Michael Jackson’s Bodyguards Body Language Shows Signals of Discomfort Discussing Michael’s Love Life as They ” Set the Record Straight” For Their Own Personal Gain

March 11th, 2010

 TRUSTED BODYGUARDS?

I am very troubled by three ex body guards  Bill Whitfield, Mike Garcia ,and  Javon Beard, whom Michael Jackson  entrusted with his most intimate secrets, now  revealing  very personal information about Michael and his children  after his death.  Based on all that we know about  Michael’s desire for privacy and protection for his children, here is no question that Michael would have been 100 per cent  against what these bodyguards are doing .

orThey openly admit they plan to write a book which they plan to call “In Defense of the King.” So they are apparently out there now fishing for a publisher in their attempt to cash in big time on Michael’s death if their book is sold.  Based on how they came across body language –wise  and what they said“setting the record straight” in  speaking out on Michael’s behalf, it seems to me that it is  merely a ploy for them to fill their pockets and cash in on Michaels death.

THEY ARE NOT  TELLING US ANYTHING WE DON’T ALREADY KNOW FROM MEDIA ACCOUNTS

They are not really telling us anything we don’t already know. We know a lot of the information they have divulged, like how polite and smart Michael’s kids are  based on media accounts and by the accounts of those who have interacted with the children. 

They admit that they only worked with Michael for 2 years. So there are things which may or may not have taken place prior to those 2 years which they are not privy. Therefore, they may not know everything they are claim to know about Michael. 

THEY ARE TELLING US  IS THAT THEY ARE UNPROFESSIONAL AND CANNOT BE TRUSTED

Who are these “bodyguards” to set the record straight about Michael?  Who made them Michael’s spokespeople. I am sure that Michael would be livid if he knew they were doing this. These men were paid employees who needed to keep their mouths shut about Michael and his family whether he was alive or not.

 I have no doubt with Michael’s intelligence and savvy, not to mention his  having been burned by others in the past, that he would have made them sign some type of confidentiality  agreement. I hope that those in charge of his estate will come across those agreements and stop these three in their tracks. 

TROLLING FOR A PUBLISHER

The only reason they came forth  now and put their faces in front of the media is in my view to troll for a book deal. They even have  a title picked out for the book before it is written. They want to see how much interest there is. That is they spilled the beans now.

But obviously they aren’t  that savvy or as clever as they think.  They told way too much already.  No publisher in their right mind would give them a book deal and expect the book to fly off the shelves. Why? Because  they already revealed everything  already in Ashley Banfield’s  very thorough ABC  interview where she left no stone unturned. left no she unturned. So who needs a a book? We know all they have to say.  You get your face in front of the media AFTER you have a book deal and have written it in order to PROMOTE it.

So if they did get  a book deal, wrote the book or had someone write it for them,  and then  appeared on TV again to promote it would be OLD news. No one is interested  in what they have to say anymore.

 WERE THEY TELLING THE TRUTH?

Although I found each of them despicable for getting on front of the media and sharing Michael’s personal  life which he guarded so privately, to the point of wearing masks and disguises and having his kids do likewise,  I wanted to  scrutinize any  “tells” which may have given away their true  motives . I also wanted to see if there were any” tells” of deception or nervousness or discomfort.

It was interesting to watch all three of them sitting together as they were interviewed. It was also interesting to watch them separately  in order to see if one or more showed signals of deception .

For the most part, they were in all synch. Whether it was rehearsed or not, they were all on the same page.  For the most part it seemed like they were telling the truth.  But I think they told way too much of the truth. They had no business revealing the details about the kids and their behavior, especially the description of Princes behavior when he tried to manipulate cookies out of them.  This was not setting the record straight. This was setting their sights straight on to a potential book deal to make money for themselves.

RED FLAG TELLS OF DISCOMFORT   ABOUT MICHEAL’S PEDOPHILIA ALLEGATIONS  AND REALTIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN

There was one area where they were clearly uncomfortable and it showed in their body language. It was when they were discussing  their views on Michael’s alleged pedophilia. Their body language showed that they  over compensated by giving way to much information. They were asked if Michael was a pedophile. Then bodyguard  Bill Whitfield  says that he’s a man and he knows that Michael is interested in women just like he is. You can see his facial expression change as he looks away and his forehead get’s furrowed. He also pulls his head back and there is a shoulder shrug . This indicates signals of discomfort.

 Mike Garcia also shows signals of discomfort when the “pedophilia” question comes up. He shakes his leg indicating “I want to get out of here.”

The three gave way too much information as Bill speaks about curtains in the limousine being  drawn in the back of a limo, and sucking noises being made.  To say this was inappropriate on their behalf is an understatement. The question was about pedophilia.  All they needed to say was they didn’t witness any acts of pedophilia or that it was their opinion that Michael wasn’t a pedophile. But their going off on a tangent and talking about Michael’s  girlfriends was a red flag.  One had nothing to do with another. Their over compensated answers in giving too detailed information made it seem like they  both “doth protest too much”.

I am not saying that they think Michael is or isn’t  a pedophile. I am saying that they showed signals of discomfort when this topic was brought up by Ashley Banfield.

Other than that, there body languages showed that they were open and they seemed forthright. When they answered, most of the time all three of them appeared to answer in unison. With the exception of the time they discussed Michael’s  intimate life, where they showed major signals of discomfort, they   sat  confidently with their legs apart in an open position with upright straight posture with their  heads  erect.

MICHAEL VENTED TO THEM  PRIVATELY NOT PUBLICALLY

Bill Whitfield said that there were times that Michael vented and “vented loudly” I cringed. Michael  may have vented loudly but he did it  privately. Michael  projected an image of a person who was always kind with a loving soul.  He never showed anger in public. He worked hard at getting that image across. So to hear them say Michael “vented loudly” is to take away from the public image that Michael worked so hard to cultivate. If he “vented loudly” he did it only for their ears- not the public’s  As Bill  said this I automatically cringed.

 While these men  are not doctors or health or legal professionals who have to abide by the  law to keep secrets ( unless they signed a non -disclosure clause before working with Michael) technically they don’t have to keep quiet about Michael. But  ethically I believe  it is a different matter. I believe that they should keep things about Michael confidential in his death just as they did in his life.

