feeling  the anger and the rage  he has towards Casey fro taking away his precious grand daughter.   

Prior to this George was an emotionally vacant parent.  By his own admission told Casey he wasn’t a great father as he preety much let Casey do whatever she wanted to do. So now he is forced to live with that. Being emotionally vacant, he had no clue with what what really going on with Casey or who she really was as a person.  Now for the  first time in his life he has taken a close look at who  Casey really is and it is not a pretty picture. It is devastating for him and it shows in every aspect of his body language.   

My only hope for George is that he is seeing someone who is a licensed psychologist or a psychiatrist who can help him cope with what must be a living hell. He needs a lot of support from a professional who will be there to guide him properly during the roller coaster ride of the trial and it’s aftermath. He needs a professional in his corner to help him cope with the grim reality. That reality is that his own flesh and blood may be killed by having a neddle stuck through her own flesh as it’s poisons course through her own blood. 

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Anita Van der Sloot’s Body Language Shows Anger at Joran and Shame He Is Her Son But Continues To Make Excuses For Him As She Cuts Him Out of Her Life

Saturday, June 26th, 2010

WAS THE STORY ABOUT  THE CONTENTS OF JORAN’S NOTE HE LEFT FOR HER TRUE?

While Joran may have left his mother Anita  a note that he was leaving for Peru, perhaps what he allegedly said  in that note may  be wishful thinking on the part of Anita van der Sloot.

She gives a seemingly embellished story when she says “Joran left me a note.” As she says.  this she brushes off her leg it looks like she is brushing something off. This is usually a signal of deception.

She then  looks down and licks her lips indicating  two other  signals  deception as she recites  that the note says “ Mommy I love you but I, I (repetition of the word I which is another signal of deception )  don’t wanna go to the Netherlands. She then looks way which is yet anothersignal of deception.

She then says, using  a strong voice which does ring true “ I am invited to gamble  in Peru and  I can make money there. But then her voice wanes as she goes on with something that doesn’t make much sense as she adds that Joran’s note says  and  I wanna stay there far  away as no body knows me there. I wanna think I what I wanna do with my life?”

Right after she says this she cocks her head as though she is questioning what he has just said- another signal of deception. I seriously doubt Joran wrote those exact words “I wanna stay there far away nobody knows me there. That doesn’t sound like something someone would write in a note as does I wanna think what to do with my life.

Those are very serious decisions- to stay in Peru and to go away and decide what to do with his life. Why would he write that in a little note instead of  discussing these important life changing decisions verbally with is mother. Also her stating that Joran was there to stay in Peru as opposed to other Latin American countries does not ring true either. He went there for a Poker tournament, not to stay there and build a life. He also  went to Columbia and Chile and was on his way to Argentina.So I don’t buy  it that he was going to  to build a life in Peru where no one knew him. It doesn’t make sense, especially since he is not all that fluent in Spanish.

The fact that he wrote it instead of communicating it   to her verbally shows what a strained relationship they must have had. Also since her interview  was done for Dutch TV and since she said she trusts them so much, why didn’t she produce that note that Joran wrote in order to show everyone exactly what he wrote?

She then  looks down and purses her lips and shrugs her shoulders- all three  all signals of deception as  her body language and facial expression do not match her feelings she is attempting to express. Then she makes a loud” tsking” or smacking sound with her tongue, followed by silence.

She says I was angry. She knits her brow together and juts her jaw forward indicating that she was indeed angry with Joran.

She says ” I was ready for Joran to eh   follow a path where they could help him dealing with his eh  (looks away) em his gambling addiction and if there was a personality disorder which could be very good possible.” She she looks down and blinks a lot as she says this.

Her body language tells make me wonder if she really did send him tot he Netherlands and if  he was planning to go there ,  or if this is all Anita’s  spin to not make Joran look like  a monster.

If you are going to a clinic for a gambling addiction, you mention only  that and don’t add in his  personality disorder, unless  you know one exists. There is no doubt that Anita did know that Joran had some type of psychological problem as he was apparently seeing a therapist in his teen years. Apparently he was sent to a therapist by his parents. According to an interview  which Joran gave to the Aruban police when he was a teen, given after Natalie’s was found missing, Joran admitted he had been sent to a psychiatrist for stealing 50 euros  from his father and for his violence towards his brother.

While Jorn has told many lies in his past, I believe that his telling about seeing a psychiatrist was one of the few times that he was telling the truth.

ANITA LAUGHS WHEN SHE SAYS IT COULDN’T BE JORAN WHO KILLED STEFANY

After Anita recounts that  she found out Stefany was murdered and says that it could not have been Joran,  her facial expression is not what one would expect. She smiles as you see above.

At first she recites what she heard  in a very low and labored tone. As she speaks she  turns her whole body and face away as literally to not face this disaster she is revealing.


She says “ I heard  was a girl found n the Tac hotel in the room of Joran. Her  Inflection goes up as she says em murdered grually em with a  knife , blood everywhere etc. (why would someone say etc.?) They would say etc as a  means of detachment. Anita was clearly trying to detach herself from the horror  of the incident as she  further visualized what he son did to  poor Stefany. Knowing this was too much for her to bear emotionally. The fact that Anita spoke in a  monotone also conformed her emotional detachment.

As Anita says the words there was blood everywhere,she looks away and turns her head to face way from the interviewer. It is as though she is unable to face this horrific visual scene as she has a serious and devastated look on her face as you can see above.

But  then what she does seems rather odd. She begins to smile as she says “And I thought no no this cannot be. No way.Her smile is a not a happy smile but rather a nervous smile. It is a that lasts five seconds.  It may also be a  smile of relief that Joran was finally  caught for  all of his past and present his misdeeds. She then shrugs her shoulders.

We know that a shoulder shrug is often associated wih a person not telling the truth. When Anita  said the words” No way” referring to the fact that there was no way Joran could have committed this brutal act, she was not telling the truth. In her mind,she may have  very well known that Joran was capable of doing such a horrific thing based on his past violence and personality disorder which she referred to earlier in the interview.

She then says she says I was I was was completely shut ” while  clasping  her hands together as if  and then  brushing  her palms   as though she was symbolically brushing Joran off and eliminating  from her life.

Then she crosses her chest with her   with her arms  over lapping one another as if to protect herself. She then  describes how she was  completely shut down emotionally .

Then she pushes her hands out as if she is literally pushing Joran  away from her.

As she describes her phone call with Joran when he was calling her from the taxi during his escape into Chile, her body language appears to be  in synch with her emotional state. Here we see Anita making very frantic  gestures with her hands as she relates how she implored her son to   turn himself in and go to police after she described how he was crying to her.

