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ITLESS and Infamous Women Rewarded- Kate Gosselin, Michaele Salahi, Rachel Uchitel, Ashley Dupree and Alexis Neiers-What Message Does It Give To Our Young Women?

Sunday, August 8th, 2010

 TALENT IS WHAT COUNTS, NOT SPIN AND HYPE FOR THE ITLESS

As you well know from reading my blogs, I cannot stand spin or hype or manipulating the public. I don’t like it when the public is fed lies or when people are easily given a free ride when they don’t deserve it. In essence, I like the truth! Most of all I like it when people who work very hard for what they do are justly rewarded for their efforts.

Having worked with so many celebrities and extremely talented people over the years in helping them hone their communication and body language skills for so many film and television roles,  I definitely know who has IT and who doesn’t. I know how hard these people work at making themselves the best they can be. I have seen their considerable efforts and what it takes to make it first hand.

That is why it disturbs me greatly when I see people who have repeatedly been “abusive and entitled ” like Kate Gosselin, “alleged White House gate crashing” Michaele Salahi, “jailed burglar of the wealthy” Alexis Neiers, and “ don’t call me a whore or a hooker even though I have repeated sex with married men or I will sue you”, Rachel Uchitel taking up space and getting rewarded for their bad behaviors with television shows and tons of air time.

IN TV, LOTS OF EYEBALLS TRANSLATE INTO  LOTS OF DOLLARS AND CENTS

In my view, these women have absolutely nothing to offer.  But television executives would disagree with me. To them, these women have a lot to offer- lots of eyeballs watching shows on which they appear . They don’t care if  they are hated by the public  or they  did or immoral or  illegal acts.

As long as people are watching them on TV and ratings are high , they are thrilled. When ratings are high that means the networks  can charge a lot of money to advertisers to buy commercials. That translates into more money for the networks. That is called the bottom line.

So as long as the public watches people they love to hate, the longer they will stay in the public eye. It’s a sad commentary but unfortunately, it is true.

THE UNTALENTED ,ENTITLED,  AND ITLESS KATE GOSSELIN

When networks see that they have a cash cow, like they did with Kate Gosselin, they will do anything and everything to make sure that they succeed no matter how ITLESS they are. They will re make their physical image andshow them off  on every major show like Dancing With the Stars so they will get more popular and so that even more people will watch them on their network.

That is exactly what they did with Kate Gosselin. It doesn’t matter if you or I believe that Kate has absolutely nothing to offer. It doesn’t matter whether  you or I think she has some relevant  issues in her psyche that causes her to be so  angry, arrogant, and self centered to name a few. She will continue to alienate people and she will continue to do it over the airwaves. She was even invited to do Sara Palin’s new show in order to boost the ratings.

Like it or not, this woman is here to stay with not one, but with  two television shows and a myriad of appearances and television specials. This former nurse  simply took fertililty pills and got pregnant with septuplets, six of whom survived in her womb.   Luckily a guardian angel- TLC  found her. They helped her out and gave her a show, so she could feed her family. We,  in turn got to watch cute babies develop. At first, people watched the show because of the cute kids. But then, even more people watched  the show  to see how awful Kate was and how terribly she abused  husband Jon.

Then the fiasco between them exploded into a full blown media He Say She Says war, which made even more people watch their show.  TLC was thrilled as people took sides and waited to see the “bad car accident”.

Then Jon pulled the plug, not allowing the kids on the air. He went even further to try and destroy TLC’s ,by trashing Kate so badly and causing so much havoc in the press with his multiple relationship scandals.

This pissed off TLC to no end and they were not going to allow him to  destroy their money making TV venture.  So they showed him a thing or two. They not only gave Kate her own show, but a second show to boot. In addition they slapped him with a lawsuit and silenced him.

They took this “itless” untalented, nasty, self absorbed woman- Kate Gosselin  and tried to make her into a sympathetic  victim by having her cry all over the airwaves.  (And please don’t waste your time calling me a Kate hater. Kate is not on my hate list. That list is reserved for people like Hitler and Stalin, terrorists, child molesters, and for those who do word for word copying of my work, among others I won’t bother to name ).