Michael trusted them with his life and his kids and as Bill Whitfield said, they became more than security.  Javon Beard interjected that they were more like personal assistants and Mike Garcia said that it was not their job but since there was no entourage it was just them, they hand to handle everything.

 IF MICHAEL HATED HIS VEGAS HOME BECAUSE OF PAPPS, WHY DIDN’T THE BODYGUARDS DO ANYTHING TO STOP THE PAPPS AND FANS ?

I think that it was way too much information to reveal that Michael hated his Vegas mansion because of all the papps. If these men  were HIS  bodyguards as they claim to be,  why didn’t they keeps the papps AND FANS away? Why didn’ they do whatever it took to make sure Michael had the best security so that the papps and fans wouldn’t  invade his home ? That statement alone turned me off.

THEY ALL BELIEVE MICHAEL AS AN AWSOME DAD

When asked if he was a good dad, they all replied in unison awesome!  Their body language  showed that all three of them strongly believed that Michael was a great dad.  Mike Garcia shared how the children would constantly say I Love you daddy and that they were like the four buddies as  Bill Whitfield appropriately shook his head yes and smiled a huge genuine smile.

They also spoke of how protective he was of his kids seeing his bad press as he turned over newspapers so the kids wouldn’t see negative headlines about him. It showed that Michael’s first and foremost concern was for  his kids.

They also nooded and spoke in unison as to Michael’s being successful at shielding his kids from the media.  Each one’s  body language were in synch as they appered to be  in agreement that Michael didn’t think what he did was weird. In fact Javon shook his head “no”   as confirmation while Bill Whitfield explained this. 

REVEALING  INAPPROPRIATE  INFORMATION ABOUT THE KIDS

They spoke of the kids with pride as there were genuine smiles as they said that the kids were regular kids and how they  were very polite and well mannered, something we have all herd before. All three of them shook their heads  “yes”  in agreement as this information was relayed.

But then when they showed a note Paris wrote to Bill thanking him for getting cat food, I though that was a bit too invasive. Even if it was a polite gesture, I don’t know how Paris would feel about having her personal handwritten note to Bill  exposed for the world to see. It was for Bill not for the world to see with her little heart over the “I” as she signed her name Paris.  I didn’t think that was necessary to do.

Then Javon also revealed WAY too much information as he shared how Prince would say “ Daddy wants you to get some cookies for us, indicating their mischief  in tricking the bodyguards into getting them cookies. I dounnt these kids or Michael would want that information exposed.  This is exactly what Michael hated. He didn’t want anything personal about these kids revealed and there is no doubt Michael would deem  this story about Prince as being WAY too personal in nature.  

Then he added that he asked Michael (the client) if he wanted him to go get some cookies for the kids and in a loud voice, Javon  mimicked what Michael would say “ Prince get up here!” “Why are you telling them that?”

While it showed that Michael set limits and boundaries for the kids, it was still way too much information  about the kids that we don’t need to know. Unless the kids decide to speak about their experiences with their dad or write a book, no one has any right discussing them.

If these kids were paraded around like some others have been by their parents  and publically expoised and exploited as  many have mentioned. Then perhaps they would be fair game, but not in this situation. Michael went out of his way to  shield his kids from the press at all times.  Therefore,  I believe these body guards have broken the confidence of their client by sharing intimate personal stories about the kids like this one which may not put Prince in the best light.

FAST FOOD RUNS WITH MICHAEL

They also shared how Michael liked to go through the drive through at fast food places  with the kids. I found that unacceptable as they shared what Michael said  as he ordered the meal which was” If these people only know who ordered the meal.”

Both Bill and Javon said it in unison so there was no doubt based on other body language signals as well that this  was definitely  a true incident. But maybe Michel didn’t want the word to know that he fed his kids fast foods or that he even ate fast foods. Maybe he wouldn’t want his private comment shared.  Maybe it was his one personal moment to feel like a normal person and order fast food without anyone knowing. Maybe that was his personal little thrill . They had no right to share this personal moment with anyone in my view..

What the bodyguards said was true as they once again spoke in unison that people “never knew that Michael Jackson was the one ordering  the food.  In fact Javan imitated Michael ‘s high voice as said “ One cheeseburger please” While there is no doubt they were all telling the truth, there is even less doubt that Michael would have wanted this information revealed to the world.

 PEDOPHILE RUMORS

Something really strange happened body language wise when Ashley Banfield asked them if they thought Michael  was a pedophile?  They were clearly uncomfortable with this question as each one of them squirmed and had various body language tells which illustrated their discomfort with this area of questioning.

Why did they show such signals of discomfort? Only they know. Michael  may or may not have been a pedophile and Michael was the only one who could attest to those allegations. Just for the record a person can still like women and have girlfriends and  still be a pedophile. Look at how many married men with families who are even pillars of their community. Look at all the married pedophiles with their own families who have been caught on NBC’s “To Catch a Predator.”

They very well may  or may not have seen any evidence that Michael was a pedophile during the two years they spent with him.  I am not saying that Michael is or isn’t a pedophile but these body guards may not know for sure. Their discomfort was very visible in their body language as this was the first time throughout the entire interview that they weren’t as confident verbally, vocally or body language-wise.

As examples of what I am saying, bodyguard Mike Garcia pursed his lip and moved around more, Bill Whitfield looked down, and Javon Beard  had a tight  ingenuine smile, unlike his previous smiles throughout the interview.  

MICHAEL’S NOISES  IN BACK OF THE LIMO WITH A WOMAN

How dare them discuss that there was a curtain in the backseat of the limo and that Michael was with a girlfriend back there.  Rule number one of any limo driver, let alone any body guard is shut up about your client’s intimate goings on.

 As this story was revealed there was an observed shoulder shrug. That is a signal of deception. There was also a nervous smile- another signal of deception as well as discomfort, In their attempt to set the record straight, they gave way too much information that I am sure Michael would have objected to. If he wanted anyone to know he was with a woman at any time, he would have shown her publically. If the curtain was allegedly drawn he obviously didn’t want anyone to know who he was with or what they were doing.

Then Ashley being the great interviewer that she is remarked “it’s like  you were chaperoning two teenagers back there making out ”. She was simply probing to see where they would go with it.  They shook their heads and agreed as it was a way out for them. Then the unconscionable happened. Bill  revealed that he heard loud sucking noises as his eyebrows were raised. This made me suspicious as to whether this incident really happened? Since  Michael was as  shy and paranoid about anyone knowing his business in a limo I am sure that he would have a limo with a sound proof glass partition. I have never seen a limo with only a mere curtain and I have ridden in many limos in my lifetime.  