Then Anita changes her tune and says that she thought it was all a set up because it was exactly five years to the day “that Natalie death happened and now this with Stefany  Flores  happened.” The fact that she mentioned the two girl by  name indicates that she has  respect for them as she  realized the gravity of the situation and her son’s involvement  .  As Anita mentions  Stefany’s name, she turns away as to symbolically turn away from Joran and what he did.  Her speaking in a very matter of fact  unemotional tone shows that she hasn’t fully come to terms with everything from an emotional standpoint.

ANITA SHOWS COMPASSION AND SHAME

Anita showed compassion when she said she immediately thought of the parents. Then she added that she  too identified as she lost a son. She then said she hoped  Joran can speak to the parents of  Stefany Flores and in a normal way tell them what happened.

But as she says this, there is a  tinge of anger in her tone as she  knows there will be no normal way for Joran speak to her parents .  So she says “And I apologize  for them that he is my son. ” She looks down in embarrassment as she makes this statement, indicting body language-wise that she is   truly embarrassed that Joran was her son.

But then  she attempts to modify what she said  by revealing “  He’s, not a monster.” She says this with a   questioning  look as her inflection goes up as if asking a question, perhaps wondering if Joran really is a monster.

In trying to erase this thought from her mind, she  further tries to mollify her shame and embarrassment of Joran by explaining that “ he can be  very gentle,” Then she she rolls  her head from side to side and shrugs  her shoulders as she continues to offer up further excuses fro Joran’s egregious acts by saying “  it could be that he  has a bipolar em personality.”
She is slightly teary  eyed  as she says this yet she is angry as indicated by her pursed lips and jaw jutted forward.

She then leans away and places  her hands in front of herself ,   interlocking her  fingers like a closed gate. In doing so she is    indicating that there is no way she will ever change the words  she has said “  I will not visit Joran  in Peru. I don’t have any feeling that it  can add up to anything. I want to keep distance .I think it will bring emotions up that I am not ready for. “

I think that Anita is wise to stay away from Joran as who knows what would happen to her if they were alone together in his cell in Peru. Based on his psychological reports Joran does not value the female role and has disrespect for women, Thus, there is no doubt that he disrespects his mother. Based on how violent his killing was of Stefany and what he probably did to Natalie, he harbors  a lot of rage towards women including   his mother. Therefore, her own life may be in jeopardy if she is face to face with her son.

She tries to justly her actions  of refusing to see her son by saying she is not a police officer, she is a  a mom.  What she is saying is that she wants the police  officers to handle him because as a mom she is helpless. She  goes  on to say of he is involved, then he needs to be punished by the police.

ANITA GOES BACK TO BLAMING JORAN’S PROBLEMS ON HIS BEING  CHASED FIVE YEARS

Anita definitely has mercurial feelings whne it comes to Joran. On the one hand she sees what Joran has done and wants hiom punished fro his actions.. But on the other breath she continues to make excuses  for Joraan by  saying that “he was chased five years;”

She ratonalizes that this is what caused this  as she blame “people stared at him everywhere he went. “

Maybe if Joran would have come clean and not toyed with the Holloway family, people would not have  have stared at him. Maybe if he would have completed his studies or gone on to  a respectable profession instead of being engaged in the trafficking of prostitutes in Thailand people wouldn’t have stared at him. Maybe if he would have dedicated his time and energies to a more worthwhile and charitable cause instead of playing poker, people wouldn’ t have stared at him.  Perhaps if he got the psychological help he needed, he would have been better able to cope if anyone did happen to stare at him. In reality, how could people avoid staring at someone like Joran who was a striking looking at 6 foot 3 inches tall.

Anita continued on in defending Joran by saying ,”They bothered him and there as no place he was safe.”

NOW ANITA GOES BACK TO BLAMING JORAN

We see Anita’s thought yo yoing  as she says ” I belive in karma. If you do things you shouldn’t do a lot of shit happens to you.” It was interesting how Anita used such a crude word when she knew she was being televised. Perhaps that was the only words she could use to describe her son’s predicament.

Ti use Anita’s word,  a lot of shit happened to Anita as well as Joran. It happened to her because she didn’t handle her out of control son with enough tough love. She made  too many excuses for him like  she is doing now.

But then she goes backtracks as she blames  Joran for not listening to his parents. But his parents needed to have set down some firm laws so their teenage son at the time was not in casinos gambling.

Anita then says ” He didn’t listen to me . and then hesitates and finally continues with “  this last time .” I have no doubt that Joran didn’t listen to Anita anytime.  In making such a  statement Anita is trying to defend herself, She does so by adding “  I tried to do my best I don’t think I could have done more.. “  Of course she could have done more  early on in Joran’s teen years. But she is right that she could not have done more now . It is too late.

One of the most disturbing aspects of  Anita’s interview was that she was making excuses for not  talking to Beth Twitty and blaming the fact that she was being shielded  by the media.  That is an excuse  because if Anita wanted to get to Beth she could have reached out to her somehow during these five years.As Anita says this she  looks down and shrugs her shoulder. This body language gesture indicates that  what Anita is saying about not being able to get to Beth is not true.

What is absolutely true based on her  angry and distanced  body language is that there is no longer any relationship between Anita and her son Joran. www.drlillianglass.com

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Jesse James Body Language Shows He Was Lying About His Racism. His Voice and Speech Indicates He’s Detached From Little Louis

Sunday, May 30th, 2010


NO SPARKLE IN JESSE’S EYES OR VOICE WHEN DISCUSSING BABY LOUIE

When a person really adores someone, whether it is a love interest or a baby, their eyes literally  light up. It actually looks there is a spark in the person’s eye because physiologically their pupils are dilating, so their eyes suddenly change. This subtle and immediate change makes their eyes look bigger and brighter This bright eyed look was completely lacking with Jesse when she spoke of baby Louie.

In fact when Jesse spoke of Baby Louie, he looked away as a form of detachment when discussing Baby Louie.

When the interviewer asked  if there was any reason he and Sandra decided to adopt a black baby, in a dull ,matter of fact, unemotional  expressionless tone,  with a shoulder shrug, he replied “ I don’t care what color the baby is”. The shrug gave it all away. So did his looking away. He looked up and away as though he were attempting to come up with the right politically correct sounding statement.

Of course he cared what color the baby was!.

If he really didn’t care what color the baby was, his demeanor would have been a lot different. He would have  faced the interviewer directly (who happened to be black) and looked right into her eyes as he told her this. His looking away indicated a non- truth tell. His body language showed that he was clearly uncomfortable with the thought baby Louie being a black baby.

LOUIE’S  FUTURE WITH A RACIST DAD

Jesse says he is doing the interview because he is mainly concerned about the racism perception. But when he looks away he isn’t very convincing. There does not appear to be sincerity in his facial expression or in his tone of voice.

When a person allegedly grows up spouting off the N world as his step mom reported to RadarOnline and has done that since childhood, no doubt their racial views are deep rooted.

Because of that , it would no doubt be difficult for these racially charged feelings to not surface.  This would no doubt be a huge emotional adjustment for Jesse to wrap his mind around the thought of having a black son.