I am simply reporting behaviors I have observed. If you can’t see it them as well, let me suggest you take off your blinders and open your eyes and watch a re-run of  her egregious behavior on DWTS when she  fights with her esteemed dance teacher).

TLC  gave her opportunity after opportunity and she of course took it. They were on full throttle and determined to make Kate not only a  household name, but a  house-gold  name earning scores of money for them .

They redid her image from the frumpy housewife to the glamourous beauty, had her co- host the View where millions would see her, appear on late night shows, and on TV specials where they even had her and had her cry on cue to make her appear more sympathetic.  But when they  put her on DWTS they really saw how powerful their brand was.

Her fight with her teacher Tony Dovolani which showed her disrespect and arrogance and entitlement,  garnered the highest ratings.  People who loved her, watched  to see her succeed, while people who hated her watched to see her fail. When she was voted off the show, DWTS ratings plunged and TLC knew they hit the jackpot with Kate.

They even gave her another show and trotted her out there with more books so more people could connect to her. They threw her back on the View and Kimmel Live and everywhere else. TLC created this “itless”  who some consider to be a “monster,” out of spite  for Jon and they succeeded.

So like or not, love her or hate her, she is here to stay no matter how many latters you write or emails you send. The more people hate her the more they will watch her and the higher her ratings will be.

I only hope she remakes her insides as she did with her outsides for the sake of her kids. While both Kate and her “itlessness” bore me, my only concern is for her kids and how they will turn out. I clearly didn’t like it when I saw the videotape of the kids crying in terror when it came time to go back home to Kate after an outing with Jon. While we don’t know the exact reason the childen are terrified, if they are terrified  because of Kate’s behavior towards them, maybe TLC should use some of the money they earned because of  Kate’s infamy and spring for some therapy for both Kate and those kids.

ITLESS MICHAELE SALAHI-  INFAMY AND MORE TV TIME

To me Kate isn’t as disturbing as Michaele Salahi. I find this woman repulsive in every way from her arrogant tone of voice to her pleadingthe fifth and not being forthright. What did she have to hide?  I am even more repulsed that attorney Lisa Bloom for whom I once had a great deal of respect  has stooped so low as to represent this “itless creature. It was bad enough that Lisa represented one of the most TOXIC MEN Michael Lohan who tapes personal conversations with others and sells them to internet venues and who recenty sold a nude photo of his ex fiance sleeping  to one of the internet tabloid outlets. But now, she has gone further in collecting clients the public  loves to hate. I guess she is following in the footsteps of her mother Gloria Allred  who takes on the infamous like Rachel Uchitel and a myriad of  Tiger’s sex partners.

If Michaele had an invitation to the White  House  party,  like she said she did, why didn’t she show it to everyone?  On the Today Show she told how she couldn’t say anything at the hearing  because of Bravo. That may or may or may  not be the case. Did the Salahi’s have an invitation that Bravo gave to her? If so, why didn’t she just admit to that early on ? Or was she so entitled that she told Bravo that it was no biggie- that she could always get into top of the line events with or without an invite.

Now she and or her husband created a huge fiasco saying that Whoopi Goldberg hit her when the video clearly shows that Whoopi was  only trying to get her attention and merely re directing the topic of conversation. There is no question in my mind that  she knew Whoppi meant no malice. Why would Whoopi risk her reputation and position at the View to hit a guest? It made no sense other than Michaele and her, whom  I perceive as TOXIC husband Tareq,  trying to get more media time.

When her, whom I perceive as  TOXIC  husband Tareq got into the fray and upset Whoopi with accusations she hit his wife and started taking photos of her, I knew then and there what he was trying to do. He was trying to parlay this non incident  into more infamy for his  wife, whom people on her own show found TOXIC .

One thing is for sure, people who would never think of tuning into the DC Housewives, on Bravo will do so now. Because of this incident, Michaele will always  be assured her spot on the show as the villain. I am sure that Bravo is thrilled to no end that this fiasco occurred. Remember the bottom line is more eyeballs equal more revenue for the network.

