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The most telling thing is that Bobbi Kristina did the whole 10 minute interview standing up. No one does an intimate  interview standing up unless they are planning to hightail it out of there if the going gets rough or the interview is too much to handle.

Initially we see Bobbi with her hands on her hips  as you can see above, indicating a defensiveness and an anger as though she really does not want to be there. Even though her words said one thing, her body said another.  In my view she was not ready to open up and talk about her mother who tragically died less than two weeks ago. To me it was a very premature interview. Look at Bobbi’s hands on her hips. This indicates a defensiveness, a discomfort  and an inner anger at having to do the interview. There is a tight lipped smile as she shows her ambivalence.

It was also difficult for her to maintain eye contact with Oprah, which further  indicated her discomfort. When she told Oprah “I still have a voice.” it was a very revealing statement. The only time we have heard her voice was when she did a cover of  an Adele song and put it on youtube. We have not heard her perform publicly. He choice of the word “still” says a lot . It may reflect her enmeshing her identity with Whitney’s. Whiney is not longer alive and hence has no voice . But Kristina says of her self that she” still has a voice” indicating to herself at least on a subconscious level that  her mother will have a voice through her.

She then tells Oprah how she plans to acts and sing and dance. In essence Bobbi wants to carry on where Whitney left off. But can she?  Even if she has been groomed to do so by Whitney, the question remains as to whether she has the talent to do so in such a public an competitive arena. Even if she was groomed by her mother and even of she is taken under Clive Davis’ wing and given all the contacts to become a singer and an  actress, the reality is that she may not be able to pull it off for a variety of reasons.

Oprah knows this as well as she immediately replied “Don’t you think that;s a lot of pressure? ” Oprah is right. Bobbi is putting a lot of pressure on herself as she will never live up to what her mother did or take over and channel her mother as an actress and singer,  no matter how much she has been groomed.

It will take a lot of work and a lot of practice to get her chops in music and in acting, not to mention natural talent. She will have to do a lot of studying and will have to have a lot of focus.

Also there will be enormous pressure because the public will be highly critical. She is not Whitney nor does she have Whitney’s singing abilities or physical appearance. While Bobbi Kristina did a lovely job singing Adele’s song on youtube it was sweet and pretty but nothing remarkable. Her breath control needs a lot of work as does her phrasing. She is off key in many plaecs and as Paula Adbul used to say n American Idol she is “pitchy” , Her is the link for you to hear Bobbi and make a judgment of her singing for yourself. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GImAjkWMXgI

For every Natalie Cole who followed in her famous father Nat King Cole’s footsteps and succeeded, there are the Lisa Marie Presley’s who  for whatever  reason could never follow in her father’s footsteps, even though I personally love the way she sings. The post humous duet she sings with her dad Elivis “In the Ghetto” is awesome.

Not to be mean,  but the public is highly critical when it comes to physical appearance and presence and at this point Bobbi Kristina in my view needs a lot of work in that area from braces to close the gap in her teeth to perhaps some cosmetic facial refinement to balance out her features. She needs work on her posture and movement an stage presence

Almost everyone ha done this to make their brand even more appealing from Leanne Rhimes to J Lo to Madonna  to Jennifer Hudson, to Fantasia Barino. So Bobbi Kristinia is no exception. Even Adele who  publicly says she is happy with her looks allegedly took off some pounds for the Grammy ceremonies.

To illustrate Bobbi Kristina’s discomfort and uneasiness during the interview we constantly see her fidgeting and moving around. She plays with her hair and constantly pushes it off of her face. She fiddles with her clothes and brushes herself off. There is constant movement which indicates anxiety. There is also a lot of scratching. Oftentimes when a person feels anxiety their autonomic nervous system takes over and blodd flow starts to increase causing an itching sensation.

It once again confirms to me that she was clearly not ready to do any interviews about her mother and how she is doing. In watching this interview once can see how she is doing. She is not doing well. How could she do well?

Her best friend and mother died so unexpectedly and under such tragic circumstances.  They were so close that she and her mother even napped together  as she indicated.

Her flesh and blood father has not been there for her in the moments she needed him the most. He was not there when she was taken to Cedars Sinai the second time. Instead he was out performing and feeding his own ego. And most of all he a not there to sit by her side and hold her during the memorial and funeral. Instead he chose to let his ego get in the way, leave and perform the evening he left.

So essentially she is an orphan now. She has no mother and no father to speak of.

Also she said she has been staying in Whitney’s house- alone. Personally I do not think that is very healthy,. I think she not only needs her family’s help, she need s professional help from a licensed therapist and grief counselor to help her through her hard and impossible days.