MICHAEL’S BANAIDS WERE NOT HIS  DISGUISE AS A”BURN VICTIM”

When  Bill said that Michael’s bandages were worn for him to be disguised as a “burn victim” I knew for sure that they were full of it. Even Bill knew that he was full of it  as his body language showed his head jerking back and eyebrows being furrowed and looking away.

Michael wore many bandages around his face because of the numerous office surgeries and Botox and Restalyn treatments he had at Dr. Klein’s office, his dermatologist that often left bruising on various areas of his face. The band aids were to cover up the bruises. If Bill was around Michael as much as he said he was or escorted him to the doctor in the limo, he would have seen the brusing and  the redness and swelling.

They were not worn as a disguise for him to appear as a burn patient. If that was the case Michael would have wrapped his whole head in gauze or worn a silicone  burn mask.  

Then when Ashley proved and asked why they didn’t ask why Michael was “disguised like that,” Javon said “How can you tell him that?” He’s coming down with the kids, how can I say,  What the hell have you got on sir?”

Javon’s statement as well has his referring to Michael as “sir”  shows that he respected the boundaries with Michael as his “client” which he referred to earlier. This means he respected his “client” to not interfere, judge or question what he was doing. In my view he needed to show that same respect now and not reveal anything about his “client” no that he is no longer with us.

In my view one has to treat someone who has died with the same respect they treated them when they were alive. If they kept their confidences when the person was alive they need to do the same thing now that the person is dead and no longer here to defend themselves or to sue for defamation.  

TALKING ABOUT MICHAEL’S DRUG PROBLEM

When Bill revealed that it appeareard that Michael was on something indicating that  Michael was on drugs I thought this was out of line.  If this was the case and he was his body guard, why didn’t he do something to help his “client?” After all he was supposed to protect his client at all costs. If Michael was drugged up as Bill said, how could Michael function properly as the  “good father? ”If his client was so out of it, why didn’t he try to get his “client” some help? Why didn’t he encourage his client to get help?

The answer is obvious. He needed the job and the money  didn’t want to make waves so he turned a blind eye. The operative word here is “money.” To me this is what this is all about. It sickens me that anyone who was entrusted to caring about a person and protecting them  in life, would now peddle that same person’s dead flesh in hopes of scoring a  book deal and making money off of them. http://www.drlillianglass.com

Whitney Houston’s Touching Body Language With Daughter on Her Birthday

March 7th, 2010

l am always touched whenever I see body language that reflects love and affection between mothers and daughters. Perhaps it is because I love my own mother so much I love to see others share the same love. So when I saw the love between Whitney and her daughter  Bobbi Kristina I was deeply moved.

Whitney was in Adelaide Austrailia on her tour  when she stopped her concert to sing a beautiful song to her daughter called “Who Would Imagine A King.” Whitney’s voice was angelic  as she sang it  this song  to her daughter who was a bit embarrassed by all the attention as you can see by her protective body language where she crossed her body with her arms.

Then Whitney invited beautiful  Bobbi Kristina who just turned 17  to come up on stage as a birthday cake was wheeled out for her, thereby surprising her.

Then she went on stage and hugged several of the singers and musicians until she was embraced in her mother’s arms. They had  a lengthy loving birthday hug. It was beautiful! Whitney couldn’t let go of her and even shed a few tears.

Happy Birthday Bobbi Kristina and Welcome Back Whitney! www.drlillianglass.com

Kate Gosselin’s Body Language Shows Poise and A Softer Side on Jimmy Kimmel Live

March 5th, 2010

After watching Kate Gosselin on Jimmy Kimmel Live the other night I can say that she is coming across a lot more polished and a lot more poised. She looked absolutely beautiful with her softer hairstyle, toned body and gorgeous dress.  Her posture was excellent. This was clearly  her best  television appearance  yet. She was actually very pleasant, cordial and laughed appropriately at Jimmy’s jokes and at herself. She was even humble when she said she couldn’t dance.

But then at the end when she said”  I am  going to win,” it seemed like it was right back to the old Kate. If she hadn’t said that, I would have rated her performance on Kimmel Live as a near perfect. She needed to say that she would try her best and hope that she would win, not that she will win. Being  cocky like that does not put anyone in a good light, let alone Kate.  Kate really needs to work on her humility in my view. If she does that, she will be so much more appealing to audiences.

 There are obviously some changes taking place with her not only on the outside but on the inside as well. No doubt her handlers  are working to get her more likeable  and camera ready for her upcoming show.

 That is no doubt why she is doing Dancing With the Stars- one of the highest rated shows. It will let more people see her who haven’t seen her and it will allow those who have seen her to see her in a different light-hopefully in a better light.

At first I was concerned that she would be doing a show that demanded so much and that she would be away from her kids. But she explained on Kimmel Live that her partner (Tony Davolani) will be coming to her home in Pennsylvania to work with her in her basement so she won’t be away from the kids. Then she will be coming to LA once a week to do the show. I think that is GREAT! Being away from her kids for so many weeks was my main concern for her in doing DWTS. But now I think it will work out well.

Kate also mentioned how positive Tony is. That is exactly the type of person Kate needs to be around. Perhaps some of his positivity and kindness towards others will rub off on her. There was no doubt that being around Jon for all of those years brought out the worst in her and vice versa.

After witnessing Jon’s immature and self-destructive behavior and how he treated his girlfriends, it is no wonder that Kate had so many issues with him.

Hopefully her being around a positive kind dancing partner like Tony will  contribute to the positive changes that seem to be taking place with Kate. http://www.drlillianglass.com/

Jermaine Jackson Shows Many Signals of Deception While Trying to Cover Up for Son Jafar in Dutch TV Interview

March 5th, 2010

Jermain Jackson’s interview on Dutch TV showed numerous signals of deception. These these signals included lengthy pause time,  out of sync phrasing, shoulder shrugs and long pauses between words, breathing,  upper  chest breathing, shaking his head “no” when he should be shaking it “yes,” mask-like pulled back nervous disingenuous smile, and  “um’s,”” ang uh’s”,  head jerking. and drawn out vowels.