So the this stylishly dressed , skeletal , very masculine voiced, opportunist who put national security in jeopardy by getting that close to the President of the United States without proper security clearance. is here to stay- at least on Bravo, Many would agree with Sheei Shephard on the View that she should have been put in jail rather than on a televison show.

ITLESS RACHEL UCHITEL- “CANT SAY “YOU KA TELL SHE’S A HOOKER” EVEN THOUGH SHE HAS BEEN A SEX MATE TO MANY MARRIED MEN,  OR YOU WILL BE SUED”

Then there is Rachel Uchitel. Attorney Lisa Bloom’s mother Gloria Allred was able to secure millions upon millions of dollars for Rachel. She also made it clear that no one could call Rachel a “hooker” or a “whore”, even though many may  look at her in those terms and will always look at her in those terms.

In fact she threatened the View and Joy Behar with a lawsuit if Joy didn’t apologize for the plays he made on Rachel’s last name , “Uchitel” by saying “You ka tell she’s a hooker.” Another comedian even got sued for calling her a “whore.” However, doesn’t seem too worried about the suit, Maybe he has information which can prove she is or  has been a whore.  If he does, then  you can then call her a “whore” without being sued.  To me a whore is someone who exploits others for money. I think getting an alleged  10 million dollars to  buy her silence and not speak publicly about Tiger Woods would fall into that category.

So the message was sent  out not to defame her. But what Rachel doesn’t get is that she defamed herself by having sex with at least two married men of whom we know.

Rachel  allegedly helped break up a marriage and she got rewarded for this not only with what is an alleged 10 million dollars, but with television time. Xtra gave her a TV gig as a reporter, even though she did an awful job in my view and was the ultimate in being ITLESS.

She  was unbearable to listen to with  her hyper-nasal monotone voice and even more unbearable to  watch with  her expressionless monotone face as she constantly brushed her hair back and pursed her over glossed overly inflated lips. Yet, she no doubt received a hefty compensation to do this even though there were so many more qualified,  beautiful, and talented young women who were  journalism graduates to boot, to do this job.

Rachel is no doubt gearing up for an Image Rehab. That is why she agreed to appear on Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew.  She has no doubt, realized that you can have ten million dollars but if people still  view her as a skank and a whore, homewrecker or a hooker, or a low life,  even if you can’t say it publicaly,it doesn’t matter.If people look at you like  alow life and have no respect for you and disdain for you, all the money in the world doesn’t matter as you are  vilified forever and considered a  joke.

So she went into Celebrity Rehab, and together with Dr Drew they came up with some type of addiction for her to use as an excuse for her egregious past behavior. Maybe it will be an addiction to  pills  or an addiction to her relationship with her father in  looking for that father image in married men , or maybe it will be due to an addiction to money and rich and famous men who take care of her financially. I guess we will have to watch the show to find out the big reveal of “ Rachel’s Addiction.”

Even if she is addicted to whatever, it is still no excuse for what she did. Lots of people are addicted to something and don’t act like she did.  People resent her even  more for her capitalizing on the tragedy and earning what is said to be ten million dollars in exchange for her silence towards Tiger Woods.

After watching her body language and how she comes across in interviews, she is not a likeable character and no coaching int he world can ever make her likeable.  There is something in her character that pops out on screen- the entitlement, arrogance, and hardness. When she spoke of being the Original” Mean Girl” in an Xtra interview she had with Mario Lopez, it  said all we needed to know about Rachel. There still appears to be a mean edge about her. It seems to be who she is based on all of the interviwes we have seen of her thus far.

Even if she and Tiger happen to reconnect and he marries her, as the tabloids have recently reported, she will always be looked at by the public with an evil eye. She will always be seen as the other woman and a homewrecker.

The villain label fits her and I don’t believe she can ever shake it no matter what she does. I am sure that this label will be cemented forever, as we watch her clash with super model Janice Dickenson who will also appears on the  Celebrity Rehab show . No matter what you say about Janice, she has earned her stripes. She pioneered her field and worked really hard for everything she has in life. Unlike, Rachel, no one gave Janice a free financial ride.