It is going to take a long time for Bobbi to cope with this. So far she has allegedly coped by getting high as it has been reported that she was high at the funeral. Is she still getting high to cope with the intense pain? Several have questioned her fidgeting and constant movement on the Oprah interview and wondered if it was related to any drug use.  I don;t know the answer to that but it certainly may be a possibility.

This young lady has a lot ahead of her and needs someone who is stable and has a level head  and who is drug free to guide her. I hope that she does set up with someone who can get her to a great therapist as she desperately needs one.

When I saw the video of icon and leading man heartthrob back in the day, Omar Sharif of Dr. Zhivago fame ,I was beyond shocked. He abusively slapped  a woman simply because she wanted to have her photo taken with him. It was appalling. What was more appalling was looking at the video frame by frame and seeing how he gets enraged, slaps her, goes off on her, feels guilty about it, tries  to make nice but he is still  angry as he considers her the catalyst  for making him angry.

Meanwhile, like many abused women, she smiles through it all an accepts it. But the smile is tense and a smile of embarrassment.  Her body language reveals fear. As he tries to make nice, she backs off. He agrees to take a photo with her but his body language shows that he still habors resentment towards her.

Several years ago a study was done which showed women in Qatar tend to overlook when they are abused. That is devatsating news. The woman Sharif slapped seems to demonstrate this .

Below are the shocking series of events.

Sharif’s body language shows he is enraged  as he slaps this poor woman and yells at her that she needed to wait her turn to have her photo taken with him.

The woman fears him and his rage as she holds up her hand defensively.

The woman smiles and continues to smile throughout the ordeal.This is typical of abused women who may believe that they “deserved” it. No one deserves this kind of treatment-EVER!

He continues to berate her.He gestures wildly to ask her what he was thinking. All she did was try to get a photo with  him. An Egyptian, Sharif is considered one of the biggest  Middle Eastern  actors of all time. So for this woman to get a little excited and perhaps not wait her turn to get his photo is understandable.

He continues to berate this poor woman unmercifully. It is so embarrassing that the woman standing next to him who is most likely a handler bows her hed in shame as she wears an ambivalent smile.

Sharif now has a sudden change of heart as he realizes what he has done in front of the cameras. Can you imagine what this Toxic man must do when there are no cameras present ?

You can actually see him thinking about what he just did as the expression on his face  dramatically changed. His handler on the right has now distanced herself from Sharif as she looks downa nd away. Meanwhile the abuse victim continues to wear a mask like smile of embarrassment in order to save face..

As he has second thoughts as to what he did he bows his head in sham and walks over in the slapped woman’s direction. The photographer in the corner appears to be nervously amused and surprised . Hence the tense  ambivalent smile. He wonders what Sharif will do and whether there will be some more berating or slapping.

He comes over to her and this time the abuse victim cannot even beaar to look at him as she holds up her hand with the palm of her hand showing in an defensive gesture. He looks at her with hate and disdain. She creates a barrier between them with her hand as she looks away , yet continues her ambivalent smile. In essence she is guarding herself from another potential slap and or verbal abuse from Sharif.

He tried to “make up” by allowing her to have a phot with him. She obliges as that is what she wanted in the first place. She continues smiling her mask like smile as she did throughout the entire ordeal.  Meanwhile he turns his body away during this photo op as he really doesn’t want to have his photo taken with her but he does it to make himself feel better in trying to right his wrong in slapping her.

He now turns to look at her and says something in Arabic which causes her  to have a genuine smile. Look at the crinlking around her eyes. It is no longer mask like. She is  clearly taken aback as you can see by her retracted chin. This leads me to believe he may have even apologized to her. This is tyoical behavior of so many abusers. They las.h out, feel guilty and try to make things right.

Now they get ready to pose for the photographer. The woman is back to her mask like smile. He leans in for the phoo and looks at her to see how she is reacting to all of this. There is a look of  remorse  on his face  as he leans into her and looks directly at her. She does not look at him. Instead she looks in the direction of the photograher. Even though she has a slight smile on her lips, her eyes reflect sadness.

The photo is snapped and the woman is elated. Here she wears a genuine smile. It was a huge price to pay, but she finally got what she wanted- a photo of her with Omar Sharif. He leans in but does NOT smile. He is not happy with himself that he acted like a complete jerk for the world to see. His hunched over shoulders show embarrassment,  He feels even worse that this woman seems so happy now that the photo is taken, despite her slap.

The woman is so pleased and says thank you to him several times. In true Toxic Man form he turns away from he  and doesn’t even acknowledge her  thank you. He can’t wait to get away fast enough.