On his next breath he says in a dull rehearsed monotone that his only prerequisite was that “ I want a  baby that needs us the most.” As she says this we see a smug smile as though he is pleased with himself for  giving he right politically correct answer.

Well here is a news flash Jesse- EVERY orphan needs a parent. EVERY baby needs someone to love them! And every parent NEEDS a baby to love. This statement concerned me because what if Louie grows up not “NEEDING,”  What if Louie turns out to be is an independent type of little guy and Jesse views it as his being ungrateful. There could be huge conflict and major issue  as the baby matures in my view.

WHERE IS THE LOOK OF SADNESS THAT LOUIE WILL NOT BE ON YOUR LIFE?

Then the interviewer asks Jesse, “How do you feel that the baby will have her name and not yours>”

Jesse once again looks away in trying to come up with the right answer.He then  says with no hint of sadness in his face or in his vocal tone but rather in a flat monotone and mono face. “ It made me sad.” He certainly didn’t look too sad. Instead, he looked rather relieved.

His facial expression was in marked contrast from the facial expression seen above when he found his lost pit pull. He had more excitement and facial animation towards his dog than he did when speaking about his “”son.”

“HIM” HAS A NAME- LOUIE

When a person calls a  new baby an “it” or a “them” or a “him” or a “her
and doesn’t refer to the baby by name, especially in the specific context where a name could be used, it means that the person is detaching  and objectifying the baby.

It can also mean that bonding has not occurred. I have no doubt that this is the  case with Jesse. It may seem like a picky thing but it speaks volumes.

Jesse  no doubt hasn’t bonded with Louie or he would have called him by name.  In contrast, Sandra called Louie by name when she spoke of him in her most recent interview.

In trying to describe how Sandra so readily  took to mothering, he relayed “as soon as she picked “HIM  up…” He didn’t call the baby by name and say as soon as she picked Louie up.”

WHAT WAS SANDRA THINKING??

After watching Jesse on the Apprentice play the game so passive aggressively, discovering his egregious Nazi like actions, and now hearing him speak, up  I can’t help but wondering.  what  WAS Sandra thinking when she got involved with him?

He seems so limited and so different from the person she not only portrays on screen but from who she is. I k ow several people who know Sandra and they rave about her. So what happened?

I will tell you what happened and I will tell you even more about what happened when my new book comes out in Novemebver called TOXIC MEN- Identify, Deal With and Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable (Adams Media).

Sandra  is not alone;  Like so many women, she got   involved with a TOXIC MAN for a myriad of reasons.

  1. Perhaps she saw who he was  but felt that with a lot of love she could be the one to tame him and change him. This is a huge mistake that so many nurturing types of women make, to their detriment.
  2. Perhaps she felt needy as her mother had passed and she wanted someone with whom she could bond a share a life.
  3. Since Jesse  had a ready made family, perhaps  she thought she could easily involve herself and contribute a lot to his  children.
  4. Perhaps she got sexually turned on by his bad boy” image and persona.
  5. Maybe was great in bed,
  6. Perhaps she was sick of  dating or being alone,
  7. It is possible she wanted a man to complete the package of her image
  8. It could be that she wanted someone to love and would do anything and put up with anything in order to make that happen.

And the list goes on and on.  One of the things I share in my new book is ways people can learn the signals of dealing with a Toxic Person like Jesse James you jump in and get involved.

WHAT??? JESSE HAS TO LOOK AT THE PHOTOS  OF HIM IN NAZI GEAR TO REALIZE THAT IT WAS A JOKE !!!!‘

The first thing Jesse says to the interviewer with regard to the photo of himn in the Nazi hat and salute is that he doesn’t remember taking that photo. As he says this his eyebrows are raised and he cocks his head to the side. This is a pleading facial language.

In essence he is pleading for the interviewer to ‘lease believe him. When someone is showing their  head cocked to0 the side and their eyebrows are raaised they are really saying that they know that they won’t be believed, They know that the person won;t buy what they are saying so they are in essence pleasing that they will buy it via their facial expression.

Unless he was drunk or high out of his mind or has Alzheimer’s, of course he remembers taking the photo. Wearing a Nazi had and doing a Nazi salute is a memorable event. If he doesn’t remember taking the photo, perhaps it is a commonplace event in his life, perhaps he made that salute all the time and wore the hat around the house all the time so he may not have remembered that a photo was taken of him doing what he always did.

Then with open eyes and looking directly ate the interviewer, he has the audacity to say that he could tell by looking at the photo that it was a joke.

The more Jesse spoke the more disgusted I became with him. I don’t care what anyone says, the fact that a person would don a Nazi uniform and give a salute and actually think it was a joke shows what a disturbed person he is  .

There is absolutely NOTHING funny about wearing a Nazi hat and emulating a Nazi leader who caused havoc on our world six decades ago. The repercussions of  Hitler’s actions still exist to say and it is NOT a laughing matter by any means.

It would be the same thing as someone putting on black face makeup and putting a noose around their neck. That would be the biggest insult to any African American who suffered this horrible  during one of the ugliest times of our history when blacks were slaves andf were lynched for no reason at all.

Lamely, Jesse says “it was funny for a minute, but now looking at the context  in my life now its not funny.”

All of this was said in a boring nasly monotone which make you wonder  how Sandra could have listened to his irritating  voice for all these years.

When someone uses the word funny in the same sentence as Nazi  there is something seriously wrong with them in my view.

FURTHER OBJECTIFING LITTLE LOUIS BY CALLING HIM “THAT BABY”

As he talks about Sandra and Louie he continues to depersonalize  Louie by saying : “As soon as  she put THAT BABY  on her hands it was automatic and amazing” The fact that he didn’t call little Louie by name speaks volumes to me.

Louie is NOT “THAT BABY ”, He is a person with his own identity and his own name. If Jesse looked at him as a an actually person he would have called Louie by his name.

Then with regard to Sandra Bullock  he  further added “ I found a new trust for her, like I knew she wasn’t going to leave, and our relationship blossomed.”

WHATT??? What does that mean” Does that mean that she was planning to leave him at one time?

SHOWING NO SADNESS WHEN TALKING ABOUT BEING SAD ABOUT BEING CALLED A RACIST.

The one thing that rubbed a lot of people the wrong way was the fact that Jesse showed no remorse. Even though he said he was sad, he showed no signs of sadness in his expression as he spoke these words:

“There’s not a racist bone in my body.” I think out of everything, this is why I’m doing this interview the most, because you know, dealing with losing my marriage and my son and embarrassing everyone and decimating my life, but to be called a racist on top of that is, it makes me really sad.”

When people’s emotions  are incongruous with their words it disturbs people. It is what a lot of sociopaths do. They speak the right words yet they show no signs of emotion to go along with those words. His vocal t9nes do sound like those whoa re sociopaths. It makes me wonder if Jesse is indeed a sociopath.