FORMER PROSTITUTE ASHLEY DUPREEE AND JAILED THEIF ALEXIS NEIRES –HORRIBLE MESSAGE TO YOUNG GIRLS

What bothers me is the message that this is being giving to out young girls by rewarding egregious behavior. It’s not only Rachel Uchitel ( whom you can;t call a hooker or a whore or she will sue you) who got a lot of good things in life for doing bad things. It is other women who were prostitutes  for madams,  like Ashley Dupree, who got rewarded with air time and her own advice column in a New York newspaper.

Instead of giving such a gig to a qualified relationship expert, the message is that just by having sex with famous men, you too can get you rich and famous, especially of you get caught.

The message is also that even if you burglarize things from the rich and famous like 18 year old Alexis Neires did, you can get rich and famous as well. If you happen to get caught, you can get even richer and more famous and even get your own TV show like Alexis did on the E! channel with her show “Pretty Wild TV!”.

IF THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH EYEBALLS THERE IS NOT ENOUGH MONEY AND NO SHOW

The whole thing absolutely repulses me. Someone needs to put their foot down and say” enough is enough “ when it comes to rewarding people for egregious behavior. While someone definitely needs to set these standards, perhaps  that “someone” is us.

Remember- eyeballs translate into money for the networks. The less eyeballs, the less money. So keep that in mind the next time you are curious about watching  Kate Gosselin, Rachel Uchitel, Michaele Salahi, or Alexis Neiers. www.drlillianglass.com

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Anita Van der Sloot’s Body Language Shows Anger at Joran and Shame He Is Her Son But Continues To Make Excuses For Him As She Cuts Him Out of Her Life

Saturday, June 26th, 2010

WAS THE STORY ABOUT  THE CONTENTS OF JORAN’S NOTE HE LEFT FOR HER TRUE?

While Joran may have left his mother Anita  a note that he was leaving for Peru, perhaps what he allegedly said  in that note may  be wishful thinking on the part of Anita van der Sloot.

She gives a seemingly embellished story when she says “Joran left me a note.” As she says.  this she brushes off her leg it looks like she is brushing something off. This is usually a signal of deception.

She then  looks down and licks her lips indicating  two other  signals  deception as she recites  that the note says “ Mommy I love you but I, I (repetition of the word I which is another signal of deception )  don’t wanna go to the Netherlands. She then looks way which is yet anothersignal of deception.

She then says, using  a strong voice which does ring true “ I am invited to gamble  in Peru and  I can make money there. But then her voice wanes as she goes on with something that doesn’t make much sense as she adds that Joran’s note says  and  I wanna stay there far  away as no body knows me there. I wanna think I what I wanna do with my life?”

Right after she says this she cocks her head as though she is questioning what he has just said- another signal of deception. I seriously doubt Joran wrote those exact words “I wanna stay there far away nobody knows me there. That doesn’t sound like something someone would write in a note as does I wanna think what to do with my life.

Those are very serious decisions- to stay in Peru and to go away and decide what to do with his life. Why would he write that in a little note instead of  discussing these important life changing decisions verbally with is mother. Also her stating that Joran was there to stay in Peru as opposed to other Latin American countries does not ring true either. He went there for a Poker tournament, not to stay there and build a life. He also  went to Columbia and Chile and was on his way to Argentina.So I don’t buy  it that he was going to  to build a life in Peru where no one knew him. It doesn’t make sense, especially since he is not all that fluent in Spanish.

The fact that he wrote it instead of communicating it   to her verbally shows what a strained relationship they must have had. Also since her interview  was done for Dutch TV and since she said she trusts them so much, why didn’t she produce that note that Joran wrote in order to show everyone exactly what he wrote?

She then  looks down and purses her lips and shrugs her shoulders- all three  all signals of deception as  her body language and facial expression do not match her feelings she is attempting to express. Then she makes a loud” tsking” or smacking sound with her tongue, followed by silence.

She says I was angry. She knits her brow together and juts her jaw forward indicating that she was indeed angry with Joran.

She says ” I was ready for Joran to eh   follow a path where they could help him dealing with his eh  (looks away) em his gambling addiction and if there was a personality disorder which could be very good possible.” She she looks down and blinks a lot as she says this.