This is HORRIBLE! He is lucky the slap took place in Quatar. had it happened in the US, this woman would be very rich and he would be facing criminal charges as he would be hauled off to jail.

Having written the book Toxic Men which was released last year, I can assure you that Sharif shows all the characteristics of an abusive man. Here we all saw it frame after frame. Having seen the real Omar Sharif, there is no way I would even consider viewing any film he was in. This image of him slapping a woman is in my mind forever and that is the image I would see every time he would come on the screen for his acting scene.

This incident shows up a lot. It shows us how we idolize people for no good reason. We idolize them simply because they were in a film or on TV or they played well in a sport we like. If we admire and look up to  someone we should know a lot more about them-like their character. Apparently this was no an isolated incident.

Apparently Sharif has a long history of  getting physically abusive  with people  . In fact less than a decade ago, he attacked a policeman in a Paris casino and four years back, he pleaded no contest to” misdemeanor battery” for beating up a Beverly Hills parking attendant.

I wanted to let you know that the reason you haven’t seen a lot of posts from me lately is because I have been working on my books and doing TV show pilots. I just finished the final touches on my upcoming book called, See Something, Hear Something, Say Something! Guide to Identifying Body Language of Terrorist. My co-author, is Vincent Sullivan, a  former Special Agent with the FBI and former member of the Joint Terrorist Task Force. The book is awesome with a lot of original research and new data about how to recognize terrorists. I am certain It will help save a lot of lives and we are so proud of this venture.

Next, I have been working on another book where I will tell you everything I possibly know about reading body language and voice and speech tells so that you can use the information to gain that added advantage in your life. I will give away all the secrets so you will know it all.

Then I  participated in several television pilots. Hopefully the one for my own show will come to fruition, so keep your fingers crossed.

So now I have some more time to give you  more blogs on  my views about news makers from my body language , voice. speech  and psychosocial perspective. Eventually I also plan to do some video blogs for you in the future and I am working on making that happen. I seem to do much better with the spoken word than the written word.

For those of you who complain about my spelling and grammar, my apologies. I got a new Mac book Pro, so hopefully there will be less spelling errors. As far as grammar goes, I purposely write these blogs exactly as I speak, so you will feel as though you and I are having a personal conversation. I don’t apologize for that.

As you know from reading my previous blogs, I am quite direct, candid and hate spin, phoniness and BS. I also have no issue with anyone who disagrees with me or shares a different view. But I do take issue with those who do it disrespectfully and in a Toxic and nasty  and hateful manner as they  hide behind their moniker of anonymity. I do understand that a lot of topics generate a lot of fierce emotion like hate. But don’t collapse your hatred about those who are featured in these posts on to  me. Instead put your hatred where it really belongs- not the messenger.

Now  I would like to say some final words about the Casey Anthony  case.  I have to admit that reporting so intensively on the Casey Anthony trial and analyzing all the players involved took its toll,  especially after the verdict was read. I was beyond shocked when  I saw justice not served. When I recently read that Judge Perry  released the jailhouse videos of Casey  upon discovering that Caylee’s body was found and that he did not allow jurors to  see this, it confirmed my view that Perry in essence  was more concerned about himself in not having to re-try the case.   I also believe that the jury liked Jose Baez a lot better than the prosecuting attorneys and that was a large part of why the verdict turned out as it did in my view. I also believe that the jury wanted to go home. It was 4^thof July and they wanted out! Analyzing the body language and speech and voice patterns of Cindy and George Anthony on Dr. Phil repulsed me. I adore Dr. Phil. I know him personally and think the world of him and felt that he asked great probing  questions which allowed us to see who these Toxic people really are. He gave them enough rope and they hung themselves for good.  He was a lot more diplomatic with them than I would have been.

I would have let them have it. But then they probably would have walked off the show and there would not have been an interview. I detest liars and these two liars lied in these interviews based on the tells I observed, just as they lied on the stand. That is unforgivable! Why aren’t these people held accountable? Anyone else who lied on the stand would be in jail. Why aren’t these people in jail. And YES I hold them as responsible for Caylee’s death as I do Casey. They knew who their daughter was, yet chose to enable her.

I am boycotting the Anthony’s along with a lot of other people out there. I don’t care what more they have to say. I hate that the despicable Cindy and George have made millions off off this poor child’s death and have manipulated and used the media to their benefit.  They said it all with their body language.

Now people are asking me to weigh in about the baby Lisa case. After the Casey Anthony case, the last thing I want to since do is spend time analyzing a mother and father of a missing baby. But since so many of  my precious and loyal readers asked for it,  I will share my views about Baby Lisa’s parent’s body.