Therefore,  it appears to me that Jermaine Jackson is clearly showing signals of deception in an attempt to cover up for his 13 year old son Jafar. Allegedly Jafar was chasing  Michael Jackson’s youngest son Blanket around the house with a Stun Gun which he purchased online.

In Jermain’s attempt to cover to Jafar, he implicates himself by saying that Jafar was buying a Stun Gun for him and that he knew about it!  I doubt that was the case ? What kind of parenting is that? How in their right mind would let their 13 year old son but them a Stun Gun over the Internet?   

JERMAIN’S EXACT WORDS AND DR. GLASS’ COMMENTARY

Here are Jermain’s exact words from the interview. In parentheses you will see the  signals of deception that he exhibited

That’s not true there was no accident.” That was my son.” (upper chest breathing- signal of  deception ready to take place next). “He was,  he was (repetition- signal of  deception) getting this , this (repletion, signal of deception)  little  thing ( minimization of not saying what this “”little thing” was—-a STUN GUN!!!) As Jermaine says this he has a tight mask-like smile indicating deception.

As Jermain says he was getting this little this little thing forME. His voice gets louder to emphasize the word ME and he suddenly jerks his head down into his chest which indicates deception. It is no doubt that the “little thing (STUN GUN) was NOT  purchased for him but for his son.  

Then Jermain turns away as he tries to blame put the blame on the press and says in a very slow labored speech pattern,  “Some how some one alerted the press and it got out of hand  and there was no encounter with Blanket or anything” ( said with a mask like smile indicating deception). What does he mean by “ no encounter with Blanket ( a person)  or any thing? “ The fact that he added the word “any THING” after mentioning Blanket is yet another signal of deception. It is too much information. If someone was being forthright they would have stopped after the word “Blanket.” They would have said without a mask-like smile “ Nothing happened to Blanket.”

Then Jermain goes on and gives way too much information, clearly another signal of deception.

“ But my son feels very very bad  (repetition as a signal of deception)  (upper chest breathing indicating deception), because he told me (  his pitch of voice suddenly goes up) that he was going to get me something online ( shoulder shrug – a signal of deception along with shaking his head “no” as he says this indicating yet another signal of deception)”  that  before we left to come out here and uh (signal of deception along with  upper chest breathing indicating further  deception)  it got out (drawing out the vowel for longer than normal indicating deception)  of hand ( THIS MAKES NO SENSE!!! When something makes no sense the person is most likely not telling the truth) 

Also why was Jafar feeling very very bad? You say it is because he told you that he was going to get you something online.” Was he feeling bad because he used your gift  which you  claim  he was getting you on line to scare his baby cousin?  Was he  feeling “very very bad” becasue his gift was a surprise for you and after he used your alleged gift to chase around his cousin, it was no longer a surprise- that you learned your gift was a stun gun?

 Then Jermain continues “Somehow it got out  out”   (repletion  indicating signal of deception as he is also  shaking his head “no” when when should be shaking it “yes” as another signal of deception) of hand. But but ( repletion) Blanket is fine….”
What got out of hand? Was it the fact that Jafar was allegedly chasing Blanket around with a stun gun and frightening this innocent child? Was it the fact that Dept., of Child Services Spent 6 and ½ hours at the home? And what in the world was a 13 year old doing buying you a STUN GUN? Why in the wqorld would you need a STUN GUN? Who were you planning to STUN with your GUN? And  the fact you said you KNEW that Jafar was buying you a “little something” like a STUN GUN online and you allowed it is unconscionable and speaks to your parenting!!!

 You, Jermain, would have been much better off to tell the truth instead of your BS spin.

Why didn’t you just come out and say” I am appalled at what happened. I am appalled that my 13 year old son bought a STUN GUN on line. I have discussed this with him and he has been reprimanded and dealt with for his unacceptable behavior.

But to say that he bought this STUN GUN for you and that you knew about it is completely  ridiculous.

Little Blanket has been through so much that the last thing in the world he needs is to be traumatized by his cousin, your son. The last thing he needs is to experience fear of being STUNNED by A GUN!  No child should have to experience this. It is abusive behavior! If this is the case, I say he and his brother Prince and sister Paris should not be living in the same household as you or  Jafar. http://www.drlillianglass.com/

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR OWN BODY LANGUAGE CHANGES AND AVOID BUSINESS AND SOCIAL DISASTERS

March 1st, 2010

What thrills me the most about doing my Body Language Blog is when I get feedback from people telling me that  they learn  so much from my posts in terms of reading body language.  That is my aim. When you understand the language of the body, face, voice, and speech content, a whole world opens up to you.

By focusing on the  body language of newsmakers who everyone sees in videos and in photos, it allows me to show you clear examples of the various body language signals during specific actions by celebrities, sports figures, political figures, and even criminals that reveal what they are really thinking and saying. It allows me to show you what is really going on between the headlines.

My posts are not meant to be mean or insulting. They are simply meant to show what is really going on from a behavioral and  body language perspective based on what my decades of research, my extensive education in various fields,  and decades of experience. Through my  observations of  people’s body language and voice and communication skills, my aim is that perhaps you can apply some of those observations to people you know in your own life.

So aside from discussing specific celebrities and their body language, from time to time I will give you some general information about various aspects of body language, facial language, the voice, and speech patterns in hopes that it will give you an additional perspective that you can apply ion your own life.  

In today’s blog I will discuss the importance of your paying close attention to your own body signals whenever you interact with anyone in your life. This can be very helpful in those with whom you do business or with those whom you socialize.

YOUR OWN BODY LANGUAGE AWARENESS CAN GUIDE YOU IN BUSINESS AND SOCIALLY

Today,  things happen  with such rapid speed that the expression  it is no longer “ yesterday’s news. Instead, it is ten seconds ago news. Things happen so rapidly that you always have to keep aware of the mercurial changes that not only happen in the world in general, but in your personal world. You have to keep tabs of the slightest  mercurial changes that happen within your own body as you interact with people.

These little warning signs must NEVER be ignored! They tell you a lot about what is really going on at the moment. They tell you how you are feeling about what is happening now!

Let’s say you are in a business meeting or on a date and you just felt a sudden unpleasant queasiness in your stomach as you were discussing something. Let’s say you feel your body tensing up or your breathing gets more shallow and you notice that your shoulders are raised! Pay close attention, as it tells you point blank that something isn’t quite right. DO NOT IGNORE IT!