His  stepmother said in an interview that he liked to kill small baby animals. If that is the case  he scares me to death. All I can say is thank GOD little Louie does not have  Jesse’s last name and  Jesse  will not be raising him.

I hope and pray that Sandra never allows Jess  back into her life.  But I am sure  that she will allow Jesse back in some capacity the sake of Jesse’s  little  daughter Sunny and his older son.

That would be a huge mistake  to let  Jesse  back into her life as her significant other  or her love interest, not only for her sake  but for Louie’s sake .

Jesse’s body language screamed  racism and if that is the case what is to say that he  may very well take out  his inner hatred towards minorities like Jews and Black’s on innocent  black baby Louie.

It may not come out directly and it may not come out for a while . In fact, because of all of the exposure, Jesse  may  very well be on his  very  best behavior around Louie. But eventually your true feelings about Blacks will most probably surface . It may may manifest in his  tone of voice , in what he says and how he acts towards   Louie. as Louie gets older.

I preay that Sandra allows this child to have nothng whatsoever to do with Jesse . If what  Jesse’s  step mother said  is true and he said the N world frequently without batting an  eye as a child and if  he  harmed and killed baby animals  like his step mother alleges m then he is  a seriously disturbed and sadistic  person who in my view  should not only  be shunned by Sandra  but by  everyone else.

ENJOYING BEING THE MOST HATED MAN IN THE WORLD

In the photo above Jesse shows a very genuine smile complete with raised cheeks, lips apart and   teeth showing. This expression was seen right after he corrected the interviewer that he was not the most hated man in America, but rather the most hatred man in the world.

Based on his facial expression he seemed rather pleased with that title as he continued to smirk.

But Jesse may be the only one who is please with his new title.  Most people are not pleased as no one can ever embrace a  person who is  racist, a liar, a person who shows no remorse, and a baby animal killer if what his stepmother says is true. www.drlillianglass.com

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Jesse James Body Language in Nightline Interview Shows He Doesn’t Love Sandra Bullock, Hasn’t for Years And Has Humiliated and Abused Her

Thursday, May 27th, 2010

JESSE JAMES’  MONSTER FACE  EXPRESSION LEAKS OUT THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW HE REALLY FEELS ABOUT SANDRA- HE CAN’T STAND HER!

First of all when someone volunteers information that was not requested, adds additional information and  goes on and on, it usually means that those thoughts are  in the forefront of their mind.

So when Jesse James volunteered out of the blue, that that was  not a monster and  said” it’s  not like I think I want to get back at them” (referring to Sandra) the photo above is the facial expression that  Jesse leaked out.

The truth is that this is exactly what Jesse was doing to Sandra by cheating on her.  He was indeed   “getting back at her”.

It was the ultimate act of passive aggression and jealously towards her. What was he getting back at Sandra?  The answer is simple. He can’t  stand her.  She IS what he ISN’T. He resents her. Instead of talking it out or going through counseling, he acted passive aggressively with his cheating behavior and with how he spoke about her   during the interview.

As he relayed those words,  his previously mono faced expression  and monotone voice which he had throughout the interview,   transformed into a  monster like expression the angry evil face you see above.  This expression shows how he really feels about Sandra deep down.

As researcher, Dr. Paul Ekman of Stanford University has shown, people’s true feelings are revealed in their microexpressions which leak out. This is a perfect example of what he is talking about.

JESSE LIKES HIS TITLE AS THE MOST HATED MAN IN THE WORLD

One of the most telling  and disturbing points of the interview was when the interviewer asked him how it felt to be “the most hated man in America,” He then smiled and laughed that he was”:the most hated man in the world.”

His smile was not a nervous smile which may have been the case had it been a fleeting expression.  The fact that it lingered for quite a while leads me to believe that Jesse was indeed enjoying  and relishing in his new  title. It added to his “bad boy” image and he obviously liked that.

JESSE NEVER WAS INTO SANDRA FOR A LONG TIME

Jesse’s egregious behavior did not surprise me. I saw it years ago. Just look at the photo above.  When a man walks in front of the woman he loves and has a dour expression, chances are he is not into her and.or is angry with her for some reason

Walking in front of a woman shows a lack of respect, Men  in Western culture   do not walk in front of a woman.

REFUSING TO COMPROMISE MY INTEGRITY ABOUT WHAT I PREVIOUSLY  SAW IN JESSE AND SANDRA’S BODY LANGUAGE

When I was interviewed about the relationship of various couples throughout the years by various magazines, I was inevitably shown photos of Jesse and Sandra.

I always spoke the truth and said how there appeared to be  trouble in their marriage and that Jesse was not into her.

The person writing the article often wouldn’t like what I said because they had an agenda to write about  such as Hollywood’s coolest or sexiest couples.

So they would get some other body language expert who was less qualified, less educated, and less experienced, to go along with what they wanted them to say for the sake for the spin on the  article they were writing .

But not me. I stuck to my guns and never compromised my integrity just to have my name in print. I never have and I never will. I reported what I saw and would not waiver from the truth of my observations.

So when news broke that Jesse had all of these mistresses I wasn’t at all surprised.  Sandra And Jesse;s body language during their public outings always gave it way to me, especially on the Red Carpet.

It showed that Sandra was usually into him as you see in the above photo, but he did not reciprocate the attention or affection. He would usually be seen looking away or pulling away from he as he is in this photo.

JESSE’S  BEHAVIOR TOWARDS SANDRA ON THE RED CARPET SPOKE VOLUMES FOR YEARS

This photo is the most recent one of the to of them together and you can see how Jesse appears to be in his own separate world.
The most telling thing for me was when I observed Jesse’s behavior on the Red Carpet the night before Sandra received her Academy Award.

Mark Steinmetz of ET was interviewing Sandra. Jesse was in the background, Sandra called him to come over to join her during the interview and he walked away. He ignored Sandra’s pleas. She made light of it during the interview, but her body language showed that she was embarrassed about it.

In this photo at yet another awards ceremony when it was raining, he holds the umbrella over his head, not Sandra’s. It shows selfishness on his part, especially when it was her night and it was important for her not to get wet.

TEARS OF SHAME AND  EMBARRASSMENT

During the interview Jesse was confronted with the words   Sandra spoke at the Academy Awards” that I finally know what it’s like for someone to have mu back.”

Hesse pursed  his lips which indicated that the didn’t want to discuss it, He also looked away.

His tears at the Academy Awards ceremony were clearly  the result of tears of guilt and embarrassment.

He knew very well that he did not deserve the accolades that Sandra was bestowing upon him and his body reacted to that in shame. That is why you saw him teary eyed. They weren’t happy tears. They were embarrassed tears.

The other thing that was telling about his relationship with Sandra was when he was doing Celebrity Apprentice as you see in the photo above.

He could have called Sandra, his  wealthy wife who had tons of celebrity connections  to help raise money for his charity but he didn’t. That was passive aggressive behavior.

