Next month  my book TOXIC MEN will be out in both the paperback and the ebook edition http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Identify-Miserable-ebook/dp/B0049P1YWK. The book can also apply to women as well s there are  indeed TOXIC WOMEN. In the book I discuss TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS.

Perhaps no better example of a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP  is that  of Bobby Brown and the late Whitney Houston. The poor woman had not been in her grave more than 24 hours when we learned that  her ex husband Bobby Brown is ready to release a tell all book about their relationship to capitalize on her death. That is just the tip of the iceberg. This is the same man who did NOT immediately  hop on a plane to see his daughter as soon as he got word that Whitney had died. Instead he proceeded with his performance in Mississippi, soaking up all the sympathy and  attention milking it for what it was worth.

Then this TOXIC MAN shows up at the memorial service only to create some more drama  and attention to himself  by leaving. He uses  a lame excuse that the security people told him to move three times. Well if he read the invitation, it did NOT say to bring 9 members of his entourage. He needed to walk up to the front like a man and sit next to his daughter whether the family liked it or not. He needed to be there to hold this child’s hand and comfort her, instead of thinking about himself and his ego. I doubt any security would keep a father away from his daughter during her time of need.

Even if he was moved 20 times, he needed to have stuck it out for the sake of his daughter. Instead of sticking around and greeting Bobbi Kristina afterwards, he hightailed it out of there on to a plane where he headed for his concert where he performed evening. It makes one wonder if he didn’t plan this all along.

Bobbi Kristina  has taken her mothers death very hard and rightfully so. He was NOT there to immediately comfort her when she was taken away to Cedars Sinai Medical Center on a gurney the second time. He was NOT there when she needed him most at the memorial.

He was NOT  there when her mother was being buried. In fact she was so distraught that she was said to have taken drugs to cope with the pain in an attempt to self medicate. People at the funeral allegedly reported that she appeared to be high and out of it.

TOXIC Bobby Brown blamed security for his leaving. What a lame excuse! Nothing should have made him leave if he really loved his daughter. But as he has shown, he loves himself more.

Now I will show you just how TOXIC Bobby Brown was to Whiney and still is in her death with his attempts to publish a tell all book.

There are so many things I disucss in my book TOXIC MEN  book which apply to Bobby such as being jealous of a woman and subsequent violence. In a 2002 interview with Diane Sawyer, Whitney was asked many hard hitting questions. She asked Whitney if Bobby was jealous of her. Whitney looked directly at Dian and  told the truth. She  said “Sometimes.”

Here you can see her  straightforward and honest  facial expression in response to the question which she answered  in a deep rich resonance tone. Then Bobby comes into the room and yelled NEVER! as he hears the question. Whitney turns to him and i a sheepish tone with a raised octave  with upward infection at the end of the sentence . she says ” Sometimes I hit him ” as the word “him” inflecting upwards. ”

Whitney is clearly uncomfortable as Bobby says this as she rocks back and forth and leans into Diane and puts her hand up as if to say “STOP!” Diane then then invites Bobby on to the coach to interview him directly.  Whitney is not happy about this based on her nervous laugh.

Here Bobby tells Diane” Marriage is turbulent.” Look at their body language as they are seated together. It says it all. Bobby  has his shoulder up towards Whitney literally giving her the “cold shoulder .” He fans away form her and cocks his head in defensiveness. She is tight lipped and there appears to be a lot of facial tension indicating discomfort .

Then Diane bluntly comes out and says Have you ever hit her? He squints and you can see the disdain at her question as he replies No  no no no no, no no no. When someone says that many no’s chances are they are lying. Subsequently, we have come to know that he did indeed hit her and that she even called 911 on him.

Whitney looks away and fluffs her fair and makes a nervous laugh. her body language says it all as she tries to defend him.but knows this is the truth. As he speaks she continues to  pat her hair down in an attempt to self sooth herself .

Bobby goes on to say how he has four sisters and a mother and daughters and would never do such a thing. But as he says this we see him tug at his ear as his autonomic nervous system kicks in where the slight  blood flow changes create itching and tingling. Hence the ear pulling and scratching. He also looks away which is another signal of deceptions he says I would never raise my hands inane kind of way to them.

Then he stammers and says something that has nothing to do with the question Sawyer asked him. he says I love the beauty of women. Whitney clearly knows he is trying to pin it as he look son in disgust and literally gves hi the cold shoulder. This shows us how the body does’t lie. Even tough she was trying to defend him and let’s him literally take over her interview, he body  language speaks volumes  about how she really feels here.’ She also take a deep breath to oxygenate herself as she clearly knknew the truth. As Bobby goes on to defend himself. he grabs Whitneys thigh and says “This is mine.” That said it all! He looked at Whitney as his possession.

Then giant point blank asks if he is jealous of her. Whitney’s body language tells the answer. She puts her finger over her mouth which indicates she is guarding her tongue and not speaking about it and holding back. She turns her body away from him a s she leans back. there is also a great deal of lower jaw tension as we can see. She knows the truth as he denies his jealousy. Thenhe makes a chauvinistic statement “She is a female.” And no one can touch me as an entertainer ! ‘ In retrospect that says it ALL! It says that he did look at Whitney as less than him- as a female and though he was better entertainer. His statement that no one can touch him includes Whitney. In essence he is saying he is a better entertainer than her.

Now Diane literally turns up the heat as she ask him about his doing drugs. We see Bobby sweat as he tries to low key it. But the truth was that the morning of this interview he was arrested with drugs  (marijuana) in his car. When we see someone suddenly sweat it is often n indication of guilt and or deception. As he yes on to explain how drugs are still in his life, he stammers and stutters ,

He is defensive and crosses his arms over his body to show how he does not want to admit just how much drugs are a part of his life.  We can see his defensive head cock and Whitney’s  laughing at knowing just how much drugs are a big part of Bobby’s life . She may be subconsciously enjoying seeing him uncomfortable and squirming during Diane’s questioning.

He stammers and shoulder shrugs as she says he is a high strung persona nd bipolar and how drugs seem to help hm. Whitey really laughs as he says this as she probably realizes how lame he sounds. She knows the truth about him and her laughter says it all. It is a  nervous laugh of discomfort.

She leans forward  and then back and laughs as he describes how every now and then he smokes a joint to level him out.  She says it is not an every dayhting but interjects maybe every other day

When asked about other drugs Whitney’s demeanor suddenly changes as she looks somber and looks down as Bobby says he never has taken them and never will. The give away here is Whitney is shaking her leg repeatedly as he says this , which is often a signal of deception.  He goes on to lie that even though he was tested positive for cocaine as Diane pointed out it was not cocaine but a cocaine like substance like aspirin.

As we look at their wedding video shots we can clearly see that Whitney was very much in love with Bobby. She says in her interview with Diane that she learned so much from him like to not be so contained. Unfortunately  she learned the wrong things from him. her lack of constraint is what no doubt contributed to her early death.

Then the most revealing part of the interview is that Whitney said nothing is perfect.SShe says it several ties as she shrugs her shoulders and shake hr head. Diane then says so this is forever” Whitneys body language says something other than her words, as she replied Thats what I said. She shakes her head no and purses her lips and her voice goes up at the end. This once again verifies that the body does not lie. her body language said it all- that she and Booby would definaetly NOT be forever.

To see the entire video and Whitney and Bobby’s body language in action, click the link below

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=4evtIICA1II#!

Whitney’s life shows us what can happen when we get involved with a TOXIC MAN. Whether or not she took drugs before Bobby is not the point. The points that you can see the pain as expressed in her body language when she was married to this TOXIC MAN.