                              PAY ATTENTION TO THESE SPECIFIC BODY, FACIAL, AND VOCAL CHANGES:

Here are some bodily changes that may tell you something is amiss somewhere.

1.stomach cramping and pain

2. headache

3. shallow breathing with lots of upper shoulder movement

4. tension and rigidity in your body

5. your hand cupped into fist like position indicating that you are angry

6. leaning you head and body away from the person

7.  tension in your brow and forehead

8. squinting

9. pursed lips

10, throat clearing

11. your pitch gets higher when you are speaking

12. you find yourself clamming up

13. tension in your throat area

14. tension in your jaw.

15. your shoulders are raised

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU NOTICE THESE CHANGES

NEVER overlook these changes in your body and facial  language and in your voice patterns. Whenever you notice them immediately, STOP! LOOK! And  LISTEN to what the person with whom you are doing business or socializing is REALLY saying to you.

STOP! Take a breath in. Hold it for a few seconds and then slowly release it. This allows a homeostatic balance to take place in your system. It allows you to oxygenate yourself and helps you to gain more control over the situation and to think more clearly.

LOOK ! As you slowly release the air from your mouth, take the person in visually. Observe their facial expressions. Are they frowning? Are the looking away from you? Are they exhibiting certain body language tells that indicate they may not be forthright with you? Do they lean away from you? Do they rock back and forth? Are their feet pointed in the opposite direction or tapping indicting they can’t wait to get away from you?

LISTEN! Pay close attention to how they sound when they speak. Do you notice that they attack their sounds?  Do you notice they say “ um”, “like um”  “you know”or “and” a lot. Do they suddenly stammer and seem uneasy when speaking to you?

       ASK QUESTIONS TO KNOW WHERE YOU STAND- DON’T KEEP ANYTHING  BOTTLED UP INSIDE OF YOU

If you notice something isn’t right, ASK  QUESTIONS to find out where you stand. You may ask them to clarify what they are saying so that you can pick up even more cures from them in terms of what is really going on. You even be very direct as you ask if there is a problem or an issue that needs to be addressed. 

The bottom line is don’t keep it in an let you ill feelings fester. That is what leads to miscommunication. You can even be 100 per cent honest with them and say that something doesn’t feel right or that you are not comfortable with what they said.

Handle you discomfort about a situation immediately and never let it build up!  In doing so, you will find a sense of  physical as well as mental relief. If they refuse to discuss the issue, then they have in essence told you a lot about themselves. If they become angry or hostile it also speaks to the situation at hand.

ACT RIGHT AWAY TO AVOID MISCOMMUNICATION

The bottom line is that whenever your own  body language, facial language or voice  gives you a signal something isn’t right- pay attention and deal with it right away! Sometimes it may be a simple misunderstanding and other times it may signify a huge problem in your business or social interaction.

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Michael Douglas’ Son Cameron Joins The Blame Game, Blaming His Dad For His Problems of Drug Use and Drug Dealing

February 28th, 2010

 

 

HOW DARE  CAMERON BLAME DAD FOR HIS DRUG DEALING

Nothing sickens me more than someone not accepting responsibility for their Toxic actions and pointing the finger in blame at everyone but themselves. The latest one to join the Blame Game is Cameron Douglas, son of Michael Douglas and grandson of film legend Kirk Douglas.

Cameron is in jail and will remain there until his sentencing in April for his being a drug dealer. He was refused bail because the judge believe that he would not remain  drug free on bail as evidenced by the fact that his girlfriend tied to smuggle heroin in a toothbrush for him when he was under house arrest.

CAMERON’S  ATTORNEY AND PSYCHIATRIST SAID WHAT???????????

What repulsed me the most was that Cameron  and his lawyers have now blamed his famous father Michael’s fame as the reason for his drug use. With a straight face the attorney said in court:

Cameron “(Douglas’) serious heroin addiction (stems from) notoriety that is not due to any acts of his own but by  birth and a difficult upbringing.” He goes on to say,

“He didn’t benefit from his celebrity. He was hurt by it in a variety of ways, including ways in this case.”

Even Cameron’s psychiatrist Dr. Robert Millman had the nerve to tell the court that  Cameron’s  problems are the result of who his parent’s are.

Cameron’s attorney was no doubt grabbing at straws in an attempt to garner some sympathy for his client. The psychiatrist was absolutely wrong! I know this up close and personal. I know how much Kirk, his grandfather loved him and how much his parents Michael and Diandra were dedicated to him. There is no doubt Dr. Millman was  paid handsomely for his BS statement which I thought  was completely lame.

The judge was not buying it either  and saw through this lame excuse. He is  keeping Cameron behind bars until Cameron is sentenced. He doesn’t trust  that Cameron will remain drug free if he is not in jail.

IF THAT’S THE CASE YOU CAN SAY ANY CRIMINAL CRIMINAL’S BEHAVIOR IS DUE TO THEIR UPBRINGING

If that was the case and what Cameron’s attorney and psychiatrist is true, it would seem that you and your attoenye and paid psychiatrist  can get in front of any  courtroom  and make the argument  that any criminal’s problems are the result of who their parent’s are.

You can make the argument that the criminal’s  parents were neglectful,  too violent, they were  immigrants,  didn’t speak the language,fed them too many fast foods and never cooked a home meal,  the father was absent, the mother was a single mom, they were an orphan,  there were too many kids, they lived in foster homes, tehy  were an only kid , their parents were too poor, too average, or too rich and famous.  Puhleeezz! There is an excuse for everyone in every circumstance!

CAMERON’S FAMILY PEDIGREE OPENED DOORS FOR  HIM TO HAVE AN ACTING CAREER

According to IMDB these are the films and show business experiences Cameron Douglas has had throughout his career:

Films:

  1. The Perfect Beat (2009) (V) …. DJ Mojo
  2. Loaded (2008) …. Rick
  3. Adam and Eve (2005) …. Adam
    … aka National Lampoon Adam & Eve (USA: cable TV title)
  4. It Runs in the Family (2003) …. Asher Gromberg
    … aka Family Business (UK: TV title)
  5. Yat goh hiu yan (1997) …. Giancarlo’s Man
    … aka Mr. Nice Guy (Australia) (Hong Kong: English title) (UK) (USA)
    … aka No More Mr. Nice Guy (USA)
    … aka SuperChef
    … aka Yi ge hao ren (Hong Kong: Mandarin title)

Miscellaneous Crew:

  1. Wonder Boys (2000) (production assistant)

Thanks: 

  1. The Life and Times of Kirk Douglas (2000) (V) (special thanks)

Self: 

  1. … A Father… A Son… Once Upon a Time in Hollywood (2005) (TV) …. Himself
  2. “The View” …. Himself (1 episode, 2003)
    - Episode dated 25 April 2003 (2003) TV episode …. Himself
  3. The Life and Times of Kirk Douglas (2 2000) (V) …. Himself – Grandson

This resume is pretty respectable for any young actor who is in his early 30’s. It shows that Cameron was indeed a working actor, appearing in films regularly.