In fact Donald Trump Jesse on it.  Donald said “You are married to one of the richest women in Hollywood, so why didn’t you call upon her to help you raise the money? Jesse had no  real answer to this question. That spoke volumes to me.

JESSE WAS FULL OF BS EXCUSES AS TO WHY HE CHEATED FROM SELF SABOTAGE TO CHILDHOOD ABUSE

Jesse had all kind of excuse as to why he cheated on  Sandra  from his sabotaging things to his childhood abuse. Puhleez!

The sabotage excuse  when he said that he always sabotages things in his life is complete  bullshit or he never would have been that successful with his bike business or TV show.    He would have sabotaged that as well.

So I am not buying the “ I sabotage things” as the reason he cheated.  He cheated on Sandra because deep down he couldn’t stand her. ‘

He couldn’t stand her popularity, her fame, her upbeat and positive personality, and who she was as a person. It was the polar opposite of who he was as a person, no doubt.

That is why he sought out sex partners who were the complete opposite of her and more like him. He sought out sex partners with whom he could feel superior- more than and not less than he felt around Sandra.That is why he chose like minded Nazi loving Michelle McGee.

Jesse no dount was like minded  as you can see as he wears  his Nazi hat and makes the”sig heil” Nazi salute complete with fingers over his upper lip to signify Hitler’s trademark  mustache.

THE CHILDHOOD ABUSE EXCUSE  IS LAME AND A LIE

He paused and looked down and then he  away when he was talking about child abuse. This indicates he was lying.

He did the same when he began crying by pausing and looking down. He also took a while to cry which shows that he was trying to bring up emotion to try to bring up tears.

He also had to excuse himself because he could apparently  only eek out one tear so he had to leave the stage to “regain his composure.”

And even if his father Larry did abuse him, which I seriously doubt based on the body language analysis I did on his father, what does that have to do with cheating on your wife?

Millions of people have been abused as children and remain faithful. In fact in many cases it may make you more faithful as you cling to someone who doesn’t abuse you.

JESSE JAMES FATHER IS TELLING THE TRUTH

Based on Jesse Jame’s father’s Larry’s body language, I completely believe him, Larry said that Jesse made himself a criminal and nothing is true and all that he has been saying all these years is a lie.

Jesse’s father showed no signals of deception. He looked right at the interviewers as he spoke and his voice never wavered, He spoke lovingly about his son’s childhood and said how they did everything together and were best friends.

It was clear through his tone of voice and facial expression that he was devastated by Jesse’s no doubt false allegations.

YOU WHEN INTO REHAB FOR WHAT???????

The above photo is Jesse leaking about a smile as he discusses rehab right  before he eeks out a tear. That is telling. It shows that his teary  emotion was not genuine.

Also, here is the scoop. You DO NOT go into rehab because you have been abused as a child. You go into rehab because you have a problem dealing with addiction to drugs, alcohol, or sex.

So when Jesse was asked point blank as to why he went into rehab as soon as he said that he went because he was abused as a child it conformed everything I said since day one that it was all done for PR spin and that there was no way he was a sex addict. He was just doing it for effect.

Then when the interviewer asked what Sandra said he quickly replied that she was proud of him. WHAT??????  I seriously doubt that this woman who was apparently clueless as to what he was doing to her behind his back used the words “ I” and “ proud”  in the same sentence.

JESSE ABUSED SANDRA

Jesse in his interview stops himself as he almost says that the one who is abused often abuses. He then went in a different direction as he realized where he was going with that line of talking.  Body language wise you see him stop mid thought as he purses his lips to suppress what he was about to say and implicate himself as an abuser.

But the truth is that Jess has abused Sandra. He had abused her emotionally. Cheating on someone who trusts you and cherishes you and humiliating her like that is abuse. Subjecting her to potential disease by having affairs with multiple women is abuse.

Jesse has humiliated her publicly.  I have no doubt that he did the same thing to her privately.

Most likely Sandra  ignored it  for a variety of reasons. Either she was too bust to deal with it or she thought it would change, or perhaps  she wanted to keep the peace and stay married.

But I am certain that there were signals of emotional abuse throughout the marriage. There certainly were signs in their body language as depreciated in so many photographs of the two of them together.

As you will read in my upcoming book called Toxic Men- Identify, Deal With and Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable from Adams Media in November, many women are unaware they are being abused emotionally until it is too late. They often ignore the  body language and verbal signs as Sandra unfortunately  did. www.drlillianglass.com

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Lindsay Lohan’s Lying Body Language to In Hollywood.com Interview Shows Defensiveness and Anger

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

As a body language expert being able to read between the lines can be very upsetting when you see someone who was once so gorgeous and talented headed for destruction. Lindsay Lohan’s one on one interview with Hollywood.com was very sad and disturbing to me.

As Lindsay answered the very blunt and direct questions posed to her, there was nothing about it that rang true except for one part.

That was the part when she spoke about how negatively she feels about her father and how she can’t stand him.  She called him a convicted felon and said with regard to her father  that “enough is enough.”

You can see this in the above photo. That was the only time that her body language showed that she was direct. She faced forward and leaned out and looked directly at the interviewer.

Her facial expression was congruent with what she said. She looked pained and angry based on the tension in her lips and jaw area and on her forehead.

It makes one wonder whether  father Michael Lohan’s negative  actions stimulate Lindsay’s very disturbing and destructive behavior.

If she does have an alleged alcohol and or drug problem, is his going to the press and sharing her private conversations adding to her aberrant behaviors?

What rings very true is when she says she has nothing to do with him.

LINDSAY’S “ TELLS” WHICH INDICATE   LYING

The rest of her interview was filled with signals of deception, which indicated that she was lying about almost every one of the issues about which she was questioned.

Here were the lying “tells” which were observed throughout the interview :

1. Shoulder shrugging

2. Pulling back

3. Looking down and away from the interviewer

4. Looking up to indicate that she was manufacturing answers to the questions

5. Excessive eye blinking

6. Repetition of words and phrases

7. Repeating the question at the beginning of the sentence

8. Using “uh” um’s a lot

9. Telling way too much information

10. Going off on tangents

11. Making countless excuses for actions and behaviors

12. Pulling the head and body back

13. Squirming in her seat

BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS IS DEFINITELY NOT “PSEUDOSCIENCE” OR “JUNK SCIENCE” . INSTEAD IT IS BOTH AN ART AND A SCIENCE

And for those of you who are:

a. contentious,

b. die hard Lindsay Lohan fans who can see nothing wrong with her behavior, or

c. who just plain like to argue, please take your fight somewhere else . ‘

Don’t waste your time or mine or show your lack of knowledge by telling me that body language analysis is a pseudoscience or junk science.

I can assure you that it is not. It is based on science and behavioral analysis.

Look at the work of one of the greatest body language researchers of our time, Dr. Paul Ekman, of Stanford University. who’s work on facial tells and micromovement  analysis is showcased in the Fox hit television show “ Lie to Me.”