Her body language tells make me wonder if she really did send him tot he Netherlands and if  he was planning to go there ,  or if this is all Anita’s  spin to not make Joran look like  a monster.

If you are going to a clinic for a gambling addiction, you mention only  that and don’t add in his  personality disorder, unless  you know one exists. There is no doubt that Anita did know that Joran had some type of psychological problem as he was apparently seeing a therapist in his teen years. Apparently he was sent to a therapist by his parents. According to an interview  which Joran gave to the Aruban police when he was a teen, given after Natalie’s was found missing, Joran admitted he had been sent to a psychiatrist for stealing 50 euros  from his father and for his violence towards his brother.

While Jorn has told many lies in his past, I believe that his telling about seeing a psychiatrist was one of the few times that he was telling the truth.

ANITA LAUGHS WHEN SHE SAYS IT COULDN’T BE JORAN WHO KILLED STEFANY

After Anita recounts that  she found out Stefany was murdered and says that it could not have been Joran,  her facial expression is not what one would expect. She smiles as you see above.

At first she recites what she heard  in a very low and labored tone. As she speaks she  turns her whole body and face away as literally to not face this disaster she is revealing.


She says “ I heard  was a girl found n the Tac hotel in the room of Joran. Her  Inflection goes up as she says em murdered grually em with a  knife , blood everywhere etc. (why would someone say etc.?) They would say etc as a  means of detachment. Anita was clearly trying to detach herself from the horror  of the incident as she  further visualized what he son did to  poor Stefany. Knowing this was too much for her to bear emotionally. The fact that Anita spoke in a  monotone also conformed her emotional detachment.

As Anita says the words there was blood everywhere,she looks away and turns her head to face way from the interviewer. It is as though she is unable to face this horrific visual scene as she has a serious and devastated look on her face as you can see above.

But  then what she does seems rather odd. She begins to smile as she says “And I thought no no this cannot be. No way.Her smile is a not a happy smile but rather a nervous smile. It is a that lasts five seconds.  It may also be a  smile of relief that Joran was finally  caught for  all of his past and present his misdeeds. She then shrugs her shoulders.

We know that a shoulder shrug is often associated wih a person not telling the truth. When Anita  said the words” No way” referring to the fact that there was no way Joran could have committed this brutal act, she was not telling the truth. In her mind,she may have  very well known that Joran was capable of doing such a horrific thing based on his past violence and personality disorder which she referred to earlier in the interview.

She then says she says I was I was was completely shut ” while  clasping  her hands together as if  and then  brushing  her palms   as though she was symbolically brushing Joran off and eliminating  from her life.

Then she crosses her chest with her   with her arms  over lapping one another as if to protect herself. She then  describes how she was  completely shut down emotionally .

Then she pushes her hands out as if she is literally pushing Joran  away from her.

As she describes her phone call with Joran when he was calling her from the taxi during his escape into Chile, her body language appears to be  in synch with her emotional state. Here we see Anita making very frantic  gestures with her hands as she relates how she implored her son to   turn himself in and go to police after she described how he was crying to her.

Then Anita changes her tune and says that she thought it was all a set up because it was exactly five years to the day “that Natalie death happened and now this with Stefany  Flores  happened.” The fact that she mentioned the two girl by  name indicates that she has  respect for them as she  realized the gravity of the situation and her son’s involvement  .  As Anita mentions  Stefany’s name, she turns away as to symbolically turn away from Joran and what he did.  Her speaking in a very matter of fact  unemotional tone shows that she hasn’t fully come to terms with everything from an emotional standpoint.

ANITA SHOWS COMPASSION AND SHAME

Anita showed compassion when she said she immediately thought of the parents. Then she added that she  too identified as she lost a son. She then said she hoped  Joran can speak to the parents of  Stefany Flores and in a normal way tell them what happened.

But as she says this, there is a  tinge of anger in her tone as she  knows there will be no normal way for Joran speak to her parents .  So she says “And I apologize  for them that he is my son. ” She looks down in embarrassment as she makes this statement, indicting body language-wise that she is   truly embarrassed that Joran was her son.

But then  she attempts to modify what she said  by revealing “  He’s, not a monster.” She says this with a   questioning  look as her inflection goes up as if asking a question, perhaps wondering if Joran really is a monster.