There is no doubt in my mind that without his illustrious pedigree, there is no way he could have had a tenth what is listed on this resume .

His name and family pedigree opened doors. His talent allowed him to keep those doors open, which he did. No matter who his family was, if he didn’t have the talent to back it up, he would have been kicked out of those opened doors. It was up to him as to whether he knew his lines and performed according to the script At that point, it had nothing to do with Michael or Kirk. It was completely  up to Cameron and his acting skills. Luckily  he succeeded or he wouldn’t have been able to act in those roles he was given .

Similarly.  it was completely up to him as to how he chose to live his life. He was born into a family of  wealth and fame and resources.  He had opportunities for an education and travel  and material things that most people never have. It was up to him to make the decision as to how he would take positive advantage of the privilege he was given as a result of his birthright.

Just like he had to do with his own acting career in making his own name for himself, he need to do the same in making his own life  a productive one for himself. He made the choice to use and sell drugs. No one did it to him or for him.

He took all the gifts and blessings he was given and flushed them away. While drug abuse is a horrific epidemic that knows no socioeconomics, fame or family background, dug dealing is something completely different.

I KNOW HOW MUCH MICHAEL AND KIRK ADORED CAMERON

Since I know Cameron’s  grandfather very well and have had the  opportunity to chat with Michael on several occasions, I am personally  aware that   that both of these men absolutely adored Cameron. They each spoke of Cameronb with love and affection and pride, especially when Cameron did such a great job staring in the film which all three of them did together called “It Runs in the Family.”

They are no doubt suffering greatly because of Cameron’s actions. His mother Diandra has spent a lot of her life being devoted to Cameron and said so in many public interviews throughout the past two decades.  She loved Cameron. I remember seeing a photo spread of her and Cameron for a magazine when Cameron was younger and you could see in her body language and facial expression how much she completely adored her son.

Not only did this boy want for nothing, he was given every opportunity to pursue the acting career he wanted. The fact that he was Michael’s son and Kirk’s grandson opened lots of doors for him.  In 2003, it was his father  Michael who  was the one  who  created an acting vehicle for his son to co-star along with his Grandfather Kirk and actress Grandmother Diana Dill  in the film “ It Runs  in the Family.” So if anyone says that Michael was not there for his son or was not supportive of his son, they are grossly mistaken.

Personally, I will never forget   how excited Kirk  was about doing the film along side of his grandson. I  remember him telling me  with a huge smile on his face how very much he loved Michael and  Cameron and how Cameron had such natural talented as an actor. He was thrilled to have the opportunity to work with his grandson as well as his son. He told me that he was so proud of him. His being in a film with his son and grandson was  extremely special to Kirk because this was the time that Kirk had recovered from his stroke. After working so hard on his speech was finally able to speak publicly in a film for the first time after his stroke.

CAMERON DID NOT NEED TO SELL DRUGS TO HAVE MONEY

It is not that this boy was just a drug addict, he was a drug dealer who made a lot of money selling drugs. That was HIS choice of “profession” as a way to earn money.

This is someone who had all of life’s luxuries and world- wide travel. Both of his parents, Michael and Diandra  were wealthy and would never let him be without a place to live or  food to eat. In fact his mother Diandra  recently purchased a 15 million home and he was welcome there anytime.

His grandfather  Kirk, who loved him more than anything would certainly be  there  if he needed help. Kirk is one of the most generous people and a huge philanthropist, I know for  a fact that  there is no way that he would support other causes while neglecting a family member who needed help. He is not that kind of person. Cameron  did NOT have to sell drugs to earn money.

CAMERON’S ENTITLEMENT AND LACK OF GRATITUDE IS WHAT GOT HIM IN HIS SITUATION

What distresses me the most is not only what Michael is experiencing  with what is  essentially the loss of his son, but what  his dear grandfather  Kirk is going through. Knowing that he will never see his grandson as a free man must torment Kirk every moment of the day.

Cameron will be in prison  for a minimum of ten years and a maximum of life imprisonment. Even if he comes out in ten years or less, he may be much worse off. How is this slight, pale,  non street savvy guy who only knew privilege  going to survive in a hard core prison?

I have no doubt that people will try to mess with him just because he is Michael’s son and Kirk’s grandson. Suffice it to say that unless Cameron is in  protective custody, he is essentially a dead man walking in everyone’s view. Even of he gets a minimum sentence of ten years, ten years is a very long time. This is the prime of his life. This is the time that will shape him as a man. He will not come out of prison for the better, that I can assure you.

If he is whining about daddy not being there for him or being the root of all of his evils,  there will be a lot more to whine about in prison,No one will be there for him as he sits alone in hic cell or with a cell mate. Perhaps then he will have the time to think of all the wonderful gifts he was given in life and how he threw them away. He had a gorgeous home to hang out in with beautiful surroundings and every creature comfort imaginable. This will only be a memory to him now. His entitlement and lack of gratitude is what got him into his position.

And please don’t tell me that this poor young man was upset because he could never fill the shoes of his father or grandfather . I say, he was well on his way with five films under his belt.  If he would have spend the time honing his craft, going to acting classes, writing his own scripts, developing his own projects, and makingt he right contacts, he could have been a big star and a major player in Hollywoood in his own right.

MY HEART GOES OUT TO KIRK  NEVER BEING ABLE TO SEE CAMERON AS A FREE MAN

Kirk has gone through so much tragedy in the past few years, having survived a helicopter crash where he was the lone survivor. Then he  survived a debilitating stroke that left him speechless only to regain his ability to speak and go on a book tour and even  perform and speak in several films. I have so much love and respect for Kirk and his strength and fortitude to accomplish what he did despite these tragedies.