While body language analysis is based on scientific evidence , there is also an art to it. It takes a long time to learn it and an even longer time to be really good at it.

I liken it to what a surgeon does. Based on his education, knowledge and experience, the surgeon, knows exactly what to do during an operation. But the success of the operation depends on his skill as a surgeon and how well he uses and manipulates his hands. In that respect, it is an art.

The same holds true in body language analysis. Anyone that tells you differently that it is a junk science or that it is a pseudoscience is completely ignorant and/ or has a personal axe to grind like a certain self proclaimed Tourette syndrome psychologist named Leslie E. Packer PhD who writes the blog called pogowasright and  “ Chronicles of Dissent” with the operative word being on her moniker “dissent.”

DR.LILLIAN GLASS HAS NEVER BACKPEDDLED, AS ” PSYCHOLOGIST” LESLIE E. PACKER AUTHOR OF “CHRONICLES OF DISSENT” AND POGOWASRIGHT, ERRONOUSLY STATES.

I first encountered this psychologist, Leslie E. Packer Ph.D , author of the blog “Chronicles of Dissent” and  pogowasright , after I read a very nasty and defamatory blog where she wrote an internet headline that I backpeddled  in relation to my series of blogs about Britney Spears . Britney if you remember, had  had some issues at the time.

I wondered who would anonymously write such untrue and defamatory comments about me, be such a hater towards other media psychologists, in show cowardly behavior by not signing their name, and even go as far as admitting she wrote to the Board of Psychology (who by the way ended up ignoring her hostile efforts).

This blogger continued her personal vendetta by attacking my work as a body language expert, thumbing her nose at it and calling it junk and pseudoscience.

But what she didn’t count on was how I ironically used my scientific skills as a body language expert to uncover this formerly anonymous blogger’s identity. In doing so it completely refuted  her ignorant claims that  body language analysis is  junk or pseudoscience.

DR. LILLIAN GLASS’ BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS WAS USED TO UNCOVER THE IDENTITY OF ANONYMOUS BLOGGER, TOURETTE SYNDROME PSYCHOLOGIST LESLIE E. PACKER.  AUTHOR OF  BLOG CHRONICLES OF DISSENT AND POGOWASRIGHT

After analyzing various “tells” in her blog writings, I discovered that all of  this  Toxic verbal venom towards me and my profession came from a 70 something New York based psychologist ( a non- media psychologist) who in my view had a definite axe to grind.

In fact, to me it seemed like nothing else but a clear case of professional jealousy. Based on my analysis of her specific “tells” I discovered her name was Leslie E Packer a PhD who reportedly dealt with patients with Tourette’s Syndrome . She was also the author of  a  blog called Chronicles of Dissent” and pogowasright. When I punched up her name on the internet it appeared that she was no stranger to her activity as there were numerous allegedly derogatory headlines over the internet  which several others made about her.

So, the bottom line is that anyone who calls body language analysis a pseudoscience or junk science is to be ignored.

They may  allegedly have “issues” or a personal axe to grind.

 WHAT LINDSAY REALLY SAID

ANGER. DENIAL AND DEFIANCE

When Lindsay was asked point blank whether  she should be in rehab , the most telling  signal was that she looked away, In a defensive facial move, she  slightly wrinkled her forehead as she lifted her shoulder (as in giving the cold shoulder)

In an angry clipped staccato tone stated “ I don’t see why I have to go.” Her answer clearly indicated that she was in denial. She was angry at the question and even more angry at the notion that someone would think of sending her to rehab .

As she looks away her face reflects her defiance as she continues on making lame excuses.

SIGNALS OF DECEPTION AND VULNERABILITY WHEN DISCUSSING “MISSING” PASSPORT

When someone repeats the question you asked and manipulates one of your key words, chances are they a re not telling you the truth.

The interviewer bluntly asks Did your passport really go missing or was it an excuse.?”

Immediately you notice a shoulder shrugs she repeats the same sentence. These are two definite signals of deception.

Then she continues , as she touches her neck. “ and says “ other thing a piece of jewelery and items that were in my possession, so I thought.”

The volunteering of that much information which was not requested, along with her shoulder shrug were two more signals of deception, making it a total of four signals in just a sentence .

When Lindsay denied that her passport didn’t go missing but rather was stolen, this change in semantics shows that she has definite problems with getting things straight. She had no proof the passport was stolen.

In the photo above you can clearly  see that notice that Lindsey  holding onto her neck and chin. The neck is one of the the most vulnerable parts of our body

So when someone holds onto it it usually reflects that  they are indeed feeling vulnerable. Lindsay may very well have felt vulnerable after being asked this question which she most probably knew was not true.

Finally her shifting her eyes to the side as soon as she was asked the question is further indication of  deception.

WAY TOO MUCH INFORMATION ABOUT MISSING PROGRAMS’

When someone gives you too much information and makes excuses and gets into excess detail, they are usually not telling you the truth.

Lindsay is full of justifying her behavior and that is a huge signal of deception.

LYING ABOUT TAKING DRUGS

When Lindsay was asked if she was still taking drugs the telling signal of deception was a shoulder shrug and her looking away as though she didn’t want to face the truth. The muscle tension in her forehead  indicating that she as angry she was asked this question.  d

Her cocking her head to the side and looking own to the side indicates that she is attempting to manufacture an answer.

DEFENSIVENESS

Perhaps the most telling thing throughout the interview was Lindsay’s defensiveness,. This was really evident when she was asked about missing her programs.

Instead of a simple yes or no answer as to whether she attended all of her programs she looks worried and terrified and is full of excuses about how she stayed in NY and did another class and something about a funeral.

THE INDIAN EMBASSY ???

When people lie their excuses often get more and more creative. They make no sense whatsoever min terms of their decision making process.

When Lindsay said she   tried  everything to get back to LA for her court date she said she even went to the Indian embassy.

This makes no sense  at all. An  American has no business going to an Indian embassy. They can only help their Indian citizens not American ones.

ANGRY CHIN JUT WHEN ASKED ABOUT HER PARTYING IN CANNES

In this photo above we really see a very angry Lindsay Lohan who looks very defiant as she juts her chin forward and glares at the interviewer who asked her about her partying in Cannes. She completely denied it stating that she was working.

She was extremely defensive body language wise with  a raised shoulder indicting that she was ready for a fight. It;s much like an aggressive animal does with raised hackles when they are ready to attack.

The odd thing was that the movie that she was allegedly promoting a movie  on which she says she was working hasn’t even  been made. So in essence she was there to promote an idea for a movie that has  no production date

LINDSAY AND HER  NEW ADDITON – A   SCRAM BRACELET

The whole thing is so sad. It was so sad to see Lindsay looking so devastated in the courtroom as she was sentenced to wear a SCRAM bracelet to determine if she would be free of alcohol in her system.