In trying to erase this thought from her mind, she  further tries to mollify her shame and embarrassment of Joran by explaining that “ he can be  very gentle,” Then she she rolls  her head from side to side and shrugs  her shoulders as she continues to offer up further excuses fro Joran’s egregious acts by saying “  it could be that he  has a bipolar em personality.”
She is slightly teary  eyed  as she says this yet she is angry as indicated by her pursed lips and jaw jutted forward.

She then leans away and places  her hands in front of herself ,   interlocking her  fingers like a closed gate. In doing so she is    indicating that there is no way she will ever change the words  she has said “  I will not visit Joran  in Peru. I don’t have any feeling that it  can add up to anything. I want to keep distance .I think it will bring emotions up that I am not ready for. “

I think that Anita is wise to stay away from Joran as who knows what would happen to her if they were alone together in his cell in Peru. Based on his psychological reports Joran does not value the female role and has disrespect for women, Thus, there is no doubt that he disrespects his mother. Based on how violent his killing was of Stefany and what he probably did to Natalie, he harbors  a lot of rage towards women including   his mother. Therefore, her own life may be in jeopardy if she is face to face with her son.

She tries to justly her actions  of refusing to see her son by saying she is not a police officer, she is a  a mom.  What she is saying is that she wants the police  officers to handle him because as a mom she is helpless. She  goes  on to say of he is involved, then he needs to be punished by the police.

ANITA GOES BACK TO BLAMING JORAN’S PROBLEMS ON HIS BEING  CHASED FIVE YEARS

Anita definitely has mercurial feelings whne it comes to Joran. On the one hand she sees what Joran has done and wants hiom punished fro his actions.. But on the other breath she continues to make excuses  for Joraan by  saying that “he was chased five years;”

She ratonalizes that this is what caused this  as she blame “people stared at him everywhere he went. “

Maybe if Joran would have come clean and not toyed with the Holloway family, people would not have  have stared at him. Maybe if he would have completed his studies or gone on to  a respectable profession instead of being engaged in the trafficking of prostitutes in Thailand people wouldn’t have stared at him. Maybe if he would have dedicated his time and energies to a more worthwhile and charitable cause instead of playing poker, people wouldn’ t have stared at him.  Perhaps if he got the psychological help he needed, he would have been better able to cope if anyone did happen to stare at him. In reality, how could people avoid staring at someone like Joran who was a striking looking at 6 foot 3 inches tall.

Anita continued on in defending Joran by saying ,”They bothered him and there as no place he was safe.”

NOW ANITA GOES BACK TO BLAMING JORAN

We see Anita’s thought yo yoing  as she says ” I belive in karma. If you do things you shouldn’t do a lot of shit happens to you.” It was interesting how Anita used such a crude word when she knew she was being televised. Perhaps that was the only words she could use to describe her son’s predicament.

Ti use Anita’s word,  a lot of shit happened to Anita as well as Joran. It happened to her because she didn’t handle her out of control son with enough tough love. She made  too many excuses for him like  she is doing now.

But then she goes backtracks as she blames  Joran for not listening to his parents. But his parents needed to have set down some firm laws so their teenage son at the time was not in casinos gambling.

Anita then says ” He didn’t listen to me . and then hesitates and finally continues with “  this last time .” I have no doubt that Joran didn’t listen to Anita anytime.  In making such a  statement Anita is trying to defend herself, She does so by adding “  I tried to do my best I don’t think I could have done more.. “  Of course she could have done more  early on in Joran’s teen years. But she is right that she could not have done more now . It is too late.

One of the most disturbing aspects of  Anita’s interview was that she was making excuses for not  talking to Beth Twitty and blaming the fact that she was being shielded  by the media.  That is an excuse  because if Anita wanted to get to Beth she could have reached out to her somehow during these five years.As Anita says this she  looks down and shrugs her shoulder. This body language gesture indicates that  what Anita is saying about not being able to get to Beth is not true.

What is absolutely true based on her  angry and distanced  body language is that there is no longer any relationship between Anita and her son Joran. www.drlillianglass.com

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