Then, his beloved son Eric died of a drug overdose. I was at Eric’s funeral  and at Kirk’s house afterwords.  I saw firsthand how devastated Kirk and his lovely wife Anne were  as they had to bury Eric as they placed a shovel of dirt over his grave. I saw how hurt they were with the fact that they would never see their youngest son again. Besides Eric;s being gone, seeing their broken hearts through their broken faces made me sob.

Now Kirk, who has been blessed to recently celebrate his  93rd birthday this year , has to once again face such a tragic loss . It may even be worse than a death. It is  a living death,where he knows that for however long his beloved  grandson is in prison life for him will be a living hell.

MICHAEL’S PAIN AT LOSING HIS BROTHER AND AGONY OVER LOSING A SON

Eric’s death also devastated his brother Michael whom I spoke with after the funeral when we were all at Kirk’s house. Michael loved Eric as well. They even sounded exactly alike, something that Michael and I discussed. Eric so looked up to Michael  and would often  tell me how much he adored his older brother.  They had a good realtionship for the most part, when Eric wasn’t strung out on drugs. I know that Michael tried to help him but ultimately he couldn’t, just like years later he would not be able to help his own son, Cameron.

Both Kirk and Michael  thought Eric was funny and always kept them laughing. Michael even relayed that to me when we were discussing Eric at Kirk’s house. But Michael certainly was not laughing when he was standing at Eric’s grave and shocing dirt on to his baby brother’s grave.   What also  struck me was how loving and supportive his wife Catherine Zeta Jones was towards Michael as he was suffering about his brothers passing.

Thank goodness she is by his side now that he had such emotional turmoil to face regarding his own son.  Michael no doubt needs all the love and support possible from her and everyone else he knows  during these nightmare times that are ahead of him.

He must be in agony knowing that there is absolutely nothing he can do to get Cameron out of the mess he is in.There is no call he can make or nothing he can do to make life easier for Cameron. Cameron is on his own and all  Michael can do is sit by and watch his son’s demise in prison as his  31 year old son is in the prime years of his life.

LOVE AND PRAYERS TO MICHAEL AND KIRK

My special love and prayers  go out to both Michael and Kirk who did everything to encourage this boy throughout his life. They did everything to help him in every way. Cameron needs to now take complete responsibility for his actions.He  is clearly  going to have to suffer the horrific consequences of his behavior of not only taking  drugs,  but being a full-blown drug dealer.   www.drlillianglass.com

 

Tiger Woods Body Language Shows An Empty Mono- Tone Mono- Faced and Mono- Bodied Robotic Meaningless Apology! Was it Orchestrated to Prepare for His Comeback, Business,and Sponsors?

February 20th, 2010

Casey Anthony’s Body Language Appears to Support New Evidence By Prosecution That Duct Tape Was Weapon Used to Murder Caylee

February 19th, 2010

New evidence by the state is that they believe that the duct tape is considered the murder weapon  Casey Anthony to smother her own daughter Caylee with premeditation and willfullness.

In fact a strip of duct tape found on Caylee’s mouth is one of  three,  prosecutors believe were critically placed  by Casey Anthony to suffocate her daughter and blocking her air passages.

When prosecutor Jeff Ashton graphically laid out his theory Casey had a significant physical reaction body language wise .  Casey didn’t react physically until Aston spoke the following words-

“Maybe her killer saw her eyes as she applied one piece, then two, then three so that no breath was possible,”

That is when Casey no doubt heard the truth verbalized for the very first time in terms of what she actually may have done to Caylee. The truth was no doubt was too much for her to heart  as she retreated into attorney Andrea Lyon’s protective embrace.

That is when she  asked Andrea to make the pain of hearing the truth stop.  She said “Tell him to  him stop.” Andrea of course replied, “I  can’t.”  So for perhaps the very first time in her life,  Casey was forced to hear the truth  about  herself. She was forced to hear what she most likely did with the duct tape.

The rare Henkel brand of duct tape found on Caylee’s  skull was evidently the same type of tape was used by the Anthony family to put up fliers of Caylee when she was missing.

Now that we now know that the duct tape is considered a possible murder weapon, it is understandable why Casey reacted as she did upon hearing the prosecutor describe her actions with the duct tape. This once again confirms that “the body does not lie!” www.drlillianglass.com

Gary Coleman’s Body Language and Behavior In Walking Off Insider Set in Anger Reveals How Desperately He Needs Help

February 17th, 2010

As the Body Language Analyst for The Insider, I was  at  CBS Studios yesterday doing a language analysis post mortem on Gary Coleman’s behavior after he stormed off the set. Gary was interviewed  by the panel  consisting of  anchors Lara  and Chris, steady guest panelist Neece Nash and  guest panelist   Lisa Bloom.  He became very hostile and verbally abusive towards Lisa which was frightening to watch.

It was equally shocking to see how once loveable Gary tuned out. His defensiveness and his  telling  that he has thoughts of not being on this earth were raw were painful to watch. But what was even more painful to watch was his shocking behavior on the set of the Insider.

EMBARRASSMENT AND ESCALATION OF ANGER

Throughout the interview, you could see Gary’s anger escalate. He was very uncomfortable talking about his recent arrest and having to spend time in jail.

It was embarrassing to him, You could tell he was embarrassed as when he spoke he often had his eyes closed, He didn’t want to look at anyone as he spoke about these obviously embarrassing and painful issues. When someone closes their eyes whent hey speak to you, it usually means that they want to disconnect from you and not face you. It reveals embarrassment and shame.

DEFENSIVE AND HOSTILE VOCAL TONES

His tone was extremely defensive and hostile . He made excuses for his behavior and appeared to be in denial as he discussed why he landed in jail. There was also a whininess in his tone which was further indication that he was  on the defensive. He seemed to blame everyone instead of taking responsibility for his actions. He blamed his wife and even blamed everyone including his fans.

SHOCKING REVELATIONS OF SUICIDAL THOUGHTS

What was the most shocking revelation was when Gary spoke of his thoughts of ending his life and not being on this earth.  He was serious  as there was conviciton in his voice when he said these words. This was scary and cler indication that he definateLy needs medical attention.  He also mentioned that he had bipolar disorder.