She was then told that she would be subject to random drug testing. I certainly hope that Lindsay can accomplish these two things. I hope that she will not drink or take drugs. I hope that  if she is addicted to either of these substances that she take advantage of this situation to get herself sorted out in a 12 step program or get herself to an addiction specialist who can help her. Rehab may also be a good choice for her. Even though she failed at it in the past, she just may succeed this time around. Oftentimes it may  take many stints in rehab to get clean of drugs and alcohol.

FAMILY DYNAMICS

I pray for Lindsay. I would love to see her succeed and become an inspiration to others. I know that this talented and beautiful young woman has suffered a lot of emotional distress due to her relationship with her TOXIC father.

 Instead of taking it out on herself and self  destructing,  she needs to get some professional help so that she can turn her pain outward and not inward.

DAD

Personally, I believe that the damage between Lindsay and her father is irreparable. When he shared her personal audiotapes with the world and allegedly received payment for doing so I believe that was the ultimate betrayal. There are some things which are unforgivable and in my view  that is one of them.

I believe that she needs to continue to unplug from her father and continue to keep him at arms length from her. He does not need to be in her life. I believe that there are some people who are so TOXIC to others that they can wreak havoc on their psyche and restimulate self destructive behaviors.

MOM

While Dina her mother is clearly an enabler based on her actions and denial of Lindsay’s issues, there is no doubt that Lindsay loves her mother. You can see her love for her mother when she talked about her mother in the Hollywood.com interview.

You could even see the affection the two have for one another in the latest ET interview where Lindsay surprised her mother with having her mother’s house cleaned by a professional organizer. I think that their relationship could be a lot healthier if they both had some  joint counseling together and Dina learned about boundaries and not enabling her daughter.

SIBLINGS

There is also a lot of affection between Lindsay and her siblings. In fact she became teary eyed when she talked about not being able to attend her younger brother’s graduation because she was going to be in court .

I believe that Lindsay can turn this negative experience into a positive one and use the time to get herself sorted out.

I hope that she gets counseling to help her deal with the pain that appears to be gnawing inside of her.  Nothing  would be more inspiring than to see  a positive  comeback for this beautiful and gifted actress. www.drlillianglass.com

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Naomi Campbell’s Body Language and Vocal Tone On Oprah Indicates She May Continue To Be A Danger to Others As She “Sees Red,” Is In Denial, and Blames Others

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

NAOMI NEEDS TO BE TALKING TO  A MENTAL HEATH PROFESSIONAL INSTEAD OF  OPRAH

Perhaps one of the most disturbing interviews I have ever seen was watching model Naomi Campbell on Oprah.

Naomi’s :

crying for no reason for no reason  at all

not knowing why she was crying  when asked by Oprah,

her telling Oprah that she” sees red’ and then doesn’t remember anything and

her making countless excuses for her egregious behavior

leads me to believe that she is a clear  danger to anyone who has to  work with her or deal with her personally or professionally.

A  person with  no clue why they act the way they do and  abuses others because they   don’t do exactly what is expected,   is  a TOXIC PERSON  and frightening to be around.

Perhaps Oprah may have even sensed that Naomi might possibly  be dangerous and go off on her as well, especially after Naomi said that she “sees red” and then doesn’t remember what happens after she goes off on someone.

Maybe that  is why  Oprah’s body language indicated that she was particularly gentle with Naomi on her show. Perhaps she didn’t want to upset Naomi to the point that she  saw  red and ended up throwing  something at Oprah.

 WHY OPRAH HAD NAOMI ON THE SHOW AND WHAT NAOMI WAS TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH BY BEING ON THE SHOW?

We obviously  know why Oprah had Naomi on the show- sweeps ot  ratings season.  But what was Naomi’s reason for being on Oprah’s show?

She had nothing to promote and really had nothing  of value  to say except make excuses for her bad behavior and to display how TOXIC she was.

Sometimes people go on Oprah to set the record straight. They want to tell their side of the story and to let the public know who they  really are.

Well Naomi’s appearance definitely let everyone know who she is- a  very disturbed woman  in my view who needs to be  feared until she gets some major professional help and gets her anger in control .

 Looking at the little red Kabballah bracelet tied to her wrist, it will take a lot more than Kabbalah, Madonna’s  organization  to set this woman straight. It will take hours and hours of serious  therapy by a qualified professional.

 NAOMI BEING A SELF ADMITTED” CONTROL FREAK”  SPEAKS TO HER IMMATURITY, LACK OF SELF CONTROL, BOUNDARIES AND IMMATURITY AND BEING A  TOXIC PERSON

While not everyone who is a self admitted control freak is abusive, being a control freak and not being flexible and tolerant of others can  often lead towards abusing others.

Look at another self admitted “control freak,” Kate Gosselin and how she abused her former husband Jon, her kids, and most recently, her dancing partner on Dancing With the Stars, Tony Dovalani.

While Kate has been seen throwing clothing and toys,  Naomi’s throwing items like cell phones and other items and hitting people and  ABC cameras shows that this woman is out of control herself.

This is the case with most control freaks. They cannot control themselves and their own impulses , so  they try to control others and everyone around them.

When A baby doesn’t get their way, they cry or often throw a tantrum.  That is exactly what Naomi does. She obviously hasn’t grown up. She still resorts to this immature and infantile behavior.  Mature grownups use words. They don’t throw  things at others and hit them.

BRINGING HER  MARRIED BOYFRIEND ON THE SHOW DID NOT ENDEAR NAOMI TO MANY VIEWERS

For someone who espouses to do the right thing and encourages moral turpitude, it didn’t seem very  Oprah-like to me to allow Naomi to display her married boyfriend on the show like a first grader brings a pet turtle to school for “show and tell.”

I don’t care if the man is  a handsome Russian or  looks like he stepped  out of the pages of Gentleman’s Quarterly, or that he has been separated for ten years.

I don’t care if he said it twice or twenty times. The fact is that  he is still a  married man and doesn’t sit right with a lot of viewers. That did not help Naomi in trying to rehab her image on Oprah in my view. Instead, it showed very poor judgment on her part.

Control Freaks as Naomi  described herself, may be on their best behavior with a  lover  Naomi  says she likes to have a man in control. So  no doubt,  her Russian married boyfriend agrees with this philosophy or  he wouldn’t be with her for very  long.

But eventually one’s the real personality  comes out. So no doubt when Naomi starts showing more signs of a  her control freak nature, who uses violence to get her way, her married Russian lover may go back to the  wife to whom he was separated  from for the past  ten years.

NAOMI  IF FULL OF THE BLAME GAME  FROM ACCUSING ABC OF PUTTING IN SOUND EFFECTS WHEN SHE HIT THE CAMERA TO HER EMPTY WORDS ABOUT AN ABANDONED CHILDHOOD

As soon as Naomi  spoke she turned millions off  viewers. While she had every right to not speak  about an issue when she was interviewed and  even had a right to walk off the set if it upset her that much, she did NOT  have  right to slap a producer’s camera on her way out.