While I will always discuss the body language of news makers who happen to be in high profile criminal cases, I don’t plan to make it my focus. fact I stopped doing over the top sensational crime oriented shows which appear to be  designed for” entertainment”. The “bombshells “ rudeness” “unleashing” and “ugliness” are too manipulative and too disturbing. So, along with the criminal cases, you will be reading a lot about celebs politicians, sports  figures and world leaders as they  will  all be put under the Dr. Lillian Glass Body Language microscope. Good to be back.  www.drlillianglass.com

Months ago I shared  I believed Kate Plus 8 would be cancelled because there would be very few eyeballs watching the show. People are not interested in seeing grown children and tweens , who are not talented on TV. People also do not want to see train wreck children  in the making. Paul Peterson , President of A Minor Consideration and former child actor made us all aware of what can happen to children performers when they grow up. Oftentimes  isn’t pleasant and can end in drugs and death.

Jon Gosselin was not being petty or playing “tit for tat” during and after his divorce from Kate on this issue. Instead he was being a very responsible father  by loudly vocalizing that he did not think  it was good for the kid’s emotional and physical well being  to be on TV at this point.

But as we know Kate saw it differently. She even had the audacity to say publicly that the show was good for them emotionally. She insisted the kids were fine and lied on national TV interviews that the kids had any emotional problems. She  was adamant that Colin and Alexis were  not having any problems when in fact they showed violence at school.  So now that the show has been cancelled……to read more click here

Kate Gosselin’s body language  is way too happy looking. There are those who have called her a narcissist. Others have called her self centered and craving the limelight. So if Kate did not have another gig lined up, she would no doubt  be leaving the show kicking and screaming.  As we have discovered over these past years, Kate seems to care about Kate above all else.

TLC cares about Kate above all else as well as long as she brings in cash and eyeballs. Eyeballs didn’t want to  see kids  innocent from yet another broken home. The beauty of the original show was that the kids had a very hands on father who doled out lots of affection. Viewers loved to see the  cohesive family unit until Kate started abusing everyone from Jon to the kids.

She was so unlikeable on the show and even more unlikeable during interviews  and hosting gigs. She was whiny and petty and even though she had a very good makeover on the outside she was ugly as sin on the inside in my view with her lying and self absorption. In fact during one of her latest interviews she still mananged to get a dig in and trash Jon.

She was given a lot of  golden opportunities and a chance to reviving her vile image from co hosting the View to appearing on Dancing with the Stars. She blew it big time. Her abusiveness to teacher Tony Dovalini did not  endear her to anyone. Neither did all her fake tears.

But even though she was hated by so many, it  crought in eyeballs for DWTS . People who loved her watched her because they were fans and those who hated her watched her because they hated her and wanted to see her fail and watch what obnoxious thing she would do next.

DWTS is and ABC show as is the View. TLC has an affiliation with ABC, hence Kate’s constant appearance on the network. The suits worked too hard to getting Kate’s physial  image right and invested a lot of money in her brand . So they are not going to throw her away just yet. They will try every which way to re-brand her so she is more likeable . But it don;t work.

The real Kate will always emerge and it is not pretty to watch. What is inside your heart comes out in your voice, behavior, speech content, and face. Just look at the above photo.Put your hand over Kate’s nose and mouth in the photo and then look at her eyes. You will see that they eyes are not smiling. That means the smile is fake, forced,and phony.

Personally I think Kate’s 15 minutes of fame are over even though the suits will try their best to push her down our throats in a repackaged way. We got who Kate is and no matter how she is dressed or re-rapped we see a vapid, self centered, mean spirited, whiny, abusive,  petty talentless  and”itless “woman with nothing to offer.  She knocked out six kids with the help of fertility drugs and that is about it, She can’t sing or dance. She is not particularly bright nor  does she offer any unique speciality to the world. And please don’t tell me that she is an expert on parenting. An expert on  parenting has gone to school to study not just how their children operate but all different types of children. They do original  research and learn the research of others in the field.

And please Kate fans do not waste my time and say that I am a Kate hater . I am a Kate reality checker who doesn’t get involved in the spin or drink the kook aid or  play”the emperor has new clothes” when in fact they are naked. And if you are so in love with Kate you need to ask yourself who you would love such an abusive woman. Does she remind you of  an abuser  in your family who may have treated you like she treated Jon and the kids. Do you speak as sarcastically to your own kids? Do you slap your spouse like Kate did?

Anyway,  Kate is still here to stay and to make herself relevant so that somehow the network will see the ratings they one say with Jon and Kate Plus 8. But in my view those days are long gone. They are obviously giving happy Kate  one more try. If she fails, she is history in tv land. www.drlillianglass,com

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