PROBING QUESTIONS ON THE HOT SEAT APPEARED TO BE TOO  MUCH FOR GARY

Gary was asked whether or not he was still a virgin  by Neece Nash – a question Gary refused to answer directly. Even though he admitted he was a virgin when he was 40, he was not married at the time.  He was flustered by this line of questioning and perhaps rightfullyso.

But instead of giving an simple yes or no  direct yes or no answe,he skirted the issue which made one wonder of he was still a virgin and  whether his physical or medical condition prevented him from consummating his marriage. In an exasperated and angry tone he repeatedly  answered that he  was married and asked “what you do think?”  You could see him becoming very stressed at this point.

CONCERN FOR GARY

When Gary spoke of  thinking about   ending his life, the whole panel became concerned and appeared to reach out to him. In fact, former prosecutor Lisa Bloom  initially reached out to him and touched his arm to reassure him that there was help available  for him with his condition.

MEDICATIONS MAY NOT WORK FOR EVERYONE INCLUDING GARY

He shot back that the medications couldn’t help him. This may very well be the case as it pertains to him. In fact int he recent issue of Newsweek Magazine the cover story is about the ongoing debate about  Antidepressants not working for patients.  In some people medications do not work.

In others there is such an extensive trial and error period to find the right medication  and  the right dosage that this alone could be debilitating.

In others, the side effects of the medication may be worse than the disorder.  And still in others certain medications may not work well when combined with other medications and other medical procedures.

The fact that Gary reportedly goes through dialysis for his kidney problems on a daily basis and may possibly take other medications may be an issue as well. So when he said that medications don’t work for him, he may have a point .

FINGER POINTING AND GARY CURSING LISA OUT

Then body language wise, Lisa may have unknowing done something  that Gary perceived as even more hostile. She pointed her finger at him as she spoke. You can see him physically back up as she does this. Then Gary lets loose with a tirade of vulgarities and in essence curses Lisa out.

She then asks him pint blank if he speaks this way to his wife, He says that he doesn’t unless he has to.

If he spoke this way to a perfect stranger, Lisa Bloom, no telling how he is speaking to his wife at home. You could see Gary’s anger escalate as the veins in his temple region became visibly prominent. He even pointed his finger back at Lisa as she spewed forth obscenities.

Luckily,  Gary took off his microphone and left the set. He left the set cursing all the way to his limo, but nevertheless he left without punching anyone out or using a weapon.

THE PSYCHIATRIST WEIGHS IN ON GARY BEING A DANGER

Even psychiatrist  Dr. Charles Sophy who came on the set to discuss the aftermath of Gary’s behavioral tirade, said that it was frightening and he could have been dangerous right before he walked off the set.

Gary did admit on camera  that he had bipolar disorder. The worst thing for someone with Bipolar disorder is stress as it brings out the worst behavior in a person with that condition.  No doubt that Gary was completely stressed out when he was being interviewed and being on the hot seat . Talking about the arrest, his marriage, his intimacy, and feeling as though he was put into a corner. It obviously  brought out the worst in him.

GARY KNEW AHEAD OF TIME WHAT HE SIGNED UP TO DO

While Lisa is great and a wonderful legal analyst and prosecutor, in retrospect,  think that after Gary reveled he was bipolar, perhaps she could have not been so aggressive with him in terms of her tone and the finger  pointing behavior. It was the finger pointing  in my view that casued Gary to back u and become very hostile towards her.

While the confrontation made great TV, it certainly was jarring to Gary for him to react as he did.

On the other hand, Gary knew that this would be the focus of the show and that he would be on the hot seat and would be  grilled. He is a seasoned professional and  knew what he signed up for and he did not have to be there. No one forced him to do the show.  In fact at the beginning of the show he said that he was  there for the money.

WALKING OFF A SET IS PROFESSIONAL SUICIDE

Gary being the professional he is and literally growing up on television and film sets, knows that you NEVER walk of any set. You handle yourself and deal with what has to be dealt with while the cameras are rolling, no matter what. You NEVER walk off any set! That is the professional suicide. But obviously the stress was so intense he had to break it, by leaving the set.

At one point during his interview he also tries to break the stress level my changing the subject and telling Chris he looks like Matt Lauer which was a complement. But then he takes that compliment back by telling Chris he doesn;t want hin to get a swelled head. It was said as a tension releaser.

GARY’S PARTING SHOT

His parting shot was to obscenely  put up his finger and shout an obscenity into the camera as he got inside the awaiting limousine, which ironically happened to be Lisa Bloom’s limousine.

GARY;S AFTERMATH

In the wake of Gary’s tirade, he left a lot of frightened and upset people. Many of the cast and crew were frightened by his behavior, especially towards the end. There is no doubt that seeing this scenario unfold on camera is jarring to Gary’s many fans who grew up watching and loving him.

It is clear from his anger filled behavior  that Gary needs to get himself sorted out before he makes any additional public appearances. He needs to put himself in situations where he doesn’t get that stressed, especially of he isn’t taking medication to help control his Bipolar disorder.

PRAYERS FOR GARY

I pray for Gary that he does not self- destruct. He needs to take a more positive approach to life and count his blessings. There are people who really love him out there, like one of his fans who bailed him out of jail, whom he has yet to thank.

Gary has been through a lot of hell with his health issues that he has discussed publicly. He has been through a lot with his TOXIC parents literally ripping him off financially and leaving him destitute. He has had to endure a lot of public ridicule throughout the years.

He reportedly  felt the public humiliation at having to work as a mall security guard to earn a living after being at the top of a show business career.  He felt humiliated by the play Avenue Q where he was parodied  and felt helpless because he didn’t have the money to sue.   He has had many runs ins with so may people  that landed him in the headlines in a negative way.

My heart goes out to Gary  because there is no doubt that life has been difficult for him . But life has also been great for him and he needs to look at all of those great things in his life and count his blessings.

Maybe that will help him eliminate some of the internal stress and hostility  he harbors  and give him a happier more productive  life. There is no doubt that Gary needs professional help. Even if he doesn’t take medication,in my opinion  he needs to have someone on hand whom he can speak with on a regular basis to help him cope with his issues.

You can see my body language analysis of Gary Coleman on the Insider tonight on CBS   at 7:30 PM www.drlillianglass.com

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Nadya Suleman. Octomom Showed TV Promise, Despite LOUD Over the Top Nervous Laugh on Jimmy Kimmel Valentine Dating Skit

February 15th, 2010