She could have done some major damage to extremely sensitive and sophisticated equipment.

Naomi claimed to Oprah that there was “a sound effect” added to the ABC News reports on the incident. ABC News claims that they  did not add any sound effects to the ABC News reports on the alleged blood diamond gift, which aired April 22 on both World News and Nightline.

I believe them as  news organizations do not do such things. Having worked for ABC’s Los Angeles’ affiliate  myself as a reporter, I can assure you that this does NOT happen.

Naomi had no accountability whatsoever.  ‘She actually smiled  as smug smile as you can see in the above photo. She spoke about her lashing out as though she was proud of her TOXIC  behavior.

 EXCUSES, EXCUSES , AND MORE  EXCUSES  AS SHE EXPLAINS HER THROWING THINGS COMES FROM  ABANDONMENT ISSUES

Naomi had to clarify that it was not a jewel encrusted phone that she threw at the housekeeper but a regular one!

When Oprah calmly asked her “What it is in you that tells you it’s OK thow throw things?” Naomi looks away  and says  sees red  as she said she didn’t even remember why she threw the phone at the housekeeper who couldn’t find her jeans. She says  “ I don’t remember  I just threw the phone .

She then goes on to say “I’m ashamed.”  Nut Naomi showed no visible body language signs of shame  and no vocal signs of shame. It was clearly  noting more than rehearsed rhetoric, especially when she attributed her actions to “abandonment issues.”

After  Naomi had no clue or  insight as to why she behaves as she does, she decided to bring in some psychology  101 and discuss “abandonment issues.”

As she discussed this she looked down. She couldn’t even look at Oprah as she knew this was complete BS.  Like Oprah remarked in a calm monotone, lots of people have abandonment issues and mamma issues and  they don’t throw things.

When Naomi tied to  lamely explain that since she was abandoned she keeps trying to build   up a family around her “ that’s not my immediate family.” She goes on to say that  if  she feels  a mistrust then”  she let’s loose with her violent behavior.

Well here is a clue  Naomi. Your helpers and assistants and cab drivers and people on airplanes and taxi drivers are NOT your family.

I would say create a real family of your own, but on second thought until you get your anger and your psychological issues sorted out, it would be a tragedy to bring anyone into your life and abuse them like you have constantly abused others.

NAOMI”S MOTHER SPILLS THE BEANS

While Naomi tried to attribute her issues on to her mother, he mother let out some very valuable information about Naomi.

She said that she worked hard as a 19 year old mother and sacrificed a lot so that Naomi could have everything she wanted and get a great education and attend private schools.

This screams at what an ingrate Naomi is. Instead of focusing on what she didn’t have – her mother’s time, she needs to focus on what she did have- and how her mother made  every opportunity possible like going to private school.  Perhaps that would help her diffuse her internal rage.

 PLAYING THE VICTIM ROLE COMPLETE WITH TEARS

When a person cries  and cries  and can’t tell you why they are crying, a possibility is that they are in a depression.

But when one is  on Oprah and  doesn’t wipe off their tears and leaves them there to glisten, chances are very high that they are using their tears as a form of manipulation in leaving them there for effect. They want  you to feel sorry or pity for them.

I have no doubt that this was the case with Naomi. Oprah offered her a kleenex,  but the tears were still there, glistening. Also when she wiped away some non tears that is when I was convinced it was all for effect and all for control and manipulation.

THUMBING HER NOSE UP AT HER PUNISHMENT FOR COMMUNITY SERVICE

When Naomi had to undergo hours of community service she wore her designer clothing complete with evening gown.  This was an obvious message to the powers that be. She tried to explain it away that she had a photo shoot afterwards.

One does NOT come to photo shoots in a designer gown.  The gown is usually put on  at the time of the photo  shoot as to not ruin it  with perspiration or dirt.

If she was doing her community service washing out toilets and floors, there is a high percentage that she would get some dirt and grime on her gown. So what she was saying was ridiculous.

She then tried to spin it that she had nice clothing  and likes to dress well and so she wore what she usually wears.  Puhleeze!

It was clear as to what Naomi was doing and saying by this action.  Her message was  “ I am above it I am entitled and I will show you!  I will wear  designer elegant gowns to your lowly common community service to further rub in your face just who I am!”

It was clear that she was thumbing her nose at the system in a very immature way.

PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES AND  NAOMI IS NOT PRETTY

Watching Oprah fawn over Naomi and drool over how beautiful she was and the perfection 0f her body was absolutely  sickening to me. In my eyes. When Oprah spoke about how she envied Naomi and her glamorous life, it spoke volumes about Oprah and her insecurities about her looks and self admitted weight issues.

Naomi is anything but pretty, attractive, or  beautiful in my eyes.  In fact she is quite the opposite. I strongly subscribe to the “pretty is as pretty does” philosophy.

So what is she has a proportional figure which makes her sexy to men as Bono said.  Maybe in her past she took cocaine to keep thin and keep her model figure as so many models did back in the day.

But now that she is 40,  she showed that she spends hours and hours a day of grueling exercise to keep that figure. That is her job.  As a live mannequin , Ii she gets flabby she won’t look as good in the clothing  which people pay her a  lot of money to showcase.

Anyone who is that nasty, clueless, in denial, unaccountable for their actions,  superficial and remorseless is anything but pretty in my eyes !

NO REMORSE  IN VOCAL TONE AS SHE CLAIMS  TO WANTS TO BE A BETTER PERSON

Wearing her  her little red $20  Kabbalah Center string on her wrist, Naomi wipes away  her contrived  tears as  in a monotone, she  says  that she wants to be a better person.

Based on her lack of emotion in her tone and her looking away, and lack of  remorse in her facial expression or body language,  those appeared to be empty words. They sounded good but they were  not heartfelt.

If Naomi wants to be a better person, the first thing she needs to so is stop working and gallivanting around and get into some serious  and intensive therapy before she interacts with others.

She needs to give some of her millions that she earned throughout the years to charitable causes like the Smile Train  Foundation or Doctors Without Borders who operate on patients with facial deformities.

A better person gives and is not  only consumed with themselves. They donate their time and efforts to help others.

Maybe Naomi needs to start at modeling school or class  for inner city young women to help them build their self esteem.

Finally anyone who wants to  be a better person does the right thing. That includes  not going with a married man – even if he has been separated for ten years. If he hasn’t divorced his wife and made a commitment,  it means that he is still connected to his wife.

Oprah’s last words to Naomi was that she hopes she finds peace and that Naomi not spend as much time on her  external  world  and more on her  internal world.

That is like asking a duck to use a computer.  What Oprah really needed to say was, “run and see a therapist as soon as you can because you have clearly demonstrated  on this show that you are in serious need of help.” www.drlillianglass.com

 

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